My mom is in hospice and doesn't have much time

[50 cent]

They sent her to the hospice ward at the end of last week.

I spend Sunday there and it was probably the toughest day I have ever had.

I'm going back tomorrow and fully expect to say goodbyes. It's going to be a really rough day.

She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in January and it has finally gotten the best of her. :depressed

[florige]

Sorry to hear that man....:depressed

[TDMVPDPOY]

oh fuck that shit man

sad to hear mate....say what you gotto say...

[Slydragon]

Sorry to hear that.

[angel_luv]

I am so sorry to hear that, 50 Cent. I will pray for you and all your family.

[Nbadan]

They'll keep her comfortable, but cherish the time you have left...

[jaffies]

Sorry to hear that 50.

[Mr.Bottomtooth]

That's terrible, I'm very sorry to hear that 50. God knows how much I fear the day my mother is taken. I surely will pray for you and your family.

[JoeChalupa]

Prayers for you and your family.

[Vinnie_Johnson]

Sorry to hear that 50 try to be strong for her.

[duncan228]

My thoughts are with you.

[SAtown]

Stay strong man. We're praying for you and your family

[remingtonbo2001]

I will pray for you and your family.

[lefty]

I will pray for you and your family

Stay strong

[mavs>spurs2]

prayer sent

[cherylsteele]

Sorry to hear about that.

[nsrammstein]

Sorry to hear that 50, I'm going through the exact same thing...My grandmother who raised me until I was 12 has been in hospice for 1 week now she has metastatic breast cancer that has spread to her liver...We don't know how much time she has left but I try to live one day at a time and try to get the most out of one day like it was her last.....I'm praying for your family and your mother

[TheTruth]

I'm so sorry for you. One of the toughest weeks of my life was spent visiting my Grandpa in Hospice Care.

Tell her you love her, she can hear it.

[tonylongoriafan]

our family went through the same thing with our grandmother 2 years ago...i feel for you, all you can do is say what needs to be said and be there. we will pray for you

[1Parker1]

I'm so sorry to hear that 50 cent :(

[Johnny_Blaze_47]

Damn, 50. I'm sorry, man.

Hope you and your family achieves their peace as soon as possible.

[Sunshine]

Sorry you're having to go through this 50. My dad died of pancreatic cancer in '90, then my ex FIL of the same thing in '95. Cancer is a bitch, that's for sure.

Stay strong and know that there are people out here sending prayers.

[2Blonde]

I'm sorry you are having to go through such an awful thing. You have my prayers. I lost my Dad to cancer a few years ago and I know it's very tough to watch someone you love suffering.

[tlongII]

Sorry to hear that Fitty. Cancer sucks.

[polandprzem]

I don't know why, but I don't react much of a sadness to that kind of situations. I feel anger.

Be strong 50

[TDMVPDPOY]

oi 50, i know you got alot of things going through ur head, alot of things you wanna say....dont hold back, say it out loud and proud, this is the only time you get to say things you never thought about, if words cant describe it, write it down...im sure someone, whoever or whatever faith you believe in is listening to you. put time out and try to spend whatever time you have left and visit ur love one, thats what i did.

ps. is all ur family relatives met ur mom in hospital yet? how about close friends?....keep the faith up and get through this...

[Southwest Texas Fan]

I am sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my prayers.

[purist]

Went thru something similar with my dad about a year and half ago. THat last day and those last moments will stay with you so make the most of them.

[MoSpur]

I just read this thread. I feel for you 50. I am very sorry to hear this. I will be praying for you and your family.

[Ed Helicopter Jones]

So sorry to hear about this 50.

I'll be praying for you all.

[50 cent]

ps. is all ur family relatives met ur mom in hospital yet? how about close friends?....keep the faith up and get through this...

Yes, most of all the family has been up there on many occasions.

Thank you for all the thoughts on this thread.

[JudynTX]

Thoughts and prayers being sent your way. I recently lost my mother so I know what you are going through. We did get a chance to say our good-bye's to her, and how much she was loved.

God bless.

[50 cent]

I did end up going back this afternoon. I just felt, if anything, I should go for my dad.

She is totally unresponsive and in and out of a coma. I did tell her I was there and that I loved her. It looked like she tried to open her eyes to where I could just barely see the bottoms of her eyes, but couldn't open them anymore than that. I sat in the chair next to her and just held her hand for about 20 minutes. When I went to let go, it did feel as though she had tightened her grip more than I expected.

I stayed for a few hours and then walked with my dad to a restaurant down the street while my aunt stayed with her.

After dinner, we went back. When I left I was the only one in the room. I told her to go to heaven as soon as she was ready.

I'm sad, but I just don't seem to have any strong emotions left. I'm ready for her to go. I can't stand to see her like this anymore. She wouldn't want this.

For some major coincidental craziness, listen to this:

My older (half) sisters' dad passed away on November 13, 1998 from pancreatic cancer. He was diagnosed in January of 1998; my mom was diagnosed in January of 2008.

Both of my older sisters parent's died/are dying of the exact same thing, possibly on the exact same date, 10 years to the day.

They are almost certain that November 13th is mom's day to pass on.

[IronMexican]

You are taking this a lot better than I would be. More power to you, man.

[50 cent]

You are taking this a lot better than I would be. More power to you, man.

It's probably because so many people are praying for me. I'm not super religious, but I believe the prayers have helped.

I am having some big time insomnia right now though.

[nsrammstein]

It's probably because so many people are praying for me. I'm not super religious, but I believe the prayers have helped.

I am having some big time insomnia right now though.

As you and your family go through these hard times you will learn to accept the fact that she needs to go to heaven and be relieved of this suffering

[50 cent]

I told her when I left that she should go to heaven.....today could very well be the day.

[Slydragon]

Sorry to hear that, Don't think anything I can type would comfort you, But you got to stay strong man. Many bumps in the road of life and you my friend are at a huge one. hope you can get over it and keep going.

[Taco]

They sent her to the hospice ward at the end of last week.

I spend Sunday there and it was probably the toughest day I have ever had.

I'm going back tomorrow and fully expect to say goodbyes. It's going to be a really rough day.

She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in January and it has finally gotten the best of her. :depressed


WOW :wow

Sad to hear this.

God Bless

[marini martini]

50 cent, what you're going through is so painful, but unfortunately it is a fact of life. Sounds like you're doing all the right things for your mom. You, your family and your sweet Mother, are in my prayers. I pray also, that she will soon be relieved of her suffering. Hang in there.

[smeagol]

I'm really sorry to hear this, 50. I will pray for you and for her.

[easjer]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. We lost a dear, dear friend to pancreatic cancer two years ago, and I know it's hard.

I'll be praying for you and your family and for peace for you all.

[purist]

I told her when I left that she should go to heaven.....today could very well be the day.

I think that is a healthy perspective -- expressing to the ailing person that it's okay to go. Felt the same way with my dad. When someone's diagnosed with cancer and you're told it's terminal different people react in various ways. I started the process of letting go long before he went. So when it came time to say good-bye, in some strange way it was easier for me than some of my siblings. People just process this stuff differentlly.
There's no rightway of dealing with it ... just your own personal way.

[50 cent]

I think that is a healthy perspective -- expressing to the ailing person that it's okay to go. Felt the same way with my dad. When someone's diagnosed with cancer and you're told it's terminal different people react in various ways. I started the process of letting go long before he went. So when it came time to say good-bye, in some strange way it was easier for me than some of my siblings. People just process this stuff differentlly.
There's no rightway of dealing with it ... just your own personal way.

This sounds a lot like me.

I did not sleep at all last night because I was waiting for "the call".

Finally, I went to sleep around 8:00am this morning and got a call from my dad at 9:30 to say that her breathing had become very troubled and he thought this was the end.

I shower quickly and went up there. By the time I had gotten there, they had given her some Adavant and she had returned to her "normal" state.

I stayed for about 5 hours and then came home and slept until 9pm tonight.

She has started the Cheyne-Stokes breathing that is very shallow short breaths that they normally see 24-48 hours before a patient passes.

This has been exhausting for all of us. I think we are all ready for her to pass. It's excruitiating trying to sleep with the phone by your head and getting that awful feeling everytime the phone rings.

[ShoogarBear]

Condolences. This is very difficult to go through, and it is completely normal to have a sense of relief when her suffering is over.

[duncan228]

My thoughts are with you. I wish there were words that could help ease your pain.

I wish you, your Mom, and your family, peace.

[Nbadan]

I went the through the same thing with my Dad a couple years back, stayed 5 days and nights by his bedside but he held on...toward the end his breathing became very faint...I stayed as long as I could but had to finally return to work, that night was his first night that only the Hospice was with him....everyone else went to bed throughout the house...got the phone call about 3:00 am from family that I needed to get back there ASAP.....the old man tried to hang on for everyone to be together but he passed a few minutes before I got back...no regrets though, we were ready for him to pass and be free of his pain....I hope you have made your peace with your mom....then when the phone call eventually does come, it won't be so bad....

Peace be with you.

[lefty]

My prayers go to you and your family.

My Grandmother (my mom's mom) died 2 years ago; I wasn't there when she passed away, this is how it happened:

My parents, siblings and grandmother were in her living room talking and laughing, and my Grandmother was smiling and slowly closing her eyes, as if she felt that she could finally go, knowing that everyone else was happy.
(my parents knew the end was near, but not that near either; so, they were kind of prepared for it)

That's something similar to that relief feeling Shoogarbear just described.

[Jekka]

You have my condolences, I'm sorry you have to see her this way. My grandfather passed away in hospice care about 4 years ago from a rare skin cancer, and I remember how hard it was to see him so weak. At the same time, it was such a blessing to have advanced notice and those last few weeks with him. You and your family are in my thoughts.

[50 cent]

I just got the call - my mom has passed.

My dad and little sis had left to go grab some lunch and my aunt (her sister) was there with her.

She took a few final breaths and passed peacefully.

I'm headed over now to be with my dad and sisters.

I feel pretty numb right now. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

[duncan228]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know these days have been hard for you. I hope you can come through your grief and find peace in knowing that your Mom is out of pain and at peace.

[I. Hustle]

Sorry to hear that dude. At least now the waiting is over and she isn't fighting anymore.

[desflood]

Thinking of you.

[Spurminator]

Sorry man. Best wishes.

[tlongII]

Peace be with you 50.

[timvp]

R.I.P.

[bigzak25]

God Bless you, you're family, and your blessed mother.

May she rest in peace.

:(

[ShoogarBear]

Hope this thread was of some help.

[TheTruth]

Sorry to hear that 50. Glad to hear that her suffering is over. She's in a better place.

[spursfan09]

RIP. she is in a better place and you will see you her again one day.