Best place to meet single women in SA?

[Man of Steel]

After being out of the dating loop for a while, I now find myself back in the hunt again.

Too old to hang out in clubs that I used to when I was in my twenties, I am now totally lost as to best places to go now to meet eligible single women.

Can anyone shed any light on this?

[T-Pain]

your never too old to go out to the clubs

[Sapphire]

No, don't be the creepy old guy. Let the young ones have the clubs. They'll be old soon enough.

Get a lab puppy! Walk him often. Watch the magic!

Take up a new hobby, or go to some adult education classes in the evening--such as cooking or wine-tasting. (Northside just sent out a catalog full of classes) I would think there are lots of women there.

Good luck, life is too short to be spent alone. :toast

[Beno Udrih]

You're never to old to club. I'm sure there's some clubs out there for the older crowd. But I'm young and only know of the ones for the younger crowd. Getting a puppy is gay. Well it's gay if you only use it to pick up chicks.

[Sapphire]

You're never to old to club. I'm sure there's some clubs out there for the older crowd. But I'm young and only know of the ones for the younger crowd. Getting a puppy is gay. Well it's gay if you only use it to pick up chicks.

Ths Mickey Mouse Club does not really count.

[ploto]

You're never to old to club. I'm sure there's some clubs out there for the older crowd.
Nothing like having the young hot ones hit on you...

[florige]

your never too old to go out to the clubs


Thats the same thing I was thinking. I've seen older guys get alot of play in the clubs from the girls my age.

[bendmz]

what side of town you at ?
you want small, medium, or large ?
you want cheap or expensive ?
you want classy or trashy ?
Cattlemans always a place to start..... :drunk

[Beno Udrih]

Ths Mickey Mouse Club does not really count.
Oh... I see what you did there. You tried to make a joke. Cool, good for you man.

[Beno Udrih]

Nothing like having the young hot ones hit on you...
Speaking of which. How you doing? :eyebrows

[Beno Udrih]

Thats the same thing I was thinking. I've seen older guys get alot of play in the clubs from the girls my age.
:tu

[florige]

If I were an older dude, I probably wouldn't be up dancing all around with the younger cats, but I def would be chilling at the bar checking out the scenery. :smokin

[TheSanityAnnex]

Get some male enhancement pills. Walk around with a hard-on.

[katyon6th]

Get some male enhancement pills. Walk around with a hard-on.

That's not attractive. That's more disturbing than anything.

And I'm not a prude.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Prude.

[CuckingFunt]

That's not attractive. That's more disturbing than anything.
This is fact.

[Beno Udrih]

Get some male enhancement pills. Walk around with a hard-on.
This is actually a technique used by the Dinka clan.

[Twisted_Dawg]

Not sure what your age is, but if you are 40 or older-----DON'T WORRY ABOUT A THING WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN. Assuming you have a job, some teeth and half ass decent looking, you will have them flocking to you. All the women in this age group will tell you there is an ACUTE shortage of decent men.

Get to the gym, loose a few LB's, buy some decent clothes, get a decent car (even used), swallow a handful of confidence pills...and sit back and watch the line form.
Remember at your age...you hold all the chips.

[jman3000]

whatever you do... just walk around and "give out the vibe" ... itll work.

[to21]

Get some male enhancement pills. Walk around with a hard-on.
:lmao


That's not attractive. That's more disturbing than anything.

And I'm not a prude.
This doesn't work everytime?
BTW, ur a prude.

[fatsack]

the local WIC office.

[ploto]

Speaking of which. How you doing? :eyebrows
Kako ste?

[TuckingFwat]

I've always appreciated when men have approached me in coffee shops or bookstores. Im more inclined to date them rather than some guy trying to dance up on me in a club.

[TDMVPDPOY]

spurs gtg is the place to meet chicks.............................with dicks

[BigBeezie]

After being out of the dating loop for a while, I now find myself back in the hunt again.

Too old to hang out in clubs that I used to when I was in my twenties, I am now totally lost as to best places to go now to meet eligible single women.

Can anyone shed any light on this?

I don't know how true this is... But, I have heard the best places to meet single women are gay and lesbian bars.

The women go to these bars for the dance music and cheap drinks supposedly. I have yet to hang-out at a gay bar though...

[CuckingFunt]

I don't know how true this is... But, I have heard the best places to meet single women are gay and lesbian bars.

The women go to these bars for the dance music and cheap drinks supposedly. I have yet to hang-out at a gay bar though...:wtf

If you're in a gay bar, the women you meet will probably think you're gay. And if you're in a lesbian bar, the women you meet most likely won't be interested.

[Shelly]

Have you tried online dating?

[BigBeezie]

:wtf

If you're in a gay bar, the women you meet will probably think you're gay. And if you're in a lesbian bar, the women you meet most likely won't be interested.

I am actually friends with a couple of lesbians. From what I understand, they hangout with a lot of single STRAIGHT women at the bars they go to. So much for your theory... :toast

[Melmart1]

I am actually friends with a couple of lesbians. From what I understand, they hangout with a lot of single STRAIGHT women at the bars they go to. So much for your theory... :toast
Well, I know a few lesbians and they hang out with straight friends at straight bars and lesbian friends at lesbian bars. It's like two separate circles. So much for your theory ... :rolleyes

Either way, it doesn't matter. If he is looking for gf material, a straight girl who hangs out at lesbian bars if probably not it. Because if she was looking for a boyfriend, she would be at STRAIGHT bars, yes?

[T Park]

:lol

to help with his answer ill ask this then


What are some good, SINGLES bars in San Antonio.

:)

[angel_luv]

They should have a singles section at the Spurs game- a place where single people can buy tickets and sit regularly. Consolidate, instead of having a few singles here and a few singles there- never to meet.

How great would it be to go to a sports event and know that all the people seated near you are available.
Sounds like a night on the town to me.
:toast

[scott]

Freetail Brewing Co. in about 7 months.

[angel_luv]

Freetail Brewing Co. in about 7 months.


That's right! I'm excited about my free slice of pizza. I remember. :)

[CuckingFunt]

I am actually friends with a couple of lesbians. From what I understand, they hangout with a lot of single STRAIGHT women at the bars they go to. So much for your theory... :toastThe straight women who hang out at lesbian and/or gay bars are usually doing so as a way to avoid the hassle of being hit on by drunken straight guys.

But, thank you for enlightening me on gay and lesbian bar culture. I appreciate it.

[ducks]

online is best

[Das Texan]

Ya what is a cool place to meet cool singles, well aside from Spurstalk.

[Shelly]

Scoot can have a Singles night once a month.

Do they have that 5 minute dating thing here?

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

<-----Church.

[FromWayDowntown]

Freetail Brewing Co. in about 7 months.

Is the tail really free?

[scott]

Or you could try here:

http://spurstalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=76762

???

[scott]

Is the tail really free?

After a couple pints of imperial IPA, you'll probably think so. ;)

[Lady Marmalade]

I am not sure there is a best place to meet someone. I would suggest the best thing to do is not to go looking for something and when you are not looking you will find something special.

[MrChug]

I am not sure there is a best place to meet someone. I would suggest the best thing to do is not to go looking for something and when you are not looking you will find something special.

She's absurdly right. The craziest part is that women observe and recognize when someone is happy in their current situation. Smile. It gets attention. Attractive or not. I'm not the most attractive thing nor the youngest thing in the world but have been considered the envy of my younger friends and I love my life. Just be confident in who you are and whether it's a coffe shop or Barnes N Nobles or fucking Jack N the Box, you can find happiness. It has to start with you though my man.

[BigBeezie]

The straight women who hang out at lesbian and/or gay bars are usually doing so as a way to avoid the hassle of being hit on by drunken straight guys.

But, thank you for enlightening me on gay and lesbian bar culture. I appreciate it.

Pfft... They are usually doing so because they're confused.

I'm here to help. Just PM me next time.

[Beno Udrih]

She's absurdly right. The craziest part is that women observe and recognize when someone is happy in their current situation. Smile. It gets attention. Attractive or not. I'm not the most attractive thing nor the youngest thing in the world but have been considered the envy of my younger friends and I love my life. Just be confident in who you are and whether it's a coffe shop or Barnes N Nobles or fucking Jack N the Box, you can find happiness. It has to start with you though my man.
Word. Thats also why I think getting a dog just for the purpose of getting women was gay. You want a lady to like you for who you are. If you carry your self in a positive/confident way, you won't need to go out and look for tail. You'll attract the chicks any where you go. :smokin

[flipcritic]

I'm not religious.... but seriously... Church is a good place to meet nice young ladies.

Seriously!

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

Take up a new hobby, or go to some adult education classes in the evening--such as cooking or wine-tasting. (Northside just sent out a catalog full of classes) I would think there are lots of women there.

Good luck, life is too short to be spent alone. :toast

This is a very good idea, and language classes are another good one - 80%+ women.

The other way to go is internet dating. Yes, it sounds sad, but really it's not. It's just a proxy for meeting people, and you get to take a good look at their interests and who they are first. Internet dating profiles can sometimes tell you a lot about a person. The key is to be choosy and only go on dates with women who really match up with you in many respects.

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

They should have a singles section at the Spurs game- a place where single people can buy tickets and sit regularly. Consolidate, instead of having a few singles here and a few singles there- never to meet.

How great would it be to go to a sports event and know that all the people seated near you are available.
Sounds like a night on the town to me.
:toast

Fantastic idea! Nice one, luv.

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

She's absurdly right. The craziest part is that women observe and recognize when someone is happy in their current situation. Smile. It gets attention. Attractive or not. I'm not the most attractive thing nor the youngest thing in the world but have been considered the envy of my younger friends and I love my life. Just be confident in who you are and whether it's a coffe shop or Barnes N Nobles or fucking Jack N the Box, you can find happiness. It has to start with you though my man.

Hmmmm, sure they say these things come to you when you are happy with yourself and not looking, but I call bullshit. I've been very happy with myself for years, and I am a confident person, but women NEVER come up to me. It might be that I'm 6'7" (which seems to freak a lot of people out - I wish they'd just get over it), or that I put out some sort of vibe I don't know about, but I've always had to put in the effort to meet women.

I guess what you said works for some but not others.

[mrsmaalox]

They should have a singles section at the Spurs game- a place where single people can buy tickets and sit regularly. Consolidate, instead of having a few singles here and a few singles there- never to meet.

How great would it be to go to a sports event and know that all the people seated near you are available.
Sounds like a night on the town to me.
:toast
Very good idea! Also I see alot of single people at concerts and theatre shows. Rock concerts I think are more conducive to meeting people. Hell, even I have met single men there----and I'm always there with my husband! :lol

[George Gervin's Afro]

the grocery store... ok I saw that on happy Days.. Fonzi told Richie, Ralph mouth, and Potsi that he met chicks in the grocery store..

[ATRAIN]

Thats the same thing I was thinking. I've seen older guys get alot of play in the clubs from the girls my age.


arent girls your age old too ? LOL

[BigBeezie]

Hmmmm, sure they say these things come to you when you are happy with yourself and not looking, but I call bullshit. I've been very happy with myself for years, and I am a confident person, but women NEVER come up to me. It might be that I'm 6'7" (which seems to freak a lot of people out - I wish they'd just get over it), or that I put out some sort of vibe I don't know about, but I've always had to put in the effort to meet women.

I guess what you said works for some but not others.

Hey, how tall are you again?

[TheZackAttack!]

Guys should never ask, "where is a good place to meet women?" That means you lack confidence and it doesn't matter where the women are because you are not going to approach them in the first place son.....I should take you on as my padawan learner.

[SpursWoman]

Hmmmm, sure they say these things come to you when you are happy with yourself and not looking, but I call bullshit. I guess what you said works for some but not others.


I've always met people when I was the least interested in doing so.

*shrugs*



I guess it depends on what kind of woman you're looking for to be able to figure out where to find her. :spin

[ploto]

Church is a good place to meet nice young ladies.

Seriously!
Yes, but there aren't any nice young men there! :lol JK

It reminded me of a joke from a sit com where the father tells the daughter how he wants her to date only nice boys that will respect her and treat her properly, and she says- "But, Dad, I thought you wanted me to date Catholic boys."

Yes, I can say it-I'm Catholic.

[Sapphire]

Word. Thats also why I think getting a dog just for the purpose of getting women was gay. You want a lady to like you for who you are. If you carry your self in a positive/confident way, you won't need to go out and look for tail. You'll attract the chicks any where you go. :smokin

And I think it's gay to not offer any suggestions at all. He originally stated from the get-go that he is too old to hang out in the clubs, so I offered some alternatives. You haven't offered shit. That's gay. :rolleyes

[Beno Udrih]

And I think it's gay to not offer any suggestions at all. He originally stated from the get-go that he is too old to hang out in the clubs, so I offered some alternatives. You haven't offered shit. That's gay. :rolleyes
:lol WGAF what I say. I'm a freaking troll!

[Shelly]

the grocery store... ok I saw that on happy Days.. Fonzi told Richie, Ralph mouth, and Potsi that he met chicks in the grocery store..

:lol I think some grocery stores do have 'singles night'

[Sapphire]

:lol WGAF what I say. I'm a freaking troll!

Well then, :flipoff

:lol

[ploto]

:lol I think some grocery stores do have 'singles night'
Wasn't there a story about some Wal Marts having singles nights? No, thank you.

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

I've always met people when I was the least interested in doing so.

*shrugs*

I guess it depends on what kind of woman you're looking for to be able to figure out where to find her. :spin

If only it were that easy!

Anyway, I have found one I'm very serious about, so no complaints here. I just hope her feelings are developing in the same direction...

[Nbadan]

Dating is a numbers game and the most active get the rewards. for instance, you go out and meet 100 women in a week, at clubs, universities, while working-out, getting coffee, where-ever, maybe 10 will want to and are free to go out with you...that's how you get started....

[Melmart1]

Dating is a numbers game and the most active get the rewards. for instance, you go out and meet 100 women in a week, at clubs, universities, while working-out, getting coffee, where-ever, maybe 10 will want to and are free to go out with you...that's how you get started....
I dunno, maybe its just me but there is something very cold and unfeeling about this post, turning it into a 'game' and playing the numbers. It seems kind of like the opposite approach I would take to dating.

Sure, the most active might get the most "rewards" but they might also get a Valtrex prescription, too.

[CuckingFunt]

I dunno, maybe its just me but there is something very cold and unfeeling about this post, turning it into a 'game' and playing the numbers. It seems kind of like the opposite approach I would take to dating.

Sure, the most active might get the most "rewards" but they might also get a Valtrex prescription, too.It's not just you. The game/conquest aspect is one of the reasons I hate being single. As others have mentioned, my best dating experiences have been with people that I met naturally when neither of us were specifically hunting.

[ATRAIN]

I dunno, maybe its just me but there is something very cold and unfeeling about this post, turning it into a 'game' and playing the numbers. It seems kind of like the opposite approach I would take to dating.

Sure, the most active might get the most "rewards" but they might also get a Valtrex prescription, too.


Don't you have a prescription?

[Melmart1]

Don't you have a prescription?
Nah, I borrow off of Jessica Alba.

[ATRAIN]

Nah, I borrow off of Jessica Alba.


BS SHE IS CLEAN DAMMIT!!!

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

Dating is a numbers game and the most active get the rewards. for instance, you go out and meet 100 women in a week, at clubs, universities, while working-out, getting coffee, where-ever, maybe 10 will want to and are free to go out with you...that's how you get started....

That's what I reckon dan, rather than the "give up and don't care" approach.

However, each tactic works for different people, and there is definitely something to the idea that you give out different vibes when "trying" to meet someone as against "not caring". Thus the 9/10 failure rate in your eg above.

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

I dunno, maybe its just me but there is something very cold and unfeeling about this post, turning it into a 'game' and playing the numbers. It seems kind of like the opposite approach I would take to dating.

Sure, the most active might get the most "rewards" but they might also get a Valtrex prescription, too.

I really don't think he meant it like that. He meant that you have to be active, PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE, in order to meet a whole bunch of women because it's hard to find one you are interested in without doing that. Maybe I'm misinterpreting him, but I think he's more commenting about likelihood of finding success, that is chemistry with the right person, unless you are actively social with the opposite sex.

Spurswoman has contrasted that with the "actively suppress your desire to meet someone" approach which does work for some people.

[Melmart1]

I really don't think he meant it like that. He meant that you have to be active, PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE, in order to meet a whole bunch of women because it's hard to find one you are interested in without doing that. Maybe I'm misinterpreting him, but I think he's more commenting about likelihood of finding success, that is chemistry with the right person, unless you are actively social with the opposite sex.

Spurswoman has contrasted that with the "actively suppress your desire to meet someone" approach which does work for some people.
See, I think you got SW wrong. I don't think she actively suppressed anything, I believe what she is saying is that when you aren't looking, it just happens. That has almost always been the case for me, relationships have pretty much sprung out of nowhere, and never from a club or a bar when people are actively pursuing these things.

I might have gotten NBADAN wrong, but something tells me I didn't. Just his overall personality on the site and what I gather about him makes me think he really does see it as a numbers 'game' which is rather callous, imho.

[Sunshine]

Ace Cash America on welfare check day.

[to21]

Hit up on the hoes at work.

[Nbadan]

I might have gotten NBADAN wrong, but something tells me I didn't. Just his overall personality on the site and what I gather about him makes me think he really does see it as a numbers 'game' which is rather callous, imho

Nah, I did mean what rough said....you could take the passive approach like SW, and if you are as witty and pretty as SW, you could afford too...but good looking women don't just fall into most normal looking guys laps....you have to be proactive...so while some women may not like 'over-aggressive men', some women do....they percieve it as confidence and that can be very attractive to some women....unless he's a total womanizer...but if he looks like Mario Lopez, they'll live with it....

[Melmart1]

Mario Lopez? :vomit: He is not attractive at all.

[Nbadan]

That's what I reckon dan, rather than the "give up and don't care" approach.

However, each tactic works for different people, and there is definitely something to the idea that you give out different vibes when "trying" to meet someone as against "not caring". Thus the 9/10 failure rate in your eg above.

that was just a theorethical rate, the point was that the more women you meet, the increased likely-hood of meeting women who are attracted to you...and I get what you mean about the 'vibes', but that's a part of making a woman feel comfortable around you in the first 5 minutes - the time it takes most women to decide whether you're a potential partner or not....

[RuffnReadyOzStyle]

that was just a theorethical rate, the point was that the more women you meet, the increased likely-hood of meeting women who are attracted to you...and I get what you mean about the 'vibes', but that's a part of making a woman feel comfortable around you in the first 5 minutes - the time it takes most women to decide whether you're a potential partner or not....

Yeah, I got that about the rate being hypothetical, but it is a good point - 1/10 women might be willing to date you, but then how many of that 1/10 will you be interested in? In other words, to some extent dating is a numbers game simply because it is so rare to meet someone where the attraction is mutual, at least if you are picky like I am. I don't see the point of being in a relationship for the sake of it, only if I really genuinely dig the other person, so I have to meet a lot of women just to find a 'possible'.

Interestingly, I pretty much know whether a woman is a potential partner within the first 15 minutes too.

Melmart - yeah, I used the wrong words in "actively suppressing", I meant what you said. I get it that some people can "not look" and it just happens, but that has never been the way of things in my life (except maybe in Okinawa, where I walked off the plane and basically into the arms of my girlfriend there).

[TheSanityAnnex]

I like using nbadan's approach for getting laid. For a serious relationship though, those usually come when I least expect them.

[SpursWoman]

See, I think you got SW wrong. I don't think she actively suppressed anything, I believe what she is saying is that when you aren't looking, it just happens. That has almost always been the case for me, relationships have pretty much sprung out of nowhere, and never from a club or a bar when people are actively pursuing these things.


:tu

I've never been one of those people that have to be with someone to be happy. You don't have to be part of a couple to get laid when you want to. :lol

I met my ex-husband at a club I had no desire to go to, but my best friend conned me into it. Surprisingly, she's still my best friend. :lol

[CosmicCowboy]

The Salvation Army has a womens shelter right down the street from my office. That looks like such a target rich environment even TPark could probably score there :lol