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Funny, I was thinking the same thing.
Depends, did dude have a vasectomey? Was that his precaution? Cause if so he should just leave.
Funny, I was thinking the same thing.
Depends, did dude have a vasectomey? Was that his precaution? Cause if so he should just leave.
The failure rate of a vasectomy is 1-3 per 1,000.
i don't thin kit would put him out the door, but it would definatly set his ass in a room at the hotel 8 for awhile. dumbass mofo. how dare he. i would never ever. ign numbnut. who does he think I am???
Serious issues behind a question like that. Definatly calls for a e-mail to Dr.Phil. If it was me .. prob. end up spending big $$ on marriage counseling.
Depends, did dude have a vasectomey? Was that his precaution? Cause if so he should just leave.
I think he should leave her.
Just to present another viewpoint: we're supposed to believe she could never have cheated on her husband just because she said so? How do we know he doesn't have a reasonable cause for su ion?
Yeah, watch her get all high and mighty and then the kid come out a different race.
Ah, thank god for the people that make the Maury show keep going.
That's what I was thinking. Also, I don't know why the women here have the initial reaction of leave him, make him sleep in a hotel, etc. If he's a good husband, then obviously he just has some insecurities. Why wouldn't you want to just see where he's coming from and try to work it out? Weird that people would give up on their husband (or throw him out for a while) over this.
I agree with that.No, I wouldn't leave him for just questioning and wanting a paternity test. But obviously whoever this is needs to work on some trust issues in the relationship.
I'd assume it must be hard to be inferred as being a when you actually weren't this time. Dammit.
I'd just quietly give him the paternity test - then when the results came back, I would make him SO sorry for doubting me for the rest of his pitiful life.
Shoogerbear, it was just posed as the question you saw here. No details, no mentions of a friend or anything. I know it wasn't the poster in the situation . . . so ?
If he does have reason to suppose she's cheating, then why not ask that, rather than insinuate he's cheating.
If he doesn't have reason to suppose that, and she has never cheated, how would you react? That's an awfully big set of insecurities that would seem to have been building all the time. I think any knee jerk reaction I have is that there is an immediate leap from 'may be pregnant without trying, hoping, or planning' to 'you must have cheated on me' - where is the in between? Where is the discussion of birth control failure? The immediate leap is to infedelity (proven because the guy wore a condom)? That is some major issues right there.
Maybe it is just insecurities, but doesn't that belie a deeper mistrust of the marriage and the woman? How do you recover from such a deep mistrust? I know it can be done, but I'm not surprised that some people would immediately think about leaving.
I am surprised. It doesn't say much for a person's investment in their marriage if they immediately consider leaving just because of their spouse's questions or insecurities.
Easjer, PM me the approximate location of this woman and I'll check my travel records for the last few weeks in order to rule myself out as a possible suspect.
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You have a point there, Kori. It's hard for me to judge, because I can't ever picture myself in this situation. Other situations, yes (not saying my marriage is perfect), but Jason goes out of his way (generally) to make sure not to hurt my feelings. So it's difficult to get a read on it.
On my other board (all women), it was split between kicking him out and maybe doing counseling before letting him back in, and just trying to work through it.
I agree with Cosmic.
If your married, WTF is with having to continue with the raincoat?
Thats bs man.
Presumably, he did not want children, and like a responsible adult, was taking pains to ensure they did not happen.
Which, as has recently been discussed to death, is still not full protection unless it involves a vasectomy.
If you are trying to prevent pregnancy, some women don't like having to be on the pill and deal with its side effects and long term problems on your body.
If the guy didn't want a kid he might do well to wear one. From what it sounds like the guy doesn't trust her to be faithful, so he probably doesn't trust her if she were to go on the pill.
Or it could be just what I said.
I know a lot of married women who choose other forms of birth control other than the pill.
Some of the people you think are the most trustworthy can be the tiest. Male and female. Kori had it right, that person probably shouldn't leave, but they should probably see someone about those trust issues.
ahhh...interesting perspective considering there are other alternatives the female can take that have a much higher success rate in pregnancy prevention.
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