Dating in your thirties

[koriwhat]

Going back to school and meeting somebody there, going to church, and going to the bar with your aforementioned friend are all much better ideas than online dating, dating someone from work (biiiiiig no no, from personal experience) or any of that other bull . I'd suggest not looking too hard because you'll come off as desperate which is a huge turn off for women and the process won't go very smoothly for you. What i'd suggest is a combination of the 3, do all of them (going to church, bar, school) and not only enjoy yourself, but better yourself by earning a higher degree and someone will come along soon enough if you're constantly staying busy with these things and putting yourself out there.

the internet is so in' impersonal.

[Greg Oden]

If you're not in a committed relationship to marry by the time you're at the end of college you should just shoot yourself.

you're cool.

[Silverheart80]

Findog, the best advice I can give you is don't make a wifequest the center of your activity. Spent most of my 20s and much of my early 30s dating and looking for the 'right one', and to no avail. Had a couple of crushing heartbreaks along the way. Eventually I got burned enough and stopped caring about finding the right girl. Put all of my focus into building a career I loved and made everything else a distant second-place. For whatever reason, once I stopped caring about women, I began getting attention rather than giving it.

Ironically once they started coming around, I was more focused on the career than them. Instead of me trying to fit into their ideal picture, they were trying to fit into what they thought mine was. Strange. If you can figure out what you love most in the world (preferably not women) and you go after that fullforce, you'll be alright, man. Don't worry about being the richest or the best-looking or being the most desirable. Just go after that one thing that makes you a contributor to the rest of this world, in some way big or small. Above all, just make sure that doesn't begin and end with women.

Can't promise you'll find love, but I can promise you'll live a happier life with or without them. And should the right prospects arrive, you'll be grounded. And that makes all the difference in the world.

[ashbeeigh]

If you're not in a committed relationship to marry by the time you're at the end of college you should just shoot yourself.

Says the 16 year old. Call me when you turn 22 and are still at SAC, lonely and single and still at mom's house.

20s (and college) should be about being selfish and allowing yourself to do what you want to do, not finding "the one." If that happens, that happens. I was totally "That girl" in high school who wanted to be married by the time I was 23 and have kids by the time I was 25. Is that me? No. Do I know girls like that. Heck yes. Do I look down at them? No. It's just a different choice.

And to Findog, take some time to just hang out and do your own thing. All the above, like someone else said, are good ways to meet people and women in that age range. But don't feel any pressure to make it happen. It'll happen when it happens. And don't rule out internet dating 100%. I've met some rule duds online (the game chat guys know about him) but you can meet some winners, shoot there's a lot of people from ST that met that way. You'll know when you meet the right now.

[redzero]

If you're not in a committed relationship to marry by the time you're at the end of college you should just shoot yourself.

This guy's got life figured out.

[admiralsnackbar]

Get married out of ing college and you won't ever have to worry about being lonely.

Or just post attention-seeking nonsense on a sports board as often as possible...

[The Reckoning]

dont worry about women, really. imagine all the cool you can do now that you dont have to cater to a vagina 24/7. finance could be your new priority/hobby. "play" with markets and invest in up and coming products and services. now that you dont have to waste money on women and children, youll have a much more disposable income to invest in stuff. it might even pay off.

if you really want a woman, though, take some time off and go out of the country. meet a woman who doesnt know english, so when she nags you, itll sound beautiful.

[The Reckoning]

Says the 16 year old. Call me when you turn 22.

whatapimp

[Creepn]

Get married out of ing college and you won't ever have to worry about being lonely.

Man if you was my 15 year old kid, I'd whup you so bad using that filthy language. You got no guidance kid. Tsk tsk tsk.

[byrontx]

Sow your oats now. Most people marry too young. Don't go around trying to find a relationship. Get some pussy and have fun. The only downside to marrying in your mid-forties (like I did) is that you cannot plan on a large family. I have a beautiful wife (15 yrs younger) and a 7 year old son. It will keep you young.

[MiamiHeat]

Acquire Currency.

Enjoy Life.

Enjoy women, but don't take them too seriously.

[mojorizen7]

Where's the Dating in your 40's thread?
My circle of friends are either IKEA living picket fence heavily married couples w/no friends
or
burnouts and anti-social alcoholics.

Help.

[Bukefal]

You're thinking about it too much. Just grab a beer and enjoy life, go out, do things you like and after a while you'll find the right woman.

[Cupid]

I'm on this.

[silverblk mystix]

some good ideas so far...

I'll add;

I can't tell you how many people I work with that are searching for the opposite of what they already have...
the ones in relationships can't wait to be single and free again because of reasons-a,b,c,d,etc...
the ones that are single because of reasons-x,y,z,etc... want only to fall in love with the right one...and have a home, a solid relationship,etc...

there is one thing they all have in common;

none of them are living right here-right now....everyone is living in the past or in the future...

there is a tea ceremony that is performed in the east...the whole purpose of the ceremony is to enjoy the cup of tea...if you are drinking the tea but thinking of yesterday or tomorrow --or 10 minutes from now-- you have already lost your way...drink the tea--savor it, taste it, the texture, the aroma, the warmth,the mellowness or bitterness,the lemon,the way it feels on you tongue,etc...on & on...afterwards...when you are washing the cup--wash the cup--don't start thinking about the future/past,etc...on & on ad-nauseum...a little simple zen...

if you are in a relationship...be the guy who is in a relationship and enjoy the out of it...

if you are single...be the guy who is single and free and enjoy the out of that...learn to enjoy your OWN company...find things to do that you love...discover the joys in aloneness--not loneliness- ALONENESS...when you meet girls...look at them through new eyes---not in how they would FIT into your desires or needs--but in who they are in THAT moment...discover how they carry themselves, how they live,how they laugh,how they deal with stress, what they say--and what they don't say,etc...

don't try to make them FIT you...this way you won't just try to grab the first thing that happens to come along...

you will NEVER NEVER EVER AGAIN be 33 and single...you don't know what a ing treasure you have already...you are young,healthy, free, alive,etc...

get into today...live now

tomorrow will be here way too soon--if we are lucky--and THEN you can worry about it--or hopefully you can BE THERE TOO!

[symple19]

i sure do love these threads

puhleeeeze Spurstalk E-people, give me some sound advice!!!!

My new answer to anyone having relationship problems is this:

1.Lure some porn stars/strippers/hookers to your house

2.Ply them/yourself with booze

3.After getting annihilated on alcohol, call the briefcase yayo guy

4.Watch porn while freebasing/banging aforementioned ladies

5.OD, then go to the hospital with a "hiatal hernia"

6.Enter rehab where you'll finally meet a lady with similar goals

7.Live happily ever after

[lebomb]

QF..........after my divorce at 35yrs of age, I had more success with dating and women than I had in my entire life. I must have dated 10 ladies before I ended up calling one my official "gf". I ended up marrying her a couple of years later. She had been married before as well.

I dont want you to view this as a complete success at the begining though. 8 out of the 10 ladies were psychotic, or had some type of issue to deal with. *shrugs*

Lastly, if a woman is well into her 30's and hasnt been married before, something is definitely wrong with her IMHO. All the best ones are scouped up and dropping crumb snatchers by this time.....again, IMHO.

Good luck!!!!

[SA DAVE]

Consider this free advice for dating in your thirties.

You can lose a lot of money chasing women, but you can never lose women chasing money.

[TE]

Just drink a beer and be yourself when you meet other woman.

[redzero]

Not going to SAC

<<<---- going to a UT or better school with a full or near full ride scholarship. I'm currently ranked #1 in my class, no lie. As long as I'm in the top 10 (I'm in a class of over 500) I should get a full or near full ride scholarship to a good university.

I wanted to find "the one" in middle school and early high school but in the last 10 months or so I've decided that idea is stupid.

So I'm banking on finding her in college. I don't want to be old and grizzled and untaken. I don't want to wait and then have to be with a woman who's been serious and intimate, etc with a zillion guys (or worse, having been married or yet worse, had a kid already). I want the life my cousins 1k miles north in nebraska have, they got married out of college and are making $70k+/yr each now. They're going to live happy American lives with no financial worries.

I want to find her in college, since late high school is seeming a little less likely.

That's some wisdom right there.

[TDMVPDPOY]

Lol good luck with that especially if you go to a state school.

Unless your a cool college frat bro, it will be quite hard.

believing this clown is 1/500 students lmao....

[leemajors]

Not going to SAC

<<<---- going to a UT or better school with a full or near full ride scholarship. I'm currently ranked #1 in my class, no lie. As long as I'm in the top 10 (I'm in a class of over 500) I should get a full or near full ride scholarship to a good university.

I wanted to find "the one" in middle school and early high school but in the last 10 months or so I've decided that idea is stupid.

So I'm banking on finding her in college. I don't want to be old and grizzled and untaken. I don't want to wait and then have to be with a woman who's been serious and intimate, etc with a zillion guys (or worse, having been married or yet worse, had a kid already). I want the life my cousins 1k miles north in nebraska have, they got married out of college and are making $70k+/yr each now. They're going to live happy American lives with no financial worries.

I want to find her in college, since late high school is seeming a little less likely.

prepare for disappointment, but you should be used to it.

[The Reckoning]

So why not go to orientations join fraternaties and go to parties? I hear college parties are wayyyyyyy better than high school parties anyway.

Freshman year in college in a university that includes people from all over the state and country is like 0 - 0, first quarter, opening tipoff, a second chance at social life basically. And if you get involved in social gatherings and you've got such potential to be successful as I do with my smarts and guitar playing ability then cool guys and beautiful women will flock to you and check you out and other guys will be left with droppings.

ill be honest with you little troll. if you step into a frat party at UT with your whole schtick, you will get your little punkass beat. frats love preying on little es like you. everytime i go to a party, there's literally blood all over the walls - i ask what happens - and everytime its because some cool guy thinks he can hit on any chick or play guitar to her gets in the way of some sloshed, 230+ pound frat boy looking for a fight.

have fun in college, mother er. you wont survive.




when that happens, post pics please. k tanks.


oh and if you decide to rush, theyll make your life a living and then not take you in.

[The Reckoning]

the thing is, at UT the frats isolate themselves in a nazi encampment known as "west campus." best thing to do is not get involved with people who are tools enough to pay thousands of dollars to be hazed and have "friends."

if you want to make it, get a fake, party with all the minorities and go downtown every thursday night with a group of friends.

[Dr. Gonzo]

ha