You don't really "sign with an HOA".....
if you want a house, if there is an established HOA in the community, then you will be bound by the deed restrictions to be part of the HOA and pay dues.
The only land an HOA might own other than a meeting place or rec area would be the streets if they are within a gated community, the community being commonly referred to as a Planned Unit Development (PUD).
As long as you own the house and the HOA is still in tact, you are required to pay dues. No way out.
If you feel an HOA has failed to perform up to it's duties, chances are that you will have to sue them......Still not the way you can get out of the HOA.