Ditty
12-30-2016, 04:30 PM
I have been talking to this girl that I've been working with for the last three months. (Yeah I already fucked up there :lol Don't play where you're paid). I'm 27 years old, and she is 21 years old. I have never tried to date a girl that young before. It felt weird because when I was 18 & 19 years old, I was messing around with a 26 year old and a late 20's, early 30 year old woman who both were married :hat. Anyways we would go out occasionally, and sometimes text each other all day just flirting/joking around and having good conversation and I would go to her desk because she used to work nights and talk to her over there. It was a really low key thing, because only one other girl in the office knew about us. So of course I got really attached to her. So one night we went out, I asked her what she eventually saw in us and I really liked her more than a friend. (Felt just like high school :lol) She said she saw the same thing, but I came in at the wrong time and she's going through some things but eventually it will happen that we would be together. I've never been a nosy guy, so I didn't bother to ask what she was going through. She had her doubts because I could be really flirty, and thought something was going on with that girl that knew about us and I but I told her that I didn't see her the same way I saw her. She always believed everything was too good to be true, but I was being real.
At times we would go a day or two without texting each other, because we would be a little stubborn but eventually one of us would give in and text each other. About three-four weeks ago I thought the same thing was going on, so I gave in and texted her what she was doing and she never responded. A few days later I texted her " Is everything alright?". Didn't get any response. A few weeks ago, I ended up getting sick with early stages of Pneumonia, so I didn't go to work for a week so I couldn't see her. I texted her a couple days later after that, and told her "I was getting worried, asking her if I did something wrong, telling her I was confused, asking her not to ignore me and acknowledging that she was going through some things and I would trust her that she would tell me if something was wrong."
A week passes by and still nothing. I asked our co worker who knew about us, and sits right next to her if anything is going on. She said nothing that she has told her, they have just been really busy at work. So the girl I'm talking to ends up getting sick, right when I get back to work so I texted her again that "I hope she feels better, but I just want to know what happened and was willing to talk in person what was going on." To make matters worse! She deleted me off Snapchat like minutes before I send that text :depressed. Not a big deal unless you're in high school, but it just brings up a lot of red flags. My co worker who sits next to me follows her, and she says she hasn't posted pictures with any guys which was another one of my concerns is that she lost interest and found somebody else. Still no response.
So a few days pass at this point I'm thinking to myself that maybe she accidentally blocked me on her IPhone, because there have been times that I texted her and she never got the text message. Just giving her the benefit of the doubt. So a few days later I message her at work on Skype asking her if we can talk. Still nothing. So I finally say fuck it! I walk to her desk late at night on my break because she works earlier than I do now, and ask her " Did you get my message?" She's like stunned, and speechless for a second. She says she did, but didn't want to make things awkward. I asked her "What was wrong then?" She says nothing is wrong, and I will respond to your message. I then leave and give her a smart ass response of "It would be nice if you would respond to my text messages." She just giggles. Still didn't get a message back. I go back up to her during my break, and just try some small talk not talking about what's going on. She decides to watch her fucking Netflix movie instead of wanting to start a conversation. So I'm just there sitting like an idiot, and eventually tell her to enjoy her movie, then I walk off. She doesn't respond this time.
So I haven’t had any communication with her for over a week. Monday night I tell myself, if she doesn’t respond by the New Year I’m done. So I send her a text that “I rather be her friend than nothing at all. I just don’t want work to be awkward anymore. If you don’t want anything to do with me anymore then I understand.”
She finally texts back :/! She tells me “It’s not that I don’t want anything to do with you. You did nothing wrong. It’s just not a good time for me right now. I didn’t want things to get awkward like they are right now.” I then tell her that “ I rather her tell me it’s not a good time, than nothing at all. I rather you have been a complete asshole to me than ignore me. I miss us, but I want to do what you want to do, just don’t ignore me. I didn’t mean to rush anything that night that I told you that I wanted more if that was the vibe you were getting. I will wait until however long until you’re ready for commitment. I’ve been single for like seven years, why would I be impatient now?”
She doesn’t respond after that, which I was hoping she would. I made one more point that I wanted to get off my chest, and I will let it be. I told her, “The only thing that disappoints me is why would you push someone away that you care about when things aren’t going your way? If something or someone in my life were bringing me down, I would want you to be there because you make me happy. I would hope I would be someone that has been a positive influence is your life because you seemed to always be happy and laughing when you were around me. I sometimes just tell myself that I have given everything I got and maybe you will come around. Sometimes I just feel like I need to cut my losses and move on and faith will decide if we are meant to be, but it’s hard when you truly care about someone.”
She then tells me, “ Please stop. You have no idea what I’m going through, and I didn’t mean to ignore or stop talking to you. I just need my space and the way I deal with stress or pain is different than other people. I’m not a mean person, I just don’t want to have to explain what’s going on.”
I then tell her that, “ I’m sorry, you’re right. I will give your space because I want you to get through whatever you’re going through. I’m not trying to make this a negative conversation. You’re an amazing girl, I would of moved on with anyone else but I can’t with you. I’ll let you deal with what’s going on, but I would hope I would be someone that I can help you get through this being a positive figure.” She says nothing after that.
I ask her the biggest question of them all. “ Why did you delete me off snapchat? I’ve been wondering why you did that all of sudden after we stopped talking. I know you need your space, but doing that just makes no sense.” She doesn’t answer the question.
I haven't given a shit about a girl since I was 21 also, and I also worked with that girl also. She ended up kissing my boss that night because she was drunk. Luckily I changed stores right when this happened, and I got over it. I believe in the saying, "When someone enters your life unexpectedly don't let them go, because they were probably brought into your life for a reason." I've never had a girl tell me she needs her "space". Now for everyone’s opinion. Would you stay, or would you go? Of course everything is meant to be, and everything in life happens for a reason. I really want to stay, and wait it out because as I mentioned she is an amazing girl when she has her head on straight. Though my friends are telling me she may have lost interest, which I don’t want to believe. She’s childish, and didn’t handle this the right way at all but she acknowledged she did at least, but imagine the stuff she will do to you when y’all are both together if that happens. Another one of my co-workers told me that I have a big heart, and I will find someone that appreciates me. She will then look back regretting that she lost a great guy.
Thanks for those who read my story!
At times we would go a day or two without texting each other, because we would be a little stubborn but eventually one of us would give in and text each other. About three-four weeks ago I thought the same thing was going on, so I gave in and texted her what she was doing and she never responded. A few days later I texted her " Is everything alright?". Didn't get any response. A few weeks ago, I ended up getting sick with early stages of Pneumonia, so I didn't go to work for a week so I couldn't see her. I texted her a couple days later after that, and told her "I was getting worried, asking her if I did something wrong, telling her I was confused, asking her not to ignore me and acknowledging that she was going through some things and I would trust her that she would tell me if something was wrong."
A week passes by and still nothing. I asked our co worker who knew about us, and sits right next to her if anything is going on. She said nothing that she has told her, they have just been really busy at work. So the girl I'm talking to ends up getting sick, right when I get back to work so I texted her again that "I hope she feels better, but I just want to know what happened and was willing to talk in person what was going on." To make matters worse! She deleted me off Snapchat like minutes before I send that text :depressed. Not a big deal unless you're in high school, but it just brings up a lot of red flags. My co worker who sits next to me follows her, and she says she hasn't posted pictures with any guys which was another one of my concerns is that she lost interest and found somebody else. Still no response.
So a few days pass at this point I'm thinking to myself that maybe she accidentally blocked me on her IPhone, because there have been times that I texted her and she never got the text message. Just giving her the benefit of the doubt. So a few days later I message her at work on Skype asking her if we can talk. Still nothing. So I finally say fuck it! I walk to her desk late at night on my break because she works earlier than I do now, and ask her " Did you get my message?" She's like stunned, and speechless for a second. She says she did, but didn't want to make things awkward. I asked her "What was wrong then?" She says nothing is wrong, and I will respond to your message. I then leave and give her a smart ass response of "It would be nice if you would respond to my text messages." She just giggles. Still didn't get a message back. I go back up to her during my break, and just try some small talk not talking about what's going on. She decides to watch her fucking Netflix movie instead of wanting to start a conversation. So I'm just there sitting like an idiot, and eventually tell her to enjoy her movie, then I walk off. She doesn't respond this time.
So I haven’t had any communication with her for over a week. Monday night I tell myself, if she doesn’t respond by the New Year I’m done. So I send her a text that “I rather be her friend than nothing at all. I just don’t want work to be awkward anymore. If you don’t want anything to do with me anymore then I understand.”
She finally texts back :/! She tells me “It’s not that I don’t want anything to do with you. You did nothing wrong. It’s just not a good time for me right now. I didn’t want things to get awkward like they are right now.” I then tell her that “ I rather her tell me it’s not a good time, than nothing at all. I rather you have been a complete asshole to me than ignore me. I miss us, but I want to do what you want to do, just don’t ignore me. I didn’t mean to rush anything that night that I told you that I wanted more if that was the vibe you were getting. I will wait until however long until you’re ready for commitment. I’ve been single for like seven years, why would I be impatient now?”
She doesn’t respond after that, which I was hoping she would. I made one more point that I wanted to get off my chest, and I will let it be. I told her, “The only thing that disappoints me is why would you push someone away that you care about when things aren’t going your way? If something or someone in my life were bringing me down, I would want you to be there because you make me happy. I would hope I would be someone that has been a positive influence is your life because you seemed to always be happy and laughing when you were around me. I sometimes just tell myself that I have given everything I got and maybe you will come around. Sometimes I just feel like I need to cut my losses and move on and faith will decide if we are meant to be, but it’s hard when you truly care about someone.”
She then tells me, “ Please stop. You have no idea what I’m going through, and I didn’t mean to ignore or stop talking to you. I just need my space and the way I deal with stress or pain is different than other people. I’m not a mean person, I just don’t want to have to explain what’s going on.”
I then tell her that, “ I’m sorry, you’re right. I will give your space because I want you to get through whatever you’re going through. I’m not trying to make this a negative conversation. You’re an amazing girl, I would of moved on with anyone else but I can’t with you. I’ll let you deal with what’s going on, but I would hope I would be someone that I can help you get through this being a positive figure.” She says nothing after that.
I ask her the biggest question of them all. “ Why did you delete me off snapchat? I’ve been wondering why you did that all of sudden after we stopped talking. I know you need your space, but doing that just makes no sense.” She doesn’t answer the question.
I haven't given a shit about a girl since I was 21 also, and I also worked with that girl also. She ended up kissing my boss that night because she was drunk. Luckily I changed stores right when this happened, and I got over it. I believe in the saying, "When someone enters your life unexpectedly don't let them go, because they were probably brought into your life for a reason." I've never had a girl tell me she needs her "space". Now for everyone’s opinion. Would you stay, or would you go? Of course everything is meant to be, and everything in life happens for a reason. I really want to stay, and wait it out because as I mentioned she is an amazing girl when she has her head on straight. Though my friends are telling me she may have lost interest, which I don’t want to believe. She’s childish, and didn’t handle this the right way at all but she acknowledged she did at least, but imagine the stuff she will do to you when y’all are both together if that happens. Another one of my co-workers told me that I have a big heart, and I will find someone that appreciates me. She will then look back regretting that she lost a great guy.
Thanks for those who read my story!