Question for the guys about being a "gentlemen"

[Strike]

I hate when chicks get all upset because you don't help them carry stuff or open doors or crap like that. I worked in a place where you were required to be able to lift at least 45 pounds in order to get the job but somehow I was supposed to pick everything up for the women. What happened to womens lib? I thought the purpose was for equality or is that just when it comes to the benefits?

^This^

[whottt]

I usually try to be polite but it also depends on my mood. I will always attempt to hold the door open but if a bunch a people just start walking through and taking it for granted, like it's my job or something, and don't even acknoledge my existence I will just let go of the door and walk off. It's definitely situational. And I never walk through a door someone is holding open without saying thanks.


Doesn't bother me if they say thanks really when I am in a good mood, but does bother me when I am in a bad mood. The right thing to do is acknowledge the person holding the door open for you and people that refuse to do so are rude, I don't care what the person looks like.


What isn't situational is when I am at a Blockbuster or something with double doors and I am leaving or entering through the right door and someone is coming in from the opposite side and crosses over to come in through the door I just opened which would be the left door to them...

That annoys the out of me and it happens just about every time I go into Blockbuster. It's like they want to do as little work as humanly possible or something and just get that free open door.

Someday that is going to happen when I am in the wrong kind of mood and that door is just going to get slammed in their lazy face. Just a matter of time.

[ploto]

It's nice when people can make a small gesture without the need to be acknowledged.

This.

[The Gemini Method]

Man, you would think people would say excuse me, too. I don't know what happened to people, but if there is one thing I can't stand is the lack of etiquette. I mean, I am very liberal in my stance on most anything, but if you can't take the time to properly thank someone, then you can properly open the door on your own.

[Frenzy]

What the is that in your avatar. Conjoined twins?

I think you mean my sig.... and yes I guess I dunno looks like Photoshop.

I hate agreeing with anything CC says but I have found that this is the best way to get any response. Smile and dont look like you are doing them a favor. I hold doors open for everyone guys or girls, of course yes ill go a little more out of my way for a hot chick and for the elderly. Also a lost art is guys sitting down before ladies at a table. If I am with her ill pull her chair out but if she is a friends girl or what not ill wait till she sits down to sit.

I've never done that. What's the whole idea behind that?...Is that still under the term "ladies first"?

that would be a hard habit to start doing for me..I bet mr. chulapa don't even do that.

[polandprzem]

I usually try to be polite but it also depends on my mood. I will always attempt to hold the door open but if a bunch a people just start walking through and taking it for granted, like it's my job or something, and don't even acknoledge my existence I will just let go of the door and walk off. It's definitely situational. And I never walk through a door someone is holding open without saying thanks.


Doesn't bother me if they say thanks really when I am in a good mood, but does bother me when I am in a bad mood. The right thing to do is acknowledge the person holding the door open for you and people that refuse to do so are rude, I don't care what the person looks like.


What isn't situational is when I am at a Blockbuster or something with double doors and I am leaving or entering through the right door and someone is coming in from the opposite side and crosses over to come in through the door I just opened which would be the left door to them...

That annoys the out of me and it happens just about every time I go into Blockbuster. It's like they want to do as little work as humanly possible or something and just get that free open door.

Someday that is going to happen when I am in the wrong kind of mood and that door is just going to get slammed in their lazy face. Just a matter of time.

You are pissed because you didn't get any tips for holding the door

[Sotongball21]

Well, i went out with my group of friends today, and there was a guy on the bicycle behind us, so we moved away. The bicycle guy said "thank you"!
And we said in unison. "Welcome!"

[EmptyMan]

Women always look at me and smile and say thanks when I hold the door for them. Like 100% of the time.

That's because they are all 90 yrs old holmes. The older women get flashbacks to the good ol' days thanks to you, young whippersnapper.

[The Reckoning]

at people being upset when men don't go out of their way to assist women but at the same time believing its degrading to women when men do so.

so which one is it?

A) my mama taught me to take care of women because they keep the wheel of life turnin', so you can kiss my ass with all the "chauvinist pig" bull .

B) help everyone - men and women alike - with the door, but don't expect a thank you because that's degrading to women. don't open car doors, carry small loads, hold umbrellas or pull chairs out for women because it would look awkward doing so for men - everyone must be treated the same - or else you're a sexist bas .




on a side note, my literature TA called me sexist on front of the entire study group and tried to get all of the women in the group to heckle me. she called me sexist because i interpreted ee mings and hemingway as believing that women should be treated the same as men and not be treated better just for being women.


so i degrade women when i do help them, and i degrade them when i dont.

[sabar]

I don't expect thanks for anything I do anywhere. I'm not en led to anything, whether it be a thank you or any "common courtesy". I still say thank you and hold doors for anyone and would teach the same. People need to be a bit more selfless, especially when it comes to trivial things like holding a freaking door open. No one cares that you wasted 0.00012% of your life holding something without thanks. Altruism makes the world better, not gra ude.

I assume that people hold doors to be nice, not to boost their egos or pick up women. The latter two are equally pathetic.