Need help again

[MiamiHeat]

I truely beleive she still loves and cares about me, but I don't know why all this has happened. Please give me some advice, or a comment, or if someone knows of the problems with depression, please help me out.

Thank You
MiamiHeat

[JoeChalupa]

Don't get depressed and look on the bright side of life.

[TDMVPDPOY]

Don't get depressed and look on the bright side of life.

depressed? ummm go out on front lawn and scratch your face YO.....


seriously plenty of fishes in the sea yo

[MiamiHeat]

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. ok!

[NoOptionB]

Tell her you will help her take on whatever problems are causing her depression instead of her taking meaningless pills that will do nothing but prolong the depression.

Just let her talk to you and listen and then attack whatever the root is so that she can overcome the negativity.

Life generally does suck. You have to work hard to make it not suck. If you two do love each other, there is not much else to be depressed about. That is pretty much the one thing in life any of us can hope to obtain before we die.

/dr phil

[timvp]

Is this the pizza girl?

[JoeChalupa]

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. ok!

I WAS being serious. Depression is a serious issue.

[Imposter]

So basically I love her very much and I even fantasised (although I am not planning on anything soon, not soon at all) but that this may be the ONE, maybe the one who I could marry someday (I have never felt like that before).



I have only had sex with 1 woman my whole life, my wife. and we were both over 18, so no

are you a wack job or just full of shit?

[MiamiHeat]

this is a time of sadness for me, i dont need insults please

have compassion plz....

[lebomb]

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY. ok!

Seriously bro. I think she just wanted to let you down easy. She used her depression as an excuse to date again. Sure, she may be depressed, but its probably because she does love you to some extent, but there are other guys she wants to see.

Ive actually been where you are. I was here in Saytown and my g/f of 4yrs went to school at UT. After about a yr. of dating long distance, she wanted freedom to date. Some guys at UT asked her out. Well, we broke up...........she called back about six mo. later wanting to give us another try.........too late, I met someone else.

Dont sweat it too much, if she really and truly loved you...........yall would still be together no matter what. Go out and date again. There are plenty of single ladies to go around. :toast

[TDMVPDPOY]

depression is cured if you dont put urself in that state in the first place...stop thinkn of negative things and go out be active...clear the fkn mind....

[JoeChalupa]

this is a time of sadness for me, i dont need insults please

have compassion plz....

Yeah, you've shown plenty of compassion in the past. But I hear ya.

[MiamiHeat]

joechalupa i curse thee to the darkest depths of hell, locked forever in a pit with mouse.

[Imposter]

this is a time of sadness for me, i dont need insults please

have compassion plz....

:lmao:lmao:lmao:lmao

oh noes, I got called out and my only reply is that I am sad and don't want people to be mean.

[TDMVPDPOY]

this is a time of sadness for me, i dont need insults please

have compassion plz....

so ur alone posting this up and feeling down?

i know a cure, most guys on this site do it in front of the comp late at night....go surf porn and have a wank man.....

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I don't buy this one either.

[MiamiHeat]

Seriously bro. I think she just wanted to let you down easy. She used her depression as an excuse to date again. Sure, she may be depressed, but its probably because she does love you to some extent, but there are other guys she wants to see.

Ive actually been where you are. I was here in Saytown and my g/f of 4yrs went to school at UT. After about a yr. of dating long distance, she wanted freedom to date. Some guys at UT asked her out. Well, we broke up...........she called back about six mo. later wanting to give us another try.........too late, I met someone else.

Dont sweat it too much, if she really and truly loved you...........yall would still be together no matter what. Go out and date again. There are plenty of single ladies to go around. :toast

Thanks. I don't know for sure if she did that or not, use depression as an excuse. I would say probably not, because she stays home a lot and doesn't want to meet anyone.

but as you say, I need to get ready to move on. It will be hard for me. I am very good man with good heart, my heart cannot live on forever and go on like in the celine dion song titanic.

I tried my best to help her. I am going to keep trying until I know for sure what is going on, but at the same time, will take your advice and prepare to move on.

[JoeChalupa]

joechalupa i curse thee to the darkest depths of hell, locked forever in a pit with mouse.

You don't believe in hell. :lmao

[JoeChalupa]

You can always pray for her.

[Bukefal]

You should just pay her a visit (not thru the phone) sit her down and ask her if she really loves you, than you tell her that together you will come thru this, together everything will be ok, let her feel comfortably and show her that she means so much to you, that you cant give it a break.

[sonic21]

so what happened to your wife?

[TDMVPDPOY]

give chris brown a call, he will teach you how to treat a fine lady...

[MiamiHeat]

Wow, what a response!!!! First of all, I have to say thank you so much to those who replied to my post and for those who continue to reply.

I always talk about my problems to people... I don't have a problem with that, but I was having real trouble dealing with/understanding what was going on.

Basically from reading what everyone wrote, I have had the power to feel better. Thinking "That my relationship with her doesn't exactly exist now, but it still might not be over if she can work things out", really made me feel good, not helpless. I still love her and that wont stop. So knowing that there is still hope "through the opinions of strangers" and that I should just get on with life and if love was ment to be it will happen... made me actually really happy today.

Thank you NoOptionB, for letting me know what is happening to me has happened to others and is even common, but that does not mean that she doesn't love me anymore.

lebomb, telling me to prepare to move on is great advice, I really took note of that.

I sent her an email. I really feel better now and feel like I have done all I can do for now, it is now up to her. And yes I can't wait for her. If it will happen it wil happen.

I now understand that my girlfriend needs this space right now to deal with what is going on with her... I also understand that there is a possibility she wont be able to deal with it and I will be forced to move on, and it the mean time it is healthy for me to go on with my life, but not shut the door, or my heart completely (but that wasn't the plan anyways).

I hope all of you check back here and read my thanks, also I want to thank those who will give me any additional advice. I found this whole experience very helpful and I will be checking back often to learn more.

THANK YOU
MiamiHeat

[MiamiHeat]

so what happened to your wife?

we were not married yet, but we consider ourselves married, so I say my wife and she says my husband

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

My the things we learn in 30 minutes.

Try harder.

[Imposter]

:rollin @ everyone who posted serious replys.

[TDMVPDPOY]

dude she doesnt need space...its all excuses

ATM her tonight and she be askn for MOAR

[Kori Ellis]

Everyone keeps getting FreshPrince'd by Miami Heat :lol

[JoeChalupa]

Put it in God's hands and you will be fine and I'm being totally serious.

[JoeChalupa]

:rollin @ everyone who posted serious replys.

:lmao I like to play along.

[Imposter]

Everyone keeps getting FreshPrince'd by Miami Heat :lol

:lmao

The little roach always gets real advice to his fabricated stories.

[timvp]

http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=92752

I guess it wasn't the pizza lady.

[mexicanjunior]

I don't get it...are you married and this is your girlfriend on the side?

[JoeChalupa]

http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=92752

I guess it wasn't the pizza lady.

:lmao

[TDMVPDPOY]

bump

[MiamiHeat]

I don't get it...are you married and this is your girlfriend on the side?

No, we just consider ourselves married already. We love each other very much. Technically not married though

I don't have a girlfriend on the side, I only know 1 woman. This is my same problem.

[Bukefal]

Miamiheat what's your f*cking problem?

[mexicanjunior]

No, we just consider ourselves married already. .

Not anymore...will you 2 be having a pretend divorce?

[timvp]

The first pizza story seems to be original. This move by MiamiHeat looks like an attempt to pretend the other story wasn't real.

[sonic21]

The first pizza story seems to be original. This move by MiamiHeat looks like an attempt to pretend the other story wasn't real.

exactly what i was thinking

[MiamiHeat]

Not anymore...will you 2 be having a pretend divorce?

No. She is just depressed. I am hoping that everything will be ok. I am taking her to a depression clinic. I want to fix everything but she won't let me?

I think I have to get ready to move on.... but it doesn't make sense to me.

[mexicanjunior]

The first pizza story seems to be original. This move by MiamiHeat looks like an attempt to pretend the other story wasn't real.

Is the pizza story anywhere? It looks like he changed his original post in that thread.

[Bukefal]

http://www.spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=134492&highlight=pizza

[sonic21]

Is the pizza story anywhere? It looks like he changed his original post in that thread.

surely, someone quoted his original post

[Bukefal]

surely, someone quoted his original post



Ok, so. On August 25, the love of my life and I had a little problem. Basically, what happened was the following : we were getting ready to watch something together, we had it all set up. She said she was going to go get some pizza (previous home-delivery) and re-heat it. I said ok, how long will you be, she said about 20 minutes. I said, "that long to re-heat pizza?" and she got a little nervous and felt bad about it. I told her it was ok, it's fine, just seemed a little long. She said "i'll just stay" and I told her not to, just go, it's fine. So then I waited for her in front of the TV for 45 minutes. She said her mother had made a sudden call to her and was arguing with her about something. She said she was also a little sad about the previous discussion (about me saying "20mins?")..... Neither of us yell or cuss, but I did get upset. I got sad and told her I lost faith in her (yes I need to watch what I say to loved ones, there's a little history here about tardiness and trust though) and she got really sad about it. Since then, she has been horribly depressed. Since Aug. 25 she has been depressed.

I ask her if she still loves me, she says yes, with all of her heart.
I ask her if she still wants to try, she says yes.
I ask if she still wants to be with me and have a life with me, she says yes.

Yet, she says her heart is sad, she says it feels black and she doesn't have the energy to do anything. She wants to try but she is still not happy. She says she doesn't even know if we can ever be happy because she doesn't know if she can make me happy.

I have told her, re-assured her, from the very night of the 'problem' (which I don't think was THIS big of a deal) that I love her, want to be with her, she makes me happy, and that this was a wake-up call to treat her with loving soft hands, instead of expecting her to be strong and deal with it.

I tell her I am going to try and help her, she says thank you.

What do I do? Does she just need time? We have been together for 6 years and about 8 months. I am 26 yrs old, we were our first love, our first everything and we were always very happy together and planned our whole life together. Basically, I am the center of her world and she is the center of mine.

Will she be ok or do I have to start believing that after about 12 days now, she is no longer able to be happy with me? I mean, I have NEVER done anything to hurt her, except push her away (not physically, only relationship wise and say stupid things like "I lost faith in you now" when she does something that upsets me.) Yes, I am going to change that. In the past, she has done small things to hurt me, nothing big, and I don't stand for it. So, now she says all the weight of those little problems have finally gotten to her and now she doesn't know what she wants anymore.

Is she just depressed and will be ok?

It's hard for me too because I miss her. I miss laughing together, being happy together. It's been almost 2 weeks now.

I will do anything for her, so it's not a problem to help her through this if that is what it is.

Advice appreciated please

[MaNuMaNiAc]

:lmao Fail much?

[MiamiHeat]

Miamiheat what's your f*cking problem?

I am only trying to get advice...?

She is very depressed and doesn't want to be happy anymore. How can this be a problem?

I would never hurt her.

[mexicanjunior]

pizza story

Man, no wonder she is depressed. That was the worst brow beating over heating up pizza ever. Can't MiamiHeat win her back by ordering some fresh Dominos or something?

[manufan10]

http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=92752

I guess it wasn't the pizza lady.

:lmao


Tell her to go reheat a pizza. Then when she comes back before 20 minutes, compliment her with something like, "See, it doesn't take that long to heat up a pizza."

[manufan10]

http://www.spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=134492&highlight=pizza

:lmao

Editing the part where he's a dumbass douche. :lol

[LnGrrrR]

Man, no wonder she is depressed. That was the worst brow beating over heating up pizza ever. Can't MiamiHeat win her back by ordering some fresh Dominos or something?

LOL... Man, I need to use that "I've really lost faith in you" line on my wife for something small.

[PM5K]

So what was this thread about? Don't you have to say a line from FP to get FP'd?

[CuckingFunt]

I tried my best to help her. I am going to keep trying until I know for sure what is going on, but at the same time, will take your advice and prepare to move on.

I'm at least partly certain this is bullshit, and largely certain I don't really give a fuck what happens with your relationship one way or the other, but...

Time for you to realize and accept that maybe it's not a problem you can solve. Your helping might be hurting. Let her ask you for help and tell you what she needs, because she can probably do a much better job of communicating that to you than a bunch of strangers on the interwebs can.

My honest, for realisies advice? Couples counseling, or break up.

[PM5K]

Time for you to realize and accept that maybe it's not a problem you can solve. Your helping might be hurting.

It's obvious from previous threads he's ultra controlling, keeps her locked up in the house with him, etc so it's no surprise that he feels the need to try to control every aspect of the relationship, including trying to solve every problem, no matter how obvious it is that it's not a problem he can solve.

[David Bowie]

You can not fix somebody else's mental problems. They have to work them out for themselves. I have had three relationships where mental issues was the main reason for the break up. It's especially difficult to keep a relationship going when somebody is going through a mental crisis. The relationship is no longer a priority, but the mental problem is. Sometimes, the relationship can make the mental problem worse (even if the other person is being supportive) because relationships are generally stressful. I think the best idea is to give your gf some space. If you two are meant to be, you will find each other down the road.