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I'm asking this because I'm trying to put sense to my buddy who thinks it's alright for her GF to hang out with her guy friend alone on his guy friends apartment.
Can anyone tell me why the this is acceptable practice nowadays? I can understand if it's a group setting where aquatiances get together and people just chat but I am seeing a lot of BS of people using the " it's just a friend" excuse. I don't know if I'm just old school or whatever but you don't fcking put yourself in a a situation where you can get tempted. IMO, it's disrespectful.
I'm asking this because I'm trying to put sense to my buddy who thinks it's alright for her GF to hang out with her guy friend alone on his guy friends apartment.
I'm asking this because I'm trying to put sense to my buddy who thinks it's alright for her GF to hang out with her guy friend alone on his guy friends apartment.
If you trust everyone involved to be honest with you, then it should be fine. If you don't, then why would you be friends with and/or dating them?
lol @ tempted
If the GF's gonna someone else, it's not because she happens to be in a apartment with a male friend. Might as well lock her at home.
People still think like this?
So you would be fine with your husband chilling at a womans place who is single who you hardly know?
And who said anything about locking someone at home? Making friends is fine and all, but hanging out with a single dude ALONE together is not cool IMO..specially someone you hardly know.
Then your buddy should get to know him if it bothers him (apparently it doesn't). I thought it was implied she's good friends with the other guy.
You make it sound like she can't just go over to any guy's house to , without telling her BF.
In some parts of the world this is a highly punishable offense - to be alone in a room ...
If I knew how he knew her, where they met, the nature of their relationship, etc., sure. I'd be fine with it. I'd probably make an effort to reach out and get to know her myself, but in general I'd have no problem with my husband (or any other hypothetical partner) having his own friends, regardless their gender, sexual iden y, or relationship status.
If my husband (or whomever) just told me he was hanging out with a friend and I didn't find out until later that he spent the day in a single woman's place, then maybe we'd have a problem, because that indicates that something is intentionally being kept from me. But your OP instead implies a situation in which the chick is being up front with her boyfriend about the fact she's hanging out with a male friend. Seems like the kind of thing I'd keep secret if my plans were to cheat.
naw i wouldn't be cool with my girl kickin' with a single hetero male friend, outta here with that.
EDIT: i'd be cool if i knew him but i wouldn't like her alone at his place.
Long term relationships just aren't worth it anymore in my opinion. You're better off just having a series of casual relationships until you're in your late 50's, early 60's and the stage of your life where you NEED a companion is right around the corner.
But to the OP, trust is the base of anything. And if you know you're taking care of business anyways, there's nothing to woryy about. And if something does happen, it. Move on. People aren't incredibly interesting, and they're easy to replace.
you can have all the trust in the world in your girl but that's not going to stop a grown ass man from taking advantage of her if he wants too. if she wants to be friends with another dude, then they need to hang out at a public place or i'm tagging along with her.
there is no reason for her to go to another man's house to hang out.
There's no reason something like that couldn't just as easily happen somewhere else, either.
true but the probability is much higher if she's alone at his place.
The only reason that single men befriend women(single or not) is they're hoping that they'll get a chance to bed them at some point down the road.
Women befriend men because they just want to be friends.
This biological/social truth is why there will always be issue's whenever you have a male/female couple....and other single individuals are brought into the mix as "just a friend."
^ this thread is hilariously funnythe OP trying to hide is own personal issues through a "friend story"
there's so much truth to your view...it's tough navigating the complexities of adult relationships...but no way no how..I hang out with single, committed, and married women....and at the end of the day sexual relations typically progress in a rather straight forward and simple manner...here's an example:
there are some permutations but generally speaking they start with making the woman laugh, some friendly conversations, then a few lunches, then personal problem discussions, maybe small gift exchanges like a card or something else small since it's the small things that count. Then it's just basic hanging out perhaps a quick neck massage...next thing you know some hugs while lookin in each others eyes...then it's on like PAC Man...
I have no female friends that I haven't been intimate with or tried to be intimate with...it's like gravity it all leads to sex
Trill I could hang out with your girl and not try to hit...I'm not a dog...I wouldn't bang my homies girlfriend...(I dont think)
but the reminds me of this song..Sleeping with your friends girl --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvfgbbx85Ro
I understand where you're coming from, but I'm not chasing any woman around just to prevent something from happening that will probably happen anyways. Think about how bad you look doing something like that. The guy then knows you care way too much, and she then feels as if she has the power. Big waste of time. If she knows you don't care, she's then worrying about how you're spending your time, and that's how it has to be. You must maintain psychological power at all times.
Trill I could hang out with your girl and not try to hit...I'm not a dog...I wouldn't bang my homies girlfriend...(I dont think)
but the reminds me of this song..Sleeping with your friends girl --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvfgbbx85Ro
lol fam i feel you. like the saying goes "a man will be a man". you can never fully trust ya gal alone with another dude because if she's attractive, there aint no way in he isn't going to try to . classic track btw, gangsta gibbs made a similar track
you don't have to chase her around. if she doesn't respect that you don't like her going to another man's house alone, dump the bish. besides, the only male companionship your woman should be seeking when she's in a relationship is from her man. if she wants another male POV, she can call her male bestie, her father, uncle brother, etc. but chillin' at another man's house alone??? won't fly on my watch.
If you don't trust the one you are with, then why be with them?
I understand where you're coming from Trill, there was a time when I thought like this. But it isn't worth it because it can happen without your knowledge, so why not have it out in the open. If she's so compelled to do it, it will happen (Going over the guys house to chill). But this then works both ways, so you get to do the same, which then goes back to my statement on why it's really not in any mans interest to have a long term relationship until he needs one.
People love to tell other people what to do.
Yeah, that's not cool. If the guy's not her gay guy buddy, then he should dump her. But your buddy, knowing she'd be alone with a guy at his apartment, gave her the green light to whoever.
I also don't deal with females who have guy "besties".
Nah, that. I trust my girl but it would still mess with my mind tbh.
And if the girl has any history of hoe-ish behavior itll likely resurface. Im not even that old and Ive seen a couple of married women around on their husbands with guy 'friends' any time they were going through a rough patch in their marriage. Id like to hear some expert advice from Blake on this though tbh.
Unless my GF's guy friend is full on gay, then no. That's how people turn into cucks...by letting their guard down tbh. Yeah, if your girl is gonna cheat she is gonna cheat eventually, but what the is the point of allowing her to be put in such a situation?
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