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hahah asking love advice here is dangerous...
its all good now though guys i sorted the stuf out, a couple of mates talked to her at lunch and told her the stuff we got up to, and she apologised for it. put that in your pipe and smoke it
hahah asking love advice here is dangerous...
you're too young to be worrying about losing this girl.
A woman will never forget that a man cheated on her.So give thanks to the gal
if she continues being your friend,count your blessings and move on! Learn your lesson
and have 100 more girlfriends before you get tired of dating.
ing pimp...must be the accent...chicks dig foreign accents.
Even though your mates had your back, I would suggest the following next steps:
Put yourself in her place for a moment. Really think about it for a few minutes. Then tell her you've thought about the weekend and you've considered "what if it had been her in the pub and what you might have thought of her"...so you have a better perspective on her feelings and how she must have felt and that you are sorry. You want to have mutual respect and trust for each other and you'll work to do so from now on.
Just a thought, mate.
cool thanks man
If it's a done deal don't bring it up again.. let it bury itself ... (the specific incident said)
Once an accuser, always an accuser. This issue, or others just like it, will keep reoccurring in your relationship until it is properly dealt with or you two break up. If you feel the relationship is worth salvaging get couples counseling.
It is apparent she does not trust you and without trust?.....problems are just another night out away.
tell her it wasnt the sheep this time../.
Unfortunately, it is very difficult to trust someone again once they have cheated on you. You would pretty much have to be a shut-in every time she goes out of town. Granted, you were the one who cheated and you should have to make some sacrifices to make up for that, but you shouldn't have to do it forever. Chances are, she will never trust you again.
I kinda think it's not too big of a deal if you were 15 when you cheated...but if she has issues over it, it doesn't really matter what you or anyone else thinks. There is going to be a trust issue there for a long time until you figure out a way to resolve it.
But even though you were 15...it's not like she doesn't have good reasons for not trusting you...so I don't think it's really a case of her being insecure or high mantinence or anything.
If there is no trust then there really can't be much of a relationship...how can you be friends with someone you don't trust? You can't really.
My solution:
She needs to cheat on you and give you a dose of your own medicine to get even, and then you can start rebuilding the trust from there...
Can't forgive "cheating" at 15? 4 years ago? Who of us wants the stupid things we did at 15 (or so) held against us for the rest of our lives? Sounds like someone wants control.
Also, the self-righteousness of many posters is funny.
Look ive been in many relationships and i have cheated plenty of times, but the one relationship i didnt cheat, i was accused of cheating on a constant basis. One you thing you must learn about women, is that they trust us guys, they just dont trust other women, especially if they think their man is good looking. Now when she accuses you of cheating sit her down, ( i love this technique), put her hand on your heart, and say "baby this is all for you, i would never even think about any other woman, and that makes me happy". all while keeping eye contact and letting a single tear drip from your eye.....melts em like butta
Humbling yourself and working to make changes to improve your relationship is what makes them work. Both people have to make the effort. Most people don't do that and that's why so many relationships are broken.
I was with you.. til this:
My solution:
She needs to cheat on you and give you a dose of your own medicine to get even, and then you can start rebuilding the trust from there...
Jim, it is not as if they are married or maybe not even engaged. Sheeesh, what was she doing while she was gone?
Im telling you my advice is the best....
You advice blows..
I was not aware that this was puppy love... the guy was 15 years old for Godsake.
No 15 yr old boy or girl should ever ever be exclusive. If you are, you will want to everyone in the whole world when you are in college and older. You need to test the waters about 10-12 times before ever being exclusive, especially men or you will regret it.
Dude, tell her that you want to date other women and invite her to do the same thing(not women...well....maybe), then after about 2-3 yrs, if you both have feeling for each other, then become engaged and be faithful....but not until then.
I have had more married women want to have affairs with me than I can count, and the common denominator of all of them is, they married or became exclusive at way too early an age, and regretted it.
Trust me on this subject, I am an expert on this one thing...moreso than basketball.
I actually agree with Jim. If I could do it all over, I wouldn't have gotten married until I was at least 30.
I actually agree with Jim. If I could do it all over, I wouldn't have gotten married until I was at least 30.
You would have been a horny little vixen at any age.
Hold up the dude is only 15???? then what are you thinking when your 15 and you get accused of cheating make sure you show her you are cheating...damn Jim is right, with a relationship that young your going to want to become a male nympho......go out and find as many as you can now.....there is always plenty more fish in the sea
I actually agree with Jim. If I could do it all over, I wouldn't have gotten married until I was at least 30.
actually? actually????
Like it is usually so preposterous to agree with Jim????
Dammit Jim, your not a love doctor!
This is correct. She will ALWAYS bring up the time u cheated on her and make u feel bad about it. Ur screwed.
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