Is she just depressed and will be ok?
It's hard for me too because I miss her. I miss laughing together, being happy together. It's been almost 2 weeks now.
I really want to fix it
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Is she just depressed and will be ok?
It's hard for me too because I miss her. I miss laughing together, being happy together. It's been almost 2 weeks now.
I really want to fix it
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You're fucking kidding right?
Please tell me your six year relationship isn't over because of cold pizza.
First of all you have to tell us everything or nothing, there must be something missing because nobody breaks up a six year relationship because it took 25 extra minutes to heat up pizza.
Where exactly did she go to heat up the pizza?
Also, you have to understand that shit happens, sometimes you go to take a piss and realize some shit needs to come out too and it takes longer, same thing with anything else, she got a call and was on the phone with her mother, get the fuck over it and realize the world doesn't revolve around you, you're far too old to have that type of attitude, you should have been comforting her and supporting her while she was upset over arguing with her mother.
Either that or she's banging other guys already...
She's depressed. You can't fix it, or help, other than getting her to seek some counseling. She needs therapy and possibly pharmaceuticals.
6 years and 8 months in jeopardy because of one fight over cold pizza and a 25 minute time discrepancy?
Suck it up and admit to being narcissist and an asshole and apologize for saying you lost faith in her because she was 25 minutes late.Quote:
You're fucking kidding right?
Okay let's see if I've got this right. This entire "problem" happened because she was going to take 20 minutes to warm up some pizza, to which you told her you lost faith in her and now she's depressed? If that's all there really is to it then my advice is "don't worry everything will be just fine". You are a bit narcissistic and she has no self-esteem: It's a match made in heaven :tu
I don't agree at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by mrsmaalox
Oh I know! I suppose I shouldn't be so sarcastic about matters concerning people's feelings, but if that really is exactly how this all went down, then I'm just wanting to point out that the issues in the relationship are far too pathological to be addressed by anyone other than a professional.Quote:
Originally Posted by PM5K
I agree. And she says she has no energy, which I believe is a symptom of depression.Quote:
Originally Posted by exstatic
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Originally Posted by PM5K
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Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
You know..some people prefer to reheat pizza in the oven not the microwave (crust doesn't harden up when using the oven)..so 20-25 minutes is actually not enough time to reheat pizza. Your girl lied to you...that is the problem.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
This whole thing sounds odd. Is there any chance she is seeing someone else on the side? It sure has some of the characteristics.
If this is legit there is obviously something seriously wrong. She probably isn't in love with u anymore but is using u as a security blanket because she's too afraid to end it and be alone. Do yourself a favor - end it and move on. Learn some game and how to meet and date women off cold approaches in your every day life. You'll be a lot happier in the long run.
.........yo holmes to bel air
Oh man Timvp won this thread and no one has acknowledged it. Well done sir.
You're an idiot. The fuck are you getting all bent out of shape for a 25 minute delay? You lost faith in her? Give me a break. I hope she leaves your ass for being a jackass.
by the way, there is no ambiguity here. You're the one in the wrong. Apologize. Period.
before I got thru the first paragraph, I thought "this can't be real...".
when my wife are settled in to watch a rental DVD, sometimes she gets up and says she needs to do something real quick...
I don't see her for another 45min. or so... :sleep
if she's thinking that she can't make you happy is it perhaps because you've debased her many a times? is that when she tries to hurt ya? for her to feel a sudden anxiousness and overly sensitive to your remarks. nobody likes to feel like everything they do is wrong. does it seem like she's taking a step back to re-evaluate the relationship? if that IS the way she feels and given the information in the post maybe you should take a step back and look at the ways you've wronged her, if any, and sincerely make amends. that is, not fake it and stay the same "jackass." and if she can't take comfort in the person she's been with for 6 years after having an argument with her mother, I can't imagine who she's going to turn to....
Buddy, if after six years you guys are going thru simple shit like this,seems to me someone is sampling the "MENU".....outside.....:lmao
Wow no wonder so many guys are in miserable relationships. Lots of BS in here
I went to the site you got your story from this one is better!
Really hurt and heart broken.?
My heart is really broken i was with girl for 9 months and i am inlove with her and we broke up.I dont get it.We been fighting and everything. Last week we got back together and she broke up with me mins later for no reason. she told me she really does love me. two days ago i was really heart broken in school so one of my friends thats a girl text her and said what going on and that i really heart broken and stuff, the girl asked my ex if she loves me my ex said yes. the girl asked my ex if we are going to get back together she said idk, the girl asked me ask if shes moving on and my ex said no. i dont get it so when i got home i called her, my ex cussed me out said why u having random people texting me with her people and then my ex said i was going to get back with u today but forget it. i was really sad she says im too much drama.so we talked alittle more and she told me one of the guys she was talking to got mad at her bc all she does is talk about me .yesterday morning i called her before school and we talked and she was like last night i was on the phone till 12 am and i was talking to some guy and he asked me out and she said yes and when she said that it really broke my heart. so then i was like what about me she didnt answer. then i asked her if she thinks we will ever be together again and she said yes. then i asked her whats her feelings for me and she said i cant tell u bc she said its not right to the guys shes dating now bc she told me how would i like it if we was still together and she was talking to her ex and talking about how they could get back together and stuff and about there feeling for each other. she said it isnt right, then she said she wants to take advantage of different oppertuires, she said she wants to be with me but not now in the future, then she was like wheather or not i love my new guy or not im not going to go behide his back. please help me bc sometime i feel like killing myself bc i cant take this why would a girl do this to me. and then she tells me she had a dream we saw other people and it got her to appreatite me more, please help me what should i do. i mean the girl wanted to marry me wanted me to lose herself to me she wanted for me to get her pregant. i really do love her and its breaking my heart for whats happening. i was thinking about calling her and kicking her out of my life today but idk if she would miss me, the girl that helped me with this said girls dont relieze what they have untill they lose it and she was saying my ex maybe is trying to hold on to me bc she knows that i can always treat her right she also says my ex thinks im always gonna be here for her. Her parents just got seperated about a week ago shes having a hard time in school. I dont know what to do. She said the reason why she said yes to the boy is bc shes not tired of me but the problems and drama i have right now but i dont get why she would say that when she has drama herself.She said shes tired of getting involved with my drama she said prove to me that i can change and i want to be with her, I dont get it she told me a couple days ago that she does really love me. Can somebody help me. she also said she had a dream that we dated other people and it help her apperiate me more and yesterday she brought that up again, Do u think we will be together again do u think she still loves me?? please help me what u think i should do. Do u think we are really over
How can someone who claims their is no God and man evolved from the monkey, and has said that human and feelings are bullshit, they are fake man made emotions,....... have a relationship, isn't that a contradiction?
Sometimes threads are so stupid they shouldn't be replied to....
Fuck! What did I do?
its clear the end is near. hit it as many times as you can before its over
order a fresh pizza for delivery, you cheap bastard. lol
And take pictures...Quote:
Originally Posted by iggypop123
Dammit, timvp beat me to it.
What a narcissist....as long as you keep thinking in terms of you, you, you ..your never gonna be able to understand what she may be going through....sometimes couples need time apart to truly learn to appreciate each other...
:king
You might want to talk with someone who understands the nature of depression about it. If it's a real depression then she surely needs professional help... a depression can end very very bad. If she is just sad, talk to her about her feelings, her life, her friends and work and whatever ... but remember, this is about her not about you.
just pray about it miamiheat.
Do you really want to know if she is the girl for you?
then try this..........
I'm sure a very intense Atheist like yourself has a few planet of the apes movies on dvd just watch a few with her while you wrap a banana skin around your cock as you explain to her their is no God. Trust me it works every time!
If she can somehow still give you head as you go into detail about how Jesus was just another homeless asshole who wanted his 15 minutes of fame and all the time the banana skin is still intact? you better marry this bioch before she meets Angel_luv :toast
Dude, you told her you lost faith in her because she was going to heat up a pizza.
Is it any wonder why she is depressed?
Being in a relationship with a bitch, or an asshole, will always cause you to be depressed, especially if you are trying to have some sort of positive relationship.
Thing is, some people don't consider it love unless it is accompanied by depression and misery.
Look on the brightside, if she wanted a healthy relationship, she wouldn't have stayed with you this long...probably the worst thing you could do now is stop being fucked in the head.
Most relationships are fucked up...you are fucked up, she is fucked up. Truth is, very few people actually want an unfucked up relationship, especially when they are young...
I see absolutely nothing to worry about.
And trust me, you are not one of those people in an unfucked up relationship...in an unfucked up relationship you would not tell someone you lost faith in them because they went to heat up a pizza.
As others have pointed out...you are somewhat narcissistic and she probably wants to change you, break through your impenetrable wall of self absorption, or win your approval, to prove her own self worth...I really don't think you have much to worry about. By all means, continue being fucked in the head, it is the way of the world.
Who knew Whottt would not spot a cut n paste job! look at the original post he forgot to edit one of the :
hows mr.ed doing...hit that horse now and quit
its probably some other reason why she is so depressed and she havnt told you, i dont believe its because of the pizza thing, it cant be. maybe give her some spacE?
thats one of the biggest dick head things I've ever heard to say to a woman.
You lost faith in her because of a pizza?
You need to be hit in the back of the head with a fucking 2x4.
The OP sounds like a joke, but on the off-chance, it's not, she sounds like she wants to break up with you but doesn't have the nerve to do it because she's depressed and is afraid of being lonely. If little shit like this causes a fight after 6 years, you'll never be happy with her. And, yeah, you sound like a jerk.
The OP is a lot stupider than I thought.
as other said, you're a really fucked up person. you told her you lost faith in her because of a pizza, really?
Nobody's perfect.Quote:
Originally Posted by mouse
Buy her a dildo.
his askn advice on a relationship involving his donkey
http://www.gift-clan.de/picture_libr...a%20donkey.jpg
i know why now, instead of wasting time, hit it and quit it
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Are you sure?Quote:
Originally Posted by whottt
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It sounds like:
1) She is suffering from depression
and
2) She is suffering from depression because she has spent the last six years in a relationship with a controlling, emotionally abusive narcissist.
He is a dildo...obviously that's not the solution.Quote:
Originally Posted by jack sommerset
Hmmm...someone doesn't understand my political views and thinks that they do.Quote:
Originally Posted by mouse
Don’t listen to them, I lose faith in bitches too when they take more than 7 minutes to heat up food. They are leaving out that she took another 20-25 minutes to talk to her mom. Look dude bitches be trippin’ but the good thing is you got one with low self esteem. I say tag her while she is depressed and crying and use her tears as lube then stick it in her pooper. She needs to realize that you were ready to watch McGuyver or Alf or whatever and that women were put here to take care of our needs. If she had any brains in her head she would have had that pizza heated up and ready to go before the show was coming on.
Either way I think you need to take some time out and spend some time alone. Go to your parents place and chill in their basement and play guitar hero. Then after awhile just for the fun of it steal your parents’ van and come back and yell and cuss at them. Then after they kick you out scratch up your face with your fingernails and use the blood as lube to whack off with. Trust me it works every time.
I apologized DURING the problem that night.
yup
You emo puss. You need to drop shit that happened when you were teenagers. Do you use that double dildo thing when you two have sex for both your vaginas?
And you guys are... what? 15? 16 years old? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Edit: You're 26? Holy crap. Ask her why she's depressed. Straight up. If she can't figure it out, then it's probably not you. If she delays, it's probably you.
I'd just act like everything is normal til she gets out of the funk.
She lost my trust about 5-6 years ago. We have been trying to work at it since. It's gotten a lot better.Quote:
Originally Posted by sonic21
And right now, I am ready to give her all my trust 100% again and just move on and be happy.
I just need her to be happy and normal again, and I'll take care of the rest.
yup, I already know now I just have to give her all my trust again and be NORMAL again.Quote:
Originally Posted by I. Hustle
Just remember, when she met me, I trusted her 100%.
Anyway, I told her all this, everything will be fine. but she is still sad.
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Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Sounds like yall got married too young. I was with my first wife from the time she was 16yrs old till we divorced when she was 30yrs old. She started being depressed years into our marriage..............said it was her, not me. She didnt even have a good reason why she was unhappy. Well, she ended up having an affair. I think she was curious what it was like to date other people, since we were together just about her whole teen and adult life. Basically there is nothing you can do to make your wife feel better. She probably feels like she missed out on a chunk of her life. At least IMHO. :depressed
If she lost your trust, there's no point in being together. How long are you going to wait to make her gain it back?Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Maybe she's depressed because, 6 years after the fact, you're still bringing up the fact you don't trust her over a FUCKING PIZZA.
If you “trust her 100%” then why bring that dumb shit up again? You sound like a f’n 15 year old. You two must be really fat.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Mark this thread, because it is the one time I am wholeheartedly agreeing with whottt.Quote:
Originally Posted by whottt
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Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
I already told her. It's done, it's finished. Everyone makes mistakes, she made them, I made them. I am ready to trust her 100% again and preserve our happiness at all times. She knows I never lie, but she just feels sad. I don't know what to do, I don't want to lose our relationship, and she says she doesn't want to lose me either. She says she loves me but just feels empty.
Good point I Hustle. Who puts percentages on trust? :) "Let's see baby... your trust percentage is rising! Good news! However, that is somewhat countered by your slight dip in "BJ Enthusiasm" and nosedive in "Spontaneous Flashing". You'll have to work on those two before I can bump up your overall rating."Quote:
Originally Posted by I. Hustle
If she was gone for an hour, I would hardly call that disappearing-especially since you stated she devotes the majority of her time to you. I.E. " we do everything together."
And as she has never cheated on you- I don't know on what grounds you justify your severe suspicion.
Last night I went out shopping by myself. I didn't think to leave a note ( I am not used to being married and having someone who is interested in my daily coming and goings). I was not home when my husband came home from work, and actually didn't get home until after eight pm.
The second I walked in the door, my husband said, " Hey honey! Great to see you. " All he wanted to know was if I had enjoyed my shopping and if I was happy with what I had bought.
Give your girl friend some space. Grown ups like that. You are her friend and companion- not her parent, baby sitter, or jail keeper.
Futhermore, forgiving a person means not holding the past against them and moving forward as if no wrong was done to you.
If you cannot do both of those things, then you are not ready to forgive someone and cannot say that you have- in my opinion.
You didn't read my posts. I trusted her 100% when she met me. She did some stupid things to lose my trust. I am ready NOW to move on permanently from it, she just needs to be normal again.Quote:
Originally Posted by I. Hustle
When I wanted to break up with her for the stupid things she did to lose my trust, she cried her eyes out and even wanted to kill herself. She said it was me or nobody. She NEVER wants anyone else. She doesn't even want to think about it.
When I saw how much she loved me, that made me want to try again. Ok, you just made a mistake then. Let's make everything okay. And I always gave her a chance and I was normal again and we'd be happy again.
Why won't she give me that chance now?
Here's what you need to practice MiamiHeat.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
It's called "active listening". Listen to what she says, then repeat them back to her until she makes her feelings more clear.
For instance, if she says, "I feel empty," you respond back with something like, "What do you mean by feeling empty? Can you describe it for me?"
Then, if she explains it, determine if there is some pattern to it. Is it when she thinks about a certain thing? Certain times of the year? When DOESN'T she feel that way? Etc etc
Also, realize that NO couple is happy all the time. Every couple gets into fights, feels shitty, depressed, etc etc occasionally. That's normal, and healthy unless you're a robot. So don't try to force your relationship onto some pedestal, because it might be exacerbating the issue. (She may be depressed because not only does she feel she hasn't earned your love/trust, but the fact that she's depressed may lead her to think she's not being a good wife BECAUSE she's depressed, and depress her further.)
You have great points, but she was the one who started this whole spending all of our time together. I enjoy it too, but I used to ask her, "Do you want to spend less time together and go do other things?" and she said no. She loves being with me and it makes her happy. The only thing she wanted in life is to be with me and build a life together.Quote:
Originally Posted by angel_luv
I got used to it.
But yeah, I am ready to completely forgive and just trust her again, I told her this. But she is just sad.
What do I do
So, back when MiamiHeat was a teenager, his girlfriend had a male friend he didn't like. He insisted she stop talking to him. To normal people, this would be considered manipulative and controlling. To him, this is a matter of "trust."
So, apparently he tried to break up with ther, but when she demonstrated her desperation to keep him, he relented. The desperation is what he wants. He wants someone to control. He calls this "love."
In the meantime, he continues to hold those pathetically minor transgressions from the past over her head, as a means to control her, so that she is always seeking his ever-elusive "trust."
He demands to know where she is at all times. Any unaccounted time causes a "problem."
And no, he doesn't yell. The psychopath never yells. But she can never tell whether the change in his voice means somehow she upset him again over some inconsequntial thing, or if he's just tired.
So now, after years of systematic psychological destruction at his hands, she's empty.
It appears that maybe, just maybe, she is close to breaking free from this six-year nightmare.
And understandably, the psychopath MiamiHeat is feeling a sense of loss. She meets his needs. If she is not there, his needs are not being met. This is bad. Why can she not understand that he needs his needs met? It's been 14 days!
Yeesh, that's a warning sign and a half. You should never let someone blackmail you into love.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
You should probably talk about counseling with her, but after you do that active listening I mentioned above.
It's obvious she is trying to break up with you and doesn't have the nerve to straight up tell you. You've had her under lock and key for a half dozen years and she wants her freedom. You've used a couple of minor incidents (which were born from your insecurities) to torture her ever since.
She realized that with you she'll be emotionally manipulated forever. You call her a homebody but that's likely your doing. She'd probably like to get out of the house and go to a club at least once in her life. :rolleyes You've controlled her whole life and she's trying to send you not-so-subtle hints that she doesn't want to continue.
Your only hope is to give her space to live. I'm talking a couple years. You need to grow up and she needs to explore the world. At that point perhaps she will circle around back to you. Maybe not. But if you keep going down this road you are going to make her even more miserable and this episode will repeat itself more and more often.
Cut the cord, hope for the best and in the mean time figure out what makes you so insecure so that you can stop that type of behavior in the future.
Good luck.
Wow ES, :tuQuote:
Originally Posted by Extra Stout
:lol This shit is great and has the potential to end up a classic.
If you really want it to work out then let another dude hit it. She needs to know what another cawk feels like. Maybe when they are done he will stick it in your vaj too.
The guy was talking crap about me to her and her friends (who told me what was saying) and then he was trying to get her to spend more time with him. When I would show up to hang out and be with my girl, he would get up and say "Oh great, gotta go then. Bye -insert my girl name-"Quote:
Originally Posted by Extra Stout
It's an old trick. He was hurting our relationship and belittling me. Everyone thought the same. I asked her to stop seeing him, and the first thing she did was go tell him what I said and then hang out again.
Yeah, that hurts.
The second thing she did was sit on another guy's lap while talking to me on the phone. She said she was going to look for a picture to show me, but instead, she was talking to some guy and play fighting with him. Didn't even tell me, was doing it behind my back. While she was 'looking for the picture', she was instead play fighting with this guy behind my back, didn't even mention she was hanging out with him, and was sitting on his lap.
That hurts too.
this thread shouldnt have gone pass 2 pages, wtf
That's not even close. I would give my life for her. He doesn't know what he's saying.Quote:
Originally Posted by mrsmaalox
That's not TRUE AT ALL. I asked her MANY TIMES over the years, "we spend so much time together, do you want to spend a little less time together?"Quote:
Originally Posted by timvp
and she would be sad I even ASKED. When -I- ask time to go do something else, like play a video game or something, do you know what she does? She just sits next to me and wants to watch me and participate with me. SHE is the one who decided for herself. We decide EVERYTHING -TOGETHER-
You got it all wrong, man.
Really?Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Realllllly?
Dude, that's not a "trick". That's him leaving his friend, because you're the boyfriend and he probably didn't want to watch you two suck face. And if it's her friend, then is it understandable why she wanted to hang out with him again?
And she sat on a guy's lap? Ok, not the GREATEST of things to find out, but certainly not some sort of devastating info, whereby all us board posters are going to say, "SHE DID WHAT?!!? THE HARLOT!"
Here's a reality check for you MiamiHeat: everyone lies. They even lie to people they love. And sometimes, when they're lying, they do bad things. The question isn't whether or not they do it. It's A) how bad/often do they do it and B) how much are you willing to take?
:lmao This can't be real! I do have an opinion about high school sweeties staying togther. They never seem to grow up, more often then not. This one couple I know have been together since they were 15. The stupid ass shit they argue about reminds me of this guy's story. BREAK UP ALREADY. Seriously what are the chances you hook up with someone in high school and you actually have that much in common 5-10-15 years later. It happens once in blue moon. My parents divorce when I was 5. That was over 30 years ago. Both are good people but never in my wildest dreams could I see them as a couple let alone a married couple. They are completly different.Quote:
Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
This whole talk about "my heart" is fucking LAME. Something a child would say and he brings it up over a pizza. That house must be insane. This guy is trying to make her feel like he has honest reasons to feel this way about his heart and all and she has to try her best to take him serious. He is laying down a major guilt trip on her and making her feel bad about something she did 6 years ago. That is fucking whack. If this dude really cared about her and I am dead serious he would break up with her. Not talk to her. Let her go. Move on with her life. Perhaps he will grow up. Could you imagine the next girlfriend he gets and brings up his fucking heart over a pizza or if she had guy friends! . That right there is a high school mentality. No guy friends. This guy has to be insecure on one of the highest levels. HAHAHAHAHA
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Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
I think your girlfriend ( wife?) has spent so much of her life trying to please you ( and I am not saying this is all your fault) that she has no clue what she wants or likes.
You've known her a long time- what is your gf good at? what does she enjoy?
Your girlfriend needs to build some self esteem. Take every opportunity you can to praise and compliment her. Do not do this insincerely. It will get old for you and will not help her.
When your wife looks pretty tell her specifically what you like about her outfit, hair or makeup.
When she makes you dinner, thank her.
Ask about her job. Ask for her input regarding things you are contemplating.
If your gf has a hobby, encourage her pursuit of it. If (for example) she likes to paint- buy her art supplies as a no - occasion present. Ask her if she would like to enroll in an art class. Make it a point to hang up some of her paintings in your home and or/ office.
In short, make it clear to your gf that she matters to you.
Talk is cheap. If you love her, show her.
Here is a great idea. Buy this book and YOU follow it in regards to your gf. I bet you get great results.
http://thelovedarebook.com/
I wish you and your gf all the best.
She might be a little messed up in the head too. Threatening to kill yourself is someone is about to leave you is not a sign of strong mental health, after all.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
:lol
I was that other guy. We were play fighting because she gave me wood while she wiggled on my lap. She loves you though dude. She even asked if she could yell your name out while I gave it to her. I said sure because I am sensitive and understanding but once we got going she said it was impossible to pretend like I was you because I was a lot bigger. She does love you though dude.
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Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
I don't.
Grow the fuck up!Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
And let her go. Now. She feels empty because you can no longer give her what she needs.
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Originally Posted by angel_luv
She loves drawing and is studying to be an artist, computer animation. Her father pressured her into being a doctor like he is, and she asked for my opinion. I asked her what is her passion in life? She said art, she loves drawing and all that. I told her that's what she should do.
Wow... ther'es a book that tells you this stuff? I would figure it's pretty f'ing obvious, even for a heathen like me. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by angel_luv
Shoot, I buy flowers for my wife for no reason at times. I mean, it helps to remind her why she chose me over all the other guys out there. :)
I've tried to get my wife a hobby, (forgive the expression) good lord knows I've tried, but nothing has stuck. I keep trying though... it means extra video game time alone for me. ;)
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Originally Posted by angel_luv
I am appreciative of everything. I say thank you, i appreciate you.
"Love, can you tell me the time please?" "Thank you"
I think it's like I've been told, she is just sad and needs time because it affected her so much. I really have to stop overreacting and completely trust her again.
We know she likes to warm up pizza. Maybe he should get her one of these.Quote:
Originally Posted by angel_luv
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Yes, you do. And hell, if you're not, maybe you should be. Maybe when your wife fucks up next time, you could say, "Hey, no big deal" instead of "Well this is another reminder of why I can't trust you."Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
I edited my post. DO NOT HANG her! Hang up her art ONLY!
That was a really bad typo I originally made! :oops :oops
When -I- ask time to go do something else, like play a video game or something, do you know what she does? She just sits next to me and wants to watch me and participate with me. SHE is the one who decided for herself. We decide EVERYTHING -TOGETHER-
When I want time for myself, I ask her, and she doesn't even do anything on her own. She just wants to be with me. ALL. THE. TIME. This is not my doing, I am not some psyco control guy. I talk about everything with her. My only mistake has been overreacting all these years because of the trust problem. That's it. and it finally got to her and now she's sad.
That's not showing appreciation. That's just saying thank you.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Appreciation would be like, making dinner for her for no reason. Hell, even making a sandwich with a kind note in the fridge. Getting her flowers. Taking her out to eat at a fancy place on a Tuesday. Getting her a dress for said fancy place. Massaging her feet. Cleaning the dishes. Renting her favorite movie even if you hate it.
That's appreciation.
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Originally Posted by angel_luv
:lmao
Maybe she needs new batteries for her rascal.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
It sounds like your wife is blessed to have you. Good man!Quote:
Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
If I wasn't married to the best husband ever, I'd have good reason to think you might be him. :)
I do that shit and I'm a moron. This guy thinks saying thank you is romantic and appreciative?! :lolQuote:
Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
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Originally Posted by LnGrrrR
I made dinner for her, she said I cook better than the 5 star restaurant we went to. We laughed because of the portion size. I do everything for her, man. We both are caring people.
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Originally Posted by I. Hustle
I wish Miami Heat's gf was a Poster here so I could hear her side of the story from her.
Why don't you get to try playing video games? How about coming up with an activity that you both do solo but together? For instance, if she likes drawing, then you could have a little competition to draw the same object.Quote:
Originally Posted by MiamiHeat
Also, just because she's deciding something on her own doesn't mean it's necessarily 'healthy'. In fact, it's not. She should WANT to have alone time, and that she doesn't is a red flag.
timeout now lets not discount all possibilitiesQuote:
Originally Posted by angel_luv