Bachelor Party-You Make the Call

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Here's the facts of the situation. My friend's getting married on Saturday and his pals in charge of his bachelor party are leaning towards hiring strippers. Every time he's been asked the groom to be has said that he doesn't want any at his bachelor party, but the best man thinks that has more to do with his fiancee than his own wishes. She's pretty much the only girl he's ever been with so they'd like to give him at least of a glimpse of someone else before he takes the plunge. On top of that most of the guys invited to this thing are single, and they've been lobbying for the girls on the basis that these parties are really for the single guys that are getting left behind.

I don't know that I really agree with much of their logic. What do you think is the right call here: go by what the groom said, or get the strippers?

[angel_luv]

Go by what the groom said. It is his party.

[SpursWoman]

There might be other reasons he might not want strippers ... I know several guys that just aren't all that ga-ga over them. And no, they are not homosexual. :lol

It's supposed to be a night out for him, not his single buddies getting left behind. If he doesn't want them there, to have them would be pretty inconsiderate. When he's drunk and passes out, the rest of them can go hit a strip club.

And if it is because his fiance is controlling and insecure ... why would y'all want to make his life miserable by putting him in her wrath? I mean damn, he's already getting married to her.... :lol

[Melmart1]

Since WHEN is a bachelor party about the groom-to-be's single friends? I have never heard that in my life. What a crock of shit. Tell your buddies to stop being selfish- it's not about them. This is HIS night, and after it's over and he can't get a KP to go out with the guys, the single guys can still go out to see strippers and make it about them.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Well, the ladies are showing a united front. Any guys out there who want to weigh in?

[1Parker1]

I agree with SW, you don't know for sure if it's because of his fiance that he doesn't want strippers. Maybe he just wants to go out partying/clubing/drinking with all his guy friends one last time before he gets hitched.

I personally would not be interested in male strippers for MY bacherlette party. I'd rather go out clubbing/drinking with my girlfriends instead. I just don't see the hype behind strippers, personally. Maybe your male friend thinks like me also.

I'd go with what he wants, it is his party after all. And after you guys get him drunk and shit-faced and take him home...those single guys who want to go to a strip club still can :)

[SpursWoman]

Or do they just not have a good enough imagination to think up something more original than strippers? :lol

[sa_butta]

I think you should ask yourself...
Would he (the groom) have fun anyways if you did get strippers?
or would he be dissapointed because that is not what he wanted?
You dont necessarily have to get strippers just because he is getting married. It is quite possible he just wants to have a good time w/o strippers. Maybe it is just not his thing.

[travis2]

It's for him, not for everyone else.

[leemajors]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is retarded and a total waste of money.

[1Parker1]

Or do they just not have a good enough imagination to think up something more original than strippers? :lol

:lol That also.

[1Parker1]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is retarded and a total waste of money.

:tu (well male strippers that is...)

[Vizzini]

It is his party, he sets the stage for what takes place. If the rest of his single guy friends want to go and have strippers, let them go the night before, or the night after, they are after all single and "free" from having to "ask" for permission from their significant other, so they can go whenever they want. It is his night, not their night to use the dude getting married as an excuse to see some naked women. If they want to go to the strip club, let them go, but it won't be for the bachelor party and the bachelor won't be there.

[SpursWoman]

:tu (well male strippers that is...)


I got taken to an all-male review on my 19th birthday and my friends got me a lap dance. It was all I could do to hold back the laughter ... it was horrible. I haven't been to one since and I'm totally not interested. I'd rather be out looking for someone I am allowed to touch than waste my time and money on that stupid shit. If I were single, of course. :)

[tlongII]

Get the strippers. The women in this thread are wack.

[midgetonadonkey]

Forget the strippers. Get some whores.

[tlongII]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.

[SpursWoman]

Get the strippers. The women in this thread are wack.


:lol :lol


If it ever comes down to that ... I wouldn't care if User had strippers at a party like that. Well, not had strippers, but you know what I mean. I'm not totally wack. :lol

[angel_luv]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.


It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.

[angel_luv]

:lol :lol


If it ever comes down to that ... I wouldn't care if User had strippers at a party like that. Well, not had strippers, but you know what I mean. I'm not totally wack. :lol


I am. :lol

Sorry ( well actually no I'm not :angel) future honey. :)

[SpursWoman]

It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.


Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to bitch at him for the rest of their married life about how he fucked up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy. :lol

[tlongII]

It is the best man's privilege to get to plan the bachelor party. As good friend ( as one would assume the best man is), his first priority should be making the night enjoyable for the groom.

Oh, he will. Trust me, he will.

[tlongII]

Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to bitch at him for the rest of their married life about how he fucked up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy. :lol


What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

[PM5K]

Oh man, you guys are so fucking lame that I can't even bear to read this tread for another seco

[1Parker1]

I got taken to an all-male review on my 19th birthday and my friends got me a lap dance. It was all I could do to hold back the laughter ... it was horrible. I haven't been to one since and I'm totally not interested. I'd rather be out looking for someone I am allowed to touch than waste my time and money on that stupid shit. If I were single, of course. :)

Exactly!!!! I don't understand the hype. If I wanted to see naked guys...I'd buy some porn. If I wanted to hook up with some hot guy...I'd go to a club. Why would I want to share a guy giving lap dances to every chick in the room? :lol

[dougp]

BTW, the best man usually organizes the bachelor party. What goes on is his call, not the groom's.The best man is normally the grooms best friend, or a close relative. They should be able to make the call or not the groom will be comfortable given the situation. If I was getting married and my best man got strippers, I'd leave because it makes me uncomfortable ... period.

SFIE, if they do opt for strippers, go ahead and tell him before hand so that he can make alternate plans for himself and the buddies that want to be with him for his last night of "freedom."

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Single guys really don't care if the groom spends an uncomfortable evening worrying about whether his new wife is going to find out about the strippers he knows she will be upset about and have a reason to bitch at him for the rest of their married life about how he fucked up her wedding day and how she can't really trust him after all. I can see it. Easy. :lol

SW gets wins the Miss Cleo Award for today. This situation actually already came to pass this past Saturday, and I just wanted to get some outside opinions on it. The best man did in fact get some strippers (I'll state now that I had no prior knowledge) and the groom got angry and split. Which really sucked because he was my ride. When he stormed out a few of the guys went after him. I was completely confident they'd be able to get him back up there so I stuck around to give our idiot friends a piece of my mind telling them pretty much what some have already said here (i.e.-this party was supposed to be for him and instead his friends used him as an excuse for some T & A) while they used the excuses I mentioned earlier. Moments later the guys came back up and announced he had left. So I was stranded with no car and no one there who was sober enough to drive or particularly willing to leave. Me and the only other guy there with a girlfriend sat on a couch while our pals waved dollar bills at women who pretended to enjoy rubbing up against them. They were good strippers by Houston standards (ten fingers, ten toes, no C-section or bullet scars). The whole thing creeped me out and at one point I made a comment similar to Midget's, namely why spend a couple of hundred bucks for a chick to give you blue balls when you could probably spend the same money on an escort that would go all the way?

Anyways, I just wanted to get some more opinions because I wasn't sure if maybe the groom and I were overreacting or if our friends had just acted like assholes.

[dougp]

yeah don't take advice from women on how to run a bachelor party

if the groom says he doesn't want strippers -- then don't hire strippers

get him really drunk and then Take him to a strip club
Don't forget to take pictures - when he gets back from the honeymoon, email them to his shared address with his wife ... then prepare your couch!

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

and YOU had the groom be your ride?

what was he not going to drink either?

The gameplan was to drink ourselves silly and crash on the floor, our host had already made the offer. The groom was too drunk to drive when he walked out, which was why I was so confident they'd get him back to the apartment. However one of the guys that went after him was sober and offered him a ride home when he saw how pissed off the groom was, without realizing that they were leaving me high and dry.

[photoguy]

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[spurs_fan_in_exile]

it's not like the groom-to-be is really interested i hooking up with a stripper (usually)

it's tradition

i say don't waste your money hiring those floozies to come by the residence (unless they are willing to do sick shit you guys are in to) -- go to the club and feed them some dollars and if someone doesn't like it they can stay at the bar

I think my friend is wishing he had a best man like you right about now. Although I don't think his fiance would like the idea of him hanging out with a guy named El Pimpo.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

Make everyone swear to whatever it takes to get them to swear to that they won't talk about the bachelor party.

Then go get some strippers. I'm not talking private party, I'm saying go to a strip club. He's saying what he's saying because he's whipped by his woman who doesn't want him looking at another one.

Nut up and get the guy some boobs in his face, it's his last day without the ball and chain of marriage for crying out loud.

[/bachelor rant over]

And yes, I'm biased. I've been a best man twice in the last six months, and the other time I had to jump in when the best man wouldn't do strippers or a men's club because he (best man) was this uber Christian dude who thought it was wrong (even when the groom said he was down with strippers/men's club).

It's a right of passage, and if you don't come through on this as best man you don't deserve to be called one.

[SpursWoman]

Exactly!!!! I don't understand the hype. If I wanted to see naked guys...I'd buy some porn. If I wanted to hook up with some hot guy...I'd go to a club. Why would I want to share a guy giving lap dances to every chick in the room? :lol


Especially when you watch them all night kissing and hanging all over the nastiest (and I mean disgusting-nasty, not good-nasty) women in the room because they have to pay for attention. Even if he weren't a homosexual, gross. :vomit: :lol

[TheRage]

On top of that most of the guys invited to this thing are single, and they've been lobbying for the girls on the basis that these parties are really for the single guys that are getting left behind.

I don't know that I really agree with much of their logic. What do you think is the right call here: go by what the groom said, or get the strippers?


I am having a Bachelor Party Weekend for my shizzel!!!!! the closer i get to the bachelor weekend the less i care about strippers. i can have strippers, hookers, hoes if i want but all i really want is to get tore up from the floor up and be with my Boyz for one more weekend of being single. Since i cannot hook up, though, i would really like my homies to hook up and/or have a good time.
i would go to a strip club that night but not have strippers go over. it is a waste of money and too much of a temptation for your boy.

on a different subject..... Any of you all heard of that show Stag Party... when they give fantasy bachelor parties and see if the guy goes buckwild and looses control...

[PM5K]

yeah don't take advice from women on how to run a bachelor party



someone ran out of his own bachelor party in a hissy fit because there Were strippers there? :lol :lol


You couldn't be more right....

Was he crying when he ran out?

[Taco]

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[Spursy]

strippers are wack, i am probably in the minority thinking that but i think going to strip clubs is retarded and a total waste of money.

You're not in the minority. I think strippers are gross. Giving my hard earned money to some strange likely disease infested nasty who's jiggling her used up goodies in my face is not my idea of a good time. I know a few guys who go to strip clubs on a regular basis. I don't get it.

[TheRage]

Thanx Taco.. i changed my mind... WHAT was i thinking... that gif makes me realize that i need to get laid that night!!!

[SpursWoman]

You couldn't be more right....


Right. Because the women were the only ones saying it's probably not a good idea if he says he doesn't want them there. And he didn't, but they did anyway. He did not have a good time and he left.

Yeah, y'all really know how to show someone a good time ... what a great fucking send-off. :tu But at least the rest of them had fun! :shootme


And...I wouldn't have wasted money on strippers, I'd have gotten hookers. Teasing is for pussies, so bite me. :spin

[TheSanityAnnex]

your friend is gay. end of story.

[PM5K]

Right. Because the women were the only ones saying it's probably not a good idea if he says he doesn't want them there. And he didn't, but they did anyway. He did not have a good time and he left.

Yeah, y'all really know how to show someone a good time ... what a great fucking send-off. :tu But at least the rest of them had fun! :shootme


And ... I wouldn't have wasted money on strippers. I'd have gotten hookers. Teasing is for pussies, so bite me. :spin

It's not about any of that, you just don't ask a woman how to run a batchelor party....

[PM5K]

your friend is gay. end of story.

If he ever has another bachelor party I say you take him to a screening of Broke Back Mountain....

[SpursWoman]

It's not about any of that, you just don't ask a woman how to run a batchelor party....

Why not? I have an excellent imagination, as long as it's not my intended. For that I'd probably arrange a bridge party or something. :angel :lol

[TDMVPDPOY]

have a bachelors party at mcdonalds, the good old times when ur a kid, happy meal, ice cream cake.....ronald mcdonald up ur ass.

[Gatita]

Get him what he wants. Period.

[TheLie]

donkey show

[Carie]

I haven't read any of the replies, but my gut feeling was that it was probably pretty hard for him to say that to y'all, knowing the hell he was going to receive. To me, that indicates that he's serious about it, for whatever the reason. IF it's his fiance, he's going to have to live with the backlash, not you. So for y'all to make a decision that could greatly affect him doesn't seem cool.

[SpursWoman]

I haven't read any of the replies, but my gut feeling was that it was probably pretty hard for him to say that to y'all, knowing the hell he was going to receive. To me, that indicates that he's serious about it, for whatever the reason. IF it's his fiance, he's going to have to live with the backlash, not you. So for y'all to make a decision that could greatly affect him doesn't seem cool.

You should read the replies ... they did end up getting the strippers. :spin

[Carie]

You should read the replies ... they did end up getting the strippers. :spin
Yeah, just saw that. Ah well.

[Nbadan]

What's not to like about strippers? The guy should have taken one for the team and at least pretended to have a good time. Instead he threw a hissy fit and ruined his own party. Someone should have hired one of those party buses to take you to different clubs so they could get the groom liquored up before taking him to see strippers, and no way should the groom had been driving after his own bachelor party.

[Kori Ellis]

The guy should have taken one for the team and at least pretended to have a good time.

:lmao I don't get why the groom would have to pretend to have a good time just for the sake of his buddies who don't see enough tits in their lives.

[SpursWoman]

Or, since the party was supposed to be for him ... find something that he likes to do? Maybe? He already had said he didn't want that ... how about the rest of them taking one for the team and make sure he has a really good time...not just a pretend one? God forbid.

[Nbadan]

:lmao I don't get why the groom would have to pretend to have a good time just for the sake of his buddies who don't see enough tits in their lives.

It's a right of passage thing women wouldn't ever understand. The only reason men that aren't totally creepy hire strippers is for bachelor parties. He denied his posse the right to have a good time at his expense.

[Nbadan]

Or, since the party was supposed to be for him ... find something that he likes to do? Maybe? He already had said he didn't want that ... how about the rest of them taking one for the team and make sure he has a really good time...not just a pretend one? God forbid.

Who would show at a bachelor party with milk and cookies?

[dougp]

Who would show at a bachelor party with milk and cookies?
true friends - others like you should just go off and have a giant Spartan-style orgy after gourging yourselves on women you can't have at stripclubs ...

[SpursWoman]

Who would show at a bachelor party with milk and cookies?


So the only reason his friends would show up is because of the strippers? Damn, y'all must be shitty friends. :lol

[Carie]

So the only reason his friends would show up is because of the strippers? Damn, y'all must be shitty friends. :lol
Exactly!

[travis2]

Coming to the conclusion that some of the people in this thread don't actually HAVE friends.

Not surprised, really...

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

I spent most of the night trying not to laugh at the poor girls because two days before this I watched the episode of Family Guy where Peter becomes the president of a cigarette company. So the entire time two things kept running through my head:

"It's OK, senator, this girl didn't have a family and there's no one that's going to come looking for her. Now I don't know how she died. It may have been when you hit her in the head with a stool, it may have been when you forced all of those dollar bills down her throat-I'm not a doctor."

and

"We saw some pretty funny stuff tonight, but I'll tell you what's not funny: killing strippers. Strippers are people too. People who will take their clothes off for money and possibly pleasure you behind a curtain in a VIP room for a price you negotiate later. And besides, there's no need to kill them because most are already dead inside."

[ChumpDumper]

This guy is totally going to cheat on his wife within three years.

[Nbadan]

This guy is totally going to cheat on his wife within three years.

If she doesn't cheat on him first.

[tlongII]

I'm sorry, but this guy is a pussy! I've only been to one bachelor party that didn't have naked women, and that's only because it was at a golf resort in central Oregon. I've never heard of someone throwing a hissy fit because there were strippers around! :LOL

[Nbadan]

So the only reason his friends would show up is because of the strippers? Damn, y'all must be shitty friends. :lol

Hey, at least he didn't get Kelly and his donkey. The guy should have manned up.

[SpursWoman]

I've never heard of someone throwing a hissy fit because there were strippers around! :LOL


I was actually surprised to hear that he got that upset about it, even though he said he didn't want them there.

I guess "no" really means "no", huh? :lol :lol

[Nbadan]

Coming to the conclusion that some of the people in this thread don't actually HAVE friends.

Not surprised, really...

If this guy is this pussy-whipped before he's even married can you imagine how short the ball-and-chain is going to be after a couple of years? His wife won't respect him.

[Nbadan]

I was actually surprised to hear that he got that upset about it, even though he said he didn't want them there.

I guess "no" really means "no", huh? :lol :lol

Not at Duke.

:hat

[SpursWoman]

Not at Duke.

:hat


Ouch. :lol

[Mixability]

This guy is totally going to cheat on his wife within three years.

yup

[ChumpDumper]

If she doesn't cheat on him first.Odds are she already did at the bachelorette party

[CubanMustGo]

never mind

[Fillmoe]

getting the strippers is always the right call..... why is there even a debate?

[Gatita]

If you feel like showing your future wife that you love her, you gotta get some strippers at your bachelor party. Having your face rubbed into a pair of unknown titties and your d*ck grinded on screams "love". :)

[Nbadan]

This guy is marrying the first piece of tail he's ever gotten and hates strippers, it does sound a little latent doesn't it?

[SpursWoman]

If you feel like showing your future wife that you love her, you gotta get some strippers at your bachelor party. Having your face rubbed into a pair of unknown titties and your d*ck grinded on screams "love". :)


What makes it even more special is when that same crotch that's grinding on that dick was grinding on this homeless, toothless, foul bastard that just happened to find a $10 in the dumpster around back right before she got there. :makeout :makeout

[Nbadan]

What makes it even more special is when that same crotch that's grinding on that dick was grinding on this homeless, toothless, foul bastard that just happened to find a $10 in the dumpster around back right before she got there. :makeout :makeout


See, that's the difference between men and women. To a man, real love is a woman who is secure enough to go to a strip club with her man and see strange titties rubbed on his face and his crotch grinded.

:hat

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

You should have just gotten him a vail and went clubbing, like the women do. Sounds like he would have enjoyed it...

[SpursWoman]

You should have just gotten him a vail and went clubbing, like the women do. Sounds like he would have enjoyed it...



Hey! He could have gotten his own dollars pinned to it! :lmao :lmao

[Nbadan]

From the sounds of it, the condoms pinned on the vail would have been appropriate too.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Hmmm, wearing a T-shirt that says, "I'm too much of a pussy to stand up to my fiance, so this is my gay ass Bachelor party. Life Savers, $1 per bite."

[easjer]

Clearly, if a guy doesn't want strippers at his bachelor party, he's gay. Couldn't be that he loves his fiance and wants to honor his wishes. Couldn't even be that he doesn't like strippers, that he thinks it's skanky or low, or isn't aroused by bored women taking off their clothes and pretending to be interested while they grind on him.

Nope, clearly, he's gay.

[easjer]

Or maybe he just wanted to spend time with his friends. Nah, that's too girly, isn't it? Why spend time with people you don't get to see as frequently now that everyone has jobs to keep them busy when you can watch bored women remove their clothing without being able to participate in any way?

Yeah, I totally see why this is something women don't get.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I agree, Easjer.

[Nbadan]

Well, he was driving another guy home after his own bachelor party.

:hat

[SpursWoman]

Yeah, I totally see why this is something women don't get.

I admit I don't get it. I really don't understand paying money for someone to torture and tease me, and then have to go home and take care of business myself. I'd rather be with someone who tortures and teases me ... and then finishes what he started. But then I have that ... and I don't have to pay for it. Maybe that's the difference? :lol

That doesn't mean I'm one of those jealous women who gets their panties in a wad over it, I don't, it just seems like such a waste when the odds are fairly certain that there are no happy endings for you no matter how many rolls of nickles you shove down her thong. :lol

[angel_luv]

:lol Easjer

Well said.

[easjer]

He was driving *my husband* home because I had the car and I was going out. And it was supposed to be the next day. Turns out we should have just stayed home together.

I am just sorry for the groom in this situation, because over-reaction or not, all he got was a clear sign that his 'friends' think their fun and wishes are more important than his at the party given in his honor. Which, nice. I'm not a huge fan of his fiance either (and guess whose job it is to entertain her when we go out?), but to blantantly disregard his wishes (and I reiterate HIS wishes) because you don't like his fiance or think she's calling the shots? How passive aggressive and rude.

[Nbadan]

Or maybe he just wanted to spend time with his friends. Nah, that's too girly, isn't it? Why spend time with people you don't get to see as frequently now that everyone has jobs to keep them busy when you can watch bored women remove their clothing without being able to participate in any way?

Yeah, I totally see why this is something women don't get.

Then he shouldn't have had a bachelor party, he should have had a old fashioned SA cook-out. Nah, this guy wanted more than just a get together with the boys. The term 'bachelor party' automatically triggers a reaction in men that implies there will be at least some debachery.

[easjer]

Then he shouldn't have had a bachelor party, he should have had a old fashioned SA cook-out. Nah, this guy wanted more than just a get together with the boys. The term 'bachelor party' automatically triggers a reaction in men that implies there will be at least some debachery.

I couldn't disagree more. He was asked if he wanted a bachelor party, and he said yeah, he did, just getting his friends together and hanging out with them. He stipulated that he did not want strippers. He's the guest of honor. How hard is it to respect his wishes?

Another thing here - let's say that the organizers here truly thought he did want strippers and was just trying to be nice in front of his fiance, ok? So they get them. When he got angry and tried to leave, don't you think, as his friends, you would feel bad and maybe apologize, or say, send the strippers home, so that your friend (who you are supposed to be getting together to honor) stays at the party?

Well, they didn't do that. They let him leave and then partied with the strippers. That's a pretty clear indication of how important their friend was in the consideration of this party. They were just horny sob's and their friend's comfort/wishes were secondary to paying women to undress. Some friends.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Then he shouldn't have had a bachelor party, he should have had a old fashioned SA cook-out. Nah, this guy wanted more than just a get together with the boys. The term 'bachelor party' automatically triggers a reaction in men that implies there will be at least some debachery.

You're right, Dan. He wanted it so badly that he left and went home. Just like women who say "No" really want it so bad that they call it "rape." Fucking brilliant.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Sounds like there is more to the story IMO.

Rude is not a term used amongst guys who are friends. It doesn't exist.

[Nbadan]

You're right, Dan. He wanted it so badly that he left and went home. Just like women who say "No" really want it so bad that they call it "rape." Fucking brilliant.

All I'm saying is he should have considered his audience. I wonder how many of those 'friends' would have been there had they known that the groom stipulated a no-women clause and was the designated driver. Not many I bet.

[Melmart1]

All I'm saying is should consider his audience. I wonder how many of those 'friends' would have been there had they known that the groom stipulated a no-women clause and was the designated driver. Not many I bet.
So you are saying men won't show up to a friend's bachelor party unless there is debauchery? With friends like that....

[Nbadan]

No, what I'm saying is that without debauchery it's not a bachelor party, it's a mourning.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

So you are saying men won't show up to a friend's bachelor party unless there is debauchery? With friends like that....

You're assuming that everyone at the party knows the bachelor. Rarely the case...

Some go for their friend, some to gamble, some to see T&A and some just to say that they were there.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

All I'm saying is he should have considered his audience. I wonder how many of those 'friends' would have been there had they known that the groom stipulated a no-women clause and was the designated driver. Not many I bet.

Now take that logic one step further. If you suddenly realized that these "friends" were just using you as an excuse to get some strippers so they don't feel like losers for going to a strip club, would you want to stick around?

And the groom wasn't the designated driver. He and I were planning on crashing at the host's apartment.

[Nbadan]

Now take that logic one step further. If you suddenly realized that these "friends" were just using you as an excuse to get some strippers so they don't feel like losers for going to a strip club, would you want to stick around?

And the groom wasn't the designated driver. He and I were planning on crashing at the host's apartment.


Your not much of a wing-man are you? Of course you stick around.

[tlongII]

This guy has got to be a total loser. Only a loser would throw a hissy fit about being in the presence of strippers and only a loser would have friends that disrepect him so much that they abandon him to be with said strippers.

[Melmart1]

You're assuming that everyone at the party knows the bachelor. Rarely the case...

Some go for their friend, some to gamble, some to see T&A and some just to say that they were there.
If guys who don't know the bachelor don't show up unless there are strippers, who cares?

If you DID know the bachelor and knew his wishes, would you purposely go against them? I don't see you as the type who needs fake sweaty tits in his face to have a good time.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

If guys who don't know the bachelor don't show up unless there are strippers, who cares?

If you DID know the bachelor and knew his wishes, would you purposely go against them? I don't see you as the type who needs fake sweaty tits in his face to have a good time.

No, I wouldn't. I also wouldn't plan a sword fight in some guy's apartment as the "Big" night...

And if I was the groom, I wouldn't run away, either.

[SpursWoman]

No, what I'm saying is that without debauchery it's not a bachelor party, it's a mourning.


I think you've seen too many movies. :lol

[j-6]

Get the strippers. He told you when he was sober that he didn't want them and I'm pretty sure the fiancee's influence is showing. Now, what kind of hetero man doesn't wanna see titties on his last night of bachelorhood, especially with copious amounts of liquor involved? Unless this is some lame event orchestrated by the fiancee (who'll probably be at the local banana-hammock bar throwing around penis-shaped lollipops), you and your fellow groomsmen owe him titties, and you will all fail if this timeless ritual isn't executed in a proper fashion. Do you really want to be the guy who doesn't take your friend out for a little rub 'n grind because of some lame excuse facilitated by his future wife? Man, all of you are getting p-whipped by a woman that only one of you is ever going to sleep with. (unless she's a whore, but if that was so she wouldn't object to a trip to the men's club)

Remember, if he's just looking for a night out to get drunk with all of his male friends in a PG-13 fashion, he can do that some other time. This is his last night without a kitchen pass. Don't treat it like he needs one.

He'll thank you for this one day. Trust me.

[Nbadan]

I think you've seen too many movies. :lol

Well I did watch Clerks 2 last night. So you may be right.

:lol

[Gatita]

For those holding on to the idea of strippers @ a bachelor party is the must have or it will become a life or death situation if they are not present.....

I am starting to think some of you have never seen a naked woman, gotten laid, nor have a girlfriend/wife....

If that is the case, I can see your point. :)

[ChumpDumper]

It's all good.

He'll end up getting strippers for the bachelor party before his second wedding.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

I think you've seen too many movies. :lol

Indeed. This made the fourth bachelor party I've been to (including my own), and it's the only one that strippers were present at, it's the only one where a best man blew off a groom's request, and it's the only one where everybody didn't have a good time. Strippers are fine at bachelor's parties if they are wanted, but they are hardly any kind of prerequisite.

[ShoogarBear]

LMAO, I've only read the first four or five posts, but I can already see where this is going.

Okay, now let's see if any of the wimmen prove me wrong . . .

[ShoogarBear]

I personally would not be interested in male strippers for MY bacherlette party. But I've been doing all these situps . . . :depressed

[Kori Ellis]

Get the strippers. He told you when he was sober that he didn't want them and I'm pretty sure the fiancee's influence is showing. Now, what kind of hetero man doesn't wanna see titties on his last night of bachelorhood, especially with copious amounts of liquor involved? Unless this is some lame event orchestrated by the fiancee (who'll probably be at the local banana-hammock bar throwing around penis-shaped lollipops), you and your fellow groomsmen owe him titties, and you will all fail if this timeless ritual isn't executed in a proper fashion. Do you really want to be the guy who doesn't take your friend out for a little rub 'n grind because of some lame excuse facilitated by his future wife? Man, all of you are getting p-whipped by a woman that only one of you is ever going to sleep with. (unless she's a whore, but if that was so she wouldn't object to a trip to the men's club)

Remember, if he's just looking for a night out to get drunk with all of his male friends in a PG-13 fashion, he can do that some other time. This is his last night without a kitchen pass. Don't treat it like he needs one.

He'll thank you for this one day. Trust me.

Did you read the thread? The guy walked out of his party pissed off because they got strippers. Guess you were wrong.

[ShoogarBear]

Towards the end of page one, the men make their comeback.

[Nbadan]

For those holding on to the idea of strippers @ a bachelor party is the must have or it will become a life or death situation if they are not present.....

I am starting to think some of you have never seen a naked woman, gotten laid, nor have a girlfriend/wife....

If that is the case, I can see your point. :)

For some guys its not about getting 'some pu***' it's about getting 'different pu***'. It's the reason guys like Hugh Grant go to women like Devine Brown instead of Elizabeth Hurley. Women need to learn that they need to keep it freaky or men will get their trills somewhere else.

[Carie]

This guy is totally going to cheat on his wife within three years.
Why do you say that? It seems to me that IF it were her request to not have strippers, he did everything he could to keep to that.

Am I just being a total trusting girl here and not getting it?

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Get the strippers. He told you when he was sober that he didn't want them and I'm pretty sure the fiancee's influence is showing. Now, what kind of hetero man doesn't wanna see titties on his last night of bachelorhood, especially with copious amounts of liquor involved? Unless this is some lame event orchestrated by the fiancee (who'll probably be at the local banana-hammock bar throwing around penis-shaped lollipops), you and your fellow groomsmen owe him titties, and you will all fail if this timeless ritual isn't executed in a proper fashion. Do you really want to be the guy who doesn't take your friend out for a little rub 'n grind because of some lame excuse facilitated by his future wife? Man, all of you are getting p-whipped by a woman that only one of you is ever going to sleep with. (unless she's a whore, but if that was so she wouldn't object to a trip to the men's club)

Remember, if he's just looking for a night out to get drunk with all of his male friends in a PG-13 fashion, he can do that some other time. This is his last night without a kitchen pass. Don't treat it like he needs one.

He'll thank you for this one day. Trust me.

I'm going to assume you didn't read the entire thread and see that the party has already happened, the strippers were hired, and that the groom isn't going to be thanking anyone for this any time soon.

[easjer]

For some guys its not about getting 'some pu***' it's about getting 'different pu***'. It's the reason guys like Hugh Grant go to women like Devine Brown instead of Elizabeth Hurley. Women need to learn that they need to keep it freaky or men will get their trills somewhere else.


No wonder the divorce rate is so high.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.

[j-6]

Did you read the thread? The guy walked out of his party pissed off because they got strippers. Guess you were wrong.

The first post was at 10:30-something this morning followed by a bunch of clitty-litter. I didn't know the event occurred already. Apologies.

[ChumpDumper]

Why do you say that? It seems to me that IF it were her request to not have strippers, he did everything he could to keep to that.

Am I just being a total trusting girl here and not getting it?I'd say you are being a slightly gullible girl for taking me seriously.

Strippers are only a menace if they are allowed to become one. This guy overreacted. I'd much rather sit through and not participate in a stripper show or hang out somewhere out of the room than drive drunk and angry.

[ChumpDumper]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.That would be a great thing to tell his friends, wouldn't it?

[tlongII]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.

:loser

[Carie]

I'd say you are being a slightly gullible girl for taking me seriously.

Strippers are only a menace if they are allowed to become one. This guy overreacted. I'd much rather sit through and not participate in a stripper show or hang out somewhere out of the room than drive drunk and angry.
:lol

I think that if I were in that situation I probabably would have just stayed and not participated myself, and ask that they be gone with enough time left to just spend time with all of my friends.

Well, that's not taking into account what SFIE just posted. If I felt that strongly about it for that reason I would have left. I do think that it would have helped matters had he told them that to begin with. However, party in his honor, they should have respected his wishes without having to know the reasons behind them.

[Nbadan]

However, party in his honor, they should have respected his wishes without having to know the reasons behind them.

See, that's a chick thing. Guys need a reason.

[easjer]

See, that's a chick thing. Guys need a reason.


Friends shouldn't need a reason, guy or girl. Cause, see, real friends are respectful of their friend's wishes.

[j-6]

I'm having a hard time believing that some guy at a gentlemen's club wouldn't go play video poker, or Golden Tee Golf, or watch some bigscreen sports at his bachelor party with all of his closest friends present because some acquaintance from his hometown "got mixed up in stripping".

Poor f'ing guy.

[Nbadan]

Friends shouldn't need a reason, guy or girl. Cause, see, real friends are respectful of their friend's wishes.

...and then they go off and color each other's metrosexual hair. Guys need reasons.

[tlongII]

Friends shouldn't need a reason, guy or girl. Cause, see, real friends are respectful of their friend's wishes.

Apparently the dude doesn't have any friends then. :loser

[baseline bum]

A bachelor party without strippers is like a bowling ball without a liquid center.

[exstatic]

I agree. No strippers.


















Hookers are a better value.

[CuckingFunt]

Storming out may have been a bit on the hissy fit side of things, but I don't blame him. A party thrown for you should be for you, and it's a crappy feeling when you realize your friends are selfish pricks looking to have their own fun.

Reminds me of my birthday party a few years ago -- group of friends took me out to a restaurant and had the wait staff sing to me even though I've been very clear on HATING that particular tradition with a passion. I threw my own hissy fit that night and walked out mid-song.

[TheSanityAnnex]

strippers =/= cheesy birthday song

[CuckingFunt]

strippers =/= cheesy birthday song
Well, obviously. Though I'd argue they're equally cheesy.

But they're both a case of having your wishes ignored on a night that's supposed to be about you.

Selfish prick friends = selfish prick friends.

[SpursWoman]

You know, maybe y'all are on to something about the whole tradition thing. My ex-husband never had an official bachelor party complete with strippers...and I didn't in a major drunken stupor clubbing with my girlfriends go nail some strange in some parking lot...maybe that's why our marriage didn't work out.

I'll have to remember that if there's ever a next time. :lol

[slayermin]

Sounds like the groom wanted a night out at Dave and Busters.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

I couldn't disagree more. He was asked if he wanted a bachelor party, and he said yeah, he did, just getting his friends together and hanging out with them. He stipulated that he did not want strippers. He's the guest of honor. How hard is it to respect his wishes?

That's not it at all.

My buddy whose bachelor party I had to rescue due to his lame ass best man told us he didn't want strippers or a strip club.

We went anyway, and he had the time of his life. A couple of weeks later his wife went out of town to visit her folks and he dragged me to the same strip club to repay the favor.

It wasn't that he didn't want to go, it's that his wife was expecting him to. So he told anyone that would listen he didn't want to go, but said he wouldn't kill me if I dragged him to a strip club.

It's not that a guy doesn't want to, it's about plausible deniability.

Or in the case of the OP, this guy was probably just a pussy. He's one of those types that probably married the first chick to suck his dick, and he's destined to live a miserable life.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.


You know why he didn't tell his friends about this? I am thinking because it is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Unless, of course, that guy from his hometown is him. That, I could see.

[CuckingFunt]

You know why he didn't tell his friends about this? I am thinking because it is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.

Unless, of course, that guy from his hometown is him. That, I could see.
Guy from his hometown? I assumed the person in question was a woman that got involved in stripping.

If he knew someone that was somehow hurt, or otherwise negatively affected, by that lifestyle, then I could see how it would make him legitimately uncomfortable.

[ShoogarBear]

I've been to both types of bachelors' parties. In both cases, the type of party fit the personality of the groom and othr people involved.

I don't think that you're a pussy if you don't want the stripper route, but in the case presented here I think both parties share blame:
-the best man obviously didn't know the groom's real wishes that well
-the groom obviously did a really shitty job in choosing his best man, which I find very curious.

[ChumpDumper]

The girl in his story was probably his long lost sister and his friends inadvertantly hired her for the bachelor party. This is the only way any of this crap makes sense.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I assumed maybe one of his friends got caught up with a stripper, starting doing blow off her ass, robbed a liquor store to support his/ker habit, etc.

But why not tell them(his friends)? These guys sound like real good friends, about as close as me and Vince Vaughn.

[leemajors]

if dude says absolutely no strips, respect his wish. if you think he's doing it out of courtesy to his future wife, get him drunk then see if he wants to go to the strip club. if dude still says no, you have to admire him sticking to his guns.

[jcrod]

I've been to both types of bachelors' parties. In both cases, the type of party fit the personality of the groom and othr people involved.

I don't think that you're a pussy if you don't want the stripper route, but in the case presented here I think both parties share blame:
-the best man obviously didn't know the groom's real wishes that well
-the groom obviously did a really shitty job in choosing his best man, which I find very curious.


Agree. The right of passage is a fucking stupid logic.

[J.T.]

This all went wrong when whoever decided the groom should plan his own fucking bachelor party. The BM should know their pal well enough to show them a good time, and if they don't, then you picked the wrong BM.

When I get married I don't want to know anything about my bachelor party beforehand other than that my friends will be there, there will be alcohol, and some crazy/cool shit goes down that I remember forever.

This dude walked out on naked women on one of his last days of freedom. Can we get a vbookie for how long until the divorce is settled? And will she get to take half of his dick with her when they split?

[travis2]

That's not it at all.

My buddy whose bachelor party I had to rescue due to his lame ass best man told us he didn't want strippers or a strip club.

We went anyway, and he had the time of his life. A couple of weeks later his wife went out of town to visit her folks and he dragged me to the same strip club to repay the favor.

It wasn't that he didn't want to go, it's that his wife was expecting him to. So he told anyone that would listen he didn't want to go, but said he wouldn't kill me if I dragged him to a strip club.

It's not that a guy doesn't want to, it's about plausible deniability.

Or in the case of the OP, this guy was probably just a pussy. He's one of those types that probably married the first chick to suck his dick, and he's destined to live a miserable life.

No, maybe it's because you and Dan and j-6 and tlong and everyone else who think like you are just a bunch of pricks who have to pay for it because no woman will be seen with you.

Bunch of fucking assholes. But knowing the posting habits of some around here, it doesn't surprise me in the least. :rolleyes

[travis2]

I admit I don't get it. I really don't understand paying money for someone to torture and tease me, and then have to go home and take care of business myself. I'd rather be with someone who tortures and teases me ... and then finishes what he started. But then I have that ... and I don't have to pay for it. Maybe that's the difference? :lol


:lmao

She shoots...she scores...

[travis2]

Not at Duke.

:hat

Still posting old lies, Dan?

Some people never learn...:rolleyes

[leemajors]

This all went wrong when whoever decided the groom should plan his own fucking bachelor party. The BM should know their pal well enough to show them a good time, and if they don't, then you picked the wrong BM.

When I get married I don't want to know anything about my bachelor party beforehand other than that my friends will be there, there will be alcohol, and some crazy/cool shit goes down that I remember forever.

This dude walked out on naked women on one of his last days of freedom. Can we get a vbookie for how long until the divorce is settled? And will she get to take half of his dick with her when they split?

bulletproof logic. dude asks for no strippers, then gets pissed when they are there and walks out. this means he will get divorced soon. :drunk

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

No, maybe it's because you and Dan and j-6 and tlong and everyone else who think like you are just a bunch of pricks who have to pay for it because no woman will be seen with you.

Actually I'm dating a girl (took her to the wedding). She knew we were planning it, and her only comment was no taking a dancer home. Fair enough, but then again she's gone out to a strip club with me before.


Actually lee hit it right...


if you think he's doing it out of courtesy to his future wife, get him drunk then see if he wants to go to the strip club. if dude still says no, you have to admire him sticking to his guns.

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

[ObiwanGinobili]

I must say there are alot of posts in here from folks pretty much admitting that they are shitty friends and assuming that every man on earth should think the same way or submit to the asshole's reasoning if situation presents itself.

And I'm not shocked.

[KEDA]

A bachelor party without strippers is like a bowling ball without a liquid center.


Bowling Balls dont have liquid centers!

and if he said no strippers, then dont have strippers.

I have been to my share of "gentlemens clubs" and Im not too impressed. There are some good looking ladies at these places, dont get me wrong, but its not worth the torture.

Respect the grooms wishes and dont do it.

When I get married, I want to just go to every bar in town and drink for free all night. Or just chill with my friends one last time as a single guy!

[SpursWoman]

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

Re-read it. He was drunk and pissed.

[travis2]

Get him drunk, if he still says no boobs, fine. Where this whole event went wrong for the OP is that the groom still had his car keys at that point and wasn't piss drunk.

No, where it went wrong is the BM decided to ignore the STATED WISHES of the groom-to-be.

The party is about the groom-to-be, not the partygoers. How difficult is that to grasp?

[SpursWoman]

Of course, another thing I don't get ... if having some strange skank that you had to pay to rub their tit's in your face is such a priority, what the hell would you be doing getting married anyway? If anything sounds like a recipe for a disastrous marriage, it'd be that.

[j-6]

No, maybe it's because you and Dan and j-6 and tlong and everyone else who think like you are just a bunch of pricks who have to pay for it because no woman will be seen with you.

Bunch of fucking assholes. But knowing the posting habits of some around here, it doesn't surprise me in the least. :rolleyes

I'd rather be a fucking asshole getting my buddy lapdances at the strip club on his last single night on Earth than sipping chocolate milkshakes at EZ's with a bunch of pissed-off groomsmen secretly plotting later to go without him.

Side with the womenfolk and the caring, sensitive types, Travis. With a statement like yours, you belong over there. We pricks know we're right on this one.

[travis2]

I'd rather be a fucking asshole getting my buddy lapdances at the strip club on his last single night on Earth than sipping chocolate milkshakes at EZ's with a bunch of pissed-off groomsmen secretly plotting later to go without him.

Side with the womenfolk and the caring, sensitive types, Travis. With a statement like yours, you belong over there. We pricks know we're right on this one.

I already have sided with them, asswipe. You need to learn to read, too. And you're still wrong.

[SpursWoman]

I'd rather be a fucking asshole getting my buddy lapdances at the strip club on his last single night on Earth

Maybe some guys are actually happy it's their last single night on Earth, because they think being single and having to pay for it, in reality, sucks.

[j-6]

Maybe some guys are actually happy it's their last single night on Earth, because they think being single and having to pay for it, in reality, sucks.

For starters, I'll admit my bias on the matter - I've never been to a bachelor party that didn't involve strippers. Sue me.

Whether they're happy or not, considering the marriage is imminent, is irrelevant. I don't expect any of the women (or the men siding with them spewing out insults) here to understand that a bachelor party is just as much about the groom making sure the groomsmen a good time as it is the groomsmen showing the groom a good time. The groom did invite everyone, after all, and should know what the mob is going to want. They had to sit thriugh tuxedo rentals, a rehearsal dinner, bridesmaid pairings, et al. After that, it's time to party!

Usually when you get a bunch of guys together that either don't know each other very well or haven't seen each other for a while, a strip club is both an equalizer and an icebreaker. Not to mention a longtime tradition.

[travis2]

Excuse me...but the best man throws the party for the groom...not the other way around.

And I don't care about whether there are strippers or not...what is so fucking hard for you to understand?

It's all about what the groom wants. If he wants strippers, fine. If he doesn't...then don't have them.

[j-6]

"STATED WISHES" are for men that wear capri pants. Strippers and hundred proof liquor are for those of us that pee standing up.

[midgetonadonkey]

donkey show

:tu

[JoeChalupa]

I didn't even have a bachelor party. Didn't see the need.

[travis2]

"STATED WISHES" are for men that wear capri pants. Strippers and hundred proof liquor are for those of us that pee standing up.

STATED WISHES are for human beings. I don't need hundred-proof liquor and strippers to have a good time. Obviously you do. But then I'm not surprised.

And I pee standing up and don't wear capri pants. REAL men are good friends and give respect.

[travis2]

I didn't even have a bachelor party. Didn't see the need.


Oh my, you must be about to get a divorce! :rolleyes

[midgetonadonkey]

Seriously, if my bachelor party does not consist of hookers going down on each other and using different toys then I will be extremely disappointed.

[SpursWoman]

REAL men are good friends and give respect.


No, real men are alcoholics and have to pay for attention. :lol

[midgetonadonkey]

No, real men are alcoholics and have to pay for attention. :lol

You hit the nail on the head.

[travis2]

Seriously, if my bachelor party does not consist of hookers going down on each other and using different toys then I will be extremely disappointed.

If that's what you want, then fine...

[travis2]

No, real men are alcoholics and have to pay for attention. :lol

Soooooooooo....are you saying that User isn't a real man? :angel

[SpursWoman]

Soooooooooo....are you saying that User isn't a real man? :angel


If he feels that real men need strippers and 100 proof liquor at a bachelor party, that's fine ... but it also needs to be understood that real women need lots of umbrella drinks and someone to dance with at hers. No woman at a club gets hit on more than some drunk bitch with one of those stupid veils on, who just got finished with her own mini-strip show on the bar. :lol

[tlongII]

No, where it went wrong is the BM decided to ignore the STATED WISHES of the groom-to-be.

The party is about the groom-to-be, not the partygoers. How difficult is that to grasp?

I'm glad I didn't go to your bachelor party. Booooooring.

[travis2]

I'm glad you didn't too...:lol

[midgetonadonkey]

REAL men are good friends and give respect.

Gayest post ever.

[Gatita]

If my fiance wants a stripper for his bachelor party, I will be more than happy to give him a private show. :eyebrows


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[DarkReign]

I usually never participate in this sort of thread. Gets too...wierd.

But I am recently engaged and am going thru the same fucking argument right now.

First, I dont have any friends. None, nada, zero, zilch. Not a one. Nope, dont think for a moment there is even a singular person I could ask to be my best man. I have a very large family.

I have 2 brothers, so I asked one of them based on a competition (drinking contest, middle brother won, I am the youngest).

Of course, my bachelor brother wants to get me strippers (didnt matter which one I asked). I am the youngest so really, they dont give a shit what I want or dont. Women have a hard time understanding that about men. It doesnt matter what you want, its what they want. You relinquish control of yourself to the best man for one night. It is tradition, make no mistake.

But above all else, and this is the sticky part...your Father-in-law is going to be there.

I have been to a bachelor party with my father-to-be before. He was a great sport about it, truly he was. But my brothers can get waaaaaaay out of hand. Thats the only part that scares me.

Of course, my fiance' doesnt want me to have strippers in the worst way. Personally, I seriously dont care one way or other honestly.

Either way, I come off looking p-whipped or pissing off my fiance'. Its this kind of situation that always encouraged destination weddings.

[JoeChalupa]

Oh my, you must be about to get a divorce! :rolleyes

Nope. Never been happier in my life.
Not knocking bachelor parties, I just didn't want one.

[Kori Ellis]

I know a lot of guys in this thread think that it's the friends of the groom's right to get strippers, that the groom really wants it, blahblahblah. But the bottomline is that the person that the groom has to live with the rest of his life isn't his brothers or friends, it's his wife.

So if the bride-to-be really feels strongly about it, then if the groom really loves her and respects her, he automatically doesn't even consider it. If the groom himself feels really strongly about wanting strippers, then he probably shouldn't be getting married.

[JoeChalupa]

Maybe some guys are actually happy it's their last single night on Earth, because they think being single and having to pay for it, in reality, sucks.

I concur. :tu

[j-6]

I know a lot of guys in this thread think that it's the friends of the groom's right to get strippers, that the groom really wants it, blahblahblah. But the bottomline is that the person that the groom has to live with the rest of his life isn't his brothers or friends, it's his wife.

So if the bride-to-be really feels strongly about it, then if the groom really loves her and respects her, he automatically doesn't even consider it. If the groom himself feels really strongly about wanting strippers, then he probably shouldn't be getting married.

If that's the scenario, the prospective couple needs to focus more on trusting each other and less on what the groom can or can't do at his bachelor party.

[travis2]

Maybe it's not a problem of trust, but just that one (or both) just don't like strippers!

[dougp]

If that's the scenario, the prospective couple needs to focus more on trusting each other and less on what the groom can or can't do at his bachelor party.
It's not about trust - there are people, believe it or not, who have morals and ideals that they like to uphold.

[JoeChalupa]

If that's the scenario, the prospective couple needs to focus more on trusting each other and less on what the groom can or can't do at his bachelor party.

I agree but it is also, for me at least, a matter of respect for the future bride. Damn, do I sound wimpy or what?
But yeah, without trust the marriage is going to have many bumps along the way. My wife goes out with the girls on Wednesday nights while I stay at home with the kids and when I go to the GTG's our out wth the guys she mostly stays at home and she knows sometimes I go, because the other guys are, to a gentleman's club and doesn't have a problem with it...unless she's had a few drinks then she tells it like it is.

[Kori Ellis]

If that's the scenario, the prospective couple needs to focus more on trusting each other and less on what the groom can or can't do at his bachelor party.

Maybe it's not about trust. Perhaps the fiancee would just consider it disrespectful.

[travis2]

Wow...I think there's an echo in here...:lol

[leemajors]

Maybe it's not about trust. Perhaps the fiancee would just consider it disrespectful.

my fiancee considers it very disrespectful, and i respect her feelings about it. it doesn't really affect me since i rarely went to strip clubs even before we started dating. i only went to them in las vegas, the last time was 99 and we met in 02. i think it's a total waste of money.

[j-6]

It's not about trust - there are people, believe it or not, who have morals and ideals that they like to uphold.

???

I'd rather completely trust my wife than worry about what her morals are. Hopefully I would have had a good idea about those morals were before the proposal.

[dougp]

???

I'd rather completely trust my wife than worry about what her morals are. Hopefully I would have had a good idea about those morals were before the proposal.
The others re-iterrated what I said ... Not everyone is comfortable with strip clubs, and even if a guy is, his future wife might not be ... so do you want to go to the honeymoon with your new wife pissed you had strippers, or be glad that you respected her opinion and didn't. I think the latter would be a lot more fun and rewarding than one night of stupidity.

[j-6]

This disrespect angle is bullshit. If your wife-to-be doesn't want you going to a strip club for your bachelor party out of "respect" I can't imagine the restrictions you'll face after the vows are exchanged.

"Respect" would be letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood, and trusting him enough not to do anything he'd regret later.

[SpursWoman]

???

I'd rather completely trust my wife than worry about what her morals are. Hopefully I would have had a good idea about those morals were before the proposal.



How do you trust someone with no morals? :lol

[SpursWoman]

This disrespect angle is bullshit. If your wife-to-be doesn't want you going to a strip club for your bachelor party out of "respect" I can't imagine the restrictions you'll face after the vows are exchanged..


What other restrictions? :lol :lol

It sounds like "YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO FUCK AROUND WITH OTHER WOMEN" would be one of them. Damn....God Forbid. :lmao

[Kori Ellis]

This disrespect angle is bullshit. If your wife-to-be doesn't want you going to a strip club for your bachelor party out of "respect" I can't imagine the restrictions you'll face after the vows are exchanged.



Actually it's not bullshit. It's the truth. LJ and I trust each other completely.

I can guarantee you that I trust him in any circumstance. He could have naked strippers all over him and I wouldn't worry he'd do anything. But I think it would be completely disrespectful to ME and our commitment for each other for him to partake in such activities.


"Respect" would be letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood ...

If you really want boobs in your face on your last night of bachelorhood, then you probably aren't ready to get married.

[Mixability]

If that's the scenario, the prospective couple needs to focus more on trusting each other and less on what the groom can or can't do at his bachelor party.

:tu

[PM5K]

Actually it's not bullshit. It's the truth. LJ and I trust each other completely.

I can guarantee you that I trust him in any circumstance. He could have naked strippers all over him and I wouldn't worry he'd do anything. But I think it would be completely disrespectful to ME and our commitment for each other for him to partake in such activities.



If you really want boobs in your face on your last night of bachelorhood, then you probably aren't ready to get married.

LJ was telling me about that last time we went to Perfect 10....

[Kori Ellis]

LJ was telling me about that last time we went to Perfect 10....
:lol

[DarkReign]

If you really want boobs in your face on your last night of bachelorhood, then you probably aren't ready to get married.

I actually agree with that. Like I said, I really dont care.

[PM5K]

:lol

We only went for the food specials....

[Mixability]

If you really want boobs in your face on your last night of bachelorhood, then you probably aren't ready to get married.

This I agree with, but for me its not about wanting boobs in your face at your party, but being allowed to if I wanted them.

[j-6]

Actually it's not bullshit. It's the truth. LJ and I trust each other completely.

Good for both of you. That's something to be proud of.


I can guarantee you that I trust him in any circumstance. He could have naked strippers all over him and I wouldn't worry he'd do anything. But I think it would be completely disrespectful to ME and our commitment for each other for him to partake in such activities.

Would it have been disrespectful the night of his bachelor party - after all, you trust he wouldn't have done anything. Or just now that you are married? And would you be pissed that he did something you don't approve of - when really you don't believe he'd perform any act of betrayal in the first place?


If you really want boobs in your face on your last night of bachelorhood, then you probably aren't ready to get married.

I'm half-assed convinced that women (and a few select guys) just don't understand this. Strippers and large quantities of alcohol at the bachelor party is just as big a part of the event as the wedding shower.

[SpursWoman]

"Respect" would be letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood, and trusting him enough not to do anything he'd regret later.



I wonder how exactly one-sided this whole "letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood" actually is.

Would he end up having a hissy fit if she spent her last single night on Earth with some hot, sweaty beefcake rubbing his dick in her face? I just don't see any REAL man being cool with that. :lol

[travis2]

I'm half-assed convinced that women (and a few select guys) just don't understand this. Strippers and large quantities of alcohol at the bachelor party is just as big a part of the event as the wedding shower.

Or maybe it's you that doesn't understand.

Just because you believe that doesn't make it true.

[Mixability]

I wonder how exactly one-sided this whole "letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood" actually is.

Would he end up having a hissy fit if she spent her last single night on Earth with some hot, sweaty beefcake rubbing his dick in her face? I just don't see any REAL man being cool with that. :lol

Isn't the traditional San Antonio bachelorette party held at Hardbodies anyway? :lol

I trust my girl enough to let her go. She comes home to me anyway.

[Kori Ellis]

Isn't the traditional San Antonio bachelorette party held at Hardbodies anyway? :lol

I trust my girl enough to let her go. She comes home to me anyway.

A club like Hardbodies might be okay with you. How about private male strippers at a house party, who lay your girl down on the floor and do pushups into her mouth ... she can choose to open her mouth or not ... but his dick is still all over her face.

[tlongII]

This thread is getting waaaay off track. Let's review the facts.

A) Dude is getting married and is going to his bachelor party.

B) Dude doesn't want strippers at said bachelor party.

C) Dude's Best Man gets strippers anyway.

D) Dude has hissy fit and bolts from his own bachelor party.


I conclude from points "C" and "D" that Dude is a loser.

[PM5K]

Isn't the traditional San Antonio bachelorette party held at Hardbodies anyway? :lol

I trust my girl enough to let her go. She comes home to me anyway.

Right after she stops by my house....

[PM5K]

A club like Hardbodies might be okay with you. How about private male strippers at a house party, who lay your girl down on the floor and do pushups into her mouth ... she can choose to open her mouth or not ... but his dick is still all over her face.

Hey! They do the same thing at Perfect 10, except, well it's not EXACTLY the same...

[photoguy]

http://www.africanevents.com/BE_FelixAndGold_5.0.jpg

[PM5K]

If a friend of mine told me that, honestly I would think he's full of shit, like sometimes I have friends that say I don't need to bring a gift for their birthday party, I have no idea why they say it but I bring them anyway...

But to leave your own bachelor party, I don't know what to say about that...

[j-6]

I wonder how exactly one-sided this whole "letting your mate do what he wanted in his last night of bachelorhood" actually is.

Would he end up having a hissy fit if she spent her last single night on Earth with some hot, sweaty beefcake rubbing his dick in her face? I just don't see any REAL man being cool with that. :lol

It's really none of his business what the hell she does at her bachelorette party either. Unless he doesn't trust her in the same fashion we mentioned above. He should be too busy getting lap dances to worry about the hummer the missus is dishing out by the dumpster.

[dougp]

It's really none of his business what the hell she does at her bachelorette party either. Unless he doesn't trust her in the same fashion we mentioned above. He should be too busy getting lap dances to worry about the hummer the missus is dishing out by the dumpster.
Are you married? Cause you have some seriously f'ed up views on how things work ...

[j-6]

This thread is getting waaaay off track. Let's review the facts.

A) Dude is getting married and is going to his bachelor party.

B) Dude doesn't want strippers at said bachelor party.

C) Dude's Best Man gets strippers anyway.

D) Dude has hissy fit and bolts from his own bachelor party.


I conclude from points "C" and "D" that Dude is a loser.

It's amusing how the predominantly female fun police show up and use words like "respect" and "trust" in a thread about bachelor party fundamentals.

Men don't get weepy when they find out that one of their own is getting hitched. We don't launch into soliloquies about how happy we are for the couple. We get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all our rowdy friends and looking at titties.

[dougp]

It's amusing how the predominantly female fun police show up and use words like "respect" and "trust" in a thread about bachelor party fundamentals.

Men don't get weepy when they find out that one of their own is getting hitched. We don't launch into soliloquies about how happy we are for the couple. We get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all our rowdy friends and looking at titties.
No, you have worded that wrong ... YOU get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all your rowdy friends and look at tickets.

It's been stated many times in here by multiple men that they do not share your point of view, so quit making your fuckin blanket statements and speaking for those of us who don't agree.

[Mixability]

A club like Hardbodies might be okay with you. How about private male strippers at a house party, who lay your girl down on the floor and do pushups into her mouth ... she can choose to open her mouth or not ... but his dick is still all over her face.

I'd trust her enough to keep her mouth shut even with private strippers. She's not the kind of person that would want strippers anyway, but I wouldn't want to be the reason she tells her friends she doesn't want them.

[j-6]

Are you married? Cause you have some seriously f'ed up views on how things work ...

I want to know what's so fucked up about trusting your mate (whether you're male or female) in a strip bar. There's the trust issue right there. If you're going to concentrate on what they're doing rather than believing that they'll be true to you in the fashion that led you to get engaged in the first place, you probably need to reevaluate your relationship.

[Vizzini]

Alright, I'm going home and I'm going to drop a secret here that we found out after the groom left. What none of the geniuses who planned this (or anyone so eager to judge the guy for leaving, with the exception of DLF) is that he had his own reasons. He knew someone from his home town that got mixed up in stripping and some bad stuff happened. He's not gay, he's not a loser, he's just a guy who didn't want strippers at his party and thought his friends could be trusted to comply with a simple wish.


I've heard of some bad stuff happening as well. There are some strippers who bring their boyfriends/husbands along as "security" and then they (the stripper) "go too far" if you will and then make as if the guys in attendence where the ones "going too far" and try to extort money out of everyone who was there, or else they will go to the police and news outlets and therefore wives and famlies will find out, which usually helps in getting money out of the person who is being extorted. Violence is usually threatened, and more often than not, the "hush money" is usually paid.

[SpursWoman]

It's amusing how the predominantly female fun police show up and use words like "respect" and "trust" in a thread about bachelor party fundamentals.

No, what's amusing is you criticizing people that have been happily married for years and years ... some with teenage children, how a relationship and trust should work.

[j-6]

No, what's amusing is you criticizing people that have been happily married for years and years ... some with teenage children, how a relationship and trust should work.

What does that have to do with a bachelor party?

[leemajors]

A club like Hardbodies might be okay with you. How about private male strippers at a house party, who lay your girl down on the floor and do pushups into her mouth ... she can choose to open her mouth or not ... but his dick is still all over her face.

damn that's dirty.

[Mijo]

No, you have worded that wrong ... YOU get excited about getting drunk on an all-nighter with all your rowdy friends and look at tickets. personally I agree with j-6 about the tradition part. I think that is what a bachelor party is all about and so do a whole hell of alot of men that just aren't going to say so. In retrospect, I also have nothing against a party without strippers. Other than the fact that I probably wouldn't attend a cake and punch bachelor party. I wouldn't be letting any of my friends down because if I did get an invite to a stripperless party it would probably mean that I don't know the person very well anyways. Which leads me to wonder how well of friends the groom and b/m were in the first place.

[DFW Spurs]

If the man doesn't want strippers don't get him strippers. Besides its the best man's job to do what the groom wants him to do. It's his night. What the best man should do is ask the groom if he wants an escort instead, cause he's never gonna bang another woman again.. :lol

Besides strippers = Blue Balls.. And swollen nuts for the groom doesn't sound like much fun to me... :spin

[easjer]

Knowing most of the people involved, I'd say they were pretty good friends. The groom had been roommates for four years with the best man, and coworkers/roommates with the guys whose apartment the party was held in for four years. The rest were all friends from college that he had known for five years.

Knowing the groom, I'm surprised that they didn't believe him when he said he didn't want strippers - he's never joined in with going to a strip joint.

I guess it comes down to whether or not the guy thinks that his 'last night of freedom' (which, let's be honest - they haven't been free for a long time. There was a committment made when they started dating, and a further committment made when they got engaged) and doing whatever he wants, including strippers/hookers/whatever is more important than respecting his future partner's wishes (IF they feel strongly about it).

But that argument aside - THIS groom didn't want strippers and his fiancee's wishes had nothing to do with his desire to simply enjoy the company of his friends and get piss drunk and have a good time without strippers.

I still don't get why it's ok for his friends, who have known him for years, to ignore his wants for the party (WHEN THEY CONSULTED HIM - it's not as if he stipulated it without being asked - he was asked and he told them he didn't want strippers) and then party with the strippers when their friend was upset. That pretty clearly states what was most important to them, and it wasn't celebrating with the groom.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

No, what's amusing is you criticizing people that have been happily married for years and years ... some with teenage children, how a relationship and trust should work.

Thier opinion means as much as his does. What works for them may be entirely different from what works for others.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I'm still amazed that some of you people think a bachelor party is for the groom-to-be. It rarely is...

[easjer]

Ok, it's either the equivalent of the bridal shower or it isn't. If it's not for the groom, then what, exactly, is it for? The friends of the groom to be morons? Well, why have a party for that? They can go to a strip club or hire strippers anytime.

[Mixability]

I'm still amazed that some of you people think a bachelor party is for the groom-to-be. It rarely is...

they should've just let his fiance throw the party if he was gonna be such a pussy about it.

[SpursWoman]

I'm still amazed that some of you people think a bachelor party is for the groom-to-be. It rarely is...


Then why does it matter that the groom left, pissy or otherwise? If the party isn't for him, who cares?

Besides, then there was more for the rest of them that will eventually go home to an empty house.

[kobe_bryant]

don't believe in them

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Ok, it's either the equivalent of the bridal shower or it isn't. If it's not for the groom, then what, exactly, is it for? The friends of the groom to be morons? Well, why have a party for that? They can go to a strip club or hire strippers anytime.


It's for the groom, in name only. For a good hall/house type BP, you want to create an atmosphere where a shitload of people will show, spend a lot of money gambling, drink, etc.

The strippers probably spend, on average, 8-12 minutes with the groom. The rest of their time is spent working(on or with) the crowd.

Just so you know, the strippers aren't what makes one of these types of BPs a success; a good craps table does...

The strippers are usually just eye candy.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Then why does it matter that the groom left, pissy or otherwise? If the party isn't for him, who cares?

Besides, then there was more for the rest of them that will eventually go home to an empty house.


Well, the other guys stayed, didn't they?

Just so you know, it's usually the married guys who are the most rambunctious.

[SpursWoman]

Just so you know, it's usually the married guys who are the most rambunctious.


I know....that's why I'm not married anymore. :lol

[j-6]

The bachelor party is for ALL the guys with the groom being the reason (or the excuse) for the event. He deserves some say, as does the best man, but neither should be surprised when mob rule takes over after the other guys are blinded by titties and Jagermeister.

I've never heard of a groom specifically stating no strippers on bachelor party night (until this thread). It almost sounds like none of the groomsmen took him seriously.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

I've been to a hall party with no strippers. It was about as much fun as watching paint dry. The party didn't make it past 11.

I can understand why you or your controlling fiancee (:lol) don't want strippers. What I don't understand is why you'd have that type of party if you didn't want strippers. Go on weekend trip with your buddies or a golf outing or a phat dinner with drinks afterward.

What happened here is piss poor communication and understanding between good friends. Never heard of such a thing at someone's BP.

[Mixability]

What I don't understand is why you'd have that type of party if you didn't want strippers. Go on weekend trip with your buddies or a golf outing or a phat dinner with drinks afterward.

:tu

it would be disgraceful to even try calling it a bachelor party. They could've had dinner or something "manly" :rolleyes like that.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Depends on where dinner is...

[tlongII]

I didn't know Danyo boned Batman's sister-in-law?

[Mixability]

I didn't know Danyo boned Batman's sister-in-law?

damn, i forgot i still had that in my sig. oops :lol

[baseline bum]

A bachelor party definitely isn't for just the groom. It's an excuse for a crew to go and do wild shit for one last time, because after marriage that ain't happening again. Strippers are an absolute requirement for a bachelor party. If I'm getting married and my girl wants to do the same, I'm all for it.

[Aggie Hoopsfan]

^^^^^^^^^^^

bingo.

[scott]

If he is so much against strippers... just pick up some chicks who will be willing to go back to someone's house for a rowdy game of strip poker or something. Same effect without the stupid technicalities.

[J.T.]

The bachelor party has always been for the entire group of friends. The groom is simply the guest of honor. His wishes should be considered but he definitely doesn't have the right to call all the shots. If he doesn't want strippers, then he should just ignore them at the party. Just because he wants to be a prude doesn't mean the other guys have to also. Bachelor party isn't like a birthday party where it's all about one person, it's about all the guys having one last crazy ride together. I guess that concept is too big for some people to grasp, however.

[leemajors]

The bachelor party has always been for the entire group of friends. The groom is simply the guest of honor. His wishes should be considered but he definitely doesn't have the right to call all the shots. If he doesn't want strippers, then he should just ignore them at the party. Just because he wants to be a prude doesn't mean the other guys have to also. Bachelor party isn't like a birthday party where it's all about one person, it's about all the guys having one last crazy ride together. I guess that concept is too big for some people to grasp, however.

what's too obvious for you to see is that this is a specific person who clearly stated that he did not want strippers at his bachelor party. no one cares what you do at yours, it's not the topic. if you really want something crazy you will never forget, you will hire a tranny for your bachelor party.

[travis2]

You want a bachelor party to tear the city down? Go for it.

But you don't have the right to dictate how others should be.

Time for the assholes in here to just STFU and deal with being totally wrong on this one.

[TheRage]

Toga!!!! Toga!!!! Toga!!!!

[Mixability]

what's too obvious for you to see is that this is a specific person who clearly stated that he did not want strippers at his bachelor party. no one cares what you do at yours, it's not the topic. if you really want something crazy you will never forget, you will hire a tranny for your bachelor party.

Then the pussy and/or the best man shouldn't even have planned a so-called bachelor party. It's false advertising for the rest of the group, who probably expect strippers. They should have just gone fishing or out to the bar one last time, cause I'm pretty sure his overbearing wife to be won't let him do either of those after the wedding. :lol

[tlongII]

You want a bachelor party to tear the city down? Go for it.

But you don't have the right to dictate how others should be.

Time for the assholes in here to just STFU and deal with being totally wrong on this one.


I realize you are the sensitive, caring type, but if you call me an asshole one more time I will have Katy punch you in the face!

[SpursWoman]

if you call me an asshole one more time I will have Katy punch you in the face!


You guys are too much. :lol

[Mrs.Tlong]

I realize you are the sensitive, caring type, but if you call me an asshole one more time I will have Katy punch you in the face!

Tlong! Stop it! Really - what would the anger management counsoler say?? :oops


Besides - you are a pussy obsessed asshole. Deal with it....... I've learned to. :depressed

[j-6]

Tlong! Stop it! Really - what would the anger management counsoler say?? :oops


Besides - you are a pussy obsessed asshole. Deal with it....... I've learned to. :depressed


That's better than being an asshole-obsessed pussy. :D

[Gatita]

http://mud.mm-a2.yimg.com/image/635497140

"This is the song that doesn’t end
Yes it goes on and on my friend
Some people started singing it not knowing what it was,
And they’ll continue singing it forever just because...."

[Sunshine]

Go with the grooms wishes. Whatever the reason. It's his party. The guys who want strippers can go to a club after the party breaks up.

[ShoogarBear]

That's better than being an asshole-obsessed pussy. :D
:lol

[leemajors]

Then the pussy and/or the best man shouldn't even have planned a so-called bachelor party. It's false advertising for the rest of the group, who probably expect strippers. They should have just gone fishing or out to the bar one last time, cause I'm pretty sure his overbearing wife to be won't let him do either of those after the wedding. :lol

i don't see why the group would expect strippers when the groom made it clear that he didn't want them there. they can always hit the strip club later.

[Mixability]

i don't see why the group would expect strippers when the groom made it clear that he didn't want them there. they can always hit the strip club later.

because when you say "bachelor party", what is the first thing that guys would expect to be there? Maybe they didn't know he was that pussywhipped?

[SpursWoman]

Maybe the pussy he's whipped at home by is just better than one he'd have to pay to see...


http://radiosanthony.com/images/FrontPage/OldStripper%5B1%5D.jpg


:lol :wow

[tlongII]

Maybe the pussy he's whipped at home by is just better than one he'd have to pay to see...


http://radiosanthony.com/images/FrontPage/OldStripper%5B1%5D.jpg


:lol :wow

I'd hit it.