Women approaching men

[loveThe23]

What do the men think about this? And ladies, do you approach a guy you like? I find this really common now'adays.. since these days so many guys are shy where the girls have to do all the work. :rolleyes

[dirk4mvp]

the girl will end up wearing the pants in the relationship.

[mavs>spurs2]

^ :lmao RACK!

[mFFL03]

kind of says alot to a girl if you don't have the confidence to go up and talk to her....

that or your game sucks....

[TDMVPDPOY]

it saves the guy from being cock blockd, but hey girls are up for falcon punches

[Nbadan]

Yep, you learn pretty quick that confidant guys get the chicks.....even bad confidence....

[CuckingFunt]

I tend to be shy about meeting new people in general, even just as friends, so I've never approached a guy I didn't know. I have had friendships with guys before where I was the one to initiate the move towards more of a dating relationship, and that's worked out just fine. I think it would really depend more on the people involved than on the act/role reversal itself -- either it's no big deal and never becomes an issue, or it's important to someone and becomes a source of weirdness.

[mavs>spurs2]

What do the men think about this? And ladies, do you approach a guy you like? I find this really common now'adays.. since these days so many guys are shy where the girls have to do all the work. :rolleyes

What are you worryin about approaching guys for, I thought you had a boyfriend?? :downspin:

[loveThe23]

wow.. i guess the guys don't understand this question. okay, for all you shy guys out there who seriously can't go up to a female... do you want the female to approach you? In other words, i'm in a situation where I see this guy alot. I see him looking at me alot, and I'm definitely attracted to him, but I don't know what to do. I feel weird approaching him because I've never done it before and I barely see him talking to girls.. i know he's not gay for a fact.

[loveThe23]

What are you worryin about approaching guys for, I thought you had a boyfriend?? :downspin:


not anymore, we broke up like 2 months ago.

[IronMexican]

im pretty shy, my last girlfriend asked me out.

[mavs>spurs2]

wow.. i guess the guys don't understand this question. okay, for all you shy guys out there who seriously can't go up to a female... do you want the female to approach you? In other words, i'm in a situation where I see this guy alot. I see him looking at me alot, and I'm definitely attracted to him, but I don't know what to do. I feel weird approaching him because I've never done it before and I barely see him talking to girls.. i know he's not gay for a fact.

If he likes you then he wants you to go up to him. Sometimes I can be a little shy myself, talking to him won't hurt.

[loveThe23]

If he likes you then he wants you to go up to him. Sometimes I can be a little shy myself, talking to him won't hurt.

I've gotten the same thing from alot of people.. "talk to him."

What should I say to him to get him talking? i guess this is what makes outgoing guys very different from shy guys.

[mavs>spurs2]

I've gotten the same thing from alot of people.. "talk to him."

What should I say to him to get him talking? i guess this is what makes outgoing guys very different from shy guys.

Anything really, it's not really the subject of the conversation that matters, it's just "breaking the ice" that he can't get over. That's why you break it for him, so to speak :lol

[InRareForm]

I find this really common now'adays.. :rolleyes


What clubs/bars in southern california have this? Sign me up! :rollin:rollin

shy guys can pick up good pussy still, you just have to be smooth and have confidence at the same time.

[Fillmoe]

ive noticed an abundance of aggressive females in the last few years.... either that or im just that damn fly

waaaaaaavvvvvvvvvvvy!

[tlongII]

wow.. i guess the guys don't understand this question. okay, for all you shy guys out there who seriously can't go up to a female... do you want the female to approach you? In other words, i'm in a situation where I see this guy alot. I see him looking at me alot, and I'm definitely attracted to him, but I don't know what to do. I feel weird approaching him because I've never done it before and I barely see him talking to girls.. i know he's not gay for a fact.

I didn't think you caught me checking you out. I have no problem with women approaching me. What did you have in mind? :eyebrows

[BRHornet45]

sons if the broad approaches you first then that means she is only interested in hitting and quitting (which is a good thing). milk it for what it is worth ... go ahead and smash it like there is no tomorrow, but don't get too attached sons. trust me your not the first or only guy she has approached. god bless

[Wayne Campbell]

We give them the right to vote, work, and own property and now they want to act like they've got the cock and balls too?

I don't got any problems with a woman having a strong personality but I'll be got damned if I ever let one try to pick me up at the bar. While I'm on this roll I'll go so far to say that I'm sick of this "two last names" shit or if she keeps her own last name when people get married now. You got married, you take your man's last name. What, another man's last name ain't good enough for you but your daddy's last name is? Hypocrites, all of you. Just like how you say you want a nice guy and then when you leave to go the bathroom you talk to your girlfriends about your bad boy fantasies and how you wish someone was waiting in your closet when you get home to just have their way with you.

lovethe23, if you want some confidence out of that dude, don't small talk with him, don't tell him how you feel. the next time you see him walk up and just kiss the bastard and I guarantee you you'll get about 7 inches of confidence out of him real quick.

[Nbadan]

wow.. i guess the guys don't understand this question. okay, for all you shy guys out there who seriously can't go up to a female... do you want the female to approach you? In other words, i'm in a situation where I see this guy alot. I see him looking at me alot, and I'm definitely attracted to him, but I don't know what to do. I feel weird approaching him because I've never done it before and I barely see him talking to girls.. i know he's not gay for a fact.

I don't see any problem with that, but realize that your probably gonna be making most of the important decisions in any future relationship...I think the more imperative thing to do is just introduce yourself and let the guy make some effort if he really wants to get to know you....

[angelbelow]

usually a turn on and i dont think it automatically means the woman will wear the pants.

[KEDA]

Megan found me, seriously.

I wasnt really looking for anyone at the time, but she came along and introduced herself to me, 2 years later, I couldnt be happier.

[Twisted_Dawg]

Yep, you learn pretty quick that confidant guys get the chicks.....even bad confidence....

+1 :toast

[lebomb]

Megan found me, seriously.

I wasnt really looking for anyone at the time, but she came along and introduced herself to me, 2 years later, I couldnt be happier.


Same here.......I had a g/f at the time, but this other female approached me about going out......I dumped my g/f and 1yr later married this other girl. We have been married 5yrs now!!! She is the best. :king

[ATRAIN]

sons if the broad approaches you first then that means she is only interested in hitting and quitting (which is a good thing). milk it for what it is worth ... go ahead and smash it like there is no tomorrow, but don't get too attached sons. trust me your not the first or only guy she has approached. god bless

LOL BRHornet is slowly become my favorite poster.

[ATRAIN]

Same here.......I had a g/f at the time, but this other female approached me about going out......I dumped my g/f and 1yr later married this other girl. We have been married 5yrs now!!! She is the best. :king

Well she is from the valley what do you expect :)

[lebomb]

Well she is from the valley what do you expect :)


I know.....I love me some hispanic taco!!!!! :hat

[J.T.]

I know.....I love me some hispanic taco!!!!! :hat

Amen.

Oshit I better edit that before the "JT's a racist" camp reads it.

[J.T.]

If she's not white, it ain't right!

That better?

[ATRAIN]

If she's not white, it ain't right!

That better?

JT so do women try to get you to go home with them by offering you some blow?

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

What should I say to him to get him talking?

Say "I just wanted to let you know I'm not wearing any underwear."

[Brutalis]

A girl approaching me makes me feel like, damn she didn't get the hint I didn't like her so I didn't go up to her, so she instead thinks I'm playing hard to get, so she comes to me, and now I'm all like yeaaaahhh wellll you seeee, and about that time I randomly kiss another girl and tell her I'll love her forever, fake a tear as she freaks out and walk off. The chick goes for it every time!

ahh what am I sayin.

[BigZak]

it pretty much says you want the chorizo. so if you do. go for it!

[ATRAIN]

it pretty much says you want the chorizo. so if you do. go for it!

Yeah if she comes up to me its because she heard about

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51XMHRHCQ6L._SL500_AA280_.jpg

[CosmicCowboy]

I've gotten the same thing from alot of people.. "talk to him."

What should I say to him to get him talking? i guess this is what makes outgoing guys very different from shy guys.

A simple "do you like blow jobs?" would probably get his attention...

[JoeChalupa]

I don't mind it except when they approach me to ask what my friend's name is.

[N.Y. Johnny]

I don't mind it except when they approach me to ask what my friend's name is.



Yep, usually I get that or since I look Spanish they ask me questions in Spanish and I can't understand them. :lol

[loveThe23]

it pretty much says you want the chorizo. so if you do. go for it!

lol really, its not that.. starting a friendship with him is what i'm striving for right now. i want to get him out of his shell by coming up to him in a "NON-SLUT" way. i mean you guys got some good slutty ways of coming up to him, but i don't want to scare him off now.

[v2freak]

It's the 21st century; I have no problem with it. In fact, I think it's a good thing. In the event that two people like each other but are too shy, the worst possible scenario is that both wait for the other person to do something. Sometimes, the girl waits but the guy is expected to initiate it and is too shy, leading to nothing.

[mrsmaalox]

You have platonic male friends right? How did you first talk to them? Just do it the same way.

[angel_luv]

This is just one girl's opinion:

I have never heard of or met anyone who objected to being told that they were liked.

The only time I have heard of situation turning weird is if a guy and a girl are friends and one suddenly develops feelings that the other does not share.

It has always been my personal practice to wait and let guys ask me out. That way I don't have to wonder if they're interested- I know.

Anyway- follow your instincts and best judgment. I hope everything works out great for you.

[angel_luv]

lol really, its not that.. starting a friendship with him is what i'm striving for right now. i want to get him out of his shell by coming up to him in a "NON-SLUT" way. i mean you guys got some good slutty ways of coming up to him, but i don't want to scare him off now.

My boyfriend asked me out on a date after I invited him, purely platonically to a church event.

Dating was the last thing on my mind- until he asked me out, that is. :)

Just be yourself. Strike up a conversation and see what comes of it.

If you scare a guy just by casually talking to him, then chances are excellent that he is not the guy for you.

[dirk4mvp]

get his phone number and start texting him.

[jman3000]

i prefer aggressive girls... so the only way i go out with a girl is if they ask me.

ive yet to ask a girl on a date and initiate things.

[angel_luv]

i prefer aggressive girls... so the only way i go out with a girl is if they ask me.


Unless they are models who want to treat you to a sporting event. :lol

[Borosai]

Nothing wrong with the female approaching the male. Some guys are shy at first and open up later, so it's not guaranteed that he will be an introverted pussy later on in the relationship. Just feel him out, and if you want to let out your inner animal, toss his salad: that's a solid ice breaker right there.

[jman3000]

Unless they are models who want to treat you to a sporting event. :lol

im not a mind reader ... she should have been more open

[scott]

Pretty much works the same way as guys approaching girls...

Guys love it... so long as your attractive. If you aren't... then its "creepy".

[angel_luv]

im not a mind reader ... she should have been more open

Oh well- she didn't know not to root for the Mavs so likely not a good match for you.

[GrandeDavid]

Viva Brasil!

[usckk]

What do the men think about this? And ladies, do you approach a guy you like? I find this really common now'adays.. since these days so many guys are shy where the girls have to do all the work. :rolleyes


I never understood why being asked out by a girl is such a big deal. Society changes, so why do we still have to be stuck in traditions?

Shyness should not be judged as a predictor of bad relationships. Often, people will find that shy people are fun to be with just by opening up to them first. They will also find out that the shyness disappears after the initial meeting.

Just talk to the guy when you see him and invite him to hang out. You can even invite your friends at first. The more open you are with him, the more open he will with you.

LOL, if girls would follow this advice, my problems would be solved ;)

[Fabbs]

http://www.faniq.com/images/blog/Picture%205(78).png
ATrain who is this Cal pole vaulter and where can she meet me?
I'd like to give her the opportunity to ask me out.

To the subject, it's 2008 people. If a girl wants to ask a guy out its fine.
I suspect most guys who (claim to) object to this are majorly insecure.

[TDMVPDPOY]

when you guys say women approaching guys

does that also include $1 hoes?

how about queer guys?

[Taking it to the Hole]

What do the men think about this? And ladies, do you approach a guy you like? I find this really common now'adays.. since these days so many guys are shy where the girls have to do all the work. :rolleyes

To be quite honest, I am very shy and telling a girl I like her is really difficult. It doesn't mean I lack confidence, just I want to be sure that the signals are there. My problem, is that once asking I get placed in the "I like you just as a friend" group and that totally sucks. Most guys will try to get to know the girl more before they tell her, but that usually just bites us in the ass because the girl sees us only as a "friend" by that time. So basically , hell yes, I wouldn't mind if a girl told me she liked me. I thought everything in this society is supposed to be equal, right?

[1Parker1]

ive noticed an abundance of aggressive females in the last few years.... either that or im just that damn fly


:lmao

[slayermin]

Happens in LA quite often, not so much in San Antonio.

[Slydragon]

I wish chicks would walk up to me I'm a super shy and keep to myself person even more so since my daughters mom walk out on me, Mess me up in the head bad.

The only chicks that come up to me are strippers when I have a fist full of dollars.

[BRHornet45]

The only chicks that come up to me are strippers when I have a fist full of dollars.

you should keep it that way son. trust me life is so much better that way. MUCH cheaper in the long run, less stress, etc.

[loveThe23]

Thanks for all the responses. lol

I'll see what which one i'm going to use... seeing that he is unbelievably shy.

and to all of you shy guys, all I have to say is.. if you like a girl, approach her.. because you have a big chance of her liking you! if she doesn't appreciate it, she's not worth it, because there are girls out there who will love you for you. there's alot of shy guys who are amazing but really need to crack out of their shell. :depressed
take risks, life is short.

[BacktoBasics]

lovethe23 is the dude posing as a minor slut right? Great troll BTW.

[loveThe23]

lovethe23 is the dude posing as a minor slut right? Great troll BTW.

Wow, stalker how did you guess? i know, i'm an amazing troll. :king

[BacktoBasics]

Wow, stalker how did you guess? i know, i'm an amazing troll. :kingStalker :lol. Sure thing jr.

[jack sommerset]

I love it. Means you can get laid that night.

[SequSpur]

Megan found me, seriously.

I wasnt really looking for anyone at the time, but she came along and introduced herself to me, 2 years later, I couldnt be happier.

you're gay... :lmao

what a douche....

[Michael Kelso]

Ladies come up to me all the time. . . Some people have to pay plastic surgeons to look as good as I do. I guess I got lucky being born with such a pretty face, piercing eyes, and sexy hair. The only one I wasn't able to put under my hottness spell was Donna... I'd do anything to roll in the hay with her... but I got to see her boobs once, so I can live with that.

[2Blonde]

I never understood why being asked out by a girl is such a big deal. Society changes, so why do we still have to be stuck in traditions?

Shyness should not be judged as a predictor of bad relationships. Often, people will find that shy people are fun to be with just by opening up to them first. They will also find out that the shyness disappears after the initial meeting.

Just talk to the guy when you see him and invite him to hang out. You can even invite your friends at first. The more open you are with him, the more open he will with you.

LOL, if girls would follow this advice, my problems would be solved ;)

I don't think it's such a big deal these days. I know my daughter and her friends have no problem striking up conversations with new guys. But when I was a teenager, we felt awkward if we didn't "follow the rules".

[Heath Ledger]

Take it from a shy guy, if you have exchanged stares many times, hes probably shy and approaching him might be a good idea Unless of course he is gay which you said he's not.