NorCal510
10-09-2008, 06:24 PM
So I've known this dude since I was like 7 (I'm 17 now). We've always been pretty close, but he was never really that "best" friend. Always asking for money, inconsiderate, him first. On top of that, he is soft spoken and does not bring much to the table. We've always hung out though... he lives in my neighborhood and we grew up with each other. I currently have a class with him and I drive him to and from school.
I also hang out with some other guys, known them just about the same time. We recently haven't been inviting him when we do things (school activities, hanging out, etc.) because he can be annoying and he is just dead weight. A lot of the guys criticize him and joke around, yet I don't feel the same. It's hard to explain... I've known him too long to talk bad about him but in a way I sometimes rather get away from him.
He found out that we purposely do not invite him places and that us as a group talk trash about him occasionally (He specifically asked me if this was true and I did not know how to respond). He's been really down... and doesn't really talk much. I feel bad cause I've known him too long and I'm not the kind of person to want someone to feel bad because of my actions. I really don't know what to do. The group I hang out with doesn't want him involved, I don't really mind him not being there, but I hate to hurt our friendship. How can I go about this...?
I also hang out with some other guys, known them just about the same time. We recently haven't been inviting him when we do things (school activities, hanging out, etc.) because he can be annoying and he is just dead weight. A lot of the guys criticize him and joke around, yet I don't feel the same. It's hard to explain... I've known him too long to talk bad about him but in a way I sometimes rather get away from him.
He found out that we purposely do not invite him places and that us as a group talk trash about him occasionally (He specifically asked me if this was true and I did not know how to respond). He's been really down... and doesn't really talk much. I feel bad cause I've known him too long and I'm not the kind of person to want someone to feel bad because of my actions. I really don't know what to do. The group I hang out with doesn't want him involved, I don't really mind him not being there, but I hate to hurt our friendship. How can I go about this...?