I made a thread a few weeks ago stating I liked my best friends sister and wanted to know how to go about things. Well I went through all those hurdles and she said yes when I asked her out.
So tonight was our first "date". Things were going well when I went by to pick her up. It was a smooth ride to the theater. Then as we get to the ticket booth, she tells me "I will pay for the tickets and you can pay for the Popcorn and Soda. That is how me and my ex-boyfriend did it on our first date."
That came out of nowhere, but I just rolled with it. Then once we get to our theater I ask her where she would like to sit. She replies "Let's sit at the top. That is where me and my ex boyfriend sat at." Okay so now it is starting to piss me off just a little bit.
We get there about 10-15 minutes before the previews begin. Soon after we sit down she starts texting. She directly tells me that she is texting her ex saying that she is out with me. At that point, that was strike 3 for me but I played it cool. I told her I am getting a refill on my drink and getting more butter on the popcorn.
I get my refill and get more butter and then head for the exits and go towards my car where I drive away leaving her sorry ass at the theater by herself with no transportation. She calls me about 20-25 minutes later wondering where I am. I tell her to enjoy the movie and to find her own ride home. She even had the audacity to ask me "What did I do?". I told her "I am not even going to answer that" and hung up on her. From there I head back to my apartment and play some madden 10 and drinking a few beers to get this evening out of my head.
It gets worse. The brother comes to my apartment, tells my our friendship is over, and then leaves.This evening was quite a dramatic one and it was a double wammy for me. I knew of the consequences though. Just sucks to lose a best friend due to his sister's actions.
wow, haha. Thats pretty crazy. I feel ya on the date-but knowing it was one of your good friends sisters you probably should've just told her straight up. I mean just go be like "hey obviously your not over you ex so we can watch the movie as friends or ill take you home and we can be done with this." Im sure you'll work out the with your friend, but obviously the girl wasn't ready to be seeing people-tho you probably shouldn't of ditched without talking-i mean what did you think your friend would do? ha, control that temper, and think about before doing it, ha.
If someone pisses you off, you run away, then they call to ask you why you left and what they did wrong, not giving them an answer is extremely rude and passive-aggressive. She was in the wrong in that she's obviously playing games with the ex-, but you behaved worse. The adult thing to do was to explain to her why you were annoyed.
She knew why I was annoyed unless she is really that stupid to figure it out. You don't constantly bring up your ex boyfriend to someone who is interested in you during a "date". That is an indirect way of saying "I am not over my ex so I am going to vent to a guy who is interested in me." Could I have handled the situation better? Probably.
Wow! Now she just texted me saying how sorry she is and that she ed up.
a bit of a move by everyone involved. except the brother. anything short of a cracked skull seems pretty reasonable.
move sounds about right for me.
Eh if this does truly end up costing me my friendship with her brother, so be it. That is life. You make and lose friends during a lifespan.
You treat em like , they love you. I would pass on that one.
I don't blame you bostonguy. Girls who claim to be over their ex's yet won't shut the up about them cause they're obviously not over their ex's are some of the most annoying people ever.....if your friend doesn't see that, then him for not being a real man.
I'm horrible at this.
You must suck as a best friend.
1) You ask his sister out
2) You ditch her like an 8th grader
3) You do not seem to care at all about your friendship and are willing to end it over a girl (who was his sister that you ditched) that you went on 1 terrible date with.
Yup, you are a terrible friend. Or you use the term "best friend" too loosely.
If bostonguy's best friend is unable to recognize his sister acted inappropriately as well, that's not bostonguy's problem. Grant he shouldn't have ditched her, she shouldn't be using a guy she doesn't even know as a means to get back at her ex-boyfriend.
Ok, but what does that have to do with how bostonguy ditched his "best friends" sister? If the date failed, fine.
But out of respect to your "best friend", you do not treat someone like that.
Also, what kind of a guy would ditch his "best friends" sister and then when the brother naturally gets pissed, just act like you don't care.
If I made a mistake (which bostonguy did), I would own up to it and apologize. I wouldn't act like I don't GAF and ruin a friendship over 1 date when I was the one who messed up.
Also, the friend probably did recognize his sister messed up. If bostonguy would have dropped her off and ended the date early, the guy probably would not be pissed.
He was pissed bc he showed a blatant lack of respect towards their friendship by treating the sister like this. I am sure he would have told his sister she was rude and told his best friend sorry if the guy handled it better.
But the same disrespect he showed is probably bc the guy sucks as a friend.
Girl is on the rebound and you could have been the lucky winner of rebound sex. There's a lot of pent up sex energy waiting to be released right there!
They both messed up IMHO. I agree with what you're saying, I just think his friend needs to recognize he jumped through hoops only to realize this woman was using his to get back at her ex, when people are angry they make impulsive, bad decisions.
I agree. The sister acted poorly and bostonguy made it worse. I was just more stunned with how he was willing to let his best friend go over this one terrible date.
I value my best friends and pride myself on being a good friend. My best friends and I are like brothers.
Rolling with that comment was by far your worst mistake, brah. You should have told her that was gonna be different from now on, that you would pay for everything because you wanted her to have a good time and not worry about the cost of the whole entertainment package. You rolled over like a though, so I don't blame her for comparing you to her ex cuz he was prolly a too. And movies on a first date? When you can't even talk to the girl?
Set up the rules of the game, don't let the woman impose the rules on you. "My ex-boyfriend this and that..." whatever yo, put your foot down and say you ain't like that cuckolds ex-beef injection. Now let's get a re-do and get her done. Sheeeeeeeeit.
Agreed completely. That's why I wouldn't do what Bostonguy did. I'm just saying I don't fault Bostonguy for what he did. You can't expect someone to think level headed when a girl is ing with him.
Basically, if I were his best friend, I wouldn't let it hurt my friend ship with him.
LMAO. But there is some truth to that. Unless you both really have movies in common or there is a special event happening, I don't take girls on first dates to the movies. I like to go places where you can have a conversation.
Ya, maybe. But like I said, he might be using the term "best friend" loosely.
He is probably not that good of a friend to begin with, so the brother would naturally get pissed in this situation. Anyone would. But then when he got the "I don't really care if you are pissed" at ude, he probably wanted to just cut ties.
damn. on some level, i vaguely kind of agree with some of that.
and now i feel bad...
He wouldn't have set him up with his sister if he was a bad friend.
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