worst day ever

[Cry Havoc]

Sorry to hear this sad story.

Is there anything updated? I hope she's ok....

[sabar]

Sorry, that's so terrible. Were there any previous signs? Most people can't keep their tendencies hidden from everyone they know.

For the curious, almost all failed female suicides are either failure to overdose or failure to self-asphyxiate. Unfortunately this leads to a high incidence of permanent brain damage in survivors.

[sonic21]

i found my girlfriend's sister on the floor in our apartment an hour ago. She attempted to commit suicide. she's currently on in critical condition breathing through a ventilator.

i'm going back to the hospital right now.

thanks guys,

well she survived and seems to be happy to be alive. The 3 of us had a long conversation this morning and we learned it wasn’t the first time. She’s suffering from serious depression. Only their mother knew about her previous attempts and she asked her to not talk to anyone about it. My girfriend doesn’t want her mother to be near her sister anymore. So we’ll take some day off and she’ll stay with us for a few weeks, then she’ll live with their grandparents .

We’re a little anxious actually, we don’t really know how to handle the situation when she’ll live with us. Any advice?

[BruceBowenFan]

Glad to know everything is ok.

[lebomb]

thanks guys,

well she survived and seems to be happy to be alive. The 3 of us had a long conversation this morning and we learned it wasn’t the first time. She’s suffering from serious depression. Only their mother knew about her previous attempts and she asked her to not talk to anyone about it. My girfriend doesn’t want her mother to be near her sister anymore. So we’ll take some day off and she’ll stay with us for a few weeks, then she’ll live with their grandparents .

We’re a little anxious actually, we don’t really know how to handle the situation when she’ll live with us. Any advice?

Did she not get counseling after this attempt???

[easjer]

I'm so sorry, but relieved to hear she's doing ok.

I can only share my perspective as someone who has had loved ones attempt suicide. Afterwards, they were pretty emotionally fragile - and I was too - and it was just weird. We tried to do normal things and act normally and sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't, you know? If she's not in counseling, she needs to be, and you might consider it too. I had a hard time acknowledging that I felt a lot of anger towards my loved ones because they attempted suicide, and a lot of anger towards myself for not recognizing the signs that were there.

It took a long time to rebuild some of that trust, and even today - years and years after the fact - there are still things that make me exceptionally anxious and worried about my loved ones, and I don't want to let them out of my sight for awhile. But I have to learn to trust them to be open with me and I have to let them live their lives without micro-analyzing everything they do and say and treating them like they are about to explode.

[tonylongoriafan]

that's crazy...i'm glad she survived and am glad to see you and your girlfriend are at least trying to help

[angel_luv]

Thank God she survived. I will continue to pray for you guys.

[sonic21]

Did she not get counseling after this attempt???

yes she's received counseling from a psychiatrist and she will probably see another specialist after leaving the hospital.

[sonic21]

I'm so sorry, but relieved to hear she's doing ok.

I can only share my perspective as someone who has had loved ones attempt suicide. Afterwards, they were pretty emotionally fragile - and I was too - and it was just weird. We tried to do normal things and act normally and sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't, you know? If she's not in counseling, she needs to be, and you might consider it too. I had a hard time acknowledging that I felt a lot of anger towards my loved ones because they attempted suicide, and a lot of anger towards myself for not recognizing the signs that were there.

I don't know how i will feel in a few days. I went from shock to sadness, now there may be some feelings of guilt for not seeing any signs or warnings that something was wrong.

[sonic21]

Thank God she survived. I will continue to pray for you guys.

thanks angel