Ouch.

[timvp]

Eh, I really doubt it. But of course im not 100% sure she didnt.

That's trick number one. If nothing happened, the girl wouldn't think to call you. But after she banged the guy, she told her friend to help cover it up.

It's how it works.

[Brutalis]

is her friend hot? or just the ugly chic that likes to talk to her girls boyfriends...

you play this right...and you could be in shangrila...your only 20...plenty of years to settle down and find the RIGHT one anyway....

may be time to start wearing a rubber though dude...

Her friend is an attractive girl yes. But why did that matter?

I never wanted to settle down til I got to know Amber. I dont want to after either.

[Kori Ellis]

A few thoughts and questions ...

Are you more pissed off that she kissed someone and then confessed to you ... or is it the lying about being a virgin part?

The lying part would probably mean more in the long-term. Because even if you stay with her, you will probably always be wary of what she has told you in the past.

It's odd to me that she confessed that she kissed the guy and then is begging to stay with you. Did she tell you because she was worried you'd find out? Or did she tell you because she couldn't handle the guilt? Or because she wanted an excuse to break up with you? Because if she really believes it was a one-time only thing that would never happen again, what was her point of telling you?

[Brutalis]

Brutalis,

You can take this and tell me to off, or appreciate the insights of someone who's been there. At 20, you don't need a girlfriend. You need to be bending over every co-ed you can get your hands on, becuase the older you get, the more difficult casual sex is to obtain.

Right now, you can go to house parties, Padre, etc and find women just looking to hook up. In a few years, you'll be buying expensive dinners and stupendous bar tabs trying to get laid. And they won't look as good then as they do now. Live it up while you can, and worry about finding that special someone when you're ready to settle down.

Of course, if you're looking to settle down now, best of luck putting this past you.

I'm not that sort of guy. I know most are, but Im not.

[MannyIsGod]

I don't know where to go anymore.

[Brutalis]

Okay enough guys point of view. Leave the . I get it. Let some girls speak. .

[iminlakerland]

very valid points mrs. kori ellis.

[Brutalis]

I don't know where to go anymore.

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wow so obvious..

[iminlakerland]

Kori and i are girls

[MannyIsGod]

It's odd to me that she confessed that she kissed the guy and then is begging to stay with you. Did she tell you because she was worried you'd find out? Or did she tell you because she couldn't handle the guilt? Or because she wanted an excuse to break up with you? Because if she really believes it was a one-time only thing that would never happen again, what was her point of telling you?

One of the oldest tricks in the book. Want to break up with someone but don't want to do it? Do something to make them breakup with you!

[iminlakerland]

But why would she call herself names and and make the dude feel sorry for her and want to get back with him? unless she likes the attention even if it is negative.

[Brutalis]

A few thoughts and questions ...

Are you more pissed off that she kissed someone and then confessed to you ... or is it the lying about being a virgin part?

The lying part would probably mean more in the long-term. Because even if you stay with her, you will probably always be wary of what she has told you in the past.

It's odd to me that she confessed that she kissed the guy and then is begging to stay with you. Did she tell you because she was worried you'd find out? Or did she tell you because she couldn't handle the guilt? Or because she wanted an excuse to break up with you? Because if she really believes it was a one-time only thing that would never happen again, what was her point of telling you?

I need to clarify, she never said she was a virgin. She said she was with one person before me. ... And I'm more upset at her kissing this dude.

True to your 2nd statement.

Okay she told me because she says, "I felt so guilty, and couldnt sleep that night thinking about how much I hurt you and you didnt even know it yet, I cant live knowing I did that" -quote

She also said I would have found out by myself cause she couldnt hide it from me.

Sigh at this.

[Brutalis]

One of the oldest tricks in the book. Want to break up with someone but don't want to do it? Do something to make them breakup with you!

I wish that was true, it would make this easier and she'd stop calling/emailing me 35729034730 times an hour.

[MannyIsGod]

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wow so obvious..

Don' direct your woman rage at me. I haven't been out kissing other guys.

[iminlakerland]

lmmfao @ manny!

[Brutalis]

Don' direct your woman rage at me. I haven't been out kissing other guys.

Dude will you please stop?

You're being an asshole and I didnt come here for people like you to make this worse.

[MannyIsGod]

I just dont understand what the point of posting this here was. Maybe I'm just being a , but you're not going to find some magic answer here as to what you should do considering no one knows either of you and everyone here only has your side of the story painting you as noble as (which I doubt is true).

Your best bet is to ask the magic 8 ball or take some time and make a decision.

[Jekka]

Yeah, it really does sound like she's looking for a way out. But, just because she's looking to break up with you doesn't mean it's easy - it's hard to leave something behind that's meant that much to you. Just because you're on the dumper side of the relationship doesn't mean you can't feel as bad as the dumpee. It sounds like she started the breakup and then couldn't finish it. She's ironically doing the traditional guy thing of making you break up with her.

[Brutalis]

I just dont understand what the point of posting this here was. Maybe I'm just being a , but you're not going to find some magic answer here as to what you should do considering no one knows either of you and everyone here only has your side of the story painting you as noble as (which I doubt is true).

Your best bet is to ask the magic 8 ball or take some time and make a decision.

Yeah youre just being a .

I apolygize I dont have a crowd of people to discuss this with here in my home, who could give insight and opinions, not just flaming like you.

Go away now.

[timvp]

Manny, if Jekka left you tomorrow your ass would be here with 15 threads crying your eyes out. Don't be frontin'.

[bigzak25]

is she going to college soon? if so, your troubles have just begun.

[Brutalis]

Yeah, it really does sound like she's looking for a way out. But, just because she's looking to break up with you doesn't mean it's easy - it's hard to leave something behind that's meant that much to you. Just because you're on the dumper side of the relationship doesn't mean you can't feel as bad as the dumpee. It sounds like she started the breakup and then couldn't finish it. She's ironically doing the traditional guy thing of making you break up with her.

She's not doing that. I know this much at least.

[Brutalis]

is she going to college soon? if so, your troubles have just begun.

We planned on it together, but now those were just words.

[iminlakerland]

Trust me lol having a relationship with someone who goes to the same college as you is kinda hard.

[jalbre6]

I just dont understand what the point of posting this here was. Maybe I'm just being a , but you're not going to find some magic answer here as to what you should do considering no one knows either of you and everyone here only has your side of the story painting you as noble as (which I doubt is true).

Your best bet is to ask the magic 8 ball or take some time and make a decision.

I think it was smart for Brut to post this here. On a touchy subject like this, anonymous venting and advice over the internet might be better than letting your buddies know what a tramp or what not Amber is. Especially if this was viewed by all he knows as "Brut's perfect woman".

Saves face.