Do Most Straight Guys Secretly Like Bum Play?

[Koolaid_Man]

we need to e things up here...so....here are a few opinions....I suspect Spur fan is a resounding yes...

Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid anything that could sound even remotely sexual. Not even a metro guy will tell his buddies how much he enjoyed the ass-play he got last night. This makes it hard to gauge how many butt-buffs there really are out there, but for me I can easily say no. No curiosity, no secret enjoyment. I’m probably in the minority here, but to me it’s sort of like a stray finger up the nose while making out: not terrible, but not particularly exciting either — just off-target.

Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I really think this has to do with the guy’s own level of phobia. If the guy is open-minded and comfortable in his masculinity, then it’s just something else to try in the bedroom. However, I personally know a few guys who are otherwise pretty sexually adventurous, but who feel that any attempted ass play from their partners is a deal-breaker. Of course, these are the same guys who still think it’s funny to make “ ” jokes about each other in public. I think, for guys like this, asking for some anal attention would be too big of a threat to their warped sense of masculinity.

Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Let’s face it: The prostate is the prostate. Your nerve endings don’t care whether you like to have sex with boys or girls; when something feels good, it feels good. It’s possible that even ten years ago I would have answered differently, but twenty-first century porn has changed my mind: Sites like Seancody.com and BrokeStraightBoys.com, where supposedly straight men have sex with other men, are wildly successful. And I do think that at least some of these porn actors are straight, or at least straighter than they are gay. So this makes me think that there has to be something intriguing enough to them about the idea to overcome what’s left of the taboo. And this is with other men! So if very experimental straight men are willing to let other men explore their bums, then yes, I suspect that your average straight man is definitely interested in having his female partner explore his bum — even if he won’t admit it.

I am a straight man who craves anal gratification. I get it from my wife, who loves to bend me over and lick and penetrate my anus with a well-lubricated finger. Penetration itself is mind-blowingly pleasurable, and the stimulation of my prostate leads to the most powerful orgasms ever. Best of all is the sense of role reversal and being receptive and submissive. I have never been taken by a woman wearing a strap-on, but I hope to be one day.

Iv played with my tail end for most of my life and its a great aid to masturbation. My new wife asked me if she could play with my bottom and I was shocked at how good it felt. Im not gay but can understand why both sexes like a little back door action.

I’m a gay man and a clinician. I love having my ass pounded, or pounding my man’s hole. What’s fascinates me is the number of straight guys I’m seeing who are exploring ass play, prostate exploration and getting pegged by their girlfriends and wives. It’s also been pretty cool to hear how man straight boys are asking their gay male friends for advice on how to open their holes!

Help, my husband loves his anus plaed with, he wants me to lick it and it is not a turn on, he wants me to do him with a strap on, and our attemps have been disatourous, PLEASE HELP, THIS IS RUINING OUR MARRIAGE, AS HE TOLD ME THIS AFTER WE HAD BEEN TOGETHER FOR 14 YEARS AND I CAN’T SPANK HIM WITHOUT CRYING WHEN I SEE THE MARKS ON HIS ASS, AND THE ANAL ON HIM, HAS BEEN REALLY BAD.

I’m a straight men but I’ve always been interested to fine out how a prostate orgasm feels. I’ve never said it to anyone else though and I’ve never actually reached it because I always end up grabbing myself end masturbating the old fashioned way, but something up there can make a bit of a difference.

My husband has recently been licking his fingers and stimulating his anus while having sex and it is probably going to end our relationship. It’s not that I care about what turns people on its that it feels so unsanitary to me. Not to mention I’ve had several yeast infections and a stomach bug since he started it. I no longer can even get excited we he starts to touch me (he used to ALWAYS start at my breasts) most always on my ass. He prefers sex from behind but if I am on top he tries to stimulate me and I just get disgusted, especially since it’s usually in the morning which is when I go #2. I can’t take it. We have 5 children and we used to have a great sex life, but I work with children and hygiene is so important to me. I know it’s my hang-up but I just can not deal.

My girlfriend, who is a lot younger than I am started playing with my butt and over time became a bit more bold. She got my crazy hot and then without even asking licked her finger and stuck it right in and banged my prostrate til I came.

I had no idea that I was ready for that kind of sexual activity. She isn’t into anal sex herself and we have a deal. If she can stick a dildo up in my butt that is the same size as my then I can have her ass.

This is to all you men who are straight and feel funny about anal play…Don’t. Everyone has needs and if you have a close and loving relationship with your lover/wife.. Then there should be no boundaries. That’s the beauty of sensual love. I’m 48 year old woman who has the most amazing lover. There is nothing I wouldn’t do to him or for him. It is highly important though to practice cleanliness. Never ever go from bum to vagina without washing with soap and water.

If you want to get intellectual about it, you might like to read articles or books listed in my “Heterosexual Men and Anal Eroticism: A Scholarly Bibliography”

Some boys won’t play because they are afraid it’ll make them sexual…but those aren’t fun boys anyway.

I’m 45…divorced (for 2nd time) different man. Had lots of “encounters sexually in my life. My last lover…..who had overtones of a “ phobe” , asked me to rim play him w/my toy…another time with my tounge…another time w/my finger…..could tell he loved it. Guess ur never too old to learn!!! I won’t hesitate to go though,,,,but gently with my next lover. I won’t ask or wait to be asked. I will just wait till the time is right and if it’s not for him…leave it alone…but I wonder how many men have wanted it but are too afraid to ask???

i think ass play is for everybody! I luv when my women touches or licks my ass! It feels so in good! i luv it! but not gay!

My girlfriend and I use a strap on a few times a month and I have absolutely ZERO hang ups over it. She is the hottest woman I have ever ever dated and we are madly in love. No confussion here. Its simple for me..I love women and the mutual vulnerability we share with each other leads to the most passionate…deep…soul baring sex I have ever and will ever encounter.

I AM BLESSED WITH THIS GIRL!
Get real guys and let go!
Ohh and by the way…the orgasm I experience when we do have mutual anal sex is MINDBENDING…straight insanity!

Reasons why you shouldn’t take it up the arse. And no I’m not phopbic or overly sexually conservative. I just have respect for people I love and do not want to give then a serious medical condition

1. The actual muscles responsible for holding the rectum in place are surprisingly NOT that strong, these muscles will progressively weaken over time regardless of if anal sex happens but anal sex will SPEED up this process.

2. There is a risk of anal leakage, through use over time. The anal muscles will weaken and your bowls will not be able to hold thereselves in.

3. Once weakened, you will have no choice but to go forward for surgery to smallen the gape.

4. Continues acts of anal could also than go on to causing prolapse

all i can say is wow… my girl loves it. it actually gets her more off doing it.she wants to it bad. and tonight im going to let her. emotions have a lot to do with this. cause not just anyone i would let and im 100% straight

Sources:
http://www.emandlo.com/2009/05/wise-...love-bum-play/

[Viva Las Espuelas]

There's in there, people. Nasty. ing. ! Smh

[Koolaid_Man]

There's in there, people. Nasty. ing. ! Smh

what if you use an enema first? would you then try it

[DMC]

Kool, why are you building a database on what men like? Is this your new shtick or are you just being yourself now?

[Koolaid_Man]

Kool, why are you building a database on what men like? Is this your new shtick or are you just being yourself now?

why are you so combative towards all things Kool? even in the smallest of things....you have such a hard on for me...seems like you have a ton of animosity and anger inside....you can start being a changed man by answering my question...have you ever fingered yourself in the shower DMC?

[DMC]

why are you so combative towards all things Kool? even in the smallest of things....you have such a hard on for me...seems like you have a ton of animosity and anger inside....you can start being a changed man by answering my question...have you ever fingered yourself in the shower DMC?

How is that question I asked you being combative? It's an honest question. Do you have a thing for men? If so, are you afraid to go out and ask someone face to face about it? If you get off sticking things up your ass, that's your business. However your motives for wanting to know what other men do with their asses, as much as you'd like others to think it's just relentless trolling, are at least just a bit on the side of being bi-curious. If you're truly from Pismo Beach, you no doubt encountered lots of anal opportunity. However, I know of a strange correlation between that beach and a certain forum member here that you likely just tried to exploit by making that claim. Otherwise you're just the BIL. I think you know what I mean. Hows the porky wife?

[Koolaid_Man]

How is that question I asked you being combative? It's an honest question. Do you have a thing for men? If so, are you afraid to go out and ask someone face to face about it? If you get off sticking things up your ass, that's your business. However your motives for wanting to know what other men do with their asses, as much as you'd like others to think it's just relentless trolling, are at least just a bit on the side of being bi-curious. If you're truly from Pismo Beach, you no doubt encountered lots of anal opportunity. However, I know of a strange correlation between that beach and a certain forum member here that you likely just tried to exploit by making that claim. Otherwise you're just the BIL. I think you know what I mean. Hows the porky wife?

your responses to this topic are just a nth of the expose (ex-po-say) of your combative spirit towards Kool... your response is like dancing to my proverbial music in a way that doesn't really entertain me...it's a neanderthal knee in the butt like response...I know nothing else of what you speak....I'm not ES...I'm Kool...the one and only...now answer the question..you ever finger that hole in the shower?

PM received from DMC....

Yes many times now leave me alone

[Koolaid_Man]

and yes DMC...I encountered and scored on tons of anal opportunity...I like to call it Koolanalaocracy (no Tamo)

[DMC]

and yes DMC...I encountered and scored on tons of anal opportunity...I like to call it Koolanalaocracy (no Tamo)

Is this why you wonder if the guys liked it?

[Koolaid_Man]

Is this why you wonder if the guys liked it?

I'm not a Microsoft version of excel...I'm not a pivot table...answer the question

[silverblk mystix]

tldr...

but Kool, just come out already - fly your flag proudly - i am sure most will accept you.

[Koolaid_Man]

tldr...

but Kool, just come out already - fly your flag proudly - i am sure most will accept you.

I'm far from gay...you guys are so sensitive..afraid of a controversial topic?

[silverblk mystix]

I'm far from gay...you guys are so sensitive..afraid of a controversial topic?

There is nothing controversial.

There is no such thing as a straight guy who lets anyone play with their ass. Let anything near there and you are a ...period.

[Koolaid_Man]

There is nothing controversial.

There is no such thing as a straight guy who lets anyone play with their ass. Let anything near there and you are a ...period.

so you'd get rid of your girlfriend or divorce your wife if she wanted to play with your ass...

[CuckingFunt]

There is nothing controversial.

There is no such thing as a straight guy who lets anyone play with their ass. Let anything near there and you are a ...period.

Orientation is who you like, not what you do.

[silverblk mystix]

so you'd get rid of your girlfriend or divorce your wife if she wanted to play with your ass...

A sincere woman might try to venture there - as a test - once.

If you fail the test by allowing her anywhere near the vicinity - she will be out looking for a real man in zero seconds flat.
Once.

Once you set her straight - she will have no desire to go there again and she will rest in the knowledge that she is with a man.

Cut and dry - plain and simple - real talk.

[silverblk mystix]

Orientation is who you like, not what you do.

Maybe, except for the case mentioned in this thread. There is no grey area in this scenario. Any man that allows this is not straight.Period.

[silverblk mystix]

Kool...just step out proudly and slam that closet door already!

[DMC]

I'm not a Microsoft version of excel...I'm not a pivot table...answer the question

Excel is made by Microsoft. It's not a version.

[Koolaid_Man]

Kool...just step out proudly and slam that closet door already!

but I'm not gay....can't guys have conversations about controversial topics without being labeled gay....

[Koolaid_Man]

Excel is made by Microsoft. It's not a version.

I've let women lick and play with my ass before...but I've never gone all the way...

[Koolaid_Man]

Orientation is who you like, not what you do.

and I like you

[DMC]

Orientation is who you like, not what you do.

You are defined by your actions though. I agree that being Gay isn't about what you do, but what you do is about being Gay. If a man can suck another man's without being under duress, he's not straight. It's not like he gets the to the back of his throat and suddenly feels wrong about it.

[DMC]

I've let women lick and play with my ass before...but I've never gone all the way...

Did you ever check for fruit?

[Koolaid_Man]

You are defined by your actions though. I agree that being Gay isn't about what you do, but what you do is about being Gay. If a man can suck another man's without being under duress, he's not straight. It's not like he gets the to the back of his throat and suddenly feels wrong about it.

See I could be ignorant like you and assume you've obviously sucked under duress? or we can have a mature conversation about it