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sorry Nono that was not my intention
Just don't over-analyze it, and keep your mind busy on other stuff. I know it's harder said than done right now, but it's what's going to take you through the end of this.
So, on that note, I think mono had a good post basically describing what the Mavs season is going to look like. Something along the lines of a so-so start, then some major trade for seemingly new 'weapons', a big run in March, only to fizzle in the first round once the pressure of the playoffs mount.
sorry Nono that was not my intention
Fin is letter writing nothing more nothing less...he ain't fooling King Kool...if he was hurt he'd a kept that to himself...he and vulva are some scandalous es....
Is that Artest on ABC right now?
imho ...
Haha, you ing loser.
and Kori I think the board should take up a collection and buy you a bouquet of your favorite flowers. You deserve it to say the least. I bet it never crossed the minds of the imbeciles to do something nice for you for being here for us. They talk about how their friends with you but I know for a fact I'm the first to suggest such a thing...aren't I?
imho....
Even though you are a mavs fan-I feel for you...
but if you wanna hear some truth...here goes;
Sometimes we are a little blinded-and refuse to see.
She TOLD you the reason and you refused to believe her...it happens...it happens to the best of us.
She plainly stated-she has never been in a relationship longer than a year-she cannot give you what you want-she does not wanna be tied-she wants to be single.
Those are all true things about her-she is who she is-but you are trying to make her into your dream girl that lives in YOUR head.
Not gonna happen.
Reminds me of the guy who comes across a snake and the snake assures him he won't bite him-the dude keeps walking-snake bites him...guy asks why?
Snake says....you KNEW what I was when you saw me ...a snake..blah-blah...
I know exactly what you are going through...I was blinded a couple of times til I realized one thing----PAY ATTENTION!
Pay attention to your girl....watch her...study her...see WHO she really is...most times they will tell you...
She told you EXACTLY who she was...and after the one year or so...she did exactly what she has ALWAYS done...got bored/scared/whatever...she played her part the way she always has-because that is who she is.
Move on.
One last bit of advice;
Don't listen to people who say-stay busy...forget about it...don't think about it...immerse yourself in this-that-or the other---all WRONG.
What you need to do is UNDERSTAND.
Understand why you depended on another human being for YOUR happiness and the pain will go away. Understand why we fall for the illusion that there is a ONE person for everyone crap-and then keep going from heartbreak to heartbreak-but I am gonna keep looking because the RIGHT ONE --is out there---bull ....
and when you begin to understand and SEE through those illusions...then you won't ever be hurt again.
A little analogy here;
A guy goes to the doctor with a pain in his stomach...doctor examines him...gives him some meds...says, ``go home...have your neighbor take these meds...and then YOU will feel better!''
Sounds absurd?
It is. But THAT is exactly what we do when we talk of love....we THINK we will feel better when and IF someone ELSE changes their behavior to suit US.
UNDERSTAND how you came to depend on another human being for your happiness and you will never,ever be in this kind of pain again.
Good luck.
Dude, just have a few beers, read about cosmology. Wrap your head around the idea that our existence is but a grain of sand in a vastly large ocean, and trust me, it'll go away...the pain that is.
After you sober up, you'll still be a ing loser. Suicide is the only option at this point.
Or that.
just realize that she was already full-on ing some dude 6 weeks before she dumped your stupid ass. grow your balls back and have fun for a change!
Big. I'm a big Mormon . Proud too.
Did I mention my huge penis? It's awesome.
I think the single most attractive thing for a woman is a man who has purpose and direction in his life. Figure out what yours is and make that your #1 priority, instead of pleasing a woman. You will find that this is really what a woman wants, she does not want a man who suc bs to her every need and makes pleasing her his mission in life. She wants a man that is on his own path and you will find that once you are on your path most women will genuinely be interested in helping you succeed in your goals.
A woman cannot and will not feel sustained attraction for a man she does not admire.
Seriously, food for thought, Silv.
I like how the first page of this thread everyone ignores lefty
You're spot on, and ultimately these are a few of the things you learn.
The thing is, when the 'damage' is too recent, it takes time to gain the perspective to actually understand. For me, keeping my mind busy helped me not to over-analyze. I look back at it and it feels completely re ed I was winded up like that, but it was what it was, and for me it was part of the process.
Couldn't you have gotten here sooner so people wouldn't have to read 11 full pages?
I agree with the first half of what silv said especially. The truth is you know the person you've been with better than you may want to admit right now. It'll take time (if y'all stay apart that is), and during that time things like "you have an ideal version of the girl in your head" will sound like bull , or even worse just words. Words that float in front of you like smoke, and even if you try your hardest to grasp them they'll slip right past.
The fact is that time is the best remedy; all of the advice that is given to you in the early stages of the breakup will lie dormant for awhile, and then one-by-one each word will gain meaning in regards to your own situation.
Good luck, I know how terrible this kind of thing can be.
I like how the first page of this thread everyone ignores lefty
Nothing new. No one pays attention to that got.
cliffnotes plz
- Findog's fiance left him
- People showed sympathy/gave advice
- Mavs get knocked out in first round
- Jungle juice recipes
Well, I think most of us have been there-if we have lived long enough.
The first time for me, I drowned myself in work...the good thing that came out of it though-was a little extra cash, better physical shape,etc...
The BAD thing though, was that I never understood MYSELF, instead I allowed my illusions to keep clashing against reality...trying over and over...because this time ....SHE will be the right one.
Until you get tired of your sickness and begin the long road to curing yourself.
One last thing....remember...pain is a sign that there is falseness there, most times we look at someone else when we have emotional pain....but the place to look at is in yourself...
oh....yeah I forgot....
mavs win 54 games....dirk has a good year....lose in second round of playoffs.
It's not going to happen. Once a woman makes a move like that you need to move on. It's painful but you will get over it in time.
Also if she does this once you can never trust her to not hold your emotions hostage like this in the future. Cut it off now and move on.
And remember this: You should never want to be in a relationship with any woman that doesn't want you.
You should also feel lucky that she did this now and not after you got married.
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