just get drunk and let him tell the same stories over and over... after a while he find another chick and be cool.
Manny, you can't make that assumption. NOWHERE did it say that she married him while he was already working there.
Regardless, she couldn't handle the separation. He actually made the choice to end it if she gave the ultimatum, and he ignored or didn't take it seriously.
I guess some women can't handle their husband being gone all the time. My mother must've been in the minority.
While my husband doesn't travel, he goes into his office to catch up on things every Saturday. Doesn't bother me at all as I see the pile of charts he doesn't have time to catch up on during the week. I am pretty independent so I have no problem with it *shrugs*
nothing beats es ain't on repeat in this situation, along with blunts and beer
He didn't move out. He crashed at my place last night because we went out and got smashed. It probably sounds a little weird to some of you but he's pretty destroyed and being in the house by himself right now is something he doesn't want to do.
He's actually only crashing here for the weekend, then going to spend some time at his brother's, who lives here in town as well.
A little more perspective...
She knew what she was getting into, they were dating since college, got engaged after he had been working at our company for two years and she knew what she was getting as far as him being on the road.
She was the proverbial nuclear housewife though, all she wanted to do was get married and make babies. There is some potential international deals for our company going down and both he and I are on the short list of people to go manage those deals should they go down.
Because of that (whoever gets those gigs is going to have to move to those locations), he wanted to hold off on having kids until the work deals were all sorted out.
That wasn't the only problem they had, but it was the biggest hangup by far. They are still both relatively young (25ish +/- a year for both of them), no kids, so at least they don't have that complication.
She's always been kinda ed up in the head IMO, and when she asked me to take on some of his travel and work I just laughed in her face. We don't even work on the same software, but even if we did there's no way I would. I've got more than enough work as it is.
Just a ty situation right now, his dad came into town as well so they're out just hanging out, probably getting tanked somewhere
im telling you.
dont let him stay with you for multiple nights in a row.
im telling you.
So I got that part right. It seems as if his reasons for wanting to wait a little while are valid so she may not be telling the truth.
No, she made the choice to end it when she gave the ultimatum.
No ing right? Since when is it ok to give ultimatums? Its my way or the highway? Yeah, thats what marriage is all about. Its impossible to know what went on between the 2 of them since we're not them, but ultimatums ing suck and I disagree completely with Bum. The whole point is that marriage is a commitment which you shouldn't look back on in 2 years and say "I want a do over". Thats not what marriage is supposed to be or supposed to stand for. When you get married you say that.
If you can't handle that type of commitment then you shouldn't speak the vows.
es aint
People make mistakes. She should have been prepared for a husband who was going to be gone all the time, but she misjudged it and wasn't getting what she wanted out of the relationship, so she's right to bail. I don't get why there always has to be a bad guy in a divorce.
There's no compromise here, Manny. If the guy's job is to be on the road almost all the time and she wants him there a good chunk of the time, that's an irreconcilable difference. He's better off anyways not married to a baby-maker, and AHF, I hope your boy doesn't get ed over on alimony. Did he make her sign a pre-nup?
I don't know how long ago you got dumped, but I'm sure that the amount of time between then and now is not proportionate to how pathetic you are.
Wgaf, a woman just needs to do 3 things. Has nothing to do with work or travel...
Some of you read to many books and think to much.
and on that note, if you disagree with this, you're full of and will be alone forever.
sorry. Those two posts in a row just hit me funny.
God damn isn't that the truth.
Seriously, I don't know that you necessarily need to do anything except be a friend. He's not planning to move in with you, and sounds liek he's got lots of other support in town, too.
Bake an apple pie
Bake a blueberry pie
Bake a cherry pie
???
Something I don't understand here - if he has to move to another town for 9 months to work, and she doesn't want to leave him, why doesn't she just go with him?
There's much more to this than we know.
That poor guy is in for some torturous times if he is on the road that much staying in those lonely hotel rooms going through a divorce. Apparently they have no kids so that will make it easier. He just needs to find a temporary girlfriend now to play with and to help moderate the pain. Much like a junkie uses methodone to kick heroin.
work cook and put out
She has a job as well. Basically, she wanted to work hard, save up some cash while he was doing the same, then have a baby. The international stuff just started developing in the last 4 months, reading between the lines that was the final blow for the relationship.
She's very religious and proper and like I said her focus was all on family. All of her family lives in and around Dallas as well.
I'm not saying it's OK to drop one or two a week, but if you reach the point of no compromise like they appear to have, then the cards need to be laid on the table. She did that. He didn't respond in a way that would keep their marriage a going concern. Not really anyone's fault. Not sure why you're playing the "blame the " card.
Well, to side with Manny (it's my view as well), she knew what she was getting into with this. Before they got married they talked about his work and the amount of travel that he was doing.
Our company is booming right now, it was known that we would be on the road pretty extensively for the foreseeable future (like through 2014 or so), so to me it's disappointing now she was in the here and now she couldn't take it.
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