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Oh ok. Yeah I guess I dont think much of it either. He is someone I trust and stuff, but I think I am going to have to go against his advice and just confront her.
My point wasn't to bring your relationship into question...it was more to point out that I didn't think much of your buddy's advice.
Oh ok. Yeah I guess I dont think much of it either. He is someone I trust and stuff, but I think I am going to have to go against his advice and just confront her.
Does that make him a GiGolo?Sounds like you graduated from the GiG school of dating
Show this girl the taillights and don't look back.
Tell her that her actions were unacceptable and politely as possible end it. You should refrain from chewing her out (even though you probably want to)so that you come off to everyone else as the mature one.
or the headlights and run her indecisive ass over!
Two things. It is possible that she acts different in private (when she is talking t oonw person) and in public. I know I do and it causes a lot of problems.
Two. It may be weird for her that she is spending so much "alone" time eith you. She may want to prove that she has other friends, etc. and other support besides you.
also- if you can't talk to her about your concerns and worries now... how are you going to do that in the future? (you did mention marriage)
openess and honesty are vital in a thriving healthy relationship.
Dre 7...in my experience there are 3 types of women in this world when it comes to social situations...
1.Those that like to be the life of the party and need to be the center of attention...and just want their mate to be a supportive sidekick that doesn't embarrass them or steal attention away from them in social situations. These are usually the type of women, that have tons of friends and are well liked...but that become obsessed with someone who doesn't like them. These are the type that will viscerally despise you if they think you are pouting because they aren't giving you enough attention.
2. Those that are insecure and get jealous if you look or talk to another person, and always feel like you aren't paying them enough attention. IF you are having a good conversation with your buds, she'll be pissed off for some reason you can't quite figure out. But basically she's uncomfortable in a social surrounding.
3. The laid back ones. These girls are neither insecure nor do they desire to be the center of attention. These are usually referred to as the perfect woman and they are rare.
They are like the blonde chick in the first Conan movie...and they probably like sports...they are probably actually willing to get their hair wet in a swimming pool, even after you are in a serious relationship. These are the girls in 90% of hollywood movies..but I don't think I have met more than 1 or 2 of them in real life.
None of these girls are inherently good or bad, or better than the others...just different, and you have to decide which one is right for you.
It sounds to me like you have a type 1 girl. This girl might be pissing you off but there are certain benfits to having this type of girl...
These types of girls usually put a premium on their appearance and they usually look hot...of course they are usually so worried about their appearance that the chance for spotaneous sex is nil. Still they look good...
The other benefit to this type is that when you are at a party you can pretty much do what ever you want and not worry about if they are having a good time. You can actually watch the football game at the Superbowl Party etc...
I have gone out with a lot of these types of girls...IMO, if you are looking for a serious relationship this is probably the worst type of girl to try and have one with. These types are used to the world revolving around them and they are high matinence with low reward. If you are willing to spend the rest of your life as Abner Kravitz...then be my guest...but just ask yourself if you would be willing to put up with her high matinence BS if she wasn't hot...if the answer is no, this probably is not the girl for you.
My guess is this girl probably thinks you are being too clingy and pouty....if you are truly concerned with getting attention from this girl in social surrounding sitting around and pouting is probably not the best way to go about it...What you should do is become the lift of the party and then she'll flock to you in that sitation to try and syphon off some of the attention you are getting...Still, if you get too good at being the life of the party, she'll probably never want to leave you, but she will be jealous and resentful of you stealing her attention away...so you are really not going to end up any happier.
My advice with this girl is to go out with her and enjoy the chance to be free at Social sitations and talk to people who interest you about things that are interesting to you...while not having to worry about her. And since she is probably hot, you should her as often as you can until things go bad.
Waiting until marriage to have sex with this type of girl is a losing proposition...get it now while the getting is good..because if you keep being a wallflower at parties she is going to dump you eventually...long before you get married, either that or else she'll feed off your misery and you'll have the ultimate love hate antagonistic relationship. IMO, this is the worst type of girl to go out with if you are really looking for a serious relationship, and probably the best type to go out with if you aren't. Types 2 and 3 are much better for serious relationships.
3. The laid back ones. These girls are neither insecure nor do they desire to be the center of attention. These are usually referred to as the perfect woman and they are rare.
They are like the blonde chick in the first Conan movie...
She doesn't avoid affection in public. She avoids him completely in public.
I can understand not wanting to cling to you at a party. I can understand not wanting to make out with you. But ignoring and avoiding you?
It makes absolutely no sense if she's in a relationship with you.
Kori makes a great point....man i need to start posting my relationship problems here so people can help me out
Exactly, and thats what I dont understand. I will talk to her today or tomorrow and go from there.
Hit it and quit it, dude.
Goose her then lose her, man its the only way to go, make her feel like for ignoring you......trust me youll feel better in the end
Matter of fact while your hitting it, go to to the Real Women Thread and do what im talking about over there.
She is playing you. Don't believe that crap about "saving it for marriage" either.
i agree, but I did once date a girl that was saving her "ass" for marriage... everything else was in play, weird huh?
i agree, but I did once date a girl that was saving her "ass" for marriage... everything else was in play, weird huh?
Very weird.
I don't understand why everyone on this site (not just in this thread) usually tells the OP to break up the relationship. It's not that easy to start up a relationship with someone. and also, when one is in the relationship, there are still feelings for the other person involved. It's usually not THAT easy to just break up with someone and hten forget about them.
What's the stupid commercial jingle - You never get a second chance at a first impression. Once the has hit the fan, it's hard to clean it off. Better to get a nicer fan and keep the blades clean.I don't understand why everyone on this site (not just in this thread) usually tells the OP to break up the relationship.
i agree, but this particular relationship isn't worth it if she's ashamed of him and doesn't want to been seen with him too.
I don't understand why people in relationships can't be more forthright and simply ask. She probably doesn't even know what she is doing.
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