Dudes, have you ever loved a girl who had a boy friend?

[Rapper]

If so, what would you do for that situation? just let it be? or telling the girl what's your feeling to her?

[florige]

You probably will just have to wait it out man. But the only thing of it is, you might find yourself waiting around for them to break up which may or may not happen, then in the process selling yourself short of someone else you may be missing out on because you are waiting around for something that in all likelyhood may never happen. Also whose to say that if they do break up that you two will wind up together? If you love her that much I would just continue being her friend keeping in contact with her, but at the same time still do your thing with other girls.

[J.T.]

Plant a few ounces heroin in his vehicle and then call the police. By the time he gets out of prison, you will have had enough time to marry this woman, have children with her and see them graduate from college.

Call from someone else's phone though. Like a stranger. Just ask someone down the street if you can borrow their mobile for a quick phone call and then run. Wear gloves. Don't want this traced back to you at all.

[ATRAIN]

Shit happens to me a lot. One of my close friends of like 15 years decided to tell me that she loved me and I did feel the same. She was engaged when she told me. They got married and we are still good friends. Not sure where this all came from. Also just recently my ex who is married has been emailing me telling me she loves me and wants to be with me. I think these girl just look for love outside their relationship cause they arent getting it from their man.

[ATRAIN]

Plant a few ounces heroin in his vehicle and then call the police. By the time he gets out of prison, you will have had enough time to marry this woman, have children with her and see them graduate from college.

Call from someone else's phone though. Like a stranger. Just ask someone down the street if you can borrow their mobile for a quick phone call and then run. Wear gloves. Don't want this traced back to you at all.

WOW you have really thought this shit through. Next time I commit a crime or thinking about commiting one im going to call JT.

[J.T.]

WOW you have really thought this shit through. Next time I commit a crime or thinking about commiting one im going to call JT.

Funny thing is I came like this close to doing that to my mother's third husband after he broke into her house last year but the cops nailed him with DWI before I had the chance :depressed

[Rapper]

You probably will just have to wait it out man. But the only thing of it is, you might find yourself waiting around for them to break up which may or may not happen, then in the process selling yourself short of someone else you may be missing out on because you are waiting around for something that in all likelyhood may never happen. Also whose to say that if they do break up that you two will wind up together? If you love her that much I would just continue being her friend keeping in contact with her, but at the same time still do your thing with other girls.

Well said, But you know what? it's hard for a man to pretend he doesn't have a special feeling to the girl he loves

[ATRAIN]

Funny thing is I came like this close to doing that to my mother's third husband after he broke into her house last year but the cops nailed him with DWI before I had the chance :depressed

LOL, hey JT I would like to employ your services in helping me take down a certain Spurstalk poster, what are your rates?

[J.T.]

LOL, hey JT I would like to employ your services in helping me take down a certain Spurstalk poster, what are your rates?

We're gonna have to go off the grid to discuss this. No paper trail. I'll contact you. You'll know when it's me.

[katyon6th]

I've been that girl. I wish the guy never told me. But that's because I'm selfish.

[florige]

Well said, But you know what? it's hard for a man to pretend he doesn't have a special feeling to the girl he loves



Oh no I totally agree with you man. It is hard and you can't just turn your feelings off for a person like that at a drop of a dime. Especially if you are still in contact with the person regularly, and all the stuff you love about that person is still like right there for you to see or here everytime you talk to them. Its just hard all the way around. Was this girl a longtime friend of yours before and she just happened to get a bf along the way? Or when you met her she already had a bf?

[florige]

I've been that girl. I wish the guy never told me. But that's because I'm selfish.



You mean the guy who wanted to be with you?

[ATRAIN]

I've been that girl. I wish the guy never told me. But that's because I'm selfish.

His loss Katy

[katyon6th]

You mean the guy who wanted to be with you?

Right. He was a really close friend of mine. Now, I can't remember the last time we talked.

[florige]

Right. He was a really close friend of mine. Now, I can't remember the last time we talked.



After he told you that did you decide that it would be better if you two didn't keep in contact anymore? (well not as much as you did before he dropped that on you anyway)

[J.T.]

Right. He was a really close friend of mine. Now, I can't remember the last time we talked.

That's a fucked up thing to do to mouse.

[florige]

Well said, But you know what? it's hard for a man to pretend he doesn't have a special feeling to the girl he loves



Also is she giving you any indication like in Atrain's situation that she is unhappy in her current situation? If she is and she really has no intention of leaving her bf anytime soon and is just trying to keep stringing you along that isn't right at all.

[katyon6th]

After he told you that did you decide that it would be better if you two didn't keep in contact anymore? (well not as much as you did before he dropped that on you anyway)

No, not at all. We tried continuing our friendship but it just didn't work. I think it was harder for him after he told me, obviously.

[florige]

No, not at all. We tried continuing our friendship but it just didn't work. I think it was harder for him after he told me, obviously.



Yeah its hard seeing the person that you are in love with being happy with someone else besides you.

[balli]

I fell in love with me ex girlfriend's roommate. Unsurprisingly, I wasn't able to pull off the switch. It's literally one of my biggest regrets in life.

[MannyIsGod]

That's a fucked up thing to do to mouse.

:lmao

[bus driver]

many times, it only sucks when their boyfriends find out that i "loved" them.......but the upside for you is that this will cause them to break up. i never wanted to date the girls that i "loved".

[PM5K]

Go on Jerry Springer and see how it all turns out.

[katyon6th]

That's a fucked up thing to do to mouse.

It was actually Bigzak.

[J.T.]

It was actually Bigzak.

So that's why Bigzak hit me up to buy like $300 worth of weed.

It all makes perfect sense now.

[katyon6th]

So that's why Bigzak hit me up to buy like $300 worth of weed.

It all makes perfect sense now.


And he didn't share. Selfish prick.

Neither did you. Fucker.

[J.T.]

Neither did you. Fucker.

Did too. Obviously you were too high to remember.

[katyon6th]

Did too. Obviously you were too high to remember.

Ahhh. No, I remember that time. I'm talking about this exchange between you and Zak. No sharing.

[J.T.]

Ahhh. No, I remember that time. I'm talking about this exchange between you and Zak. No sharing.

Not my fault you didn't tag along. There was room in the car after mouse bitched out because he was too chicken to ride in a vehicle with an expired inspection sticker. That was some good weed too. We were on the moon before we even got out of Travis County.

[katyon6th]

Not my fault you didn't tag along. There was room in the car after mouse bitched out because he was too chicken to ride in a vehicle with an expired inspection sticker.

I have no idea what you're talking about. I wasn't even invited.

[J.T.]

I have no idea what you're talking about. I wasn't even invited.

Maybe if you didn't break Bigzak's heart, he would've have invited you. Not my problem.

[katyon6th]

Maybe if you didn't break Bigzak's heart, he would've have invited you. Not my problem.

Point taken. You don't have to be an asshole about it.

[PM5K]

There was room in the car after mouse bitched out because he was too chicken to ride in a vehicle with an expired inspection sticker.

He was already high, can you blame him for being paranoid?

[tlongII]

I always want the ones I can't have.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

I like a good thread derailing as much as the next guy, but my advice to the OP is to tell her. Speaking from my experience and the experience of a number of friends, the odds are stacked against you on this one but it's the only play that offers any sort of real resolution. In a perfect world she'll dump the dude she's with and run into your arms. From a more realistic standpoint, you're not going to be able to get over her without telling her the truth at some point. The 'what ifs' will eat you alive if you let them.

I've been on both sides of the equation and am still close friends with both the girl I once told (she ended up marrying the guy she was with at the time) and the girl who once told me. It's like any monster secret: the truth will set you free.

[tlongII]

Rapper, have you met Katy?

[Höfner]

I have loved me quite a few taken ladies. ;)

[Suicidal Jack]

I always fall in love with the wrong people. :depressed

[mrsmaalox]

I like a good thread derailing as much as the next guy, but my advice to the OP is to tell her. Speaking from my experience and the experience of a number of friends, the odds are stacked against you on this one but it's the only play that offers any sort of real resolution. In a perfect world she'll dump the dude she's with and run into your arms. From a more realistic standpoint, you're not going to be able to get over her without telling her the truth at some point. The 'what ifs' will eat you alive if you let them.

I've been on both sides of the equation and am still close friends with both the girl I once told (she ended up marrying the guy she was with at the time) and the girl who once told me. It's like any monster secret: the truth will set you free.

SFIE is right, you have to be honest. Get it out and if she's not interested, get over it. When it happened to me, the only thing I could do was say thanks for being honest, but I don't feel the same way. Then cut off all ties because I didn't want anything hanging over the relationship I was in.
Either way it's not easy. Once you tell her if she says she loves you too and wants to be with you, the right thing would be for her to be honest in her relationship and break it off. If she says she has feelings for you but won't do anything about her relationship, you have to suspect that she might just be playing you. In that kind of scenario, it is entirely possible that she is a game playing manipulative bitch. If she's in a relationship that she is not willing to break, there has to be something there. Maybe just security, but it's something she won't give up. Before suspecting that she is being deprived at home (love, sex, etc) by a man she won't leave, I would suspect that she is just bored at home and has fun having a fool to toy with.

[katyon6th]

Rapper, have you met Katy?

No, he hasn't had the honor.

[Höfner]

No, he hasn't had the honor.

May I inquire discreetly how one earns such an honor?

[Rapper]

Oh no I totally agree with you man. It is hard and you can't just turn your feelings off for a person like that at a drop of a dime. Especially if you are still in contact with the person regularly, and all the stuff you love about that person is still like right there for you to see or here everytime you talk to them. Its just hard all the way around. Was this girl a longtime friend of yours before and she just happened to get a bf along the way? Or when you met her she already had a bf?

Man , she already had a bf when the first time i met her, but i didn't know that. she is very pretty, kind, gentle,active,positive,smart, the greatest girl i've ever seen.we had had a good time during this summer, we experienced the ups and downs to each other.when i knew that she had a bf i was extremely shocked by that,i choose putting this secret inside my heart over telling her cause i'm afraid of losing her

I just wanna be her best friend even though i love her very much.

[katyon6th]

Man , she already had a bf when the first time i met her, but i didn't know that. she is very pretty, kind, gentle,active,positive,smart, the greatest girl i've ever seen.we had had a good time during this summer, we experienced the ups and downs to each other.when i knew that she had a bf i was extremely shocked by that,i choose putting this secret inside my heart over telling her cause i'm afraid of losing her

I just wanna be her best friend even though i love her very much.

Hm. How far into your relationship with her did you find out she had a boyfriend?

[Rapper]

Hm. How far into your relationship with her did you find out she had a boyfriend?

Almost 2 months

[BacktoBasics]

Women want what they can't have. When they have it they'll tire of it and want something new...preferably something they can't have. Its cyclical.

If they grow a conscience about being a cheating whore or thinking about being a cheating whore they're redirect and morph those emotions into sympathy for themselves. Then refer to it as being trapped so they can self destruct the relationship as a way out. A less guilty plan I suppose.

Women are far worse than men specifically because its agenda based and tactical with them vs. a man just wanting whatever is available when available.

[katyon6th]

Almost 2 months

That's odd. If I was becoming friends with someone, especially a guy, and was in a committed relationship, that someone would know. How could something like that not come up in 2 months?

[BacktoBasics]

That's odd. If I was becoming friends with someone, especially a guy, and was in a committed relationship, that someone would know. How could something like that not come up in 2 months?

The same way a 15 year old hides a pregnancy for 9 months and then takes a dump at the mall out of nowhere. Women are sneaky.

[mrsmaalox]

Women want what they can't have. When they have it they'll tire of it and want something new...preferably something they can't have. Its cyclical.

If they grow a conscience about being a cheating whore or thinking about being a cheating whore they're redirect and morph those emotions into sympathy for themselves. Then refer to it as being trapped so they can self destruct the relationship as a way out. A less guilty plan I suppose.

Women are far worse than men specifically because its agenda based and tactical with them vs. a man just wanting whatever is available when available.

I hate to say it, but there is quite a bit of truth here. But it does go both ways. If someone in a relationship tells you they love you but can't do anything about it, run as far away as you can. Only a fool would take it to heart.

[Rapper]

That's odd. If I was becoming friends with someone, especially a guy, and was in a committed relationship, that someone would know. How could something like that not come up in 2 months?

Well ,i think different person has different attitude in love especially in China
It's too hard for me to explain ,but one thing i can make sure is that she was unwilling to tell me she had a bf, the reason why i finally knew she had a bf is a friend of mine saw her with a guy on a street hand in hand

[katyon6th]

How old are you?

[Rapper]

How old are you?

I'm 23, a university senior student and i 'm working at a small company as a clerk

[DisAsTerBot]

but one thing i can make sure is that she was unwilling to tell me she had a bf, the reason why i finally knew she had a bf is a friend of mine saw her with a guy on a street hand in hand


Women are sneaky.

[mingus]

i feel you, rapper.

i'm going through the same thing right now at my work. the problem is her bf works there as well, but only on certain weekends, while we both work every weekend.

needless to say, when he works, we both sort of stay away from eachother. however, there's definitely something b/w us when he's not there.

i guess i'll just let things take its course; hopefully it leads to intercourse. :lol

[BacktoBasics]

You got yourself a grade A whore there. Wear a rubber dude. You know she fucked Lumburgh.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

This ain't the movies. Shit rarely will work in your favor.

You'll just end up beating yourself up over something that was never in the cards in the first place.

Let it die.

[I. Hustle]

Where is the Rick Springfield troll when you need him?

[MiamiHeat]

find another girl, too many out there lookin for a good guy.

[MiamiHeat]

Where is the Rick Springfield troll when you need him?

shouldn't you be out snorting coke?

[florige]

Man , she already had a bf when the first time i met her, but i didn't know that. she is very pretty, kind, gentle,active,positive,smart, the greatest girl i've ever seen.we had had a good time during this summer, we experienced the ups and downs to each other.when i knew that she had a bf i was extremely shocked by that,i choose putting this secret inside my heart over telling her cause i'm afraid of losing her

I just wanna be her best friend even though i love her very much.



Yeah I totally hear you and that sounds like the way to go. I would still start looking around and just exploring other options in females so as to at the very least keep you occupied and keep your mind off of her. Its tons worse when you just sit around alone thinking about it all the time. Once you find another girl it shouldn't be as hard. Sometimes friendships do lead to relationships, but like I said I wouldn't put my love life on hold waiting around for something that may or may not ever come to fruitation.

[florige]

You do know that JT is the one that rode in the trunk of a Mustang, not thinking that his high friends would try to break the speedometer.



:lol

[Viva Las Espuelas]

i feel you, rapper.

i'm going through the same thing right now at my work. the problem is her bf works there as well, but only on certain weekends, while we both work every weekend.

needless to say, when he works, we both sort of stay away from eachother. however, there's definitely something b/w us when he's not there.

i guess i'll just let things take its course; hopefully it leads to intercourse. :lol

man, is she worth losing your job over? those usually don't end good.

[mavs>spurs2]

Rapper, I was once in this same situation. It never ends well. The fact that she's been concealing her boyfriend from you should be a red flag. I'd consider just walking away, the longer you wait the bigger it's going to eventually blow up in your face.

[Ed Helicopter Jones]

Dudes, have you ever loved a girl who had a boy friend?




I married one.

[The Franchise]

You probably will just have to wait it out man. But the only thing of it is, you might find yourself waiting around for them to break up which may or may not happen, then in the process selling yourself short of someone else you may be missing out on because you are waiting around for something that in all likelyhood may never happen. Also whose to say that if they do break up that you two will wind up together? If you love her that much I would just continue being her friend keeping in contact with her, but at the same time still do your thing with other girls.

I agree with this unless the boyfriend is a piece of crap. Then by telling her you might be doing her a favor.

[JamStone]

I've been that girl. I wish the guy never told me. But that's because I'm selfish.

You Pinays are all selfish. That's why I've always stayed away from yall. :P

[J.T.]

i feel you, rapper.

i'm going through the same thing right now at my work. the problem is her bf works there as well, but only on certain weekends, while we both work every weekend.

needless to say, when he works, we both sort of stay away from eachother. however, there's definitely something b/w us when he's not there.

i guess i'll just let things take its course; hopefully it leads to intercourse. :lol

You just got elected mayor of the Friend Zone.

Really, it's not even worth trying to hook up with someone at work. It's bad end every time.

[The Gemini Method]

Never trust a bi$#h...

Hah, no...it's usually not good for business when I deal with a girl that has a boyfriend, but right now I'm embroiled in a conflict where a friend of mine is in the final stages of her relationship (or so I think at this point) and we've been kind've hooking up. Mind you, I have liked this girl for so long that I held back from pursuing her and perhaps it is a subconscious thing that I am hoping to not mess with this woman anymore...but in the back of my cluttered mind, I think we'll end up dating. However, I don't know if I could really trust myself to stay loyal since the whole thing has been built on deception--something I don't really feel particularly good about.

[Leetonidas]

I thought I loved this girl when I was like 14 who had a boyfriend, but I didn't know any better. She was just hot as hell, nice big titties, nice little ass, cute little vajay. Eventually I said fuck her and started fucking her best friend and she dumped her boyfriend but by that time she was old news.

[tlongII]

I married one.

I'm still pissed off about that.

[Sancha]

I always know what I am getting into

[florige]

I agree with this unless the boyfriend is a piece of crap. Then by telling her you might be doing her a favor.



Very true!

[TDMVPDPOY]

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