Single After 4 Years/Sex Video Controversy

[TheSanityAnnex]

I won't bore you with the details of my relationship or breakup, but I would like to here some of your opinions. As of today, I'm single and have a problem.


Here is the deal. Throughout our four years together, we made our fair share of sex videos. My camera, my tapes. Today, as I'm packing up my shit, she asks me what I'm going to do with the tapes. I say I'm keeping them, they are mine. She wants them destroyed because she thinks I'll post them on the internet or create some website and post the videos. I have no intentions what so ever of doing that.

I personally just want them because I enjoy watching myself get a blowjob. Even after I tell her that I won't be doing any public showings of the tape, she says she still wants them destroyed.

Should I destroy them and lose some excellent :jack material, or should I keep them and say :flipoff I'm 98% sold on keeping them, but I did want to hear some thoughts before I make my final decision.

[Kori Ellis]

Every guy is going to tell you to keep them. But honestly, she's in the video too. So respect her and destroy them. After four years, you have to have some respect for her.

[Medvedenko]

Dude, destroy them...if it's over, than it's over. What's your next g-friend going to think you if she finds you pulling the goalie to a blowjob video you made back in the day.

[timvp]

Make a copy of them and then call her over and destroy the originals in front of her.

You might get one for the road.

:smokin

[tlongII]

Destroy them.


But make copies first!

[TheSanityAnnex]

Every guy is going to tell you to keep them. But honestly, she's in the video too. So respect her and destroy them. After four years, you have to have some respect for her.While making these videos, did she not stop to think what would happen if we were to split up?

[dirk4mvp]

You could just keep them as memories of once was.

[TheSanityAnnex]

What's your next g-friend going to think you if she finds you pulling the goalie to a blowjob video you made back in the day.
Hopefully she'll want to make one too.

[Nbadan]

My camera, my tapes.

The courts may not look at it that way since her image is also on the tapes. You could make copies and not tell her, but if something happened to you they would be rather embarrassing when your family popped them into the VCR to see if they are worth keeping. To tell you the truth it would be too tempting to keep something like that, especially when your an old-foggy banging the same chick for 15+ years, but you need a plan to get rid of them 'just-in-case'.

[TheSanityAnnex]

The courts may not look at it that way since her image is also on the tapes.She ain't that crazy. There will be no courts involved. :lol

[TDMVPDPOY]

ship it to me mofo!!

[Mixability]

I wouldn't see any point in keeping sex videos unless you wanted to "distribute" them. I myself couldn't see myself getting off to old "memories".

[Nbadan]

She ain't that crazy. There will be no courts involved. :lol

Then watch out for the big brother with the baseball bat.

:dizzy

[Medvedenko]

There's a reason why this relationship didn't work. I'm not casting aspersions...but....

[midgetonadonkey]

Sale them.

[missmyzte]

Destroy them.

[Kori Ellis]

While making these videos, did she not stop to think what would happen if we were to split up?

While she was making the videos, she wasn't thinking about breaking up. Unless maybe you were boring her and her mind was drifting :spin

[polandprzem]

Give her a sign on paper (some kind of document) that you won't show them in public

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Get rid of them. There's really no upside to keeping them, and plenty of pitfalls that come with keeping them.

[1Parker1]

What comes around goes around. With that kind of luck...your next serious GF may "accidently" uncover them...or maybe even your mom.

You have to understand where she's coming from...those are private videos of the two of you and not only is she fearing that you or someone else may put them on the Internet, it may make her feel uncomfortable by the fact that you, now an Ex, could still be watching them...

[Mijo]

Oh alright, I'll take them.

[polandprzem]

1P1 - but all those memories...those good times... :cry:

[TheSanityAnnex]

I wouldn't see any point in keeping sex videos unless you wanted to "distribute" them.I don't see it as any different than keeping a video of a trip to Cancun or something like that.

[TheSanityAnnex]

There's a reason why this relationship didn't work.
No shit. I'm transferring schools.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Get rid of them. There's really no upside to keeping them, and plenty of pitfalls that come with keeping them.The upside is getting to watch them whenever I please, plus, it really is some good stuff. We took our video making seriously :lol

What are the plenty of pitfalls you speak of? I can only think of one. An unhappy exgirlfriend.

[ducks]

why would you want to see your ex naked?
I can see other women but your ex?
it would seem to bring back memories that I would not want to think about
do you still love her? then stay together

[midgetonadonkey]

why would you want to see your ex naked?
I can see other women but your ex
do you still love her? then stay together

What does seeing a chick naked have to do with loving her?

[katyon6th]

So, have you made your final decision yet?

[ducks]

nothing except when you break up with someone you usually hate them
and have no desire to even see them

that is why I asked if he still loved her

[midgetonadonkey]

nothing except when you break up with someone you usually hate them
and have no desire to even see them

I wouldn't mind seeing some of my ex chicks naked again even though hate them. Naked chicks and emotions have nothing to do with each other.

[TheSanityAnnex]

What comes around goes around. With that kind of luck...your next serious GF may "accidently" uncover them...or maybe even your mom.All the years I lived at home with my parents, neither one of them ever found any of my porn or weed. I'm not worried about someone accidentally finding this tape.


You have to understand where she's coming from...those are private videos of the two of you and not only is she fearing that you or someone else may put them on the Internet, it may make her feel uncomfortable by the fact that you, now an Ex, could still be watching them...I do understand where she is coming from, but what about what I want?

How about I work out a compromise.

I'll delete all the footage that has her face in it and I get to keep shots where she couldn't be identified (doggystyle, blowjob from above, etc):lol

[FromWayDowntown]

I'd destroy them because there is a lot of bad that can come from having them, even if you don't intend to do anything with them.

Suppose that someone (an acquaintance, for instance) happened to get their hands on them. You might not have any interest in distributing the tapes, but if someone else was able to get hold of them, that person might be inclined to distribute them. When ex-girlfriend finds out the tapes have been distributed for money, she wants to sue someone for that and, of course, sues you. She can get a judgment against you in that circumstance -- one you'll have to pay; it would be your obligation to figure out who lifted the tapes from you and seek reimbursement from that person, if they could pay a judgment.

Just something to think about.

[midgetonadonkey]

How about I work out a compromise.

I'll delete all the footage that has her face in it and I get to keep shots where she couldn't be identified (doggystyle, blowjob from above, etc):lol

You are wise.

[midgetonadonkey]

Just keep the tapes dude. Nobody is getting sued.

[ducks]

some of those videos I do not think are just naked chicks
I think they have them having intercourse
there is a difference
seeing a naked chick is one thing
seeing your ex having sex with you is different
to me it would bring memorries back that I would not want to see
and it would not help me move on

[TheSanityAnnex]

nothing except when you break up with someone you usually hate them
and have no desire to even see them

that is why I asked if he still loved herIt wasn't a brutal or hateful breakup at all. Things got stagnant and I needed to get my ass back in school which required me to move. You don't just stop loving someone after four years. It will be nice to be single at a new school, I would have had a very difficult time being faithful in a different state.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

The upside is getting to watch them whenever I please, plus, it really is some good stuff. We took our video making seriously :lol

What are the plenty of pitfalls you speak of? I can only think of one. An unhappy exgirlfriend.

Well, as previous posts pointed out, this isn't really the thing you want any future women stumbling upon. And while you ex probably won't it is possible that she could go the legal route to get them back, which would be a hassle.

Besides, you have the internet. While I'm sure that you guys did a fine job, if you're just keeping them as spank bank material then I imagine you can find something just as good on the net. And do you really want to run the risk of people here thinking about you in the same terms we think of GIG?

[TheSanityAnnex]

Just keep the tapes dude. Nobody is getting sued.:lol

Getting sued is the last thing on my mind. I'm just pondering the morality of the whole situation.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Besides, you have the internet. While I'm sure that you guys did a fine job, if you're just keeping them as spank bank material then I imagine you can find something just as good on the net. And do you really want to run the risk of people here thinking about you in the same terms we think of GIG?They are more to me than spank bank material and I don't download porn anymore for fear of viruses.


Why would I be compared to GiG? I'm not offering to show anyone the videos.

[TheSanityAnnex]

If this changes anything...the chances of us getting back together when we are both done with school (1.5 years) are very high.

[ORION]

If its that important for you to keep them and for her to have them destroyed then invite her over to destroy them but before she leaves make her give you "one for old times sake" but make sure you set up your hidden camera. You have your new tape and she is happy.

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

If this changes anything...the chances of us getting back together when we are both done with school (1.5 years) are very high.

It might. So long as you're the only one that sees them I guess there's no major league harm to be done, but I'd still err on the side of caution. You don't have any roommates or anything do you?

[TheSanityAnnex]

If its that important for you to keep them and for her to have them destroyed then invite her over to destroy them but before she leaves make her give you "one for old times sake" but make sure you set up your hidden camera. You have your new tape and she is happy.
:lol

Great idea, but I'm not in the mood to fuck an exgirlfriend right now.

[TheSanityAnnex]

It might. So long as you're the only one that sees them I guess there's no major league harm to be done, but I'd still err on the side of caution. You don't have any roommates or anything do you?


None.


I just feel like if we got back together, we would have destroyed something and regret it. And of course we could always make more, but man, those were some special times we caught on film.

[tlongII]

I don't see it as any different than keeping a video of a trip to Cancun or something like that.

You choke the chicken to your Cancun vacation video? :wtf

[spurs_fan_in_exile]

Well if you can keep a lid on them them I say enjoy.

[TheSanityAnnex]

I don't even know if I'll watch them much, I just don't like destroying things.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Classic GiG.

[midgetonadonkey]

:lol

Getting sued is the last thing on my mind. I'm just pondering the morality of the whole situation.

What's morality?

[ORION]

:lol

Great idea, but I'm not in the mood to fuck an exgirlfriend right now.
but you could try and get her to do some real freaking stuff and if she says no then what the hell you are already broken up. OH I got it ! You could just smack her in the head with it and get it on tape. Make sure to say " Take That !" then (SMACK)

[midgetonadonkey]

I never thought I'd find myself agreeing with GIG.

[ORION]

What's morality?
she is a dancer at the Rainbow Lounge

[midgetonadonkey]

You should have learned a long time ago that I am always right. Wake up ya dumb fuck.

Go shit some cum.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Go shit some cum.
And be sure to video tape it!

[TheSanityAnnex]

Thanks to those who shared their opinions. At this moment, I'm holding on to them, but I may change my mind later down the road, especially if I'm involved with someone else.

[TheSanityAnnex]

So what are you gonna do? Dont be a lil bitch and destroy them. They are your tapes, your video camera, and she is your ex. She should have no say in the matter. She decided to be a part of it.

Like I said before, for the time being, I'm holding on to them. And yes, she did decide to be a part of it.

Next time I do this, I'm gonna have the chick sign a fucking waiver.

[ORION]

I'm telling you , make one last one and make sure to slap her with it. Also make sure to yell "Take That !"

[baseline bum]

Thanks to those who shared their opinions. At this moment, I'm holding on to them, but I may change my mind later down the road, especially if I'm involved with someone else.

Nice. I was going to say to grow a fucking backbone, but apparently you already made the right choice. The tapes are your property, and if it was me I'd flat out tell her no.

[ALVAREZ6]

Dude, just do what GiG did. As he said, it is a win - win situation. You keep your ex happy, who knows, maybe in the future you guys meet up again, maybe your new school experience doesn't last long, who the fuck knows, anything can happen.

What you need to do is make copies, destroy them in front of her, part on good terms, keep in touch with her. And if you never use the copies, don't want them anymore, trash them. Just view the copies as what they are: copies. If you ever feel regret, you can still destroy them and it would be as if you never lied to her in the first place by making copies.

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Nice. I was going to say to grow a fucking backbone, but apparently you already made the right choice. The tapes are your property, and if it was me I'd flat out tell her no.


I couldn't agree more.

[leemajors]

you can always get a nice video card and rip them onto your computer. or if the video camera has usb or firewire, transfer them that way. you can even rar them up and put a password on them so no one else can access the files.

[whottt]

So when will the website be open?

[TheSanityAnnex]

You keep your ex happyShe is my exgirlfriend, as in no longer my girlfriend. I get no more ass and won't be seeing her anytime soon, keeping her happy is no longer my job.

[CuckingFunt]

Hmmm...

Color me cynical, but methinks this thread was less a legitimate request for advice, and more an opportunity for Sanity to brag about having several videos of himself fucking the model/exgirlfriend.

[MannyIsGod]

:lmao dude.

You never had thoughts about destroying them.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Hmmm...

Color me cynical, but methinks this thread was less a legitimate request for advice, and more an opportunity for Sanity to brag about having several videos of himself fucking the model/exgirlfriend.

Wrong. I made a thread a few months ago in the troll forum asking who's been lucky enough to make sex tapes. If what you said was true, I would have already posted these tapes for the masses.

[TheSanityAnnex]

:lmao dude.

You never had thoughts about destroying them.2% of me did. :clap

[Melmart1]

If this changes anything...the chances of us getting back together when we are both done with school (1.5 years) are very high.
Dude, I am not going to tell you what to do one way or the other, as I think you have already made up your mind. However, this statement here that I quoted, I must reply to. As someone who has been in your situation before, I gotta tell you- don't count on it. The chances of you getting back together are a lot smaller than you think. 18 months is a seriously long time for two people to be apart and a whole lot that you can't see happening can indeed happen in that time frame. Just a caution from someone a little older, wiser and more experienced (in THIS subject, please don't use this as troll forum fodder as I am being sincere).

So in other words, don't use this as part of your excuse for keeping them. Keep them for the REAL reason you want to, and quit making excuses like this that won't hold water.

[ALVAREZ6]

She is my exgirlfriend, as in no longer my girlfriend. I get no more ass and won't be seeing her anytime soon, keeping her happy is no longer my job.
Then why the fuck are you debating about this?


Just tell her to fuck off, they're your videos.

[johngateswhiteley]

...you should destroy them, but whatever.

[johnsmith]

...you should destroy them, but whatever.


I agree on both accounts, destroy them, but if you don't, eh, who really gives a shit?

[TheSanityAnnex]

However, this statement here that I quoted, I must reply to. As someone who has been in your situation before, I gotta tell you- don't count on it. The chances of you getting back together are a lot smaller than you think. 18 months is a seriously long time for two people to be apart and a whole lot that you can't see happening can indeed happen in that time frame. Just a caution from someone a little older, wiser and more experienced (in THIS subject, please don't use this as troll forum fodder as I am being sincere). There is no "plan" to get back together with her. If it happens, it happens. I'm going out there as a single man and that will make life much easier for me. The original plan was to try and make a long distance relationship work when I left for ASU but that would have gone to shit quickly. How in the hell was I supposed to stay faithful for a year with all that fucking tail walking around. That would have driven me nuts. And if I somehow did manage to stay faithful my fucking dick would probably have fallen off from all the jacking off. I think things went sour at the right time for a reason.



So in other words, don't use this as part of your excuse for keeping them. Keep them for the REAL reason you want to, and quit making excuses like this that won't hold water.This wasn't an excuse, I just kind of threw it out there to see if it made a difference. The real reason I want to keep them has already been stated in my first post. Those were some fun times and I'd like to watch them again if I ever got the urge.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Where was this thread?It had to have been in the troll forum. I believe I asked who here besides myself and GiG have been lucky enough to have a chick thats down to film. The thread didn't go over very well.


BTW, what is that in your avatar? I got incredibly wasted at this party last night (threw up 20 times) and saw some black fool that I didnt know wearing a shirt with that logo on it and I thought of you.That is Bob.

And I'm glad to hear your esophogus held up :tu

[polandprzem]

I just want to add that she has the same right to the tapes as you do.

[TheSanityAnnex]

I just want to add that she has the same right to the tapes as you do.

I paid for the tapes. How does she have the same rights to them?

[trueD]

Sanity ..... what happened in Vegas? :smokin

Because you sound WAY too "okay" with this breakup and, speaking from my "female" point of view, your shallowness is waving a big fucking red flag in my face.

But it's all good, and the breakup is probably the best thing for you if you cannot remain faithful at school. That is a hard (pardon the pun) road to hoe (again with the pun). Hahaha. :)

You should be having the time of your life, hope that is true for you when you go to Arizona.

[leemajors]

totally off topic, but by the time i get to arizona is a badass public enemy song, and should be your new theme song.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Because you sound WAY too "okay" with this breakup and, speaking from my "female" point of view, your shallowness is waving a big fucking red flag in my face.
Before I went in to the hospital, things were not going as they should. We were going through a rough patch. When I was admitted to the ER, she stayed for an hour and then left. I was hurt by that and saw that as a red flag of my own. During the week I was in there, her visits seemed a bit cold. During one visit, she stops by for a half an hour the tells me she is leaving to go have dinner with her friends. It was like.............Thanks for stopping by bitch, have fun with your friends while I enjoy my meal through my IV. When I got out of the hospital the next day she tells me it isn't working out. Nice timing huh? I convince her that after four years, we should make a joint effort to work on our relationship. She agrees. A week passes. First words out of her mouth when I walk in the door from Vegas are again, this isn't working out. Again, wonderul timing. Why not tell me before my Vegas trip so I can get some sinning done. My week there by myself kind of gave me time to think shit over and prepare myself for this. If I don't sound to upset its because I'm not. I'm a bit saddened by it, but I'm not upset. Shit happpens for a reason and I'm not going to fight it.

[T Park]

After that story I vote for Keeping the tapes

[TheSanityAnnex]

I have decided I am keeping the tapes. She hasn't made a big fuss about it yet so maybe she's over it. If I do get into another serious relationship with another girl that will be the time I destroy the old tapes and hopefully start making new ones. What can I say, I'm a producer at heart.

[Fillmoe]

Make a copy of them and then call her over and destroy the originals in front of her.

You might get one for the road.

:smokin

was thinking the same thing

[trueD]

Before I went in to the hospital, things were not going as they should. We were going through a rough patch. When I was admitted to the ER, she stayed for an hour and then left. I was hurt by that and saw that as a red flag of my own. During the week I was in there, her visits seemed a bit cold. During one visit, she stops by for a half an hour the tells me she is leaving to go have dinner with her friends. It was like.............Thanks for stopping by bitch, have fun with your friends while I enjoy my meal through my IV. When I got out of the hospital the next day she tells me it isn't working out. Nice timing huh? I convince her that after four years, we should make a joint effort to work on our relationship. She agrees. A week passes. First words out of her mouth when I walk in the door from Vegas are again, this isn't working out. Again, wonderul timing. Why not tell me before my Vegas trip so I can get some sinning done. My week there by myself kind of gave me time to think shit over and prepare myself for this. If I don't sound to upset its because I'm not. I'm a bit saddened by it, but I'm not upset. Shit happpens for a reason and I'm not going to fight it.that SUCKS royally. Sorry if you felt you had to 'splain all that by my provocation. And you're right, shit happens for a reason but four years is a lot of time. I couldn't be sorrier.

::FormerMissUSA crawls back into her hole::

[trueD]

P.S. Just remove her head in the tapes, replace with VF's, and you're good to go. :lol

[1Parker1]

Before I went in to the hospital, things were not going as they should. We were going through a rough patch. When I was admitted to the ER, she stayed for an hour and then left. I was hurt by that and saw that as a red flag of my own. During the week I was in there, her visits seemed a bit cold. During one visit, she stops by for a half an hour the tells me she is leaving to go have dinner with her friends. It was like.............Thanks for stopping by bitch, have fun with your friends while I enjoy my meal through my IV. When I got out of the hospital the next day she tells me it isn't working out. Nice timing huh? I convince her that after four years, we should make a joint effort to work on our relationship. She agrees. A week passes. First words out of her mouth when I walk in the door from Vegas are again, this isn't working out. Again, wonderul timing. Why not tell me before my Vegas trip so I can get some sinning done. My week there by myself kind of gave me time to think shit over and prepare myself for this. If I don't sound to upset its because I'm not. I'm a bit saddened by it, but I'm not upset. Shit happpens for a reason and I'm not going to fight it.

Ouch. In that case, screw what she wants. Do whatever you feel like...

[polandprzem]

wtf the story changing?

[Jimcs50]

If she becomes famous, then you can cash in by selling them to the tabloids....put them in a safe deposit box for safe keeping.

Get blank tapes, and smash them up, give her the smashed tapes and tell her they are the ones...she will be none the wiser.

If she does not become famous in next 5 years, then use them to "reminisce" betw girlfriends.

:)

[CavsSuperFan]

This entire thread is rather disturbing & creepy.... (Smash the tapes, Give them to the lady & move on)....

[johngateswhiteley]

I just want to add that she has the same right to the tapes as you do.


exactly.

[Mr Dio]

Thread is 4 pages long so I didn't read all but, have any females told you to keep the tapes & given you the same rights they're giving to the ex?

Do you seriously think these are the only tapes she has ever made?

[Mr Dio]

OK, post a pic of her clothed & I'll tell you to keep them or not. :lol

[TheSanityAnnex]

Do you seriously think these are the only tapes she has ever made?Yeah. Seriously.

[Mr Dio]

:lol Video Virgin.

I'll buy that for a $1....No wait!, make that a penny.

[midgetonadonkey]

Mr Dio is wise.

[TheSanityAnnex]

:lol Video Virgin.

I'll buy that for a $1....No wait!, make that a penny.

I was with her since whe was 20. She is now 24. It took me two years to just convince her to make a video in the first place.

[TheSanityAnnex]

:lol

You dick.
I knew you had these and were bound to post them. You should see the ones I'm not allowed to post :wow

[50 cent]

Make copies and then copies of the copies.

I still have a badass homemade video of me and my ex gf and I told her to dream the fuck on when we broke up and she wanted it.

She got over it and probably forgot about it. Now, if that bitch would just become famous, I'd be rich because she was ridiculously hot.

[TheSanityAnnex]

:lmao now that she is your ex, i felt the urge to post them haha
I was going to go through all of her modeling pics and post them here too, but I'm not that much of a dick.........















































yet.:lol

[DirkAB]

Wow, I haven't been on the board much lately, great thread Annex. It is a really a legit question I think, but I think you made the right decision to keep them. Since you obviously have no intentions of using them for evil purposes I think it is more than fair that you keep them, even if you have to do it in a shady way. Copy them onto your computer and destroy the originals in front of her, that way you can compress them with WinRaR and password protect them like somebody suggested, plus you'll have them in digital form and that way the video quality will always be good. I wish I had video of myself with a few of my exgirlfriends, it would be nice to take a little trip down memory lane every once in a while.