A woman has the right to whomever she pleases, just as a man does as long as the other person is of legal age and consents.
Men who end up with these women in a relationship are generally soft, weak and the woman knows it. She's denying him sex on nights when her boss is ass ing her after hours at work while dude at home is watching her kids. I've known a few dudes who ended up with hounds. It's funny to see how the woman handles him around guys she's ed and he knows it, to watch her body language change around the more dominant male as her "chosen one" cowers and fumbles with the kids or her hand bag that he's carrying for her. He's usually has a beard, he's pale and "open minded".
Women who are put on a pedestal often on the one who put them there, but worship the one who dethrones them.
Same here, but it's out there and you've seen it too. You've seen these chicks show up that everyone's hit a few times, with some new dude who is oblivious to it and he's all proud and like he's got arm candy. Slowly you see his world crumble and his manhood is destroyed as he realizes everyone around him has ed his girl, even the females.
Nope, I'm Taiwanese.Are you a white guy by any chance?
I guess in your case there'd definitely be a trade-off. Cleaning up on her part would just be common courtesy though imo. It doesn't make any sense but if I were the main cook (as I expect to be) I think it would hurt my feelings to not get any regular help with that. You're obviously a little more stable there than me.
I clean my own cookware because a lot of them take special maintenance. Example: Sharp knives don't like to stay wet and cannot go in the dish washer. They should also be sharpened after use. Highly recommended that you clean them immediately after use. Plenty of other examples too.. cast iron skillets, dutch ovens, strainers, some of those new school non stick pans etc.
For those reasons, I would rather wash them myself and avoid someone else ruining them.
When it comes to the Spurs and basketball, I like to harp on leadership and leadership qualities (maybe you remember our previous discussion.) It's because I've tried to be one at every significant stage of my life (so far so good, though I'm only 25 so still a work in progress.) Therefore, it's natural for me to be observant, evaluate behavior, be in tuned to other peoples emotion (in this case a gf), theorize on how to improve things internally and externally etc. It's also crucial to view things from an unbiased, non-emotional perspective....What I would give for that kind of patience.
See I put that list together based on what I was observing in this thread and I think you're probably the first to state the opposite (though notice how it's not your preference).
Idk. I find the whole pouting/withdrawal thing really childish personally. And anyway, don't men give you more attention when you're not causing drama? How does letting her get away with what's clearly bad/counter-productive behaviour help the relationship in your view?
My POV developed in college. Back then I was the president of an up and coming fraternity. We were only about 2 years old so a lot of our structure, bylaws, and cons ution etc was a work in progress. School plus the fraternity "job" consumed me. I once callously joked that the perfect day would just be to get through school, work on the fraternity and come home and the girl I was seeing and goto sleep. I decided to see what would happen if I carried out my joke literally and its safe to say things didn't work out too well. In fact she was able to put quite a negative spin on things and it affected my image. Instead of being mad I just theory-crafted better ways of pulling this off and tried figure out why she was so offended and if this was a common reaction. (Sounds dumb and simple but at the time I thought it could work without pulling strings.)
For me personally, assuming this is a day to day situation and not the weekend/special occasion, if you let me do my own thing without causing drama, you likely won't hear from me unless I want to . One of my favorite hobbies involves a glass of red, expensive headphones, a dac/amp, and my music collection. So in addition to focusing on my work/career, some of my favorite hobbies and methods of relaxation depend on alone time.
I'm not sure if it "helps" the relationship though. Maybe you're right about conditioning the bad behavior. I'm just simply stating that I understand the reason behind why they do it and have decided to react according when it happens. I do feel like the more exposure I get to their strategy the better I get at deflecting them or figuring out ways to include her in some of my day to day activities.
For example, I get really annoyed in the kitchen when people get in my way (after all, its pretty dangerous when people stand around like idiots in some one else's work space) but I would and try to include her in the process. Doesn't always work because my annoyed tone triggers more problems, but at least we're spending time together and shes not whining about the lack of it. Another effective strategy would be taking a nice long walk. Why would I even want to do that in the first place? Well I have a 4year old dog and she's hyper as . Make the walk about spending time with the girl and mask the "chore" of walking the dog. Finding a commonly favored/loved show is more effective than watching random movies and shows together. The fact that you both love the show generates a lot of discussion and allows you to gain great insight into their personality and character. Who is there favorite character? Religion? How do they feel about cheating? What do they find thoughtful.. expensive gifts, surprises, etiquette etc? As long as you're observant, you're in great shape at dealing with this kind of stuff.
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I get a lot more calls from women checking on their men than I do men checking on their women. And regardless of what most men have been posting they'll jump at any opportunity for sex.
Do any of you guys have female friends who you know enjoy sex and are open about it? Do you remain friends with them or are you disgusted with their behavior and end the friendship. Or do you find her more attractive because of it?
I am friends with them, but I find it disgusting. Do I want to her? NO. Shes a , but shes still my friend
In long-term type relationships that wouldn't surprise me honestly.
For the record though I don't think any of them have been denying that they'll jump at the chance to have sex. What they don't want is to be with a girl that's the same way once they're ready to settle down.
i understand what your saying...i hate fkn bas single parents who are under age 25 to young to know better, too busy spreading their legs or pelvic thrusts forgetting to wear protection and having kids at a young age where they dont even look after them, just neglect the upbringing of children whether just putting it into someones else care while they too busy living it up again.....if you decide to live that sort of lifestyle, dont look back and dont regret the choices you made....i'm speaking in general terms it wasn't a personal insult
i look at young single moms who chose to go out with wankers of soceitys and i just lol at them, i know a few and im like some of these girls deserve better then going out with these bas wankers.....some of these hoes think they have the audicity to look for a rich guy to settle down with after the loose as a goose or having multiple kids...most of these guys would just keep on walking or hit that and do a runner...
but love can do strange things to a person, some ppl are blind by it they will drop whatever standards and whatever friends and society views on them if they continue to persue the relationship
it means a lot. I need to know all the intimate details of her past before making things official. a lot of women go through a lot of that takes years for them to recover from and if she's still going through it then I don't want to waste either one of our time by getting involved with her.
So do you require a "background" and "credit" check before you'll date a woman? You ask to see her medical records and then look up her family ancestry and conduct interviews with her family members and friends? Do you ask them for their facebook accounts?
Might be a mistake, that.
of course it matters.... I dont want some girl who has no idea what she's doing. I like em to have learned a few tricks along the way. Teach em a few new ones. Rinse and repeat.
my answer to all of your questions, NO.
When talking to a woman I'm getting to know, certain things come up during conversation. From there I ask open ended questions. Ask her about her past, sometimes they'll tell me straight up what they've been through.
Women who've been raped and haven't gone through counseling(dated a woman who went through that) tend to shy away from sex or any form of affection for that matter.
Some women may have been victims of domestic violence in previous relationships and are carrying those feelings over into our relationship. can't do it.
some women may have children; some may have children that don't live with her.
as you can see there are other ways go learning about her past than using invasive methods like background checks or stalking her facebook.
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