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[Kori Ellis]

It's good advice with those gatherings but, there are no such I can go to.
and with whom? plus the job. I'm working and have not much time going out somwhere and at the bar I would be bored and get more depressed.
Church - I was at every Sunday my whole life, but lately I got fed up. And I'm starting to question the exsistance of God.

damn I must get out of it
One life in life and i'm not having fun of it.

It's okay to question things. But maybe you should go back to church at just try. There you can interact with people, get some counseling from the clergy, and maybe find your way back on track in life.

Do they have social groups and gatherings at your church?

[polandprzem]

Go fly a kite.

I'm better

[polandprzem]

It's okay to question things. But maybe you should go back to church at just try. There you can interact with people, get some counseling from the clergy, and maybe find your way back on track in life.

Do they have social groups and gatherings at your church?

It doen't work that way.
My collegue is a priest and ... ohh come on ... the churches in Poland looks differently. And I live in small town.

[polandprzem]

And wow - I can see people do care in here.

Thank you for that. That will get me through this night ...

[mardigan]

I awlays get depressed around this time of year because its when my little sister died 10 years ago. The important thing is to try and concentrate on the little things in life, like sunsets, strangers smiles, a cool breeze, anything that you might over look regularly. I know life really does get hard sometimes, and its very easy to beat yorself up, but you have to look at things from a different perspective. Pick yourself up Poland, it will be ok in the end

[tlongII]

I'm assuming you're recovering from knee surgery. At least I seem to recall you saying something like that, I apologize if I'm wrong. That is definitely a tough one. I injured my back last week and haven't been able to work out for a few days and it sucks. I'm in pain most of the time and I end up just sitting around and it depresses me. I'll go to the doctor next week and hopefully he'll be able to fix me up. Physical activity is the best way for me to avoid depression.

[mardigan]

I'm assuming you're recovering from knee surgery. At least I seem to recall you saying something like that, I apologize if I'm wrong. That is definitely a tough one. I injured my back last week and haven't been able to work out for a few days and it sucks. I'm in pain most of the time and I end up just sitting around and it depresses me. I'll go to the doctor next week and hopefully he'll be able to fix me up. Physical activity is the best way for me to avoid depression.

Yea, I had a disc removed from my lower back that I shattered 3 months ago. I was really depressed, wasnt able to do , and my doctor told me I couldnt ever play compe ive basketball again, which really depressed me. But I found other ways to fill my time, a lot of swimming, a lot if chess, a lot of 360, and it got me trough it. It was a serious injury, but 3 months later Im almost back to a 100%, hope you feel better TLong, I know how much pain your back can cause

[polandprzem]

I'm assuming you're recovering from knee surgery. At least I seem to recall you saying something like that, I apologize if I'm wrong. That is definitely a tough one. I injured my back last week and haven't been able to work out for a few days and it sucks. I'm in pain most of the time and I end up just sitting around and it depresses me. I'll go to the doctor next week and hopefully he'll be able to fix me up. Physical activity is the best way for me to avoid depression.

Yes that is the problem - one that is over 3 years, and still there is something wrong in my knee (after two surgeries)

Right now the main reason is woman
It's over before it started I have to see her ...
It is tough for me and her. I can't be a friend

[polandprzem]

I awlays get depressed around this time of year because its when my little sister died 10 years ago. The important thing is to try and concentrate on the little things in life, like sunsets, strangers smiles, a cool breeze, anything that you might over look regularly. I know life really does get hard sometimes, and its very easy to beat yorself up, but you have to look at things from a different perspective. Pick yourself up Poland, it will be ok in the end

Thanks - I will try to force myself, but knowing myself it won't help... or maybe the samll steps ...

we will see

[mardigan]

Thanks - I will try to force myself, but knowing myself it won't help... or maybe the samll steps ...

we will see

Girls always seem to have a way of sucking the life out of you, especially if your a good guy. Im sorry about that, getting over those types of things never seem like they are in your control, but they are. Just try to be active and positive, maybe go out and get yourself something nice that you have been wanting for awhile. And if it is over for sure, just do your best to try and stay away from her no matter how bad you want to see her.

[exstatic]

poland - check your PMs.

[polandprzem]

Girls always seem to have a way of sucking the life out of you, especially if your a good guy. Im sorry about that, getting over those types of things never seem like they are in your control, but they are. Just try to be active and positive, maybe go out and get yourself something nice that you have been wanting for awhile. And if it is over for sure, just do your best to try and stay away from her no matter how bad you want to see her.

Especially when I see her at work ...
It is good that we do have the shifts so I see her for not long, but long enough to feel bad about whole situation. and it was so good I thought ...
damn - it was!
She just chosen the guy she was with in not-so-good IMO relationship.
They are trying to to fix the relationship. But she is not sure if it will work as she would have to go abroad soon ... she doesn't want it.
Maybe I was just wrong to believe it could be something special.
And she hurted my feelings saying that was nothing big
But it was as she was talking about the situation previously

ed up situation but I will get through it.

[tlongII]

Yes that is the problem - one that is over 3 years, and still there is something wrong in my knee (after two surgeries)

Right now the main reason is woman
It's over before it started I have to see her ...
It is tough for me and her. I can't be a friend

I understand. It's tough when you can't do something physical and take your mind off of your emotional issues. I've had a lot of emotional issues lately. My dad was preliminarily diagnosed with hydrocephaly and my sister-in-law had breast cancer among other things. Fortunately I think I'm through the worst of my depression and am on the way back up now.

[polandprzem]

I'm not the only one with problems and I doi realize it, but why I get into depression?

I have nothing to let me know I'm worth something, nothing ... or maybe I'm not noticing it?

[SequSpur]

Poland, if you're in a rut, just go find a polish brotha.

[midgetonadonkey]

I have always wanted to build model cars but I'd probably become addicted to the glue.

[Jules]

Cheer up, sweetie!

[polandprzem]

Hey Jules - it is much much better right now.

I'm in a process of changing my whole thinking

So far so good


Thank you all for the interest that helped me also.

One fricking life and get into depression It is quite ease me to say that right now. But I need to make some steps some adjustments ...
Things might not go the right way but who gives a I'd rather smile an laugh about it then cry about it. That's my feeling and nobody will take away them from me.

Once again thanks

[polandprzem]

btw - weed is good

[polandprzem]

Just kidding

Just kidding

[mardigan]

Just kidding

Just kidding

No your not, weed is great!!!

[Jules]

But I need to make some steps some adjustments ...
Things might not go the right way but who gives a I'd rather smile an laugh about it then cry about it.

That is a great approach! Believe you me, some situations are not worth the effort, nor the emotional impact associated with it.

[Solid D]

I just saw this thread. Polandprzem, you are smart and you have a lot going for you! If the local churches don't offer you what you are looking for, try to see if there are any local Small Groups meeting or Bible Studies going on during the week. Family or no family, sometimes it is better to re-plant yourself and move to a new place. It may not be that easy to do and it's not a guarantee for happiness for you, but sometimes it can be a good thing! Otherwise, you can just as easily make a decision to brighten the world right where you are and look for opportunities to do some good.

[polandprzem]

I just saw this thread. Polandprzem, you are smart and you have a lot going for you! If the local churches don't offer you what you are looking for, try to see if there are any local Small Groups meeting or Bible Studies going on during the week. Family or no family, sometimes it is better to re-plant yourself and move to a new place. It may not be that easy to do and it's not a guarantee for happiness for you, but sometimes it can be a good thing! Otherwise, you can just as easily make a decision to brighten the world right where you are and look for opportunities to do some good.

Thanks!

I have no interest in such groups
btw - there are not many that kind of groups

As to re-plant myself to another place - maybe it's a good idea but you know I live in a house only with my mom, now imagine .... this house will be mine as the toim goes so I have to stay.
The bad thing is that I would have to take care of the house by myself as I won't find a wife.
I will just wait what life gives me and I will try to take adventage of all the things.

I will try to do it myself without a shrink.
But maybe it was my mistake not to go in the first place somewhere 10 tyears ago.

[ploto]

I know that this may sound a little pollyanna, but I have discovered that when I get low that the best thing that I can do is do something for someone else. I look for those whose situations are clearly more difficult than mine and try to do something to help another person. It can be a small, kind gesture to someone you encounter everyday, or doing something nice for a stranger. It always seem to lift my spirits to bring some unexpected joy to someone else- especially someone who themselves feels overlooked.

As to the other advice, I would also very much encourage you to think of something that you like to do and find a way to do it-- treat yourself to whatever it is and go. Get out and be around some people- and you can even go alone. Sometimes it is actually easier to do something alone because there is no one around to have any parameters or expectations on you and who you are and how you should be. You never know what unbelievable experiences you may find or what amazing people you may meet simply by being in the right place at the right time.