Question and awkward situation...

[usckk]

Well, I had my senior prom yesterday. Everything was okay well, until the last 30 minutes. Because I was with my date the whole time, I wanted to give her some room to talk to her friends or dance with other guys if she really wanted to (I didn't like dancing and we weren't dancing so it was okay). As some of yall already know, I liked this girl. But after thinking about it recently, it really is pointless to start a new relationship now since we're going to opposite directions for college. We might get to see each other 1 time each year, so a relationship is impossible.

Anyways, at the end of prom, she danced with a guy for about 15 minutes. This guy didn't have a date, so I thought it was nice that they were dancing. But I felt a little dissed, because she didnt' dance with me for the last dance. But that wasn't the worse part. After prom was over, I was walking her to my car with the guy with us. Then, the guy called her and wanted to talk to her privately. Afterwards, we got together again to my car, but before he left, he specifically said good bye to her, not both of us. Then in the ride back to my date's house, she was silent and depressed-looking the whole, as if she was thinking about somthing.

So what do yall think about this awkward situation? I'm so confused and a little mad. Was she being asked out for a date? Do yall think she said yes if she was being asked out?

[Vashner]

Well for one relax. Never let them see you sweat. If you like her the pursue. If not then worry about school for now.

Worring about the prom ... a waste of time. Never bring up bad anything if you don't have to.

There are about a billion people that have had a worse time than that. That's a very mild prom night story.

[usckk]

Yeah, i'm just a little confused and ticked off. I wasn't expecting that to happen.

[Vashner]

Well the way you started off is like it won't work only once a year etc...

If your gonna fight then fight. But when the goal is to "get the chick" you don't hassle her with "hey why you dance with that guy".

A true player is like "what guy?". Cool and smooth.

[ChumpDumper]

If you're not going to start a relationship, why do you care?

[usckk]

I know...I just thought it was annoying that some guy tried to hook her up in front of me, especially when he wans't her date.\. And also because I used to really like her. If she would of gone to a school close to mine, then I would of tried hard to have a relationship.

[Vashner]

Attractive people are hit on all the time.. so you have to get used to it.

You let the gentleman have 1 song then you cut in. :)

[Guru of Nothing]

It's called - You snooze, you lose.

[usckk]

If you're not going to start a relationship, why do you care?

Also, I was mainly shocked that she would do that because she's definenlty not the type of person taht would do that.

[Guru of Nothing]

Also, I was mainly shocked that she would do that because she's definenlty not the type of person taht would do that.

Maybe it was hormonal.

[usckk]

Maybe it was hormonal.

haha, i seriously, seriously doubt it. She doesn't like guys because of looks, but character. If your extremely good looking but mean, she wouldn't talk to you much. She would still talk to you because she's that nice, but wouldn't really want to.

[ChumpDumper]

Well, prom night is pretty much THE night to start something if you hadn't gone out with someone before. It's also the night guys should get over themselves and dance. Aside from booze, how she thinks she looks in her dress and your own level of attractiveness (whatever that may be), that's the main factor for female enjoyment of prom and greatly enhances any prayer you may have had for postdance action.

Too bad there are no do-overs, but it just didn't seem like you cared all that much. Maybe she hooked up with someone who looked like he did care.

[usckk]

Well, prom night is pretty much THE night to start something if you hadn't gone out with someone before. It's also the night guys should get over themselves and dance. Aside from booze, how she thinks she looks in her dress and your own level of attractiveness (whatever that may be), that's the main factor for female enjoyment of prom and greatly enhances any prayer you may have had for postdance action.

Too bad there are no do-overs, but it just didn't seem like you cared all that much.

No, no. I do care. IT was evident as I arranged everything and got the tickets, tux, and corsages early (paid for everything too), while she was a little "last-minute" because of her busy schedule.

[Guru of Nothing]

haha, i seriously, seriously doubt it. She doesn't like guys because of looks, but character. If your extremely good looking but mean, she wouldn't talk to you much. She would still talk to you because she's that nice, but wouldn't really want to.

That is not exactly what I meant.

If I were wrapped in a wet blanket, a fire would look pretty enticing.

[ALVAREZ6]

That sucks.

Well, if you said you didn't dance at the prom, maybe that's why she felt like dancing. I mean the prom is a dance, you know that right?

She was probably bored by the night and wanted to have a little fun at the end. It could have been a message to you saying you better step your game up before it's too late.

usckk, if you really like this girl, then you should start something with her even though you guys are goin to college. You have the whole summer, and if the relationship lasts that long, it can still work even though you guys are goin to different colleges. You're just gonna have to trust her.

If you really don't like her so much anymore, she can still be your friend. Move on. Try to get with girls over the summer, find some you like, try to start a relationship, do something over the summer. That way, if you find a girl you really like at college, you will at least have some experience.

Good luck.

[usckk]

That sucks.

Well, if you said you didn't dance at the prom, maybe that's why she felt like dancing. I mean the prom is a dance, you know that right?

She was probably bored by the night and wanted to have a little fun at the end. It could have been a message to you saying you better step your game up before it's too late.


I did slow dance with her several times.

[ALVAREZ6]

I did slow dance with her several times.
oh.


(I didn't like dancing and we weren't dancing so it was okay).
From that, I thought maybe you didn't dance with her.

[usckk]

oh.


From that, I thought maybe you didn't dance with her.

Oops my bad. Typo.

[ALVAREZ6]

So do you still like this girl, do you like her but not as much, or do you completely don't like her anymore?

[1Parker1]

If you don't think it's worthwhile to pursue a relationship with her since you're both going to different colleges soon, then what difference does it make if someone else pursues her? You can't expect her to stand around quietly while you decide whether or not you want to be with her. If you do, then you need to just ask her out, regardless of whether or not your going to different colleges. Although in my experience...that never works out. People change and grow up A LOT in college, and trust me when I say that it's hard to stay with someone from high school throughout college...especially when it's different colleges.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Good Luck :)

[usckk]

Thanks for all your help guys. I'll see what happens at school today.

[batman2883]

Man it was prom night you never go back home right after prom she probably thought her prom night wasnt ending the way she was expecting it to...either you get a hotel room or you go to the many afterpartys im sure were going on. I know a lot of girls who were depressed because they got taken straight home after prom its just not the right thing to do.........

[usckk]

Oh we did go to an afterparty. It was the ride there when she was quiet

[tlongII]

It is times like this I am glad I am not in high school any more.

[usckk]

Anyways, here's an update (sorry, but I just feel better after talking about it. Today at school, she seemed normal to me and we talked. The other guy, who is also in our class, hardly talked to her. Good sign?

We had a pizza party today. Most of us stayed and ate pizza, while some others decided to go eat in the cafeteria (the other guy chose to go to the cafeteria).

[ALVAREZ6]

pizza is good.

[Solid D]

My first thought was a former relationship between her and the guy without a date. It seems like she was deep in thought and maybe disturbed or confused after their dance/conversation. Was this the first time she had met him?

[SpursWoman]

Why do I feel that, compared to this prom date, that I must have been a hellified ho' when I was in high school when I went to mine? We went in, took the picture..danced one dance and split. Lickity.

:oops :lol

[Solid D]

Bump

[T Park]

Hittin on someone else's girl at the prom is bad form.

Boo to that prick.

[usckk]

My first thought was a former relationship between her and the guy without a date. It seems like she was deep in thought and maybe disturbed or confused after their dance/conversation. Was this the first time she had met him?

No, they have been friends. I'm actually pretty good friends with him too.

[usckk]

Hittin on someone else's girl at the prom is bad form.

Boo to that prick.

Yep, that's what I was thinkin.

[easjer]

Well, if it's just a matter of being disrespected - you don't know what happened. You don't know if he asked her out or not. And if you are not pursuing a relationship with her, you can't be disrespected.

You feel that way anyhow because you like her. But your friend there may not know that. You cannot be proprietary about a girl you are choosing not to date, you know? (and being proprietary about one you are dating doesn't come off well either in most cases, so be careful)

Maybe this is an indication that you ought to go ahead and explore a relationship anyway. Have you talked about this stuff with her? Maybe she's willing to try this. You are right that college changes people and that you will be apart, but is that really a reason not to try over the summer if you like each other?

Well, you have to answer that.

You know, my husband and I were very good friends from the first moment we met. I did NOT want to date him, for two reasons. His brothers' reputations and history with women (at this point, I didn't know how different he was), and our friendship. And then he started dating someone else. There was no reason not to, we had never considered being more than friends. I knew this girl - she was gorgeous (model, actually), fun, sweet, loving. But when he told me, I was really upset. I was pissed off, sad, and felt like I'd just lost something that was really important to me. And again, we were firmly just friends, so it didn't make any sense. But that was the first indication I had that maybe we could be more than friends. We stayed friends through that relationship, and for a couple of months and then we started dating. The rest is history.

Just sayin' . . .

[thispego]

Yeah, i'm just a little confused and ticked off. I wasn't expecting that to happen.
mistake #1

[Clandestino]

stop being a chick and overanalyzing everything!

[101A]

It's a non-issue.

You're +- 6 months from college - EVERYTHING changes.

2 weeks in, you'll forget every girl you've ever known - just enjoy the summer, you about to be an adult.

[ShoogarBear]

And then he started dating someone else . . . But when he told me, I was really upset. I was pissed off . . . The rest is history.

So how did you kill her?

[ORION]

you can't blame your friend for making moves when your not but he should of at least warned you. besides getting woman in college is like fishing in a stock pond and always remember to wear a "hat"

[Clandestino]

lesson learned: don't be a pussy... act or stfu...

[ORION]

lesson learned: don't be a pussy... act or stfu...
amen, someone doesn't become a powerhouse in bed like me by standing on the sidelines.

[ALVAREZ6]

mistake #1
That's a grreat point, you can't expect anything to happen.


It happens to me sometimes, it sucks.

[Ed Helicopter Jones]

Didn't you see Back to the Future when the red-headed guy was dancing with Marty's mom at the big dance, and Marty's hand became transparent and he couldn't play the guitar, but when Mr. McFly decided to shove the red-head to the ground and reclaim what was his that Marty was suddenly whole again and played a song for the kids that really cooked?

That's what you should have done. . .if you knew how to play the guitar.

It's highly possible that you vaporized your unborn son. Way to go.

[easjer]

So how did you kill her?


:lol

No killing. She's a perfectly lovely woman. She broke it off with J, largly because of the age difference. She's still around and they still talk. They even went for drinks before we were married. She may be beautiful, but I'm pretty secure in my man's love for me. :hat