Ok Fair Enough.
A- is the wrong answer but it is the answer most people would give because it is all they have been taught.
It is much, much more important to listen to yourself--or more accurately- your reactions while you are listening.
Imagine your brain is a computer. This computer has been fed instructions-programmed- so to speak. Your computer has a program for everything. So if, for example, you are talking to a female, wealthy, white, beautiful -redhead- your computer is filtering all these labels and you are pre-judging what you think you know about her based on these labels that your computer generated as soon as you saw her.
Before she even speaks, you are listening to these programmed labels about her-
When she starts speaking- you are hearing and reacting to these labels first- and you are reacting to that- again- before she even speaks.
She starts speaking and what she is saying is actually now a secondary priority -your pre-conditioning is the first priority- you can't even hear her sometimes through these labels.
It is important that you listen to her words also--but it is more important that you listen to your reactions to her words because if you are not careful --what you pre-determined about her will get in the way of what she is saying because you already decided beforehand what she was all about.
People do this all the time and they call it listening. They are not listening at all- they are just confirming or denying what they had already concluded about this person.
If these labels are negative in nature-do you think there is a chance that they will not hear the true meaning of her words?
If there is a predetermined hatred or a prejudice there-do you think it is possible to hear anything that this person says and actually understand it?
Vice-versa- if there is desire and longing for this person-do you think a person who is infatuated with her can ever hear what she is really saying?
Or is this person reacting to his desire and longing for her?