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We all know that he likes kids.
those are tlongs kids arn't they???
We all know that he likes kids.
We all know that he likes kids.
those are tlongs kids arn't they???
Quite possibly
I hope you never, ever, ever have to experience single parenthood....your kids, either for that matter.
Don't think for a minute they *wouldn't notice* not having 2 parents together, or that just because you think you can love them enough for two it somehow makes a difference.
SW, that was her being rebellious.
In China, you would likely be shot for rebelling.
Cute kids.We all know that he likes kids.
someone please put a blazers jersey on one of those...
Cute kids.
Eh...but not a subject I have an easy time finding humorous. Yipee, Feminism!
I guess it wouldn't matter if you have more money than you know what to do with....you can just buy another daddy for your baby when the other one gets tired of sticking around.
I agree and for the record I have nothing but respect for single parents who have no choice but to raise kids on their own. I was raised by a single parent with a Dad who made brief appearances.
Last edited by Flea; 06-21-2005 at 01:31 PM. Reason: bad typing
someone please put a blazers jersey on one of those...
Very handsome kids you got there, tlong.
Yeah I'm there with you. I think people should be married (more than 9 months) before they have kids.
We were married 5 years before my 1st was born.
And for the record I'm not too hot on sleeping around awhole lot either. I've actually only ever been with my husband.
We were married 4 years. We were having to much fun.
Then my clock started ticking......damn clock!
I am only 26 and look forward to accomplishing certain things before marriage or kids. Finishing school is a #1 priority. Marriage will come after that. And then kids, after several years of just being newlyweds.We were married 4 years. We were having to much fun.
Then my clock started ticking......damn clock!
I wouldnt open the door for nothing.
Seriously, is there anything better in this world than a preggo?
I'm not saying that single parenthood is easy by any means, but some women with the resources to pull it off are choosing it, and that's their deal. If someone with the finances to do it wants to or feels that's better than marrying the man that got them pregnant then that's their choice. That's not being rebellious - that's trying to have the child's best interests in mind. If the father isn't going to be a good father or husband, then that's not the best decision to stay there. Most of my friends that have had parents that "stayed together for the kids" have said that it's just detrimental to every relationship there in the house.
Having a functional two parent household is almost always better than one parent - but no one should put a kid through dysfunction just because they're old-fashioned.
No, it's not....that's in the MOTHER'S best interest.That's not being rebellious - that's trying to have the child's best interests in mind.
How is making sure you're in a good relationship with someone BEFORE you get pregnant dysfunctional?but no one should put a kid through dysfunction just because they're old-fashioned
So you're saying that a mother trapped in a loveless and dysfunctional relationship is better off staying there for the kids? As if the kids can't tell the parents are miserable, which in turn isn't going to have positive effects on the kids. Really, though, what I'm calling into question are the men that aren't really fit to be good fathers - if the guy isn't going to be a stand up dad or husband, then why is it in the child's best interest for him to be there? Is it better to grow up always having a single mom, or having to go through a divorce?
I thought the subject of this discussion was getting knocked up BEFORE you got married...like what apparently is going on with Bennifer Part Deux
I agree...some situations the kids are far better off. But in the spirit of the original train of thought...you're more likely to find this out about a potentially less-than-stellar father (or mother) if you are together--married or otherwise--a pretty decent amount of time before you actually bring kids into the picture.As if the kids can't tell the parents are miserable, which in turn isn't going to have positive effects on the kids. Really, though, what I'm calling into question are the men that aren't really fit to be good fathers - if the guy isn't going to be a stand up dad or husband, then why is it in the child's best interest for him to be there? Is it better to grow up always having a single mom, or having to go through a divorce?
You can't do much once things have changed over the long run.
I'm not here to advocate single parenthood over two parents - and I didn't really jump into this to talk about what people "should have done in the first place". We can't look at all situations for what people "should have done" - if it happens, it happens - this isn't something you can "do over" - and we're not all the same, we all make different choices. I'm advocating the right to choose single parenthood over something that the woman may feel as a disadvantageous alternative for her and her child.
This is not about staying in a dysfunctional relationship, it's about making the choice to have a child without the presence of a father. Whenever a woman decides to have a child WITHOUT a man in the child's life she is thinking about satisfying her own whims. There is a big difference between choosing to do that and leaving an abusive man or a marriage that is unhealthy for a woman and her children.
Yes there are plenty of wonderful single parent families and there are plenty of dysfunctional two parent families. My problem is with choices people make without regard to the life they are bringing into this world.
i always liked 'ben-lo' better than 'bennifer'...but chris rock ed that up...
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