Re-inventing yourself

[Dr. Gonzo]

Try it doggy style Angel.

i lol'd

[balli]

The past is always with us and where we come from, what we go through, how we go through it... All this matters. I mean, at least that what I thought he meant. Like at the end of the book, y'know? Boats and tides and all... it's like, you can change up. Right? You can say you somebody new, you can give yourself a whole new story, but what came first is who you really are. And what happened before is what really happened... And it don't matter that some fool say he different, cause the only thing that make you different is what you really do... or what you really go through. Like, yknow- All them books in his library, now he frontin' with all them books, but if you pull one down off of the shelf, ain't any of the pages ever been open. He got all them books and he ain't read nay one of em. Gatsby? He was who he was. And he did what he did. And cause he wasn't ready to get real with the story... that caught up to him. I mean I think, anyway.

[mrsmaalox]

I'm a little surprised, this coming from a newlywed. The transition to wife and partner was a reinvention that took me at least 2 years to complete. I must be slow.

[fraga]

I started parting my hair to the other side...

[BacktoBasics]

I must be slow.

We'll get you a padded helmet.

[katyon6th]

Get a perm. I hear they're coming back. That and plaid. Wear a lot plaid this season.

[Dr. Gonzo]

I got a perm. It looks fantastic.

[katyon6th]

I'm starting to wear plaid again. In fact, I'm wearing plaid today. Baby steps for me, Gonzo.

[MiamiHeat]

Become an atheist

[CosmicCowboy]

Vampires are the latest hot thing...get bit by one...

[Bukefal]

I stopped calling and contacting every single person I knew including all friends and family for about a year.

Other than my Mother and my sister I don't talk to anyone that I knew from 6 or so years back.

You'd be amazed who doesn't bother calling or coming by when you don't call them first.

Yeah, that's so true! I did and saw the same.

[PM5K]

I was chosen

What's the name of your religious compound?

[David Bowie]

I think that I changed the most after going abroad. I would say, go live in a different culture for a few months. Has it worked out? It did for a while. But I still ended up where I am today, which is not the best place for me to be right now.

[Bukefal]

I removed all the toxic 'bad' negative people from around me. it worked out great, I took a different direction in my life. Im much more happy now

[Jekka]

I've done this a couple of times; both times it involved moving. If that's not an option, and if you've had any desire to turn the two jobs into one career, then there's always school. Try taking a career test to see if it gives you any surprising results.

[CuckingFunt]

I find myself saying this to a lot of the threads that get started around here, but I really don't think this is the kind of question that someone else can answer for you.

If the desire to reinvent yourself doesn't come from a feeling that something is lacking from your life, then there's really nothing to lose and you can just try a bunch of new hobbies until you find one you like. If this is all motivated by the feeling that something is missing (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, and shouldn't necessarily be seen as a reflection on the good you've got in your life right now), then I don't think there's anything we here can tell you -- just take some time to figure out what isn't there and go after it.

[ploto]

Education is always a way to expand one's horizons and to learn new things- whether formal college work or simply cooking classes.

You might consider going on a mission trip- even a short one for a week or two.

I think you might also be at the age where you are wishing you had more of a career than a job and maybe being married has opened up that possibility for you- to look for something that provides more than just a way to pay the bills.

As for reinventing myself, it required shedding a toxic relationship, allowing myself permission to do what I wanted, and learning how to say No.

[NoOptionB]

Minimalist phase + Workout like a madman/woman + eventually resurface to old friends.

Being already married though, I dunno.

[ChumpDumper]

This is the kind of thing you are supposed to do before you get married or after your husband starts cheating on you.

In the meantime, have a kid or four.

[ploto]

In the meantime, have a kid or four.

That is what I fear her solution will be!

[spursfan09]

I would consider education.

I'm a full time student and a part-time intern, so I always feel super busy and I never once think that I need to re-invent myself. I feel like I am in the process of becoming who I'm going to be. I'm graduating in May, and then I get to actually work fulltime. (Really looking forward to that)

[PM5K]

When I think of the term re-inventing yourself, this is not what I think of.

[Summers]

I find myself saying this to a lot of the threads that get started around her, but I really don't think this is the kind of question that someone else can answer for you.

If the desire to reinvent yourself doesn't come from a feeling that something is lacking from your life, then there's really nothing to lose and you can just try a bunch of new hobbies until you find one you like. If this is all motivated by the feeling that something is missing (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, and shouldn't necessarily be seen as a reflection on the good you've got in your life right now), then I don't think there's anything we here can tell you -- just take some time to figure out what isn't there and go after it.

Yeah, this is pretty much exactly what I was thinking. The way you ask the question is the same way you'd ask someone what they want for lunch. Changing yourself can't be contrived or it will be very dissatisfying. If you feel like something in you needs to be different, meditate on what's causing that sense of unrest.

[Solid D]

There has to be more, right? Answer: No.

Life is a bore.

Your outlook on life may be an indication of why people don't call you.

[Suicidal Jack]

Maybe you can talk about this in one of your books because this doesn't happen in real life without drastic changes and undoing that you are not willing to experience.