When nothing seems to help...

[Dex]

...I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before."

[tp2021]

great quote. i believe it was Lao Tzu who said "A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step." Less applicable perhaps, but we have to go through these losses to reach the end of our journey.