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I know a couple that have been together since 7th grade. They are 27 now. You never know when might just work out.
Nobody ever knows how or if a relationship will grow or falter. What if it turns out to be the love of your life?
I know a couple that have been together since 7th grade. They are 27 now. You never know when might just work out.
Well, usckk, there is the other side of the equation as well. Are you only going to get into a relationship that has potential to 'last'? What defines that - are you talking about a couple of years, are you talking marriage? I hit that point, because I'd gotten fed up with casual dating. And then I hooked up with my husband, and one of our first conversations was about whether or not there was a future for us. Because if not, we had a great friendship neither of us wanted ruined.
But if you never put yourself out there, you can really lose the chance to grow as a person and develop your relationship/communication skills.
It's never a forgone conclusion. There is value to be gained by a relationship, even if it ends. Life is about striking a balance between gaining experience and not being reckless.
You should be realistic about the fact that a lot of longterm relationships don't work out after highschool for hs sweethearts, but that shouldn't automatically dictate that you never enter a relationship. By that logic, you'd never date anyone seriously that you wouldn't marry. And that's not realistic, because relationships and feelings change with time. And you lose a realistic chance of keeping such a relationship, because you haven't built your skills in the interim.
If you are interested in dating someone, then date. Be casual and if you think it might go somewhere else, then be honest about that fact and about what it would mean. Don't completely cut yourself off because it doesn't always work out (just like you shouldn't cling for the same reason).
Very, true easjer. Thanks for the comments! That's what i was worried about--the potential that this girl might be the "right one"
You're a better hopeless romantic than I am. I don't think the human animal is built to withstand long-term departures of one partner or the other. The same kind of feelings - anger, jealosy, frustratation - that build in the death of a loved one, tend to take over the relationship.
I know a wife of my brother's friend who was serving in Iraq who cheated on her husband, became pregnant with this guy's baby, and had it aborted before the husband could find out. Just to add to her burden, her husband died three months later.
I've also been with women who I thought were "the one" only to find out it wasn't meant to be....well, perhaps they found out that I wasn't the one but the point is that the human heart works in mysterious ways. If someone would have told me 15 years ago that I'd be married to my wife I'd a said 'No way Jose!" but now wouldn't have it any other way.
Marriage rocks!!!!
See...me and this person have known each other for 4 years and have been very good friends for 3. We've always known we like each other. Its just because we are both so busy with school and extracurricular activites, never had a chance to have "a date."
I know it's rare. But, it does happen. My Mom was an AF wife for 23 years. My parents were still in love the day my father died, maybe more than they had ever been. Out of 23 years, they actually spent less then 15 together. I know they are from a different generation, but I know people my own age (and I realize I am quite a bit older than most here) who have long-distance relationships that work. I have a good friend who lives and works in Houston, but her husband lives on their farm in Missouri and operates their business. They've been living this way for 20 years and see each other 3-4 times a year for a week or two (sometimes just a long weekend) at t time.
I also have a young friend (she's probably 24-25) who is working her in San Antonio while her husband goes to Northwestern for his Masters in finance. This is their third (and hopefully their last) year to do this. Hopefully, he will be returning to San Antonio in June to work fulltime and she will be going to school to complete her degree. Only time will tell if they survive this three-year separation where they have seen each other only at Christmas and a few days during the summer, but so far they have.
It's tough. And, sometimes, even when people are truly in love, they do not survive the separation; I know more people who fall into the failure category than the success category.
"A Date." Has there been sex?
If we could tell the future that would be wonderful, but we can't. That's why we have to grow up and experience life and heartbreak. All you can do is follow your head and heart. My husband and I were both previously married to other people. We met and married in our 30's, I was 35 & he was 37. We have been married for 8 1/2 incredible years. But we know that if we had met when we were young we probably wouldn't have worked out. We were too different then. There is a lot to be said for growing up first and finding out who you are and what you want for yourself before you commit your life to another person. I am not saying you have to wait until you are 35, but I changed tremendously after graduating college and getting out in the working world and realizing I could provide for myself. By then I was already married for the first time and a mother with a miserable overbearing husband who didn't want me to succeed. His misery with his own life carried over into mine. I am just saying you need to make sure your own life is well adjusted and happy before you make a commitment. But that shouldn't preclude you from dating and having fun as long as you are completely up front and honest with people about your motives and don't get too seriously involved.
I'm sure that your post was very profound 2Blonde but I have to admit I was distracted by your spectacular avatar...
Why thank you, kind sir !
I'm sure that your post was very profound 2Blonde but I have to admit I was distracted by your spectacular avatar...
my roomate is still dating this girl he met in HS, but yet he doesnt even go to school anyway
One would assume from the context of this awful sentence that you are a high school graduate but your sentence structure and composition suggest otherwise.
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