is this child abuse??????

[Chomag]

I don't see this as abuse no, but that does not mean it's right.

Personally I would prefer the hot-sauce over soap. I had tasted some very bad tasting soaps in my younger years.

I don't think I would use hot sauce for a punishment though.

[mojorizen7]

Most parents dont have a ing clue how to discipline their children.
In my work environment i see alot of it.

What works for one child doesn't necessarily work for another child(even your own).
First you need to recognize exactly what it is your child values the most.

If your child is a loner and likes to play around the house for example,grounding him/her is foolish.
If your child is a very social child you lock him/her in a room with nothing to do.
If your kid is into music or sports and they up,take it away for awhile.
Just a few examples off the top of my noggin.

I have 2 daughters that i have joint custody of. We dont get to spend as much time together as they would like(and vice versa)but we have a very good relationship.
I began to catch them lying on occasion awhile back.....so i simply told them that the next time i find out about them lying that it meant that we would have to cancel a weekend. Tough choice,but it worked wonders.

Spanking,yelling,soap in the mouth,hot sauce, thats all bull .

As for this in the video,she's obviously playing up to the camera a little(IMO)....she's trying to be firm,and thats good, but the only thing she's really doing is putting fear into her little boy. She's got it ALL WRONG.

[byrontx]

You'll probably be one of those parents who will let their kids run amok on restaurants and get angry at people who try to reprimand them.

Beating the out of kids and torturing is not being a good parent. If you are raising your child right you do not often have to deal with situations that require harsh discipline. My 6 year old is a wonderful child and I have never had to hit him. If I told him I was disappointed in him is he devastated. All this crap she is doing to that child is a good reason to get him out of that house and into a loving environment.

Fancy houses and cars do not mean to a 6 year old, the best thing you can give him is your time. If you are spending quality time with him you are not going to have many problems.

[Nbadan]

What does capital punishment teach a child? How to be abusive and cruel? Is that the way you really want to treat the people you love?

The best punishment is when your parents make you take ownership of your behavior and make amends..

[Sisk]

She's obviously enjoying the power she wields over the child. That's the really ed up part about it.

[Sisk]

the worst punishment is when your parents tell you they're disappointed in you (if you have respect for your parents that is)

[The Reckoning]

chomag is right. i wouldve prefered hotsauce anyday over soap. that (oops..i meant stuff) tasted gross.

[Southwest Texas Fan]

not her kid, doesnt give her the right to do what she wants

today there is alot of laws that protect children, like no spanking at home/school or in public...

so what happen to the mormon?

Corporal punishment is still legal in Texas and in many other states.

[silverblk mystix]

Beating the out of kids and torturing is not being a good parent. If you are raising your child right you do not often have to deal with situations that require harsh discipline. My 6 year old is a wonderful child and I have never had to hit him. If I told him I was disappointed in him is he devastated. All this crap she is doing to that child is a good reason to get him out of that house and into a loving environment.

Fancy houses and cars do not mean to a 6 year old, the best thing you can give him is your time. If you are spending quality time with him you are not going to have many problems.

This.

I was in the same situation with my son. He was the most gentle, loving, easygoing child and I very rarely had to discipline him.
I often wonder though if the child's temperament is sometimes so different that they don't respond as well as other kids.

[Cry Havoc]

This.

I was in the same situation with my son. He was the most gentle, loving, easygoing child and I very rarely had to discipline him.
I often wonder though if the child's temperament is sometimes so different that they don't respond as well as other kids.

It's very rare.

Human beings are creatures that respond to stimuli. If you remove the reward for negative behavior (attention, satisfaction, gaining something wanted) while giving them support and an example of what is desired/acceptable, they will eventually head that way. Some kids just react faster than others.

Unfortunately, most parents don't have the patience or knowledge to keep that up.

[ploto]

I often wonder though if the child's temperament is sometimes so different that they don't respond as well as other kids.

Bingo!! While I do not advocate this woman's behavior, I also know that all the people pontificating about how wonderful their kids are without having to discipline them should be grateful for their in-born personalities. My son is the same way. To this day, he is still harder on himself than I ever had to be, but I know full well that MANY kids are not that way no matter how much positive reinforcement and talking you do to them. All you have to do is come from a large family to know this.

And no one should have ever told parents to ignore kids when they are misbehaving. It has given them permission to let their kids run wild and scream at the top of their lungs in restaurants, churches, and stores. It may work well when you are at home, but in public pick up your kid and take them home.

[Shelly]

I didn't watch it, but that was from The Dr. Phil show, so I don't know what the outcome of it was. The mother was his guest, so I'm sure in the end he offered her help and hopefully she took it.

[silverblk mystix]

It's very rare.

Human beings are creatures that respond to stimuli. If you remove the reward for negative behavior (attention, satisfaction, gaining something wanted) while giving them support and an example of what is desired/acceptable, they will eventually head that way. Some kids just react faster than others.

Unfortunately, most parents don't have the patience or knowledge to keep that up.

Agreed.

There is a book called Summerhill by A.S. Neill.

It is about a school run by A.S. Neill, a school for children. Most of these kids had issues with authority, discipline,etc.

He allowed them to be free and do or study what they wanted to study provided that you don't interfere with the freedom of anyone else.He says it took them about six months to get over all the anger and resentment they had repressed.They would rebel and fight the system for six months. Once they got over their rebellion-everybody wanted to learn; they even began protesting, ``Why don't we have class today?'' They would be transformed.

Parents were frightened in the beginning to send their children there, they said, ``How can you educate them if you don't discipline them?''

According to Neill, the secret of his success was this;

``Every child has a god in him. Our attempts to mold the child will turn the god into a devil. Children come to my school, little devils, hating the world, destructive, unmannerly, lying, thieving, bad-tempered. In six months they are happy, healthy children who do no evil.''

He also said, ``Come to Summerhill and you won't find kids with any desire to attack authority, they are well fed and there is no resentment or anger. You'll never find a handicapped child with a nickname,or find anyone needling a child who stammers. There is no violence in these children because no one is practicing violence on them.''

[JoeChalupa]

Spanking works for some and not others. I haven't had to spank mine in years but I did when I felt the need and they always knew why. You have to know your kids and what works and what doesn't. I know some who won't spank and their kids are so rude and undisciplined we don't like when they bring their kids over to our house but I also know some who have kids with excellent behavior.
I'd never think of using that type of behavior in the video though.

[boutons_deux]

"Come to Summerhill and you won't find kids with any desire to attack authority"

Some attacks on authority are fully justified.

Summerhill produces compliant, conformist little robots that live inside-the-box authority hands them?

[silverblk mystix]

"Come to Summerhill and you won't find kids with any desire to attack authority"

Some attacks on authority are fully justified.

Summerhill produces compliant, conformist little robots that live inside-the-box authority hands them?

You got it all wrong.

Google Summerhill and you will find that it is the opposite of robots that they are all about.

[koriwhat]

boo hoo... still not as bad as some of the i went through and to this day i don't even think i went through anything that harsh anyhow.

[jimo2305]

man some parents just dont' get it.. and im not even a parent..

the kid is probably more scared than comfortable around that ..

even my dog knows right from wrong.. i dont have to say anything and she ducks her tail between her legs..

show the kid love and affection and spend your time being around him and make him love to be with you.. and when he messes up.. he'll see you're disappointed and feel bad that he's upset you..

with that being said.. i believe in spanking but it doesn't just help in spanking, change your tone and manner so he feels your disappointment emotionally as well.. and for the numbskulls.. spanking doesn't mean go ape with closed fists.. spanking the kid on the butt making him cry is completely harmless so i don't wanna hear it..

putting hotsauce and soap in a kid's mouth will and should make him hate you when he grows up.. that's completely asinine

[PakiDan]

man some parents just dont' get it.. and im not even a parent..

the kid is probably more scared than comfortable around that ..

even my dog knows right from wrong.. i dont have to say anything and she ducks her tail between her legs..

show the kid love and affection and spend your time being around him and make him love to be with you.. and when he messes up.. he'll see you're disappointed and feel bad that he's upset you..

with that being said.. i believe in spanking but it doesn't just help in spanking, change your tone and manner so he feels your disappointment emotionally as well.. and for the numbskulls.. spanking doesn't mean go ape with closed fists.. spanking the kid on the butt making him cry is completely harmless so i don't wanna hear it..

putting hotsauce and soap in a kid's mouth will and should make him hate you when he grows up.. that's completely asinine

This guy gets it better than some of the parents in this thread.

[Bukefal]

What a and totally unnecessary. There are so many more normal and more effective ways to punish your kid. This has her own mental problems it seems.