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Yeah bro sorry to break it to you, but you might have missed your chance. But, on the bright side there is always a chance. Unless she marries your boy.
This is pretty good, but he's too head over heels in love with this girl to pull it off.
I would be for option (b.), it's more explainable as "drunken behavior" and seems less premeditated. (What happens in Spurstalk, stays in Spurstalk.) And you might get it out of your system.
Just forget it, though.
Yeah bro sorry to break it to you, but you might have missed your chance. But, on the bright side there is always a chance. Unless she marries your boy.
I said I was going to stay out, but I CAN'T.
Another thing you want to consider, is that as oblivious as you think they may be about your feelings, they probably know to some extent. These things dont' develop out of left field without people knowing about them. There are signs and they are usually pretty obvious.
It's simply not worth risking the difficulties that would come out of bringing it completely out into the open.
ahhh...still more details...
if you were "friends" for over a year before your friend started dating her without her making herself a target of opportunity to be hit on then you are just out of luck...if it didn't happen then it's not gonna happen now and it's not gonna happen later even if they break up...
get over it and just move on...if you hit on her now you will just make an ass of yourself.
Hey Manny Ron White has a nice line that applies to you:
"I had the right to remain silent, but I did not have the ability"
I think that you should just occupy yourself with other stuff -- hobbies, Spurs, other girls (though nothing serious). If she gets out of the relationship that she's in, then I think you should tell your friend first that you are in love with her and ask if he minds if you make the move. In the meantime, take the time to better yourself in other aspects of life. Don't turn into a miserable person just biding your time. She won't want you if you are miserable.
I say don't even wait around for her, just move on, like you say, but without any longing to be with her if they breakup...just get her out of your mind.I think that you should just occupy yourself with other stuff -- hobbies, Spurs, other girls (though nothing serious). If she gets out of the relationship that she's in, then I think you should tell your friend first that you are in love with her and ask if he minds if you make the move. In the meantime, take the time to better yourself in other aspects of life. Don't turn into a miserable person just biding your time. She won't want you if you are miserable.
1) I don't think you love her. Just because you think about her a lot doesn't make it love. You probably just have a crush on her that is enhanced because you know you can't have her.
2) If you are 21 or younger and you want to hook up, just wait. The relationship will probably crumble before you know it.
3) If you want to force yourself not to like her, just imagine what your best friend is doing to her behind closed doors. It ain't studyin'. You don't want sloppy seconds anyways ... or at least that's what you can tell yourself.
4) Go find another girl. You'll forget all about this one.
You could also treat her with respect, love and offer her unconditional friendship and someone she can level with and talk to. If she doesn't get that elsewhere (from your friend), you already have the building-blocks established for a lasting relationship.
Sneaky.
Yeah you either become the next target for a relationship, or you become that gay friend that all girls have when all they want to do is go shopping, drink Starbucks, and talk about their relationships.
But, as I've said some chance is better than none at all.
yeah, and end up totally even more obsessed and love struck patheticly becoming her b!tch.. as in she and everyone else you nad her know all know that you'll follow her around like a lap dog drooling at her every word.
refer back to my 1st post...thats your best option.
Hey Manny Ron White has a nice line that applies to you:
"I had the right to remain silent, but I did not have the ability"
Be a friend, not a stalker.
I think you may have hit upon a plan.
Sit down with her and tell that you have something deeply personal to share with her - and then just spit out the truth and tell her how you feel about her. If that goes bad, and it very likely may, you will need an out. Go to plan B. Tell her that you were just kidding and that the deeply personal issue you wanted to discuss is that you are gay. If it goes according the script, she will want to hang out with you all the time.
I smell a new hit sitcom.
Ok. Thanks for all the advice. But I got a new wrinkle to throw in. Well first of all, does Kori know who I am, by like ISP or whatever? If so, no big deal, I just dont want the people that know me personally to know.
Anyways, back to the new info. Today me and my buddy hooked up to shoot some hoops, like we usually do. And we got to talking, and I asked him about his relationship with her, and according to him, it is "nothing serious." They just went out on a couple of dates. And they both are free to see other people. He has also dated other girls with her knoledge. As you can imagine, I was kinda shocked. So I just talked to him about his feelings for her, and he doesnt think it will lead to anything very serious. So now I am even more confused!!!!!!!!!!!!
WTF do I do????? AHHHHHH!
You're half-way there. Now she just needs to notice how great you are (good self-confidence, good sense of humor, good communicator).
how old are you confused?
early 20s
well doesnt that make things easier that your buddy and this girl are not very serious? I say clear it with your pal and then make your move.. I'm pretty sure he wouldnt mind especially if they have agreed it was ok to see other people. I would go have the same conversation with the girl that you had with your friend and become more of a confidant about their relationship, see if she feels the same way he does about the relationship. I think you'll find out alot of things about her feelings for your friend and along the way her feelings about you.
Yeah, I think I am going to talk to her and get her view on their relationship. Then, I'll just go from there.
I read a few of these posts and thought of two songs:
Elvis Presley's: The Girl of My Best Friend
The way she walks,
The way she talks
How long can I pretend
Oh I can't help I'm in love
With the girl of my best friend
Her lovely hair,
Her skin so fair
I could go on and never end
Oh, I can't help I'm in love
With the girl of my best friend
I want to tell her
How I love her so
And hold her in my arms, but then
What if she got real mad and told him so
I could never face either one again
The way they kiss
Their happiness
Will my ache-in' ever end
Or will I always be in love
With the girl of my best friend?
Never end,
Will it ever end?
Please let it end
and
Johnny Cash's: Long Black Veil
Ten years ago, on a cold dark night
Someone was killed, 'neath the town hall light
There were few at the scene, but they all agreed
That the slayer who ran, looked a lot like me
The judge said son, what is your alibi
If you were somewhere else, then you won't have to die
I spoke not a word, thou it meant my life
For I'd been in the arms of my best friend's wife
Chorus
She walks these hills in a long black veil
She visits my grave when the night winds wail
Nobody knows, nobody sees
Nobody knows but me
Oh, the scaffold is high and eternity's near
She stood in the crowd and shed not a tear
But late at night, when the north wind blows
In a long black veil, she cries ov're my bones
I say that you confess to your buddy that you want his woman. If it's really nothing serious, he'll probably give his blessing.
Yes, I could tell who you were if I checked your IP -- but I didn't. I respected your privacy because that's what you asked for.
on that note kori, how many sn does mouse have?just wondering
Maybe 15? I've never counted. But it's pretty obvious which ones are him.
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