Why are kids brainwashed into believing that they can do anything. . .?

[Jacob1983]

as long as they work hard and do their best? Why do elders, adults, teachers, and parents brainwash kids into believing that they can do anything as long as they work hard and do their best? What's the logic behind this? I think telling kids that they can do anything or be anything as long as they work hard and do their best will give them a rude awakening later in life. It gives kids an unrealistic outlook on life and gives them false hope if you ask me. I just don't get get why parents lie to their kids like that. It doesn't make sense. Not everyone gets to be what they wanted to be. Your life doesn't always turn like you had imagined it to be.

[Slydragon]

You are correct, we should just give them a gun and tell them life will suck and to end it.



WTF are you going to tell a kid then? Give them some kind of hope, I'll tell my daughter she can go to Saturn if she wanted to. Will that happen? Not really but as a kid she can dream and fantasize about it.

Same with Santa and tooth fairy because once you know they are fake the magics gone and Xmas doesn't feel the same. Let me worry about the bills now and let her be a child for as long as she can, Because now a days it's seems cool to act older and that's why we have punk ass 10 + years old doing stupid instead of playing in the yard.

[mavs>spurs2]

what the is the OP's problem?

[marini martini]

as long as they work hard and do their best? Why do elders, adults, teachers, and parents brainwash kids into believing that they can do anything as long as they work hard and do their best? What's the logic behind this? I think telling kids that they can do anything or be anything as long as they work hard and do their best will give them a rude awakening later in life. It gives kids an unrealistic outlook on life and gives them false hope if you ask me. I just don't get get why parents lie to their kids like that. It doesn't make sense. Not everyone gets to be what they wanted to be. Your life doesn't always turn like you had imagined it to be.

mouse's "I need a place for me and Sophie to live" thread!

You are correct, we should just give them a gun and tell them life will suck and to end it.



WTF are you going to tell a kid then? Give them some kind of hope, I'll tell my daughter she can go to Saturn if she wanted to. Will that happen? Not really but as a kid she can dream and fantasize about it.

Same with Santa and tooth fairy because once you know they are fake the magics gone and Xmas doesn't feel the same. Let me worry about the bills now and let her be a child for as long as she can, Because now a days it's seems cool to act older and that's why we have punk ass 10 + years old doing stupid instead of playing in the yard.

WoW! Awesome Blossom post!!!

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[Jacob1983]

I usually tell kids to enjoy their youth because once they become adults, the fun ends. How does lying to kids about their futures give them hope? It seems like it would give them false hope.

[sabar]

Because its true. If everyone settled and adult life sucked, then I would think that suicides wouldn't be so low among adults (meanwhile its the 3rd leading cause of death in kids).

[Rogue]

to the drastic contrary what worries me more is kids being instilled the thought that they cannot do anything. you need to set a barrier for kids to prevent them doing anything that may cause serious troubles, while within the tolerated radium they should be free and encouraged to do whatever they enjoy IMHO.

[Shaolin-Style]

Because parents believe in their kids and want to encourage them and make them happy and hopeful about their future. They'll come to the realization if their dreams were too extraordinary eventually, and won't think bad of their parents for that. Probably helps them psychologically that their parents believe they can do something that is really hard to do rather than the ops view that kids should shoot low.

[timvp]

And I thought that the Spurs forum was emo right now . . .

[angel_luv]

I think the only time parents fail their kids is to tell the kids they can do anything WITHOUT teaching them skills necessary to succeed- skills like people skills, diligence, committment, respect etc.

A kid should understand that to acheive greatness like David Robinson they will need to have the great character and have the work ethic that David Robinson has.
And kids should know that if they do develop great character and have a great work ethic, that anything IS possible for them.

I also believe that kids need to be raised in the wisdom and knowledge of God because it is through God that all things are possible.

[clambake]

maybe your own, personal situation is a bit off "target".

[I. Hustle]

I usually tell kids to enjoy their youth because once they become adults, the fun ends. How does lying to kids about their futures give them hope? It seems like it would give them false hope.

You must not have kids. You will never understand until you look at YOUR child and see all the potential in the world. When you look into her/his eyes and think to yourself, wow if she/he puts her mind to it they CAN do anything. It's as much for us as it is for them. Why in the world would someone look at their child and say "yeah she's going to be stuck working at WalMart"? You would have to be a moron to not want the very best for your child and help them to believe that if they work hard and do their best that they can do anything.
If it wasn't true then we wouldn't have presidents, astronauts, pro ball players, etc.
So eff you, you emo asshole that is upset because you didn't become a cowboy that worked on the moon as a space policeman.

[Bigzax]

i guess somebody just saw fightclub for the first time...

[I. Hustle]

i guess somebody just saw fightclub for the first time...

[clambake]

i wonder if david robinson had anything else going for him.

[coyotes_geek]

as long as they work hard and do their best? Why do elders, adults, teachers, and parents brainwash kids into believing that they can do anything as long as they work hard and do their best? What's the logic behind this? I think telling kids that they can do anything or be anything as long as they work hard and do their best will give them a rude awakening later in life. It gives kids an unrealistic outlook on life and gives them false hope if you ask me. I just don't get get why parents lie to their kids like that. It doesn't make sense. Not everyone gets to be what they wanted to be. Your life doesn't always turn like you had imagined it to be.

Because not all kids grow up to be bitter little es upset at the world for not giving them some bliss filled life they feel en led to have. Believe it or not, some kids actually take that message of being able to do anything and turn it into a fulfilling adulthood.

[panic giraffe]

because its true.

hard-work and dedication will make you achieve anything. you just have to be focused enough to get what you want. unless you're born rich, nothing will come easy, just keep trying.

but i think better advise for the young ones is, do what makes you happy and the money will follow, don't just take an hourly and hope that it'll lead to bigger and better things.that it is soul sucking. find something that makes you happy, pursue it, and even if you have to start at the bottom, the endgame will be worth it.

now give me a hug.

[Bigzax]

i disagree...

just advising to 'find something that will make you happy' theory leads to alot of college kids graduating with useless art degrees...

find something that your good at that will get you paid.

then find your hobby that will make you happy in your spare time.


work is work...that's why they call it work.

[panic giraffe]

my point is, its hard to be motivated to get good at something unless you like what you do.
if you love what you do, then its not only your paycheck, but hobby as well.

and the useless art degrees happen because theres no voice of reason to say, well don't forget to double major in business management or you'll be a broke artist....

[The Gemini Method]

I only had my parents give me positive reimbursement growing up, and I managed to avoid the pratfalls my fellow neighborhood friends did. I achieved so much though, on the back of doubters saying I wouldn't finish high school or go to college that I believe that sometimes praise isn't the only thing a kid needs to be motivated by. Also, I understand that not many can take a negative and make it into a positive. I can still remember my first counselor telling me that I wouldn't make it in college and that I should really consider learning a trade or joining the military. While I think both those ideas are noble ideas to believe in, I don't like the fact that someone who is supposed to inspire you to reach new heights, would stoop to the level of discrediting the possibilities of a young mind.

[ashbeeigh]

I just think the guy needs to get laid.

[angel_luv]

I only had my parents give me positive reimbursement growing up, and I managed to avoid the pratfalls my fellow neighborhood friends did. I achieved so much though, on the back of doubters saying I wouldn't finish high school or go to college that I believe that sometimes praise isn't the only thing a kid needs to be motivated by. Also, I understand that not many can take a negative and make it into a positive. I can still remember my first counselor telling me that I wouldn't make it in college and that I should really consider learning a trade or joining the military. While I think both those ideas are noble ideas to believe in, I don't like the fact that someone who is supposed to inspire you to reach new heights, would stoop to the level of discrediting the possibilities of a young mind.

It is likely you are able to take negatives and turn them into positives because your parents were such positive influences in your life.
Because your parents built a strong foundation of self confidence in your life, you don't get shaken up or broken down by haters.

Good for them and good for you!

[z0sa]

Kids should just be forced into their father's trade medieval style

[JoeChalupa]

Some work at what they can or have to provide for their families but I'd much rather be doing something at I enjoy than have to do something I don't just for the money but it doesn't always work out that way.
My oldest loves choir and all but she knows that she probably may not find a job that pays her what she wants in that field but I still encourage her in all her choir activities but she hasn't found her true calling yet and probably won't for a few years yet.
I still tell both my girls that they should go for what they want but that yeah, life has setbacks but not to give up.

[baseline bum]

Seriously, I think people's brains are all programmed differently from birth. For example, I have always been pretty good picking up mathematical things and drawing diagrams and such to make things understandable, but no matter how hard I try, I suck at picking up a language. By far, the hardest I ever studied in school was when I took an "easy" Spanish class, and I only got a B+ out of it. So you can be anything with hard work is a bit ridiculous to me, but not you can be something with hard work.