How Old is Too Old?

[mrsmaalox]

I agree with Drachen-----he's asking for your opinion/advice because he is unsure of the whole thing himself. Means he's not looking to make any extreme moves and that's much better than if he was not thinking it thru and not giving a what anyone else thinks.

But really, anyone who has had a serious relationship knows that it is all about personalities and compatibility; and although age can play a small part in that, chances are that nothing would get too far if the basic compatibility wasn't there, regardless of age.

I've made a quick rundown in my mind of the successful longterm relationships of people I know and it seems agewise they are all over the place. And in most of them the wife is about 2 years older or the husband is about 10 years older. In my case, my husband is more than 10 years older, but it's quite obvious to me that our successes/failures are the result of a bunch of things other than age

[baseline bum]

Sounds like you guys have a solid foundation to build a life together on...

That's good, because I think lee's only other option would be to marry scott if he wants to find someone more knowledgeable.

[BlackSwordsMan]

dmc is so mean to me

[z0sa]

That's about right at the age limit I'd set for myself. +10 years or so. If I set a limit.

[Summers]

I would tell your son to truthfully assess her expectations. As an older woman, I wouldn't touch a 25-year-old man with a ten-foot pole if I was looking for a relationship, unless your son is remarkably mature and ready for a mature relationship. At the risk of sounding cynical, why would someone her age be interested in your son? If they are looking for the same kind of relationship, good for them for finding a partner. If they have very different expectations, it won't end well.

[biological clock]

If the timing is right age shouldn't matter but if he's asking then there is more beneath the question.

[DMC]

dmc is so mean to me

I don't mean to be.

[silverblk mystix]

The 35 yo womans' biological clock is ticking more urgently that Gregg Pops' Bonner-Boner Meter-

so she will be pressuring your son (consciously or subconsciously) to give her the Baby-Batter pronto!

[DMX7]

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon did something similar.

[BlackSwordsMan]

mariah carrey and nick cannon get married everyone is fine with it jerry sandusky does the same thing and might go to jail
hyprocrite pro black country we live in makes me sick

[DMC]

mariah carrey and nick cannon get married everyone is fine with it jerry sandusky does the same thing and might go to jail
hyprocrite pro black country we live in makes me sick

Jerry gives a whole new meaning to the words "Coaches Poll"

[BlackSwordsMan]

he gives a new meaning to don't worry it'll only bleed the first time

[DMC]

he gives a new meaning to don't worry it'll only bleed the first time

He wanted the kid clean and when you want something done....

[DMX7]

son I didn't even have to read his wikipedia page to feel that way.

[MannyIsGod]

Times have changed - not all women feel the need to marry and/or have kids anymore. Odds are this is a fling for her, not a long-term relationship. She's found a man who can give her what she wants in the bedroom and she's keeping him around until one of them tires of the other. At that point she'll find somebody her own age to settle with or move on to the next young'un. Or who knows; maybe they'll discover they'll want to stay together for the long haul. Don't worry too much - things usually have a way of working themselves out.

This was my initial thought as well. I think its likely she's just enjoying having a younger man. Good for her. Good for him. I doubt anyone will come out any worse for the wear.

[MannyIsGod]

I can't believe anyone has pointed this out: if he is asking you what you think about the age difference, it is likely because HE has a bit of a problem with it and is hoping someone tells him that it is not (reassurance). I really believe that this is what you should be exploring (what is his problem with it and can it be overcome). As to your question, if I am wrong about what I wrote prior, then age isn't that big of a deal. If they go together well, then that is really what matters.

I don't think it means that he has a problem with it. I think its pretty natural to know that other people may view that age difference oddly and he may be concerned about how people he considers important - such as his parents - view it. That doesn't mean he has a problem with it directly.

[ploto]

I think its likely she's just enjoying having a younger man. Good for her. Good for him. I doubt anyone will come out any worse for the wear.

If she was divorced and already had kids, I would agree 100%.

[Trill Clinton]

I don't think there is an issue if they're just ing. Is he looking to marry this broad?

[DisAsTerBot]

not all dating leads to marriage.

next.

[hater]

the good side of this is the 35 year old is gonna give your son a loooooong leash. So he will be able to go out and whoever he wants on the side.

[DMC]

She's got older friends, in their 40's. He's got friends that are 20.

I told him that relationships always exist, it's just up to him how far he wants this one to go. He's not the type to mention love and all that, he just wants to know if she's going to turn into a crow in a few years.

[DisAsTerBot]

She's got older friends, in their 40's. He's got friends that are 20.

I told him that relationships always exist, it's just up to him how far he wants this one to go. He's not the type to mention love and all that, he just wants to know if she's going to turn into a crow in a few years.

he sounds like a moron. which must make her a real winner

[DMC]

he sounds like a moron. which must make her a real winner

Why do you have to be so negative? Can't a man pour his heart out on a forum about his offspring without someone like you taking cheap shots at him? That's all I ask.

[CosmicCowboy]

Why do you have to be so negative? Can't a man pour his heart out on a forum about his offspring without someone like you taking cheap shots at him? That's all I ask.

[DMC]