So, one of my friends took her own life yesterday.

[phxspurfan]

I just learned this from Facebook. We all saw the signs over a year ago. She stopped talking to us and showing up at events. She left a great job mysteriously. She gained weight inexplicably. Now this.

A completely avoidable and unnecessary tragedy just happened. My friends and I were all partially to blame if you ask me. If you see a friend that is obviously depressed or in need, reach out to them. A simple call can save a life. Damn, I'm sorry.


If you know someone who is hurting or depressed, reach out to them now before it's too late. There's too much random bad stuff that can happen in this world to let dear friends go for no good reason.

[Viva Las Espuelas]

Sorry for your loss, Phx. I can't imagine how I'd be if a close friend did that.

[Dr. Gonzo]

that sucks

[Dr. Gonzo]

You can't blame yourself though. She obviously needed more help than any family or friends would have been able to give.

[PakiDan]

Sorry for your loss...

[phxspurfan]

Thanks. She wasn't a close friend, but a friend nonetheless. I'm just sad that this lesson for me personally had to come at such a price.

Kind of like a post I saw on thsi board last year about somebody who lost relative to illness, and asked everyone to make sure they treat their loved ones like they may not see them again someday. I really took that post to heart and am glad I spent a ton of time with my family last year (who are all living and well). But I definitely needed a kick in the rear to pick up the phone / travel out there and do it.

Be it reaching out to a friend or family member, do it now. You won't regret it.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Sorry for your loss, phxspurfan. As was said above you really shouldn't blame yourself. I nearly killed myself years ago and in dealing with the aftermath (and talking with others who had been there too) one of the toughest things to see was how much the people around me blamed themselves for not seeing it coming. A big part of the downward spiral is how hard a depressed person busts their ass to keep those around them from thinking anything is wrong. Looking back if I had just put half as much energy into solving my problems as I put into convincing everyone around me that I was fine who knows how much easier it all might have been. It's exhausting and that exhaustion just pushes you deeper down.

I can't pretend to know exactly what your friend was going through, but as DG said above they might have been well beyond your help for a while by the time it happened. You advice is a great truth and I hope everyone takes it to heart: if you ever think someone might be hurting then reaching out to them is always the right thing to do.

[CubanSucks]

why the fuck are you posting this? So everyone tells you how it's not your fault? Lame. If someone close to me died, and especially suicide, the LAST place I'd go for comfort is a fucking website.

[MavDynasty]

why the fuck are you posting this? So everyone tells you how it's not your fault? Lame. If someone close to me died, and especially suicide, the LAST place I'd go for comfort is a fucking website.

Keep mopping up jizz, faggot.

[Trainwreck2100]

where did she put it?

women rarely shoot themselves

[BlackSwordsMan]

how'd she do it?

[Trainwreck2100]

if i had to guess i'd say pills or slicey dicey

[CubanSucks]

car running in the garage

trying to stay a little original

[ALVAREZ6]

I can't pretend to know exactly what your friend was going through, but as DG said above they might have been well beyond your help for a while by the time it happened. You advice is a great truth and I hope everyone takes it to heart: if you ever think someone might be hurting then reaching out to them is always the right thing to do.


why the fuck are you posting this? So everyone tells you how it's not your fault? Lame. If someone close to me died, and especially suicide, the LAST place I'd go for comfort is a fucking website.

Seems quite contradictory of me, but I agree with both of these posts tbh. You shouldn't blame yourself, and reaching out even when in doubt is never a bad idea. But I would never post on a message board about the loss of someone close to me.

[Bill_Brasky]

Did she drop any good loot?

[Trainwreck2100]

car running in the garage

trying to stay a little original

only if her car didn't have a cad converter

[The Reckoning]

Did she drop any good loot?

:lol

[Koolaid_Man]

I just learned this from Facebook. We all saw the signs over a year ago. She stopped talking to us and showing up at events. She left a great job mysteriously. She gained weight inexplicably. Now this.

A completely avoidable and unnecessary tragedy just happened. My friends and I were all partially to blame if you ask me. If you see a friend that is obviously depressed or in need, reach out to them. A simple call can save a life. Damn, I'm sorry.


If you know someone who is hurting or depressed, reach out to them now before it's too late. There's too much random bad stuff that can happen in this world to let dear friends go for no good reason.

Sorry to hear it...I found out around this past X-mas that one of my ex girlfriends killed herself...she was married and apparently was having issues with her husband...Her mom sent me an FB message letting me know. It was sad because I think her mom is partially to blame because she opposed her daughter seeing me because I'm black..we eventually ended the relationship because she couldn't deal with the non support of her family...I didn't trip about it too long...but ironically she gets with this white guy and now she's dead...Had she stayed with me she WOULD still be alive..her mom apologized to me because deep inside she knows it..she killed her own kid imo...a sad lesson to be learned because of her own racial bias...what a waste of a beautiful woman...

[MavDynasty]

No one would date your dumb ###### ass.

[Koolaid_Man]

No one would date your dumb ###### ass.

i thought so too :lol

[Proxy]

If someone is depressed enough to override their evolutionary instinct and human sense to keep living, then they are too deep for you to do anything. You can't give someone happiness if they aren't happy with themselves. You can only find it within yourself to be truly happy. Happiness from dependence is a facade. They only thing you could've possible done, was to make her see that.

[leemajors]

Sorry to hear it...I found out around this past X-mas that one of my ex girlfriends killed herself...she was married and apparently was having issues with her husband...Her mom sent me an FB message letting me know. It was sad because I think her mom is partially to blame because she opposed her daughter seeing me because I'm black..we eventually ended the relationship because she couldn't deal with the non support of her family...I didn't trip about it too long...but ironically she gets with this white guy and now she's dead...Had she stayed with me she WOULD still be alive..her mom apologized to me because deep inside she knows it..she killed her own kid imo...a sad lesson to be learned because of her own racial bias...what a waste of a beautiful woman...

i like how you made this about you.

[Fpoonsie]

Did she drop any good loot?

:rollin

[Leetonidas]

How can anyone be talking shit to this guy? A friend of his offed themselves, show some respect guys. Hell Koolaids is a fag but I don't want the guy to kill himself, shit's not a joke.

My best friend shot himself in the face with a shotgun two years ago on 2/22. It's hard to cope but it's true what they say, time heals all wounds. Instead of focusing on what I could've done or blaming myself I just think back on all the awesome times we had and try to focus and always dwell on the good, not the bad. Because no amount of beating yourself up is gonna change it, it just takes time.

[Koolaid_Man]

How can anyone be talking shit to this guy? A friend of his offed themselves, show some respect guys. Hell Koolaids is a fag but I don't want the guy to kill himself, shit's not a joke.

My best friend shot himself in the face with a shotgun two years ago on 2/22. It's hard to cope but it's true what they say, time heals all wounds. Instead of focusing on what I could've done or blaming myself I just think back on all the awesome times we had and try to focus and always dwell on the good, not the bad. Because no amount of beating yourself up is gonna change it, it just takes time.

you know Leets calling me a fag pushes me closer to the edge..you don't want that on your conscience do you...

[cantthinkofanything]

How can anyone be talking shit to this guy? A friend of his offed themselves, show some respect guys. Hell Koolaids is a fag but I don't want the guy to kill himself, shit's not a joke.

My best friend shot himself in the face with a shotgun two years ago on 2/22. It's hard to cope but it's true what they say, time heals all wounds. Instead of focusing on what I could've done or blaming myself I just think back on all the awesome times we had and try to focus and always dwell on the good, not the bad. Because no amount of beating yourself up is gonna change it, it just takes time.

I think everyone is just pissed about Bonner still getting playing time.

[Leetonidas]

you know Leets calling me a fag pushes me closer to the edge..you don't want that on your conscience do you...

Shouldn't be white water rafting then bro

[rascal]

Sorry to hear it...I found out around this past X-mas that one of my ex girlfriends killed herself...she was married and apparently was having issues with her husband...Her mom sent me an FB message letting me know. It was sad because I think her mom is partially to blame because she opposed her daughter seeing me because I'm black..we eventually ended the relationship because she couldn't deal with the non support of her family...I didn't trip about it too long...but ironically she gets with this white guy and now she's dead...Had she stayed with me she WOULD still be alive..her mom apologized to me because deep inside she knows it..she killed her own kid imo...a sad lesson to be learned because of her own racial bias...what a waste of a beautiful woman...

You don't know for sure if she would not have killed herself with you.
Apparently she wasn't as into you as you think if she dumped you.

She had problems that likely went beyond any relationship.