Getting Divorced. ! To! The! Yes!

[mavs>spurs2]

Good. I didn't think that it was something you would enjoy, however, in that case, I humbly suggest that you stop sending out the invitations.

Take care, my friend.

take it easy scro, hope the mookie crew allows you to join soon good luck

[ChuckD]

I think when a kid grows up with a dad who makes a good living and a mom who can stay at home, pick the kid up from school everyday, attend every PTA meeting, inflate the kids' self esteem whenever he/she needs it, and has cookies made everyday the kid is done with school (exaggeration but you get my point), it gives the kid a false sense that life is perfect and nothing will ever go wrong. There are countless cases of people I know who grew up like this and flamed out once they left for college.

The highlighted part is what doesn't prepare them for the world. I grew up in a two parent household with a stay at home mom, and was NOT unprepared for the world. I got grounded for doing poorly at school or not doing chores, and if there was an issue with me and a teacher, my parents asked the teacher what I had to do to make it right. My parents did support me, but didn't hesitate to bust my chops when I ed up.

[JoeChalupa]

the highlighted part is what doesn't prepare them for the world. I grew up in a two parent household with a stay at home mom, and was not unprepared for the world. I got grounded for doing poorly at school or not doing chores, and if there was an issue with me and a teacher, my parents asked the teacher what i had to do to make it right. My parents did support me, but didn't hesitate to bust my chops when i ed up.

+1

[Sportcamper]

I am not judging your marital situation, relationships are tough, people make mistakes... I do question why you have no assets after 10 years of marriage…No house, cars, savings, retirement account?

Sounds like your ex will not have to work too hard to move up the food chain…

[mrsmaalox]

Strike, I know it's been really rough for you getting to this point. Congrats on the fresh start, I wish you the best

[SpursWoman]

If I hadn't gotten out of a terrible first marriage, it's hard to imagine I'd be anywhere close to being as happy or life nearly as good as it is today.

Mistakes happen ... it's always best to just learn from them and move on. Good luck!

[SpursStalker]

Congrats to ya ...

Hope things finally go the way you want them too.

[Strike]

I am not judging your marital situation, relationships are tough, people make mistakes... I do question why you have no assets after 10 years of marriage…No house, cars, savings, retirement account?

Sounds like your ex will not have to work too hard to move up the food chain…

Bad choices, professionally and personally when I was younger that took years to work my way out of. I've just recently gotten to the point where I'm no longer living paycheck to paycheck so the savings and retirement are starting to be built. And I do own a car and, though it's not worth much, it serves my needs. I'm about a year away from being completely debt free, at which point I will get a new car and I'm already saving for a down payment on a house. My twenties were full of hard times that were mostly self inflicted.

One reason why I stayed married for so long was financial necessity. I couldn't make it on my own. But I've grown up a lot this past decade. The ex, on the other hand has not. She's the exact same person she was when we married. My station in life and standard of living will increase over the next few years. Can't say the same about hers. And if she finds someone richer, more successful or better than me, fine. More power to her.

I'm happy to be rid of her. She will likely become someone else's headache. Nice try cracking on me, though.

Strike, I know it's been really rough for you getting to this point. Congrats on the fresh start, I wish you the best

If I hadn't gotten out of a terrible first marriage, it's hard to imagine I'd be anywhere close to being as happy or life nearly as good as it is today.

Mistakes happen ... it's always best to just learn from them and move on. Good luck!

Congrats to ya ...

Hope things finally go the way you want them too.

Thanks to the three of you. I've never been as excited about my future as I am now.

[Sportcamper]

Admitting that you made mistakes & making a plan to correct them means that you are on the road to better success…Living with a person who never admits that they are wrong is unbearable…Good luck with your fresh start…And drive that old car in the ground…

[Strike]

Admitting that you made mistakes & making a plan to correct them means that you are on the road to better success…Living with a person who never admits that they are wrong is unbearable…Good luck with your fresh start…And drive that old car in the ground…

This. Totally my situation. Always blaming things on other people. Never her fault. It's amazing I don't drink like a fish.