I have a bit of a dilemma

[TDMVPDPOY]

Does that work for you? Do you offer to buy her the strap-on too?

we can start of with the beads for now.....

[Strike]

I wouldn't do it. Too many things can go wrong when coworkers get involved with each other.

If you do, be very careful. Make sure you have a backup plan in case it backfires.

[DisAsTerBot]

wear a rubber dude.

lumberg ed her...

[angel_luv]

I think a group happy hour is a good idea, but I disagree with the idea of not sitting by her or starting a conversation, because she may be waiting for you to do that. With the signs she's been throwing out, I'd say the ball is in your court.

One tip drilled into me by my wife of 14 years:
Women spend a fair amount of effort on their appearance, i.e. shoes, hair, dress, etc, and men will unconsciously note "those shoes look nice" or similar, but often neglect to say anything.

Find something you genuinely like about her outfit and compliment it. No fake-y sucking up, just a nice genuinely-felt compliment.

I agree.

All the best to you!

[TDMVPDPOY]

you can start with the fake compliments....

[Brutalis]

I would just go up to her when it's not very busy and privately ask her to dinner whenever she is available. I have found though the longer you flirt/game/play with a girl and you do not make your move, her interest will decline and you could miss your chance.

However I am only 24. But I've been engaged from a 3 year thing that crashed, and have been through several funny/odd dates and girlfriends since. Grateful for my experiences and the knowledge from it all but at the same time burned out. Seems like everyone I know my age is married or has a kid, somehow I avoided both.

[Findog]

This thread is weird. If a women asks: Did you miss me or are you missing me. She's calling out for attention and wants to feel wanted. She wants sex. Why is this so complicated. If it develops into something more great if it doesn't great. You won't know until you dip your balls in it.

I would ask her out like a real man. Don't pussy foot around it. Then if the date goes well you might want to bring up the discreet aspect of your jobs to gauge her reaction.

99% of women are attracted to someone forward and direct. Blunt even. Pussy footing around only works with fatties.

As I've said, maybe I'm making entirely way too much of the coworker angle, but I would've asked her out already if we weren't. Being "pretty sure" a woman is interested is usually good enough for me to work up the nerve to ask her out. Being "100% dead certain this won't backfire professionally" is the standard for asking out a coworker.

[Findog]

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I would just go up to her when it's not very busy and privately ask her to dinner whenever she is available. I have found though the longer you flirt/game/play with a girl and you do not make your move, her interest will decline and you could miss your chance.

You're absolutely right that this is how women show interest. They rarely if ever take the lead and ask guys out themselves. Usually they flirt mercilessly to entice you to ask them out, and if you twiddle your thumbs too long, they lose interest and move on.

I don't think the window is passed here, but I'm getting down to crunchtime, and I'm trying to figure out the best way to approach her.

[whottt]

I can tell you right now that you are way overanalyzing it and too worried about covering your ass. Just ask the chick out if you like her...the worst thing she can say is no. If she gets offended and reports it, they aren't going to fire you over asking her out, they'll just warn you, unless you are a really bad employee or they are total assholes. And if they are that big of assholes you are better off working elsewhere.

It's a certainty that if you ask women out, eventually you will get turned down...so why worry about it? There's only one way to find out if she'll say yes.

[whottt]

You're absolutely right that this is how women show interest. They rarely if ever take the lead and ask guys out themselves. Usually they flirt mercilessly to entice you to ask them out, and if you twiddle your thumbs too long, they lose interest and move on.

The ones that take the lead and are real aggressive are usually the biggest es. Not if they are doing it on a lark or something...but if it's a general rule that they are aggressive they are pretty much like men, about control and power, and out to screw as many guys as possible. These are the girls that go through like 14 boyfriends a year in highschool. While it may seem flattering for some woman to come on to you aggressively like that...it's really more about them than it is about you...generally speaking.

[Yuixafun]

As I've said, maybe I'm making entirely way too much of the coworker angle, but I would've asked her out already if we weren't. Being "pretty sure" a woman is interested is usually good enough for me to work up the nerve to ask her out. Being "100% dead certain this won't backfire professionally" is the standard for asking out a coworker.

Nothing is 100% dead certain. I smell so much weakness from this post.

Go masturbate if you want something easy and doesn't take any work, risk, or having to put yourself out there.

Sure does SEEM that you are using being Coworkers as a cop out for your inability to make a move.

[KenMcCoy]

Man up and ask her out for drinks (if you both drink). Stop dancing around the subject...if you continue she'll quickly lose interest. She's obviously interested if she looked you up on facebook.

Your work can't do anything to you unless you report to her or vice versa.

[Findog]

Update: Going out for drinks this Thursday after work.

[J.T.]

Fathers are NOT friends. They are teachers, rule-setters, and guides, with the ultimate goal of producing a capable, polite, competant adult.

And dads who aren't friends with their kids and only drill them with the do's and dont's of life are probably responsible for their kids becoming s or emo losers or any number of negative social stereotypes. A father should be his son's best friend, on top of being his father.

Findog, may I recommend a pick up line I find to be bold, witty, and have a high success rate? Try this out: "My just died, can I bury it in your ass?"

[DannyT]

first off how do you call yourself an IT worker and allow your netowrks to be comprimised by facebook and god knows what else...second how much do your help desk network techs get paid and were do I sign up?

Third most people say dont and eat in the same place but it worked out for me...it was similar to your situation but times are different now so I dont know but just do a group date to start out with and let her work her way into your heart...cause this isnt Coming to America, youre not gonna mop your way into your life sir

good luck

[Heath Ledger]

Wow I can't believe there are people out in the world like you. Who asks a bunch of internet strangers for dating advice, you sound like a paranoid mother er with no balls and who hasn't pussy since pussy had you.

Grow a pair, if you like the chick, ask her out to lunch date and go from there but don't pussy foot around like a high school girl.

[DannyT]

and thats the bottom line.....cause Heath Ledger said so!!!

[duncan228]

Update: Going out for drinks this Thursday after work.

Hope you have a good time Findog. Glad you asked her.

[PM5K]

I had some pretty good advice but it was 3am (like it is now) and I accidentally deleted it.

I guess it's a moot point based on your above post, but the gist was that I would have taken her unbelievably obvious hints, but since I'm me and not you I think the best advice for you would have been to let things progress naturally, maybe push them ever so slightly, it's like a dance and when you finally get her in bed it makes everything that much better.

[angel_luv]

Update: Going out for drinks this Thursday after work.

Have fun.

[Bartleby]

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