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Tell her you were joking. Then go find a girl who doesn't want to be your friend.
Okay well I finally got the courage to tell that girl ((we will call her "Maria" (not her real name obviously)) how I felt about her. And well, to make a long story short she basically said "I really love you, but only as a friend. You are like the brother I never had and even though I really care about you, I just wanna be friends." Which is okay with me I guess, because she is basically my best friend, but she said she felt we were "getting too close" and needed to "spend less time together." So basically we are just gonna not talk to each other that much.Ouch! I tell ya, that hurt like a MOFO!
I can live not being in a romantic relationship, but not spendoing time with her!?!?! I cant do that! I hope she changes her mind and still wants to spend time together.
How can she say she still wants to be friends, but at the same time say we need to spend less time together? Is that possible? Isnt that like an oxymoron? I dont know, just lettin you guys know that I finally told her. lol
Well, it sucks right now,
Thanks again for all the "advice" and what not.
Later
Tell her you were joking. Then go find a girl who doesn't want to be your friend.
Tell her you were joking. Then go find a girl who doesn't want to be your friend.
yeah, too bad I was dead serious when I told her. Oh well, life goes on, right? She'll come around, like you guys said, if the friendship is that strong, then it will still go on. I just hope all she needs is a lil time to think.
I just cant imagine not having her as a big part of my life!
Dude, that's life. Things don't always go as you wish they would. That same kind of thing has happened to me in the past and it sucks, but you eventually have to move on. Personally, I don't see you remaining as close friends with this girl for much longer.
Problem is, I love her, and she "loves me like a brother" so I couldnt just say " her" as you so nicely put it.
At least now I know (what I already knew) that we cant be "together" but I still want to be friends with her. She is like a sister to me.
We shall see. I still have a little bit of hope that we will still remain friends.
I bet yah with me vbookie dookie that the girl you tried to make a move on is....spurschick?
DRINK UP buddy, nothing beats a few drinks to get away from the rejection
Dude, that's sick.
I'm very sorry it didn't turn out the way you hoped it would, but don't you feel even a little bit better that you aren't just in some twisted state of love-purgatory anymore?
You'll find someone that wants you as more than just a friend, so don't look for her! That's when it happens.
You are the sick one bro, you know what I mean!
Yeah I do feel better that I told her, but I still regret it. I knew that the odds were against it, but oh well. At least I got it off my chest. Now I just hope she comes around. But I dont know what to think. She wants to be friends still, yet she think we need to spend time away from eachother. Hmmm??
I bet yah with me vbookie dookie that the girl you tried to make a move on is....spurschick?
Don't even think of pulling me into this.
The best thing you can do is move on. . .for now.
If you're not around her for awhile she might realize how much you actually mean to her. By hanging around she'll feel smothered and you'll just get more frustrated. Lose-lose situation.
Give her some space and carry a little confident swagger next time you see her. Women like strong, confident men. A little break combined with an at ude change on your part just might show her what she's been missing.
Yeah, thats what I am thinkin. I hope she just needs time.
Move on before she plays you.
Rack 'em.
Sorry, dude! I know it hurts
My advice go listen too sum depress songs like
eric bennett - luv dont luv me
or
craig david - im walking away (since you better walk away from this mess)
you can do better...
Tdmvpdpoy Is Right. Listen To Some Neil Sedaka, Drink A Couple Brews With Your Boys, Then Switch On My Show And Listen To Me, Jim Rome.
Now If You'll Excuse Me, My Blackberry Is Ringing.
What a joke...I hate that line.
"I want a guy that's just like you, but not you."
Its so easy for you guys to say move on and stuff, but you do not know how much a care about this girl. Weve known eachother since we were 10 yrs old. We practically grew up together. I cant just leave! We have shared so much together. I love her. Plus, if she said she still want to remain friends, then she migt just need some time. Well, sorry for babbling and repeating myself, I just need to get it out of my system.
It's not so easy... we've all been there. And there isn't much we can say that is going to make you feel better right now. I know you still want to be friends with her, but you might be better off not seeing her for a while. The only way you're going to heal quicker is to take control of the situation. If she wants to get together "as friends", tell her that you're hurting and you need to take some time away from her. It will be extremely difficult for you, but you may find more clarity if you remove yourself from the situation for a while.
I also experience what you did, i got played like a fool, she told me i only see you as a friend when she was also dating sum other clown while at the same time im tryin to court her, but she was playin mind games, and it ticked me off when she said she only see me as a friend after a few weeks on the phone with her. Shouldve told me earlier so i dont have to waste my precious time and money tryin to court you and look like a clown
And you know what i did after that, went down to my local pub order a few vodkas got drunk, went home, sleep over it, wake up the next day as if nothing happen, just hate the fact that friends close to you know what had happen always bringin it up when friends are dishin out worst story lines too eachother and ur sitting there , i wanna punch this prick in the face for bringin up the subject.
Theres been worst case scenerios in life, life is short, there are ups n downs in life so bare with it and move on.
Now girls show Confused ur ties, Im RICK JAMES biatch...
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, so ya never know.
We've all been there man. Seriously. Everyone here has an unrequited love. She's actually being smart about things, in my opinion. I think she knew before you even told her what you were going to say. People know and notice things of that nature. By giving each other space, you can come to terms with what the relationship is going to be.
I'm not going to blow sunshine up your ass. It may never be what it was before. You may move on and find that much of what you liked about the friendship faded once you moved on. And don't think for one second that you won't move on. Because you can, and you will. But I think it's important to remember that you made your play. Thats important. If you never step up to the plate, you're never going to get what you want. Chances are that she's not going to come around, so I woudln't hold on to much hope. I don't say that to be an asshole, I'm saying that so you don't let people trying to make you feel better turn into false hope. That's not a cynical view, that's experience and realism talking.
The words "I just want to be friends" is something everyone has heard at one point or another and it cuts deep. But it always heals. (Unless you choose to make it a fatal attraction, then I feel bad for her
I think one of the most important things to do at this time is respect her wish for space. Do not smother her. That would be the absolute worst course of action to take.
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