"I HATE YOU!!!!!!!!!"

[TOP-CHERRY]

How many people in your life do you hate, and why?

I'm curious to know.

[Carie]

Right now? No one that I can think of. In the past, an ex-boyfriend. But that was probably more hurt than hate on my part.

[hussker]

No one

[hussker]

How about you TC?

[TOP-CHERRY]

Oh, just one person.

One very miserable person.

[midgetonadonkey]

I hate more people than I can list.

[clooneyschick04]

I don't hate anyone. However, there are a couple of people that I dislike immensely. :spin

[ZStomp]

nobody

[lilmads]

Hate's a strong word.

After thinkin about it, I'd say none.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Hate's a strong word.

It is. But sometimes people commit some really strong offenses against us, you have no other option but to hate them.

[Dre_7]

Nobody

[3rdCoast]

Hmm.

Well, Cherry, I am awfully sorry to hear that someone has wronged you in such a way.

Any chance we can get you to elaborate?

[TOP-CHERRY]

It's just a person who completely changed the way I still live my life up to this day.

And I hate them for it.

[3rdCoast]

I think most people encounter one or two life changing people in their time.

Our friends and surroundings are part of the make up that makes us who we are.

Regardless, I am sorry that you feel hatred towards that one person.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Chain reaction, really. Their actions affected one thing which lead to another, which then changed other things, etc.

[Phonzie20]

Teh Cara

Becasue he lives in Brazil and has massive amounts of Brazilian hotties at his disposal.

[Cara De Dedão]

Yes I do.

[3rdCoast]

Cherry, I am not sure if you believe in this concept, but I sure do.

Everything happens for a reason.

[TOP-CHERRY]

I believe things happen that make you become a better person or not or make you do things differently... But I don't believe things happen for a reason.

[3rdCoast]

Maybe it's both.

Maybe whatever happened to you to make you react differently in the future took place so that you could become who you are supossed to be.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Possibly.

[1Parker1]

:lol Too many. Although, as someone else mentioned...Hate is a strong word. I dislike many people though. Probably because I can't stand people who

a) don't think before they speak
b) are rude and don't have any manners
c) are just plain stupid

I have low tolerence for these kinds of people. And I know it sounds like I'm being mean, but you'd be suprised by how many of those kinds of people you run into in downtown Philly :)

[3rdCoast]

How many people in your life do you hate, and why?

I'm curious to know.

I do not hate anyone. I dislike some people for how they have treated me, but I still would not wish them harm on any day.

Generally, I try to follow the rule of loving everyone and treating them as if they were your own family.

There are only a handful of people who I can say I dislike right now and I have not spoken or seen those people in well over one year.

[Old School Chic]

nobody

:angel You're a sweetie

I used to hate my Ex-boyfriend so much for being a total wuss but I got over it when I met my wonderful husband. I learned that holding a grudge on someone too long isn't good for your complexion. :lol

[Old School Chic]

:lol Too many. Although, as someone else mentioned...Hate is a strong word. I dislike many people though. Probably because I can't stand people who

a) don't think before they speak
b) are rude and don't have any manners
c) are just plain stupid

I have low tolerence for these kinds of people. And I know it sounds like I'm being mean, but you'd be suprised by how many of those kinds of people you run into in downtown Philly :)

I agree with 1Parker1 100%

I don't hate anyone because It's not good for you and because God asks you to love everyone the same no matter how much you feel like choking them at times but I do dislike the same things you mentioned above out of a person.

Same thing goes for those who claim to know me & hate me around here.
All I can say is to read my Sig very carefully... :lol

[atlfan25]

I Hate A Lot Of People Right Now

[TOP-CHERRY]

I Hate A Lot Of People Right Now
Bad game?

[3rdCoast]

Oh yea, how did that go son. PM if not want to discuss in public.

[ObiwanGinobili]

my brother in-law.

he called Emo @ work one day anmd told him that he "knew in his heart" I was cheating on him because I had driven home one of our younger brother's friends (he was 15 at the time) and that just wasn't kosher.
he gave Emo this whole shebang about the "way I looked in my face when I did it" saying that I couldn;t be trusted, and he was "sure" that I had done somethign that would allow Emo to end our marriage as a non-guilty party.

it was not only un-true but sick. he has yet to apologize, emo & he don;t speak, and he can kiss my ass.

of course now he says we "stole" his parents because we gave them grandchildren. he;s jealous of my kids. pathetic mofo.

[3rdCoast]

my brother in-law.

he called Emo @ work one day anmd told him that he "knew in his heart" I was cheating on him because I had driven home one of our younger brother's friends (he was 15 at the time) and that just wasn't kosher.
he gave Emo this whole shebang about the "way I looked in my face when I did it" saying that I couldn;t be trusted, and he was "sure" that I had done somethign that would allow Emo to end our marriage as a non-guilty party.

it was not only un-true but sick. he has yet to apologize, emo & he don;t speak, and he can kiss my ass.

of course now he says we "stole" his parents because we gave them grandchildren. he;s jealous of my kids. pathetic mofo.

Who is Emo?

[Old School Chic]

my brother in-law.

he called Emo @ work one day anmd told him that he "knew in his heart" I was cheating on him because I had driven home one of our younger brother's friends (he was 15 at the time) and that just wasn't kosher.
he gave Emo this whole shebang about the "way I looked in my face when I did it" saying that I couldn;t be trusted, and he was "sure" that I had done somethign that would allow Emo to end our marriage as a non-guilty party.

it was not only un-true but sick. he has yet to apologize, emo & he don;t speak, and he can kiss my ass.

of course now he says we "stole" his parents because we gave them grandchildren. he;s jealous of my kids. pathetic mofo.

What a jerk! He sounds like a big time Loser. Just Ignore him!
BTW, your girls are so pretty. No wonder he's jeolous.

[TOP-CHERRY]

my brother in-law.

he called Emo @ work one day anmd told him that he "knew in his heart" I was cheating on him because I had driven home one of our younger brother's friends (he was 15 at the time) and that just wasn't kosher.
he gave Emo this whole shebang about the "way I looked in my face when I did it" saying that I couldn;t be trusted, and he was "sure" that I had done somethign that would allow Emo to end our marriage as a non-guilty party.

it was not only un-true but sick. he has yet to apologize, emo & he don;t speak, and he can kiss my ass.

of course now he says we "stole" his parents because we gave them grandchildren. he;s jealous of my kids. pathetic mofo.
Man, but at least you have a husband who stands by you even if he has to be against his family. That's a really good thing.

[3rdCoast]

Man, but at least you have a husband who stands by you even if he has to be against his family. That's a really good thing.

So you would choose husband over family?

[TOP-CHERRY]

So you would choose husband over family?
If I had to, yes I would. If I thought he was right, of course.

[3rdCoast]

If I had to, yes I would. If I thought he was right, of course.

Would be tough decision.

I hope I never have to choose sides.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Well when you marry someone, they become your new family. And you're supposed to support them in everything.

I just think I'd be horrible to choose your family over your mate, if they were treating him/her unfairly.

[3rdCoast]

Well when you marry someone, they become your new family. And you're supposed to support them in everything.

I just think I'd be horrible to choose your family over your mate, if they were treating him/her unfairly.

True if circumstances permit, however, I have always been close to my family and I can not see myself losing them.

Again, I pray that I will never have to make a decison similar to the one described.

[Horry For 3!]

I don't hate anyone but I may dis-like some people. I don't hate.

[ObiwanGinobili]

Who is Emo?


my husband. yes, thats his name.

[ObiwanGinobili]

Top-Cherry, you stole all the words right outta my mouth.
:tu

[atlfan25]

Top-Cherry, you stole all the words right outta my mouth.
:tu
That's the kind of skills she gained from being in SAISD

[ObiwanGinobili]

haha!
you've been in the Quattro too long.
I never went to SAISD.
I wasn't even raised in Texas.

[N.Y. Johnny]

There's a few folks I hate.
too many to list, but there's a few on my list now.

[ZStomp]

There's a few folks I hate.
too many to list, but there's a few on my list now.

:depressed

[N.Y. Johnny]

:depressed

Nah not you. :tu

[ZStomp]

:elephant

[SpursWoman]

I used to hate my ex-husband, but now I really don't care. He gave me 2 awesome kids that I can now share with someone who's actually good enough for them. :)

[ZStomp]

I used to hate my ex-husband, but now I really don't care. He gave me 2 awesome kids that I can now share with someone who's actually good enough for them. :)

i wonder who........... :fro

[ObiwanGinobili]

I'll take UserUser666 for $1000, Alex.

[1Parker1]

I used to hate my ex-husband, but now I really don't care. He gave me 2 awesome kids that I can now share with someone who's actually good enough for them. :)

That's sweet :)

I think everyone gets to the point where hating a certain someone just takes to much energy and you learn to not care.

[midgetonadonkey]

The number of people I hate is greater than the number of people I care about.

[Old School Chic]

I used to hate my ex-husband, but now I really don't care. He gave me 2 awesome kids that I can now share with someone who's actually good enough for them. :)

Awesome! :elephant

[ZStomp]

The number of people I hate is greater than the number of people I care about.


Keep you friends close and your enemies even closer.

[ChumpDumper]

In-laws.

They all fucking suck so bad I don't even speak to them beyond "hello" and "how about that weather."

My siblings' tastes in mates was so bad I can't even begin to describe it. They are willfully evil and shit on any definition of family I can think of. Makes me want to hit something or someone.

Hard.

[Trainwreck2100]

I hate a few people, but one of them is old so must either
a)Get revenge soon
b)Go after the desendents
I find it's easier to hurt someone by messing with their descendants. And that's trainwrecks advise for the day.

http://www.ezekielbearsports.com/bbs/images/yahoo/devil.gif

Not killing mind you because that is the coward's way out.


Just joking people....or am I.

De de de duh. (cue dog with the shifty eyes)

[Phonzie20]

I hate the Ogre.

[Sonia_TX]

Well he's not in my life right now...but an exboyfriend. He was/is an abuser. He's probably the ONLY person I can say that I HATE and wish bad things upon!

There are others that I just dislike.

[velik_m]

i hate stupid people... so i guess i hate myself too :depressed

[TOP-CHERRY]

Keep you friends close and your enemies even closer.
Eh... I'd rather we be in opposite sides of the earth.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Well he's not in my life right now...but an exboyfriend. He was/is an abuser. He's probably the ONLY person I can say that I HATE and wish bad things upon!

There are others that I just dislike.
I'm glad you could get away from that.

[Faccia di Angelo]

I hate noone. Not even my exes who hurt me pretty bad. I don't think I can talk to one anytime soon but I hope they find what they're looking for. I hate on myself sometimes for the things I put me and my heart thru. That's all on me.

[1Parker1]

I hate on myself sometimes for the things I put me and my heart thru. That's all on me.

:tu Very true.

[batman2883]

I loathe you cherry LOATHE

[ShoogarBear]

I hate Derek Fisher for 0.4*.

[batman2883]

i hate derek jeter for being a fucking yankee...i hate all yankees for that matter along with that old guy that does boxing commentating for hbo boxing....i hate that guy, and i hate ben stein for talking so damn slow about dry red eye's, and i hate howard stern for being lucky enough to share his radio shows with porn stars who fornicate on live radio while he watches, i hate kid craddick in the morning cause that show is just stupid and sucks ass, i hate that prince guy who is gets to bang shakira whenever he wants to and no one can compete with that, i mean the dude is a prince....she will be a princess....how do i steal her away from that.....i hate condoms they suck, why cant we just press a mental button in our mind that controls the potent sperm with the less potent sperm so that we can have sex with not worrying about getting someone pregnant, i hate eve for tempting adam to get her the damn apple and taking away one of our extra ribs.......i hate a lot more but i fear i could write a book about all the shit i hate

[pache100]

How many people in your life do you hate, and why?

I'm curious to know.

I don't hate anyone right now (although George Bush is getting REAAALLLY close). I have only ever hated three people in my life. Two were people I worked (one man, one woman) for and one was a woman my brother lived with for awhile. I got over all those eventually.

To get over hating, you have to forgive. And you forgive for YOURSELF, not for the people you hate. Carrying hate around in your heart will make you sick. It takes conscious work, but it can be done. Of course, time and distance help a lot, too; but, it's really hard if it's someone you have to see on a daily basis.


Everything happens for a reason.

That is one of my primary mottoes in life. We don't always get to know what the reason IS, but, after 53 1/2 years of life, I have come to belive EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

[batman2883]

Actually George Bush has to be one of the people i admire the most......and as i do not completely agree with your comment pache.....i will fight till the death to defend your right to say it

[2Blonde]

[QUOTE=pache100]To get over hating, you have to forgive. And you forgive for YOURSELF, not for the people you hate. Carrying hate around in your heart will make you sick. It takes conscious work, but it can be done. Of course, time and distance help a lot, too; but, it's really hard if it's someone you have to see on a daily basis.
[QUOTE]
Excellent post. At some point you have to forgive yourself for hating the other person. You can never change what they did to you, but by forgiving yourself for buying into their garbage you can rise above it all and feel better about yourself. It removes you from the situation and allows to move on. And you are so right about distance and time helping.

[pache100]

Excellent post. At some point you have to forgive yourself for hating the other person. You can never change what they did to you, but by forgiving yourself for buying into their garbage you can rise above it all and feel better about yourself. It removes you from the situation and allows to move on. And you are so right about distance and time helping.

Thanks.

All that is very true. But you also have to, at some point, forgive the person you hate. You do this for yourself, too, not for them. You cannot allow your hate for them to make you sick. And if you carry it around inside you long enough, it will eventually make you sick in one way or another. If you cannot forgive, you have to do what some here have mentioned...train yourself not to care at all, in any way. If you can do that, one day, you will realize that you have actually forgiven that person. I gave myself an ulcer with hate once (over the woman boss). And, I had other health problems, too. I had no idea what was causing it. Then, I got sick one time and they thought I might have toxic shock syndrome; then they thought I had gall bladder problems. And I had a monster case of insomnia. I went to a new doctor, a young one, and he asked me some very pointed questions. He asked me what I think about before I go to sleep at night, if I worried about stuff, whatever. He told me if I was worried about something I could fix, to get up and fix it. And he asked me if worrying about the other stuff fixed any of it, and if not, to forget it because I couldn't change it. Then he asked me if I had hard feelings toward anyone. When I told him yes, he told me I had to let them go, even if that meant forgiving the person. I worked on that a couple of weeks and over the next couple of months, my health improved immensely. The ulcer went away after about 6 months, and all the other symptoms gradually went away, too. When I find myself getting wrapped around the axle about something someone has done to me, I always remember the lessons he taught me and I let it go. Life it too short to be sick over stuff like that. And the other person is rarely worth the effort anyway.

[Marklar MM]

I HATE ARMOR PLATED ELEPHANTS, ARMADILLOS, and THE DUCK IMITATION MEAT, the PLATYPUS.!!! :sleep

[tlongII]

Osama Bin Laden

[TOP-CHERRY]

I loathe you cherry LOATHE
Aww. As do I.

[batman2883]

Loathe God Damn It Loathe Cherry

[TOP-CHERRY]

Sorry, but you cannot possibly loathe me more than I loathe you.

[batman2883]

Oh Cherry You Cant Quite Possibly Imagine How Much I Loathe You, I Loathe You So Much That I Question God On A Daily Basis Why Oh Why Did He Send Such A Lowly Piece Of Crap Like You To Earth

[TOP-CHERRY]

Ok, you win.

[ShoogarBear]

Whydn't you two get a room?

[batman2883]

she's not worth my time

[Mixability]

Oh Cherry You Cant Quite Possibly Imagine How Much I Loathe You, I Loathe You So Much That I Question God On A Daily Basis Why Oh Why Did He Send Such A Lowly Piece Of Crap Like You To Earth

why all the hate?

[TOP-CHERRY]

Jealousy.

[ShoogarBear]

why all the hate?

Repressed urges.

[TOP-CHERRY]

Projection.

[batman2883]

No Cherry just has never been on my good side since the moments she stepped foot in the quattro

[TOP-CHERRY]

Projection.
# Psychology.

1. The attribution of one's own attitudes, feelings, or suppositions to others: “Even trained anthropologists have been guilty of unconscious projectionof clothing the subjects of their research in theories brought with them into the field” (Alex Shoumatoff).
2. The attribution of one's own attitudes, feelings, or desires to someone or something as a naive or unconscious defense against anxiety or guilt.

Yep. Projection.

[Mixability]

FYI: makeup sex is the best sex.....

[batman2883]

nah its not projection cause i love everybody else up in the forum except you cherry, you just have been below the scum that feeds off of mucus since the moment you typed your first word

[Mixability]

nah its not projection cause i love everybody else up in the forum except you cherry, you just have been below the scum that feeds off of mucus since the moment you typed your first word

damn, what'd she do to you?

[TOP-CHERRY]

nah its not projection cause i love everybody else up in the forum except you cherry, you just have been below the scum that feeds off of mucus since the moment you typed your first word
So you usually flirt with scum?

[batman2883]

she was born danyo thats what she did

[batman2883]

and i never flirted with cherry i just always played around

[Marklar MM]

When is the first date?

[TOP-CHERRY]

Wow, so you really hate me?

[batman2883]

Never, i dont mess around with free samples

[TOP-CHERRY]

Free samples? Wow. Now I'm really curious to know what I did to you.

[ShoogarBear]

Did he ever stick your pigtails in an inkwell?

[TOP-CHERRY]

Never.

[ObiwanGinobili]

Quattro part duex

[Marklar MM]

You two really pain my heart.
http://www.theatlantic.com/issues/99jan/images/heart.gif

[Shelly]

Dear Wind,

While I love blustery days as the next person, I do not like the friends you bring with you when you decide to visit. They are disruptive, annoying, and they make my eyes weep and itch. Plus, I sneeze whenever they're around.

With hate,
Me

[2Blonde]

Dear Wind,

While I love blustery days as the next person, I do not like the friends you bring with you when you decide to visit. They are disruptive, annoying, and they make my eyes weep and itch. Plus, I sneeze whenever they're around.

With hate,
Me

Amen....I won't even go outside to get the friggin' mail today. My nose itches so bad right now. With the wind whipping that mountain cedar all around, I am stayin 10 feet away from my front door. Damn I hate allergies. Even the flonase, claritin and sudafed aren't helping anymore!!!

[batman2883]

now shelly on the other hand is someone i dont hate :)

[TOP-CHERRY]

I have had an epiphany.

I think I'm about ready to forgive the person I hate. See people, meditating is a good thing. Y'all should try it sometime.

I think instead of hating this person, I should thank her for making me a resilient person. Cuz just like I know many of you all have gone through tough crap in your lives, and some will in the future, we have the ability to rise above it all. It's amazing if you think about it... how us humans are capable of living through hell and back and being able to live through it and survive and adapt to it. If we didn't have problems or difficulties, we wouldn't be able to share wisdom or have faith... in ourselves and in others. It's amazing how life molds us each and everyday. How every person we come in contact with has the ability to touch our lives, make us think differently, make us change.
Some come into our lives and crush any speck of happiness we had... And it's hard to see through the glass that is our life because it becomes tainted with so many fears and uncertainties. But then we realize the strength to fight it comes from within... and when we see that strength coming out of us, that courage, we become amazed at what we are capable of.

I've also thought of how the people that hurt us usually are hurt a lot more themselves. Humans are generally good.. those who aren't just turn bad because of things they aren't able to endure. And I feel sorry for those who can't.

And those who said we have to move on and not hold grudges... you were all right. Rising up from the things that hurt us is the best thing that can happen to us. We find a strength we never thought we could have.

It's just beautiful.

I like this quote:

“Thought of the incomprehensible sequence of changes and chances that make up a life, all the beauties and horrors and absurdities whose conjunctions create the uninterpretable and yet divinely significant pattern of human destiny.”
- Aldous Huxley


Anyway, I didn't mean to go all poetic on you guys... that wasn't my intention. I just wanted to share this with all of y'all.

That is all.

[Mr. Blonde]

I am very happy to hear this Cherry. Loving thine enemies is quite the epiphany. Forgiveness is divine. Congrats. You have a bright future on your new path.


Hoever, since I am a heartless bastard, I am inclined to tell you of my murder for hire services should the hate creep back into your soul.

[ShoogarBear]

Does that mean that you and batman are gonna start getting it on?

[T Park]

The drunk driver that hit and killed my ex fiance.

[TOP-CHERRY]

I am very happy to hear this Cherry. Loving thine enemies is quite the epiphany. Forgiveness is divine. Congrats. You have a bright future on your new path.
Well... loving thine enemies is going just a tad too far.

I'm perfectly content just not hating them.

:)

[TOP-CHERRY]

Does that mean that you and batman are gonna start getting it on?
Neva'!

[polandprzem]

The drunk driver that hit and killed my ex fiance.

sorry to hear TPark.


Can I ask is he in jail?

[NZHayden]

the guy in town who thinks he knows everything about bball, hell he thinks t-mac's still with the magic