My girlfriend of five years, just left me.

[rascal]

I agree with those who say she already has someone else lined up, that is if she has really broken off with you. Most women don't break up to be alone and if they are attractive they won't be alone for very long.

[silverblk mystix]

You have my sympathy. It's a painful thing to go thru, several months later and it still hurts like the first day. Don't know what to say except at this point it's all about self preservation; I personally can't pretend and do the "but we can still be friends" thing right away---she'll assume you are reacting out of anger, but whatever, you need to protect yourself.

Most likely she already has someone else. An emotionally lazy person who is feeling sorry for themselves because they are "neglected" doesn't get out of something to be alone. They get out when they find someone who will meet their emotional needs with minimal effort from themselves; more than likely she's been waiting to see how the other thing would play out before she broke with you.

Yup.

Beat me to it. Roger that quote was from a woman- and I have learned a lot by observing women. This is one of them. 99% of the time , when a woman leaves-she already had someone else lined up. She already knew she was leaving months ago and she was probably playing that other victim/fool to see if he was going to be reliable and catch her "fall"

It isn't all bad though. Just take the pain like a man and try to get to the root of this pain. Most guys will think it is someone else's fault (like the woman being dishonest) that is causing this pain. This is a mistake.

Here it is: The pain is coming from your false illusions being shattered. The illusion was that YOU thought someone else is/was supposed to make YOU happy. You swallowed it whole and became attached to a woman. You mistakenly believed that without a woman you could not be happy. Use this pain/addiction to make you stronger and learn how to love someone WITHOUT being attached. The universe will find another place for your ex and another place for you. In time you will find yourself among new surroundings, new friends,lovers,etc and you will discover that this break-up was a good thing for you.

Write some songs, play some guitar, work-out and help yourself heal.

Oh, and that about blaming yourself for "not being there for her" is totally a waste of time. It cuts both ways. She also "mistakenly" believed that a man is "supposed" to make her feel a certain way. She will have to discover what happiness is but she will go through a few guys and blame them all for not doing it for her.

She did you a favor and saved you from more serious crap in the future. (kids/divorce)

So, tie your nutz tight and man-up and say " her" and move on without looking back. Don't be the whiny little guy that runs to her and begs and humiliates yourself. This would only be counter-productive. 5 years or 20 years - if she made her bed - by all means allow her to lie in it.

[The Reckoning]

Yup.


Here it is: The pain is coming from your false illusions being shattered. The illusion was that YOU thought someone else is/was supposed to make YOU happy. You swallowed it whole and became attached to a woman. You mistakenly believed that without a woman you could not be happy. Use this pain/addiction to make you stronger and learn how to love someone WITHOUT being attached. The universe will find another place for your ex and another place for you. In time you will find yourself among new surroundings, new friends,lovers,etc and you will discover that this break-up was a good thing for you.

Write some songs, play some guitar, work-out and help yourself heal.

it doesn't matter if she's with someone else or really does need space. Here it is: she's just a and you shouldnt be a little yourself about it. this is an excuse for you to go and get your wet. call your bros to bring in some hot filthy out of town tramp and ride that ho. you'll feel better.

[tlongII]

[mrsmaalox]

Not only women wait to leave until they have someone else. Men do it too.

[tlongII]

Not only women wait to leave until they have someone else. Men do it too.

Nah. We just leave.

[silverblk mystix]

Not only women wait to leave until they have someone else. Men do it too.

Well, yes.

It was a broad generalization but IMO women do it far more often.

Women have choices and usually there are already a few guys in reserve. For the simple fact that guys are always trying to score - a woman can sift through the choices and suddenly "accept" a couple of them as just "platonic" friends - or as Chris Rock put it- "a in a glass" (break open in case of emergency)

So when things get rocky in a relationship, a woman picks up the phone and "platonically" chats with her friend. When the guys asks her, "so - how are you and what's his name doing?"

She answers, "well....um...I don't know...I don't think he appreciates me....um..."

And so it begins.....hook...reel....bait.....bam! New fool!

[lebomb]

It can also work the other way silver............ "hey girl, what is up with your man"? "he just doesnt appreciate me at all"......"he is a fool, If i was with you, I would treat you like a queen. You are so smart, and beautiful" "He is an idiot, and I dont see why you are still with him" *she breaks up and goes with this guy* He bangs her brains out and then dumps her. This guy turns out to be way worse than who she broke up with. Now she regrets leaving.

[silverblk mystix]

It can also work the other way silver............ "hey girl, what is up with your man"? "he just doesnt appreciate me at all"......"he is a fool, If i was with you, I would treat you like a queen. You are so smart, and beautiful" "He is an idiot, and I dont see why you are still with him" *she breaks up and goes with this guy* He bangs her brains out and then dumps her. This guy turns out to be way worse than who she broke up with. Now she regrets leaving.

Sounds like the same thing I described except this guy is a dog "preying" on vulnerable/stupid women.

[CuckingFunt]

I've never had someone waiting in the wings when I've ended a relationship. I need/want that period of being single before I jump back into the fray.

[silverblk mystix]

I've never had someone waiting in the wings when I've ended a relationship. I need/want that period of being single before I jump back into the fray.

...because you have a brain. A lot of women are lacking in that area and us guys are so careless that we don't even notice she doesn't have a brain because we are going by our check-list.

Nice Ass: check
Breastasses: check
Face : a little above average....ok - check






J.O.B. : _____
Brain: _______
Morals : ______

[CuckingFunt]

...because you have a brain. A lot of women are lacking in that area

That's bull .

Women have historically been discouraged from self-sufficiency, and as a result there are tremendous social pressures to avoid being single at all costs.

[BUMP]

Not only women wait to leave until they have someone else. Men do it too.

Only guys who are insecure as always need a backup plan. Girls need someone else more than guys do IMO (flame away etc). Guys are supposed to be the dominant of the two so relationships SHOULDN'T mean that much. Atleast to me anyway.

[Lincoln]

Lol 5-11 220
Lol having no friends to play basketball with and to cry to


Maybe you should try losing some weight you fat , I'm sure she got tired of being with an obese mother er whose is hidden behind the layers of fat

[Lincoln]

She's probably getting the brains ed out of her right now while your crying to The Club

[mrsmaalox]

I have never left a relationship with someone in reserve either, but I don't think it has much to do with being female or male. I think both sexes have plenty of lazy people who don't want to be challenged emotionally and/or intellectually in their relationships because they just want things to be easy. Those are the ones that are usually so insecure they need to have something lined up before they leave for good.

[dirk4mvp]

[Avante]

Robert

Ignore the kids, obvious re s who know nothing about nothing. More into tying to be funny than helping you. No she isn't with anyone else this soon, bank on it.

You have to go get her bro, go bring her back, no not talking physically but emotionally. And if you do get her back start making damn sure you zero in on her everyday thoughts, make a real effort to find out what's going on in her mind and in her heart. Never forget women aren't like us men, they need those little things, it's the species.

Write that letter send those flowers.

To you litle kids out there...

Are you guys really that ed up? Then ya wonder why I treat ya like a I do, not a in' brain among ya, wow!

[Magua]

Robert

Ignore the kids, obvious re s who know nothing about nothing. More into tying to be funny than helping you. No she isn't with anyone else this soon, bank on it.

You have to go get her bro, go bring her back, no not talking physically but emotionally. And if you do get her back start making damn sure you zero in on her everyday thoughts, make a real effort to find out what's going on in her mind and in her heart. Never forget women aren't like us men, they need those little things, it's the species.

Write that letter send those flowers.

To you litle kids out there...

Are you guys really that ed up? Then ya wonder why I treat ya like a I do, not a in' brain among ya, wow!

Cool story, Giuseppe.

[dirk4mvp]

How do you find time to be an in shape 280 if you're on the internet all day?

[purplengold]

es be s 99% of da time, just keep Rollin the dice for the 1

[Avante]

I'm retired, I have all the time in the world.

Now back on topic.

[BUMP]

I have never left a relationship with someone in reserve either, but I don't think it has much to do with being female or male. I think both sexes have plenty of lazy people who don't want to be challenged emotionally and/or intellectually in their relationships because they just want things to be easy. Those are the ones that are usually so insecure they need to have something lined up before they leave for good.

True tbh there are a lot of secure girls out there who are perfectly fine being single. As long as you have a group of friends there shouldn't be an issue. I've dated secure girls and insecure girls so I know it goes both ways. Dated one who enjoyed the single life with her friends and didn't hook up with anybody til about 3 months after we broke up, dated another who was so insecure she slept with/started going out with some fat 28 yr old college drop out a few days after we broke up.

C'est la vie

[dirk4mvp]

I'm retired, I have all the time in the world.

Now back on topic.

Like my nigga Squidward said - If I had a dollar for every brain you don't have, I'd have $1.


lol fat

[silverblk mystix]

That's bull .

Women have historically been discouraged from self-sufficiency, and as a result there are tremendous social pressures to avoid being single at all costs.

So you are saying that it is society's fault that women leave one guy (or girl) for their "back-up" new person. Ok.