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This wasn't the biggest mistake of your lifeI added it to my phone. Probably the biggest ing mistake I've made in my life up to this point. We text a bit, nothing serious, however we texted.
This was, you moronI finally give in and let her see it.
I sit here with a fresh copy of Madden 09 in my hands ready to play, but i need some kinda help or something...and i figured who else to turn to but the fine folks at spurstalk...
I'm 18 years old. Two days ago me and my gf of 7 months broke up...it kinda came out of nowhere...our relationship was at a standstill point where it didn't seem like we were moving forward at the time, but , i thought it was just a rough patch. so we have this long ass talk about we're going to be best friends, she just doesn't want a bf right now and doesn't want any distractions or obligations (and i was starting to feel the same way) because she's going to Ole Miss in a few weeks and I'm staying here going to a com. college. She goes on and on about she probably won't want a bf until at least half a year but says me and her have a chance later on, but it's not certain.
The same night we break up, me and some other girl start talking on myspace. Nothing more than friendly small talk. She says she has to get off, so she gives me her phone number. I added it to my phone. Probably the biggest ing mistake I've made in my life up to this point. We text a bit, nothing serious, however we texted.
I go hang out at my ex-gf's house cause we're all bff and like that now. So we're watching a movie (Se7ev, weird ass movie btw) and she goes let me see your phone. I'm think to myself, what the for, what does it matter to you. I finally give in and let her see it. After she reads all the texts I guess, she chunks it at me and tells me to get out of her house. By this point, I'm confused as . So I'm halfway to my house and she calls and tells me to come back, we're gonna talk.
As soon as I get out my truck, she pushes me and tells me how she had plans of getting back together with me that night. I'm thinking wow, why would she tell me that when she said she was waiting at least 6 months. We don't see eye to eye on this at all. I couldn't get past that I knew to myself it was nothing more to myself than small talk bull and she's bent on believing that I wanted that girl and I was sneaking behind her back.
While we're having this conversation, she has my phone and is logged onto my myspace account. So basically while she's telling me what a ing asshole I am, she's setting up plans for a date with this girl who I didn't give a about in the first place. Owned, right?
I've had Time of your life on repeat since I got home .There's pretty much no chance we'll get back together, and while I am sad, we're still kinda friends and she says I can call if I want somebody to talk to.
There's probably not any way in we're getting back together, but she says we're still friends and I can call if I need to talk to.
question: Is this just the kind of stuff that happens in life or is it really some kind of life lesson that I'm not getting?
These last 2 days it seems like I've grown up alot. More than I ever did in the last 7 months. Too bad it had to be like this for that to happen.
I know one thing's for sure. Never take something for granted while not taking it seriously at the same time.
Last edited by dirk4mvp; 08-12-2008 at 02:22 AM.
This wasn't the biggest mistake of your lifeI added it to my phone. Probably the biggest ing mistake I've made in my life up to this point. We text a bit, nothing serious, however we texted.
This was, you moronI finally give in and let her see it.
Sounded like you got set up. The chick wanted a clean break before getting her freak on at Ole Miss. Her first attempt wasn't clean enough so she got the other girl involved to give her an out. Sounds like it was executed it pretty well. Props to her
I know you think the two chicks don't know each other but put together the facts that the other girl happened to message you the same night and your girlfriend happened to ask for your phone. The life lesson you should learn is to never underestimate a female's ability to get high tech on dat azz.
Best let her go. If she's breaking up with you before she heads out to college, that 100% means she wants to test out the new waters before she decides whether or not to settle for you.
Good luck and M.O.B.
Beat me to itSounded like you got set up. The chick wanted a clean break before getting her freak on at Ole Miss. Her first attempt wasn't clean enough so she got the other girl involved to give her an out. Sounds like it was executed it pretty well. Props to her
I know you think the two chicks don't know each other but put together the facts that the other girl happened to message you the same night and your girlfriend happened to ask for your phone. The life lesson you should learn is to never underestimate a female's ability to get high tech on dat azz.
Best let her go. If she's breaking up with you before she heads out to college, that 100% means she wants to test out the new waters before she decides whether or not to settle for you.
Good luck and M.O.B.
I messaged the other girl first. And there's no way they coulda known each other. The other girl lives in another town which is like 20 minutes away.Sounded like you got set up. The chick wanted a clean break before getting her freak on at Ole Miss. Her first attempt wasn't clean enough so she got the other girl involved to give her an out. Sounds like it was executed it pretty well. Props to her
I know you think the two chicks don't know each other but put together the facts that the other girl happened to message you the same night and your girlfriend happened to ask for your phone. The life lesson you should learn is to never underestimate a female's ability to get high tech on dat azz.
Best let her go. If she's breaking up with you before she heads out to college, that 100% means she wants to test out the new waters before she decides whether or not to settle for you.
Good luck and M.O.B.
Dude, this is not the place for all that. But I'll try to help...
Your girl is a dumb ass. Why? Because she's going to OLE MISS. Pathetic.
Your girl is a dumb ass. Why? Because she flips about another girl when you guys aren't even together.
You are weak for her. I can tell. You buy into what she says and eat it up. She is playing with you dude. At one point she cared/loved you but it's over for her now. Her saying I need at least 6 months is a load of turtle goop. People say that when they break up. And this whole BFF business will be over as soon as she or you have a new someone to be with. Buhlee dat dude. That's in stone.
I understand 7 months is a good while. But for instance I was with my girl for several years from high school, and I'm 23 now. We broke up April 2007. THAT is distance dude. THAT is longevity. Not 7 months.
It hurts. When you lay your head down at night you think about times you spent with her. The way she looked at you that one time you did that. When she kissed you at the perfect moment you felt in love. ... ... we all went through that. You are 18 years old. And of course the last thing you wanna hear is you are some kid you'll get over it. But I never thought I'd get over my ex, and you know something? It took almost a year, but I did. And right now I am with someone that's 20x better in a few months she ever was in several years. And I realized if we didn't end I would have never met this girl. So understand when to kick rocks. Understand that life is about failing. You will again, and so will I. But realize any bull spit she throws is just that. Bull. Ignore it. You won't, your heart is bleeding for her. So you won't. But try. Realize there is either another guy, or she is not interested, or she is just jealous of the myspace chick. Let it go brother. No song is going to help, no river is going to run deeper than you already feel. So just lay your head down on the pillow, and let that sharp pain in your chest have its way and remember it'll pass. Just let her go and move on. Do not let her back, ever, and give her leverage on you and your heart.
And take the krill's advice from Finding Nemo. SWIM AWAY.
Last edited by Brutalis; 08-12-2008 at 02:38 AM. Reason: i'm 23, not 22, crawfish
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Yep. The girl is playing games as I said before.Sounded like you got set up. The chick wanted a clean break before getting her freak on at Ole Miss. Her first attempt wasn't clean enough so she got the other girl involved to give her an out. Sounds like it was executed it pretty well. Props to her
I know you think the two chicks don't know each other but put together the facts that the other girl happened to message you the same night and your girlfriend happened to ask for your phone. The life lesson you should learn is to never underestimate a female's ability to get high tech on dat azz.
Best let her go. If she's breaking up with you before she heads out to college, that 100% means she wants to test out the new waters before she decides whether or not to settle for you.
Good luck and M.O.B.
However I wouldn't be sold on the chicks knowing each other. Making accusations with no facts can lead to a "Finish Him" move from Mortal Kombat.
Nah, forget it. Yo Homes, to Bel Aire...
Man this digs up so much for me. The things I wish I knew just a year ago..
Bro, you will not win. You will realize a lot as time passes. And each time you realize what you have learned, a year later you will realize again when you thought you knew from the year prior.
I think the answer to your problem lies in the first 16 words of your original post.
"Women...can't live with 'em. Pass the beer nuts." -- Norm Peterson
lmao...there's possible way they knew each other. That's a known fact. I know everybody she knows, she knows everybody I know...well except for that one girl I guess.
Well she knows her now...
Haven't you ever seen "Strangers on a Train"
This is solid stuff.
I'm not gonna lie, I was weak for her. She pretty much had me in the palm of her hand. She told me to jump I asked how high sorta thing. I woke up at 4 in the morning just to sit in line with her to get that stupid ass iphone a few weeks ago. That's just one example.
Combine that with that and the fact that I don't let stuff go easy, it kinda in sucks.
yea she does...she'd be a damn good troll... she was me for a few hours setting up that date with the other girl.
Dude, you're 18. By the time you hit 21, you'll have experienced so much you won't even remember this broad. Let it go...
Fixed that for you. No offense but it's true. We all been there as guys.
Sounds like she is your first love. It's tough. Most dudes don't wanna get all into the personal sensitive easy bake oven stuff but it's alright.
If you want some real advice straight from the gut...
When she texts and calls. When she contacts you. Be yourself. But kill the boyfriend I love her still act. It will be hard, but talk to her as if she is your normal friend. When she notices (and she will) and asks what your deal is (because she will expect and want it), tell her nothing, you are fine. And don't explain. When she says no you're not, tell me, wah wah,.. say look. I am fine. Either accept that or don't call.
It's for the best. In the long run you'll see that. Just don't bottle the feelings or pain, let it out. If your a crying type, then cry. If you like to punch walls and let aggression out, then do it. Just don't bottle it up, and spill your beans on how much you miss her. She subconsciously wants that, and wants to tell you again she doesn't wanna be with you. She only said she wanted to hook back up until she saw those texts just to hurt you. Ignore that. Let what ever's* inside out, and be the man with her. Show her you are some shmuck on Live trying to take you to the red zone on Madden and punch it in for the win. Nah uh. Be the ing man. You'll be amazed how great it feels later.
Yep. He'll remember. But it won't mean .
Dirk take everything in this thread with a grain of salt, if I know one thing it's that all girls are different and people aren't taking this into account. What if she really did realize she loves you and was making a big mistake? Do you feel like she could be the one? equally likely is that what they're saying is true, though.
How's her ass taste?
Women are over-sensitive, crazy es.
Lesson learned.
you act like 20 mins is far?
where do you live? in a small ass country town or what?
it takes 20 mins to go 2 miles up the road to HEB
20 mins...far...
+1
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