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spurs_fan_in_exile
08-17-2006, 03:05 PM
You can thank my coworkers for this one. It's a slow day in the office and one of my female worker monkeys felt the need to share the fight she with her boyfriend last night. She was at his play and decided they should watch a movie. But when she went to the bookshelf to pick one out she found another DVD hidden behind a few others, which turned out to be some lesbian porn. This lead to a huge fight. She feels like this is practically cheating because he is apparently lusting after other women and was willing to take steps to hide it, which is what goes into having an affair. The males of my office (including me) think that's hooey. There's no direct contact or communication. It's not any different than a girl thinking Colin Farrell or Firth or Powell is hot, even if they are married.

Thoughts?

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 03:07 PM
what a dumb bitch.

ObiwanGinobili
08-17-2006, 03:09 PM
Matthew 5:28

Mixability
08-17-2006, 03:09 PM
I would say if the porn watching detracts from his relationship with her, then its cheating in regards to their situation.

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 03:10 PM
I think this has been addressed in Cosmo about 316546513246541321 times. :lol



No, it's not cheating. :angel




But if he seems to prefer it to real-life sex with her, that's a completely different issue.

ObiwanGinobili
08-17-2006, 03:11 PM
I think this has been addressed in Cosmo about 316546513246541321 times. :lol



:lmao

rayray2k8
08-17-2006, 03:14 PM
She made cuz he's been cheating on her with palmala?

This just tells me that there's no activity going on in the bedroom.
So whos fault is that?

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 03:17 PM
I was just thinking that.


no matter how great a girl you got, Palmela and Handela are always great.

samikeyp
08-17-2006, 03:19 PM
No.

2Blonde
08-17-2006, 03:22 PM
While I think it's a completely different issue than a married woman lusting after Colin Firth or Colin Farrel ( unless she was hiding a video of them doing gay pron together), I still don't think its cheating. It's probably more a case of the fact that he would have been more than willing to share his video library with her but he was afraid she might over-react.:lol

T Park
08-17-2006, 03:22 PM
If they have a fruitfull and good relationship, uh then no.

If he is constantly asking her what she would think of adding a third, or "experimenting" then theres problems.


But if there are no problems, then, yeah, shes all wet on this issue.

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 03:23 PM
So whos fault is that?.


Not enough info to answer the question. :lol

If they rarely have sex because he's more interested in flying solo with the porn, then that would be his fault.

But if he's more interested in flying solo because she's either frigid, uptight, or just not all of that interested in sex...then it's probably on her.

If they have lots of sex and he's still doing a lot of solo-flying, then she either needs to take some vitamins, buy some lube, and perhaps hit the gym a little more often to build up some endurance...or STFU and deal with it.

Most likely scenerio: they have a normal sex life, but she's a little (or a lot) insecure and is jealous that her man is jacking off to other naked women. :spin

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 03:25 PM
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Not enough info to answer the question. :lol

If they rarely have sex because he's more interested in flying solo with the porn, then that would be his fault.

But if he's more interested in flying solo because she's either frigid, uptight, or just not all of that interested in sex...then it's probably on her.

If they have lots of sex and he's still doing a lot of solo-flying, then she either needs to take some vitamins, buy some lube, and perhaps hit the gym a little more often to build up some endurance...or STFU and deal with it.

Most likely scenerio: they have a normal sex life, but she's a little (or a lot) insecure and is jealous that her man is jacking off to other naked women. :spin

damn you write for cosmo or something??

you should

ChumpDumper
08-17-2006, 03:30 PM
shes all wet on this issue.I didn't get that impression from her at all.

Solid D
08-17-2006, 03:30 PM
Physically, no. In matters of the heart (spiritually and emotionally), it can be destructive and I'll tell you why. I know of two different couples who's marriages ended in divorce. One of them ended partly because of the husband's porn addiction and the other marriage ended SOLELY due to the husband's porn addiction. In both cases, the man was admittedly unable to have normal sex with his wife. One of the men was unable to become aroused without the visual stimulus of photos or videos. Both men were unable to have fulfilling sex with their wives without visualizing someone other than their wives.

I cannot think of too many people, men or women, who would enjoy a relationship based on a vicarious partner.

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 03:31 PM
damn you write for cosmo or something??

you should


We used to have our own forum for stuff like this. :drunk :lol

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 03:32 PM
Unless the chick comes out of tv and gives me a blowjob, I'm not cheating.

spurs_fan_in_exile
08-17-2006, 03:35 PM
Unless the chick comes out of tv and gives me a blowjob, I'm not cheating.
:lol One guy in the office said that unless he was lubing up the hole in the middle of the disc and doing it then he wasn't cheating on her.

Mixability
08-17-2006, 03:36 PM
Physically, no. In matters of the heart (spiritually and emotionally), it can be destructive and I'll tell you why. I know of two different couples who's marriages ended in divorce. One of them ended partly because of the husband's porn addiction and the other marriage ended SOLELY due to the husband's porn addiction. In both cases, the man was admittedly unable to have normal sex with his wife. One of the men was unable to become aroused without the visual stimulus of photos or videos. Both men were unable to have fulfilling sex with their wives without visualizing someone other than their wives.

I cannot think of too many people, men or women, who would enjoy a relationship based on a vicarious partner.

Wow, I didn't think that was possible. How could anyone NOT prefer a real "kitty"!?!? :wtf

spurs_fan_in_exile
08-17-2006, 03:42 PM
Wow, I didn't think that was possible. How could anyone NOT prefer a real "kitty"!?!? :wtf

I imagine it's what is attached to the kitty (another human being) that poses the problem. With porn you don't have any pressure to please someone, it's completely on your terms, and your DVD player never says no. Add another person to the mix and it gets really complicated on every level.

Mixability
08-17-2006, 03:49 PM
I imagine it's what is attached to the kitty (another human being) that poses the problem. With porn you don't have any pressure to please someone, it's completely on your terms, and your DVD player never says no. Add another person to the mix and it gets really complicated on every level.

I guess the "owner" of the "kitty" I take care of is above average when it comes to those kind of things. :elephant

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 03:50 PM
Would it be cheating if a guy fucks a fake vibrating pussy?

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 03:51 PM
With porn you don't have any pressure to please someone, it's completely on your terms, and your DVD player never says no.


...or has no opinion on whether size matters, and doesn't give a shit about any motion in any ocean. Or how quickly it docks. :lol

ashbeeigh
08-17-2006, 03:56 PM
This was talked about on The View a few weeks ago, they reaired it I think earlier this week or the week before. Anyway. I'm as big of a prude as Elisabeth is and she thinks it is. It's a type of "emotional cheating." and then Joy and Barbara ripped he a new one for what she thought. I agree with her, if that's all the guy does. But if it's an occassional glance, go for it.

DirkAB
08-17-2006, 03:59 PM
I would say if the porn watching detracts from his relationship with her, then its cheating in regards to their situation.

No way, it's never cheating no matter how you look at it. Can it ruin a realtionship and be a very unhealthy habit? Yes, of course. Just because something detracts from a relationship that doesn't make it cheating or anywhere close to it. Alcohol, drugs, gambling, internet, television, and god knows what else can all detract from and destroy relationships, but they are nowhere near cheating.

I am not a big fan of porn, personally it makes me feel a little dirty watching it anymore. Don't get me wrong I've watched plenty of porn, but around age 25 or so I started to feel a little disgusted by it, don't know why. Maybe it's because I started to notice how big of scumfucks the pornstars were.

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 04:00 PM
If you girls think its cheating you don't know men very well.

guys think about sex 90% of the time, and mostly sex w/out the girlfriend/wife

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 04:00 PM
Emotional cheating? Huh? When did porn start involving emotions?


Sex and emotion are mutually exclusive events in a man's mind. :lol

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 04:01 PM
Is spanking a chicks ass until it's red and screaming "come on bitch!" considered showing emotion during sex?

DirkAB
08-17-2006, 04:06 PM
Going to stip clubs is closer to cheating than watching porn.

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 04:17 PM
is watching porn and taking notes cheating?

maybe if you take those cribnotes to bed

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:23 PM
Obviously he had a guilty conscience since he had to hide it.

ChumpDumper
08-17-2006, 04:26 PM
How many folks keep their porn titles in plain sight with the rest of their DVD collections?

cheguevara
08-17-2006, 04:27 PM
How many folks keep their porn titles in plain sight with the rest of their DVD collections?

I would but I don't waste my $ on that crap.

internet porn is free

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:28 PM
How many folks keep their porn titles in plain sight with the rest of their DVD collections?

We have Harry Twatter right next to Harry Potter.

DirkAB
08-17-2006, 04:29 PM
Obviously he had a guilty conscience since he had to hide it.

Come on, what do you expect the guy to do? Put his porn collection on the coffee table as a conversation piece? Next time his girlfriend calls and he's getting ready to rub one off should he tell her, "I got to call you back because I'm getting ready to beat off?" Seriously, nobody should want to know about that kind of shit, I don't care how serious the realationship is, some things should always remain private.

ChumpDumper
08-17-2006, 04:30 PM
Congrats - it's on display when your parents come around?

Maybe he just knew she'd freak if she saw it.

T Park
08-17-2006, 04:30 PM
No comment needed there....

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:31 PM
How many folks keep their porn titles in plain sight with the rest of their DVD collections?

I agree.

How many people have "Gloryhole Gangbang" on the shelf between "Good Night and Good Luck" and "Blade"?

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 04:31 PM
Come on, what do you expect the guy to do? Put his porn collection on the coffee table as a conversation piece? Next time his girlfriend calls and he's getting ready to rub one off should he tell her, "I got to call you back because I'm getting ready to beat off?" Seriously, nobody should want to know about that kind of shit, I don't care how serious the realationship is some things will always remain private.


Besides, why would I want everyone that walks into my house to know what my sexual proclivities are? You can tell a lot about a person by the kind of porn they prefer. :nerd :lmao

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:31 PM
some things should always remain private.

Not in my house.

DirkAB
08-17-2006, 04:32 PM
I agree.

How many people have "Gloryhole Gangbang" on the shelf between "Good Night and Good Luck" and "Blade"?


How do you have a gangbang at a gloryhole?

ChumpDumper
08-17-2006, 04:33 PM
"Gloryhole Gangbang"Sounds like it might take alot of planning.

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:33 PM
How do you have a gangbang at a gloryhole?

:lmao

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:33 PM
Not in my house.

So when should we expect the thread you start telling all of us that you're playing with your kitty?

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:34 PM
How do you have a gangbang at a gloryhole?

They showed how on one of the unaired episodes of "This Old House."

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:34 PM
So when should we expect the thread you start telling all of us that you're playing with your kitty?

What the hell are you talking about?

The comment wasn't directed to you.

Learn how to read.

Mr Dio
08-17-2006, 04:35 PM
We have Harry Twatter right next to Harry Potter.


Riding Ms Daisy.

IceColdBrewski
08-17-2006, 04:36 PM
...She feels like this is practically cheating because he is apparently lusting after other women and was willing to take steps to hide it, which is what goes into having an affair.

Thoughts?

Tell her she's lucky that he's jerking off to lesbo porn instead of going out and finding another piece of ass whenever she isn't available. Well, not exactly in those words, but you get the point.

John Doe
08-17-2006, 04:36 PM
That SpursWoman is really cool, I like how she thinks.

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:37 PM
Riding Ms Daisy.


:lol

I was being facetious.

DirkAB
08-17-2006, 04:37 PM
They showed how on one of the unaired episodes of "This Old House."

:lol

I missed the last episode of Sell This Gloryhole.

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:41 PM
What the hell are you talking about?

The comment wasn't directed to you.

Learn how to read.

Um, I don't really give a fuck. My comment was directed at you.

I really don't want to get into a fight with you, seeing as how this might somehow lead to you having another lesbian fantasy and getting owned so badly you leave again in embarrassment.

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:42 PM
You bore me.

You can quit it now.

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 04:44 PM
haha

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:44 PM
You bore me.

You can quit it now.

Why don't we just remind everybody and let the new people in on the story?

So, how did that effort to have lesbian sex with a poster here work out for you?

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:45 PM
Why don't we just remind everybody and let the new people in on the story?

So, how did that effort to have lesbian sex with a poster here work out for you?

Go for it.

See if I care.

I might lose some sleep.

Really, I might.


And if you had any sense, which I highly doubt, you would know that the post was created out of spite.

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:46 PM
Go for it.

See if I care.

I might lose some sleep.

Really, I might.

Not getting it from your vato or whatever the hell you call him and having to search for online pussy can cause that.

How long were you away from ST after that?

Gatita
08-17-2006, 04:48 PM
Not getting it from your vato or whatever the hell you call him and having to search for online pussy can cause that.

How long were you away from ST after that?

Its ok mijito. If you think you know my life, go for it and keep running off at the mouth.

I enjoy seeing people talk out of their asses.

Good job by the way.

And with that, I'll make my exit.

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 04:51 PM
I miss old school angry, vulgar and vile Gatita.

ChumpDumper
08-17-2006, 04:52 PM
Was that another retirement?

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:52 PM
Its ok mijito. If you think you know my life, go for it and keep running off at the mouth.

I enjoy seeing people talk out of their asses.

Good job by the way.

And with that, I'll make my exit.

Spurstalk: We report, you decide.

And the reason we know your life is because you got owned by asking for lesbian sex about 10 months ago. You're a bitch to a lot of people and you hate when you get called on it.

Go on, say this means nothing, but I guarantee there will be a PM or three about this going to somebody, but if you want to spread rumors about me like you did another ST poster, be my guest.

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:53 PM
I miss old school angry, vulgar and vile Gatita.

I would say you're the only one that misses that cross-eyed bitch, but that would just be wrong.

Kori Ellis
08-17-2006, 04:53 PM
If he had to hide it from her, then that's not cheating but it sucks that he feels the need to do stuff behind her back.

If he wants to watch porn WITH her and she's just too much of a prude to participate, then they have some things to work on.

The only way I think it's cheating is if he really lusts other women all the time and he prefers to get off to porn MORE than he prefers to have sex with his girl.

midgetonadonkey
08-17-2006, 04:55 PM
I would say you're the only one that misses that cross-eyed bitch, but that would just be wrong.

I can't help it. I admire a girl with a mouth as vulgar as mine. As far as shit talkers go, she is probably one of the best to ever grace this forum.

Mixability
08-17-2006, 04:56 PM
The only way I think it's cheating is if he really lusts other women all the time and he prefers to get off to porn MORE than he prefers to have sex with his girl.

:tu

Mr Dio
08-17-2006, 04:56 PM
:lol

I was being facetious.


Ohhhhh, uhh, um.....yeah! So was I!
I really don't have that DVD in Dolby w/the Widescreen format & in the director's cut.

Mixability
08-17-2006, 04:57 PM
And the reason we know your life is because you got owned by asking for lesbian sex about 10 months ago. You're a bitch to a lot of people and you hate when you get called on it.

Go on, say this means nothing, but I guarantee there will be a PM or three about this going to somebody, but if you want to spread rumors about me like you did another ST poster, be my guest.

Is that what happened?

I vaguely remember the threads, I thought she was trying to steal someones boyfriend? :wtf

Kori Ellis
08-17-2006, 04:57 PM
As for JohnnyBlaze and Gatita... get a room and go watch some lesbian porn together.

:eyebrows

:lmao

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:57 PM
As far as shit talkers go, she is probably one of the best to ever grace this forum.

She actually is, but she can't take a whole hell of a lot of ribbing without going full guns blazing.

Case in point, today.

Case in point, any argument with Manny.

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 04:58 PM
As for JohnnyBlaze and Gatita... get a room and go watch some lesbian porn together.

:eyebrows

:lmao

I wouldn't be able to tell if she were interested in me or the porn with each eye going a different direction.

Mixability
08-17-2006, 05:00 PM
I wouldn't be able to tell if she were interested in me or the porn with each eye going a different direction.

Havent you heard of multitasking??!?!? :lol

Johnny_Blaze_47
08-17-2006, 05:02 PM
its alright JB47, she is gone now, back to your happy-loving-ways

Last one...and only because I couldn't be a part of either the online or live experience of this thread because I was in The Woodlands and Nacogdoches that weekend.

http://www.spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28986

Mixability
08-17-2006, 05:12 PM
Last one...and only because I couldn't be a part of either the online or live experience of this thread because I was in The Woodlands and Nacogdoches that weekend.

http://www.spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28986

ah, thanks for the refresher.....

Mr Dio
08-17-2006, 05:13 PM
:lol

I was reading the thread & saw Danyo's name @ the bottom of the screen.
Guess I wasn't the only one that didn't know it all.
I missed alot of that stuff.

CuckingFunt
08-17-2006, 05:23 PM
Would it be cheating if a guy fucks a fake vibrating pussy?
Slightly creepy, perhaps, but not cheating.

Edgar Ray Killen.
08-17-2006, 05:35 PM
wheres sexysue?

phyzik
08-17-2006, 06:21 PM
Matthew 5:28

I got no problem with religion but If your going to do that, lets try some of the other bible quotes.

Timothy 2:9-10 says, "I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God."

Jeremiah 4:30 says "And you, O desolate one, what will you do? Although you dress in scarlet, Although you decorate yourself with ornaments of gold, Although you enlarge your eyes with paint, In vain you make yourself beautiful, Your lovers despise you; They seek your life."



Get rid of that makeup, expensive jewelry and those red dresses ladies, an old book says so. :angel




2000 years from now, someone will find a JRR Tolkein book or something and "spread the scripture", then we will all be praising Gandalf as a God, Saruman as the devil and the Fellowship will be the deciples. :lol

katyon6th
08-17-2006, 06:33 PM
We used to have our own forum for stuff like this. :drunk :lol

What happened to that forum? Seriously.

SpursWoman
08-17-2006, 06:37 PM
Actually there were going to be 2 of them ... one was Marcus Bryant's forum (which no longer exists :depressed) ... and the other was Dr. Laura's forum at the old Feedback Zone that we were going to hijack before shit it the fan. :lol

katyon6th
08-17-2006, 06:44 PM
I can't help it. I admire a girl with a mouth as vulgar as mine. As far as shit talkers go, she is probably one of the best to ever grace this forum.

She shit talks in Spanish, that's just lame.

And Joe, you're awesome. Really, you are.

As far as the topic of this thread, to me, watching porn is not cheating. I like to think of it this way: playing video games where you kill people doesn't make you a criminal, it's just fantasy ... fake ... not real. As porn is. And we all have fantasies, 'tis true.

phyzik
08-17-2006, 06:50 PM
She shit talks in Spanish, that's just lame.

And Joe, you're awesome. Really, you are.

As far as the topic of this thread, to me, watching porn is not cheating. I like to think of it this way: playing video games where you kill people doesn't make you a criminal, it's just fantasy ... fake ... not real. As porn is. And we all have fantasies, 'tis true.

Extremely good point with the video games. :tu

Fillmoe
08-17-2006, 09:00 PM
its only cheating if you get caught.........


and no watching porn is not cheating

MannyIsGod
08-17-2006, 10:09 PM
:lmao @ The Lachino.

CharlieMac
08-17-2006, 10:39 PM
She shit talks in Spanish, that's just lame.

And Joe, you're awesome. Really, you are.

As far as the topic of this thread, to me, watching porn is not cheating. I like to think of it this way: playing video games where you kill people doesn't make you a criminal, it's just fantasy ... fake ... not real. As porn is. And we all have fantasies, 'tis true.

I wonder why I called her cross-eyed? I usually won't run off at the mouth unless someone goes out of their way to be a dick.

Either way, the spanglish smack bothers me. If there is one thing I can't stand is hearing someone say "mijo" in a condescending manner. That's pretty much saying, "That's all I'm capable of. I'll talk loud and in spanglish and pretend to have a point."

That's and people inhaling their tea to get a refill. :smokin

CharlieMac
08-17-2006, 10:43 PM
Last one...and only because I couldn't be a part of either the online or live experience of this thread because I was in The Woodlands and Nacogdoches that weekend.

http://www.spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=28986


Yeah, I forgot about that thread. Great pic.

http://www.spurstalk.com/biggiemandy.jpg

MannyIsGod
08-17-2006, 10:45 PM
:lmao

Damn, I love you all. But Joe most of all.

Beer is Good
08-17-2006, 11:01 PM
2000 years from now, someone will find a JRR Tolkein book or something and "spread the scripture", then we will all be praising Gandalf as a God, Saruman as the devil and the Fellowship will be the deciples. :lol
I often times wonder about that too... if the whole thing is a deception. Besides, even if it is the real deal the story that is written in the current printed versions of the book have passed down from word of mouth, numerous translations, and have been told numerous ways for almost two thousand years. No way it can still be accurate. If I told one person a story now and had them tell 10 others - the last person would get a slightly different story with a slightly different meaning.

Guru of Nothing
08-17-2006, 11:41 PM
I cannot think of too many people, men or women, who would enjoy a relationship based on a vicarious partner.

I would not use the word "enjoy" as you did, but I'd guesstimate 85% of married sex includes sexual fantasies with someone other than their spouse.

Perhaps 16% of the people can correct me.

MarkV
08-18-2006, 12:57 AM
FUck it. Watch the Porn. Whack it off religiously. At least the porn won't take your money and fuck your best friend after a night of tequila shots followed by an 8 ball up the nose. The world is a dangerous place... just stay home and enjoy the porn.

Darrin
08-18-2006, 06:25 AM
Is it cheating? No. But if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is not good for the relationship.

Your partner may begin to question why they cannot fufill your sexual fantasies - as if something is missing in the relationship. This can lead to the same type of inadequate feelings that cheating causes. It can lead to the same type of trust issues because there's been a concealment of a part of potential issues in the relationship. What other lengths are you going to in order to fulfill your sexual appetite?

Feelings of violation, inadequacy, lack of trust...get rid of the porn. Stow it. Or at least watch it with her. You've got someone to give you a handjob and roleplay.

Darrin
08-18-2006, 06:30 AM
Emotional cheating? Huh? When did porn start involving emotions?


Sex and emotion are mutually exclusive events in a man's mind. :lol

Truer words were never written. I'm more worried about making her uncomfortable than if it is cheating. Porn just isn't important enough to take a moral stance.

TDMVPDPOY
08-18-2006, 06:34 AM
She shit talks in Spanish, that's just lame.

And Joe, you're awesome. Really, you are.

As far as the topic of this thread, to me, watching porn is not cheating. I like to think of it this way: playing video games where you kill people doesn't make you a criminal, it's just fantasy ... fake ... not real. As porn is. And we all have fantasies, 'tis true.

i luv 2 b ur BF

katyon6th
08-18-2006, 07:34 AM
i luv 2 b ur BF

But internet shorthand is not sexy.

AlamoSpursFan
08-18-2006, 07:51 AM
I can't believe this thread is 4 pages in and I still get to post this...

http://www.forumspile.com/Signature-Porn.jpg

:lol

Solid D
08-18-2006, 09:04 AM
I would not use the word "enjoy" as you did, but I'd guesstimate 85% of married sex includes sexual fantasies with someone other than their spouse.

Perhaps 16% of the people can correct me.

I agree that most individuals would admit to fantasies of other partners. The point of my comment about sex "based on" vicarious partners is that it is very bad for a relationship and could potentially tear it apart. The two people I know - in my initial example - have experienced very painful break-ups and they have needed counselling for their dysfunction. Porn can be addictive and it was for these two guys. It is a warning for anyone out there who may be reading this that you should evaluate what your sexual relationship is based on. If it has gotten to the point that you cannot be satisfied sexually without porn or the visualization of someone other than your partner, you should either remove yourself (detox) from the addictive material for a period of time to see if that can help, or seek assistance with the problem rather than let it break up a marriage.

tlongII
08-18-2006, 09:47 AM
I agree that most individuals would admit to fantasies of other partners. The point of my comment about sex "based on" vicarious partners is that it is very bad for a relationship and could potentially tear it apart. The two people I know - in my initial example - have experienced very painful break-ups and they have needed counselling for their dysfunction. Porn can be addictive and it was for these two guys. It is a warning for anyone out there who may be reading this that you should evaluate what your sexual relationship is based on. If it has gotten to the point that you cannot be satisfied sexually without porn or the visualization of someone other than your partner, you should either remove yourself (detox) from the addictive material for a period of time to see if that can help, or seek assistance with the problem rather than let it break up a marriage.


Nah dude. If that's the case you need a new partner.

DirkAB
08-18-2006, 09:48 AM
I like to think of it this way: playing video games where you kill people doesn't make you a criminal, it's just fantasy ... fake ... not real. As porn is. And we all have fantasies, 'tis true.


That is a really good point, well put.

Solid D
08-18-2006, 09:53 AM
Nah dude. If that's the case you need a new partner.

The porn is the sexual partner in their case.

tlongII
08-18-2006, 10:16 AM
The porn is the sexual partner in their case.

Exactly. That's why they need a new partner.

mcornelio
08-18-2006, 10:18 AM
Wow! who brought back the bravatars?

katyon6th
08-18-2006, 12:13 PM
Wow! who brought back the bravatars?

I think mcornelio just creamed himself.

Solid D
08-18-2006, 12:23 PM
Exactly. That's why they need a new partner.

:lol Okay, so at least I'm having a conversation with you that doesn't include the words "I'd hit it"....although that phrase does seem related to your point of view on this subject.

Your comments seem to be based on the premise that the men who have an addiction to porn is because of their partner. So it's the partner's fault NOT the guys' fault they are addicted to porn? Is that what you are saying?

I know you have a certain rep. you have to keep in here, but please be truthful if you can.

TheRage
08-18-2006, 12:24 PM
of course it isn't cheating.... if she knows about it :) if she doesn't know about it.... it's still not cheating but i must admit it makes it more fun to watch....

SpursWoman
08-18-2006, 12:40 PM
Just wait until he finds her vibrator, which will substantially bigger than his own *equipment* and come with 15 different speeds. :spin

tlongII
08-18-2006, 01:28 PM
:lol Okay, so at least I'm having a conversation with you that doesn't include the words "I'd hit it"....although that phrase does seem related to your point of view on this subject.

Your comments seem to be based on the premise that the men who have an addiction to porn is because of their partner. So it's the partner's fault NOT the guys' fault they are addicted to porn? Is that what you are saying?

I know you have a certain rep. you have to keep in here, but please be truthful if you can.

It's not necessarily anyone's fault. It's just that the guy obviously isn't digging it anymore. Time to move on.

John Doe
08-18-2006, 03:51 PM
It's not cheating. He's hiding it because it's a vice she doesn't like and he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.

SpursWoman
08-18-2006, 03:55 PM
It's not cheating. He's hiding it because it's a vice she doesn't like and (s)he doesn't want to hurt (his) feelings.



Just wait until he finds her vibrator, which will substantially bigger than his own *equipment* and come with 15 different speeds.


Yeah, no shit. :lmao

phyzik
08-18-2006, 06:56 PM
Just wait until he finds her vibrator, which will substantially bigger than his own *equipment* and come with 15 different speeds. :spin


ya.... but will the vibrator cum on her face then, out of politeness, hand her a towel? :angel


Sorry, lol, I heard it on a Dave Attel standup comedy show.

Carie
08-18-2006, 07:00 PM
Not cheating at all. Bad for the relationship? Depends on the relationship. But not cheating.

tlongII
12-15-2006, 05:11 PM
*bump*

Bob Lanier
12-15-2006, 05:14 PM
Still not cheating.

ChumpDumper
12-15-2006, 05:15 PM
I think mcornelio just creamed himself.Was that cheating?

1369
12-15-2006, 05:56 PM
I think mcornelio just creamed himself.

There was a great disturbance in the force, as if a kitten suddenly cried out, and was then silenced...

Shelly
12-15-2006, 06:01 PM
Just wait until he finds her vibrator, which will substantially bigger than his own *equipment* and come with 15 different speeds. :spin

You didn't tell Chris that I gave that to you, did you??? :oops

1369
12-15-2006, 06:03 PM
You didn't tell Chris that I gave that to you, did you??? :oops

There's that disturbance again. Only this time, there's a shitload more kittens.

mcornelio
12-15-2006, 07:16 PM
:lol

Mijo
12-16-2006, 12:04 AM
Pardon me but why are we criticizing a woman looking for lesbian sex? :dizzy

SpursWoman
12-16-2006, 11:15 AM
You didn't tell Chris that I gave that to you, did you??? :oops


Nah ... he won't go anywhere near my locked box. :lmao

PM5K
12-16-2006, 11:28 AM
I'm far too busy watching porn to read this thread, cliffs anyone?

mikejones99
12-16-2006, 06:30 PM
of course not

TheSanityAnnex
12-17-2006, 02:33 AM
only if she gets pregnant

Pablo Escobar
12-17-2006, 02:16 PM
your cheating yourself if you dont wack your meat while watching porn