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Dude, it is time to move on. Once you forgive her, she will do it again... GUARANTEED !!!
So my girlfriend, after a year, calls me and says "We need to talk, I have something important to say."
Now what has ever been good when someone says that?
She told me the night before she had made out with some guy named Ian for a few minutes. I asked her why, and she said, "apart of me always wanted to kiss him."
Then she decides to tell me she had sex with 2 guys before me. She said it was lust, nothing more.
I honestly am so blown away, I don't know what to do with this ing girl.
She won't stop crying and calling me, wanting me back. I told her we are on break til' I figure all of this out in my head. Thing is, what is there to figure out? Sorry to bring this personal issue here, but come on, how ed up is that? Any suggestions or can anyone relate? , anything right now would be better than this.
Dude, it is time to move on. Once you forgive her, she will do it again... GUARANTEED !!!
If this is for real....
The sex thing, as long as it wasn't in while you were in a relationship then you really have no grounds to say anything. What happend before she met you is of no consequence to your relationship.
The make out thing is an issue, but I'm not sure how much of one it is to you. It's no where near as bad as full blown sex or even something close to that, and under certain cir stances it wouldn't even be a big deal at all.
I don't know, it would take a lot more than making out to end a good relationship. Emphasis on good.
I dont doubt it. Figures the first girl I decide to let inside me, does this. Lol I used to hate love, and all that crap that goes with it but she got to me. Serves me right I guess.
tell her you were only in it for the sex and you never cared for her
and that yes, she does need to go on a diet
and that yes, you were looking at that chick in starbuck's the other day
and that yes, you really weren't listening to her just now
that should do the trick
man. at least you know now.
you have to decide if you love this woman.
this is going to hurt for a long while but at least she seems sorry for it.
had she told you she was a virgin?
and what is to stop her from future lustful desires?
trust is the main factor, but the fact may be that the woman you loved in your heart is now dead.
it's a bad thing to pedestal girls we fall for, but it's unavoidable at times.
i'd run if i was you.
not so much for her having sex before you, but she shouldn't be kissing anybody else if she loves you.
if she's really worth it to you, and you think there's a chance, then maybe you give one more chance with your guard up.
oh, and if it's your thing, you have a free pass to sew some oats of your own on the side now, just keep it discreet.
^ What Manny said, but if shes always wanted to kiss this guy, and carried it out, shes ing shady. So it dosn't matter that im attatched to someone, i wanted to kiss him so here is my chance. Obviously she disregarded your feelings, and her reasoning behind why she did it was because i always wanted to?
I'd end it...my two cents.
I asked her when we were dating if she was with anyone before. She said no. Now because of that it makes so many regular conversations a lie.
It makes me wonder what else she might not be telling me but she swears thats it. Its hard enough for me to trust people seeing whats happend in my life. But I really dont know if I can love her the same. This is a completely new girl.
kiddo, women lie
and they wonder why men get tired of their
And men dont lie? Come on now.
" .....I don't know what to do with this in' girl "
Don't know the whole story. (two sides y'know)
But in my past experiences, leave it brother.
It's over. There's nothing to think about.
Your probably young enough to find some one else.
Lord knows she has.
Hope that doesn't sound too callous. Just my objective point of view.
Women vote with their feet. She's making tracks to this other guy. It's over, and don't call her back in a few weeks when you're feeling down. Go find a good girl who will treat you with respect (and vice versa, takes two to tango).
Don't try to let a girl get "inside" you, women are insecure enough as is and don't need to deal with your crap. Better she tells you her insecurities than the other way around. Be a man, and chalk this up to a crappy learning experience.
yeah i love her. she previously said she had been in love with a guy named jakob and was her first. now im her fourth.
nothing would stop her. we all make our own decisions.
ive been feeling like she is dead, since she told me. i think that much is true, but i cant run. i guess im too weak? eh.
ive never lied, cheated, or any of that . i got nothin to sew.
i wish it was that easy. fawk.
she admits to being every bad word i could think of. at least.
You know, I should never have stepped into this episode of "As The Teen World Turns".
Lol Manny i was just wondering how old Brutalis was.
this thread is example a
a fine young upstanding man believed what a woman told him. he treated her well and now look what has happened
then women want to know why their ass is munching on a pint of dreyers and watching desperate housewives episodes on tivo again and again before they hump their pillow and fall to sleep in a fit of despair every weekend
I hear what your saying dude. This guy was some random dude, drunk at a party. She claims she wasnt drunk, just stupid. "Yeah that makes it so much better..."
I wasnt wanting a girl before her, but she got to me. And now I really dont want one unless its her, and she let me beat the out of her...... but not really.
I guess I need to learn how to say goodbye.
Good call. In my personal experience...
If she'll do something once (i.e. making out with Ian), she'll do it twice. And if she banged two guys out of "lust" and told you that she always wanted to kiss Ian, you can guess that the Ian episode might have gone a little further than she told you. I might be wrong, but that's my personal experience.
Learning about a woman's personal/sexual life before you came into it will frustrate you to no end, especially if there's some unsavory element that you don't approve of.
I'd cut ties and find some girl that respects you more. If you decide to forgive her, remember that you are always going to have to keep an eye peeled for her extra-curricular activities. Hope some of this helps, and best of luck to you.
See, this is what happens when people put so much weight on what people do in prior relationships. What happens before you, is just that, before you. I hate when things like "your number" are asked. It's no big deal if it eventualy comes up in a conversation, but what relevence does it have when you're trying to figure out how you feel about someone?
Yeah, I'd be wary of the lieing as well though. But you have to look at things in context.
But I really dont know if I can love her the same. This is a completely new girl.
like i said, that woman/girl is dead now.
the pedestal has crumbled.
now is time for a new beginning, or an end.
if i was going to end it?
i'd hit it a few more times bro, cuz she's gonna really want to make it up to you.
then dump the lying broad.
but if you love her? man...all i can say is it's gonna hurt a while.
Well brutalis it's easier said then done, but what do you expect to gain out of this relationship? Would you able to trust her again? Would she be able to gain it again? I dont know how long you were with this girl, or how serious this relationship was, but if she disregarded all that you had for a measly kiss, then is she really worth it?
It's ultimately your decision, whether you decide to stay with her or leave its gona sting for a while. I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship but trust your gutt on this one.
Then off. I'm 20. Mature and am having a problem. Its life.
You know, I should never have stepped into this episode of "As The Teen World Turns".
Dump her and find someone who doesn't want to kiss others (or worse).
dude its the fact she LIED not that number of guys.
geez..
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