View Full Version : i am 26 years old...i cant imagine being with the same person for the rest of my life
bugoy
10-31-2009, 04:15 AM
i used to believe that there is one person in the world for you but that just seems so crazy, im also in a point in life where a lot of my friends are getting married/engaged...and yes i think some are forcing the issue because society says its time...any stories both happy and horror?
bugoy
10-31-2009, 04:17 AM
i think my parents might have gotten lucky, married over 30 years and they still act like newly weds, dunno maybe marriage isnt for me?
jaffies
10-31-2009, 04:44 AM
I could have put this
jaffies
10-31-2009, 04:45 AM
into a single post.
sonic21
10-31-2009, 05:20 AM
all
sonic21
10-31-2009, 05:20 AM
right
I've known you for twenty-six seconds and I can't imagine reading your posts for the rest of my coffee...
Trainwreck2100
10-31-2009, 10:31 AM
happy
Trainwreck2100
10-31-2009, 10:31 AM
hollow
Trainwreck2100
10-31-2009, 10:31 AM
een
mrsmaalox
10-31-2009, 10:37 AM
I don't really understand what the issue here is. Is it that you are worried that you will never change or that you don't know if you should get married because your friends think it's time for them to get married?
If it's the first one, that's not an issue. The only way you'll stay the same person for the rest of your life is if you seal yourself in a box.
As far as marriage goes, I wouldn't recommend doing it cuz everyone else is. I married a man who was considerably older than me and had been married before without kids. It touched off a wave of all his single friends marrying younger girls and having babies because "it was time". Out of 5 weddings over a 2 year period, one marriage is going strong (no kids), one has been in limbo for about 3 years, and 3 have dissloved (all with kids) in really ugly ways.
mrsmaalox
10-31-2009, 10:38 AM
http://www.falstaffbrewing.com/_borders/lee.jpg
:lmao
EmptyMan
10-31-2009, 10:55 AM
Good luck pulling tail when you are 56.
Move out of your parents house.
spursfan09
10-31-2009, 12:19 PM
26 is still very young. You might feel different when you are 30; which is still really young.
marini martini
10-31-2009, 12:28 PM
I say marry as many times as you want, until you find one you like.:toast
Strike
10-31-2009, 12:42 PM
When I was 26 (I'm 31 now), I figured I would still have a wife and maybe a kid by now. Amazing how things change in 5 years. I realized I didn't want kids a couple years ago and my wife is about to become my ex-wife.
Point is things might change in your mind when you're older. Then again, they may not. Either way, don't do something just because it's the social norm. As long as you don't kill people or carry a torch for kids, do what makes you happy.
Spursfan092120
10-31-2009, 12:51 PM
I'm 29 years old...been married for 6 years in December. I'm very happy. We have our arguments, just like anybody..but the cool thing about marriage is that you know, no matter what...they're going to be there. If you have an argument, they're not just going to walk away...When you've had a long hard day, they're there for you to vent/support you. To me, it's worth it...by a long shot.
Spursfan092120
10-31-2009, 12:53 PM
don't do something just because it's the social norm.
I do agree with this..don't marry because you think it's normal...do it because you want to be with them forever.
EricB
10-31-2009, 01:14 PM
Im 29 and I thought for the longest time I wouldn't find someone, but last December I got lucky.
Seriously there is someone out there for you. Be patient.
Spursfan092120
10-31-2009, 01:24 PM
Im 29 and I thought for the longest time I wouldn't find someone, but last December I got lucky.
Seriously there is someone out there for you. Be patient.
good luck Thanksgiving week, Eric..though I'm sure you wouldn't be setting all this up if you didn't know the answer already...and thank you again in advance for the tix.
jman3000
10-31-2009, 01:30 PM
I thought I'd be settling down around 26 or 27. I still have a few years before I hit that point, but as of now I'm completely content with dating around.
bugoy
10-31-2009, 02:54 PM
When I was 26 (I'm 31 now), I figured I would still have a wife and maybe a kid by now. Amazing how things change in 5 years. I realized I didn't want kids a couple years ago and my wife is about to become my ex-wife.
Point is things might change in your mind when you're older. Then again, they may not. Either way, don't do something just because it's the social norm. As long as you don't kill people or carry a torch for kids, do what makes you happy.
thank you, just feels weird not wanting to settle down, im 26, sure id like to marry and have kids later but i dont want to force the issue which it seems like a lot of people are doing around me, 60 years with the same person just sounds so damn crazy, im not saying i have infidelity issues its just a lot can happen in 60 years and i think marriage is a commitment a lot of people are taking lightly these days
bugoy
10-31-2009, 02:57 PM
I'm 29 years old...been married for 6 years in December. I'm very happy. We have our arguments, just like anybody..but the cool thing about marriage is that you know, no matter what...they're going to be there. If you have an argument, they're not just going to walk away...When you've had a long hard day, they're there for you to vent/support you. To me, it's worth it...by a long shot.
:toast congrats to you buddy i hope you the best
sorta feels weird that im worried about some of my close friends forcing the marriage issue, especially when one hasnt even been dating for a year yet and is getting ready to propose....my parents date for less than a year before they got married and they are extremely happy 31 years later, maybe you know when you know ?
EricB
10-31-2009, 03:25 PM
good luck Thanksgiving week, Eric..though I'm sure you wouldn't be setting all this up if you didn't know the answer already...and thank you again in advance for the tix.
Thanks and your quite welcome.
bigzak25
10-31-2009, 03:29 PM
don't worry about the rest of your life bugoy.
take care of today, prepare for tomorrow...the rest should take care of itself.
when you meet the woman that makes you happy...and you want to spend today and tomorrow with her...you'll know...
Vinnie_Johnson
10-31-2009, 07:03 PM
I like chicken it's good.
Jacob1983
11-01-2009, 12:28 AM
Marriage isn't for everyone. Besides, just because your friends are married doesn't mean you have to get married right now. Avoid the peer pressure.
bugoy
11-01-2009, 02:36 AM
Marriage isn't for everyone. Besides, just because your friends are married doesn't mean you have to get married right now. Avoid the peer pressure.
yeah im thinking that also, marriage isnt for everyone, when i say that i get the weirdest looks from people, and plus....theres girls i wanna date....and girls id want to marry....two different types of girls :lol
byrontx
11-01-2009, 10:41 AM
Way too young. I waited until I was 45. got the wild oats sown and settled down. My 5 year old boy keeps me hopping; got my orange belt in karate last month.
tlongII
11-01-2009, 12:28 PM
Im 29 and I thought for the longest time I wouldn't find someone, but last December I got lucky.
Seriously there is someone out there for you. Be patient.
Always listen to EricB when it comes to relationship advice. He is the authority.
I'm the same way. I can't even date nowadays - all women piss me off when you're around them all the time. I just want pussy, I'll be honest. No relationship. That might change if I grow up one day, probably not.
Suicidal Jack
11-01-2009, 01:51 PM
I call bullshit on there being someone for everybody. It's nothing more than a fairy tale.
Cyrano
11-02-2009, 12:39 AM
I got married at 19. That was 35 years, 2 kids, and 6 grandkids ago. That said, don't let peer pressure make you do something you aren't ready for, but don't be afraid to do what you really want to do.
sabar
11-02-2009, 01:52 AM
Of course there is someone for everyone, there's some 6,000,000,000 people out there.
The problem is you'll very likely only go through 0-400 at best.
bugoy
11-02-2009, 02:02 AM
I'm the same way. I can't even date nowadays - all women piss me off when you're around them all the time. I just want pussy, I'll be honest. No relationship. That might change if I grow up one day, probably not.
exactly, and it drives me crazy how irrational the decision making is for a lot of women i know and how they make decisions based on emotions rather than logic
TDMVPDPOY
11-02-2009, 02:13 AM
quality > quantity my friend....
mavs>spurs2
11-02-2009, 03:03 AM
As a man, although a young one, I see females as a major part of my life. I think without females, aside from family there's no other point in living. Everyone's different, but I want to get married and have someone to share the rest of my life with. It gives you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Just my opinion
JackLalanne
11-02-2009, 12:13 PM
Good luck pulling tail when you are 56.
I'm still gettin' plenty of tail!
desflood
11-02-2009, 12:21 PM
Marriage isn't for everyone. Besides, just because your friends are married doesn't mean you have to get married right now. Avoid the peer pressure.
Wise words. Marriage is a big commitment, kids an even bigger one. Neither are for people who have even the slightest bit of doubt.
JoeChalupa
11-02-2009, 12:35 PM
I found the love of my life at the age of 34 and I too thought I may not find someone but I always thought it would happen naturally and then one day my future wife walked into my life and we've been on a journey together ever since with ups and downs and I love it. Good luck to you.
Frenzy
11-02-2009, 01:00 PM
I think a lot has to do with age. You get married have kids at say oh age 25. 18 years later your kid is out of the house and your 43. You do the same at 35...dude your 53 maybe 60 when your kids leave. Big diff huh..
But most people are right...don't marry just cause other people are doing it. Is this high school?
JoeChalupa
11-02-2009, 01:12 PM
I think a lot has to do with age. You get married have kids at say oh age 25. 18 years later your kid is out of the house and your 43. You do the same at 35...dude your 53 maybe 60 when your kids leave. Big diff huh..
But most people are right...don't marry just cause other people are doing it. Is this high school?
Yeah, I did think I was getting up there in age when I thought about kids and about being in my late 40's and perhaps not being able to certain things but as the years have passed I've come to realize that age isn't really a factor, at least not to me, when it comes to children. Heck, I'm 48 and my mother still treats me like I'm 9 and babies me when I'm sick and although I left the house at 18 I've always enjoyed going back home and to this day so do my parents.
ATRAIN
11-02-2009, 01:15 PM
I'm 29 years old...been married for 6 years in December. I'm very happy. We have our arguments, just like anybody..but the cool thing about marriage is that you know, no matter what...they're going to be there. If you have an argument, they're not just going to walk away...When you've had a long hard day, they're there for you to vent/support you. To me, it's worth it...by a long shot.
Did you vent the day you got v-owned on Spurstalk?
760Spursfan
11-02-2009, 03:25 PM
Everyone is right don't get married becuase your friends are doing it or because your 26 or 46 you should do it when you feel that its the right person and she feels the same. I agree that most people take marriage lightly and say fuck it if it doesn't work out we can just get a divorce. My ex-GF and I just ended things last week after being together for almost 3yrs because she wants Marriage and kids and I am not ready for that nor do I see it within the next few years and I'm 31. Don't rush into things just enjoy yourself.
katyon6th
11-02-2009, 03:37 PM
A poster from here once bet that I'd be married by 25. I turn 26 in five days and I'm still not married. Single, actually. So, I win.
I can't imagine being married any time soon. But I do hope that one day I'll be with someone I want to spend every day with. We'll see.
DisgruntledLionFan#54,927
11-02-2009, 03:47 PM
I can't imagine anyone being dumb enough to think that you, of all people, would be married by November 6th, 2009.
katyon6th
11-02-2009, 03:50 PM
I can't imagine anyone being dumb enough to think that you, of all people, would be married by November 6th, 2009.
I know, right? Actually, this person was dumb TWO TIMES. First at 25 and then dumb enough to bet again by 26. Dummmmy.
DisgruntledLionFan#54,927
11-02-2009, 03:51 PM
I just twirled my hair in spite.
easjer
11-02-2009, 04:55 PM
I got married at 25 after a 2+ year long engagement and have been (generally) happily married for a little over 4 years now. My husband was 22 when we got married.
But we felt strongly that it was the right decision for us and we have a strong relationship. Marriage is certainly not for everyone, and certainly not if you don't have a strong connection to the person in question. Before I met my husband I wasn't too certain about a for life thing either, because I hadn't met him. When I did, I knew we would be together for a very long time.
Not everyone meets someone like that or feels something like that and sometimes even you do it doesn't work out the way you hope it will. No reason to rush into anything. If your mind changes at some point, awesome. If not, and you are happy, who cares?
lefty
11-02-2009, 04:59 PM
Bang as many babes as you can
I mean, if you are adequately engineered
bugoy
11-02-2009, 05:11 PM
A poster from here once bet that I'd be married by 25. I turn 26 in five days and I'm still not married. Single, actually. So, I win.
I can't imagine being married any time soon. But I do hope that one day I'll be with someone I want to spend every day with. We'll see.
how do i add a filipino flag to my avatar space like you did
katyon6th
11-02-2009, 05:17 PM
how do i add a filipino flag to my avatar space like you did
It was given to me by someone special.
bugoy
11-02-2009, 05:23 PM
It was given to me by someone special.
how do i get someone special to give me one
SpursWoman
11-02-2009, 05:25 PM
how do i get someone special to give me one
Marry them. Duh. :lol
easjer
11-02-2009, 05:29 PM
:snort
:lol
bugoy
11-02-2009, 05:52 PM
a lot of people here are 'hoping i find someone special'...im not sure if i even want to get married at this point, i might just be scared of the thought of such a long commitment
angel_luv
11-02-2009, 05:55 PM
a lot of people here are 'hoping i find someone special'...im not sure if i even want to get married at this point, i might just be scared of the thought of such a long commitment
The fact that you are aware of the serious commitment marriage is, in my opinion, makes you more prepared for marriage than many of your peers.
Marriage is never something that should be taken lightly.
Marriage is a great thing, but it takes consistent effort to make marriage successful.
Wait for the right person and the right time. There is no need to rush; there is no sense in rushing.
I wish you all the best. :)
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