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Yeah, thanks, hon. You're really helping my case.
Smooches.
Why not? You'd have a house in the Dominion by now...
This is true. Since I need more material things, I will ask him to switch specialties!
Yeah, thanks, hon. You're really helping my case.
Smooches.
It's only about a 2-3ft difference!
YOMANK!It's only about a 2-3ft difference!
BTW, sorry for the thesis.
Glad I can be of service. Just be thankful that I couldn't pull off my first plan, which was to swoop into this thread and bust some haters up while Peter Setera's "Glory of Love" played in the background. Sadly, technology still has a long way to go.
Another thing is that it causes a lot of confusion in school when the kids don't have the same last name as the parents. When I was little, I lived with my grandparents .. my last name wasn't the same as theirs. Then after my grandma died, I moved to live with one of my aunts and her husband. They took some form of legal guardianship of me but I didn't change my last name. At school it was always a big hassle when filling out paperwork including people always saying to me, "No, you have to have one of your real parents sign this"and stuff like that. Finally after years of hassle, I had my last name legally changed to their last name (Townsend -- which is what many of you know as my maiden name) when I as 14 years old.
So, I've had 3 last names so far. But I'm sticking with Ellis forever now.
Unfortunately, that's not a last name. Now you just have two first names.But I'm sticking with Ellis forever now.
That's exactly why I kept mine...so I wouldn't have that much of a hassle verifying that I'm their mother ... (as if anyone else would claim them
Having said that, though, easjer, there were a couple things you said that I thought were interesting. First, you said you don't like his inlaws and that's a contributing factor. I'm not real fond of mine eitherI don't really get why changing your name to theirs would make you feel any more or less like you "belong" with them or are like them. That name also belongs to the man you love. The other thing, since nobody else mentioned it, was that if you have kids, you'd give them different names. I find that odd (I don't mean that in a judgemental way). I'm probably skewed on this one because I was an only child until my mom remarried a man with lots of kids. Then I was the only one in the family with a different name. I didn't want my step-dad's name because I was my dad's kid, but I also hated being the one who didn't fit in the Smith family. I dunno... I guess I don't have a good reason, but it seems like the kids should all have the same name. (I used to know these people who took a part of each of their names and just invented a last name for their two daughters, and I hated that too
As for the other . . . we are talking about four years of history that can't be contained in a single post. It's hard to lay everything out that makes me want to not be identified to them. And frankly, the arrangement as it stands does not mean that I have married into his family. They don't want me. I married my husband because I love him and the man he is, and I want to be his partner for the rest of our lives. He is nothing like his family. If he were like them in any way but name, I would not have married him. I want to be clear that my primary consideration was the fact I like my name as it is. Any other consideration was secondary. I have no contact with my in-laws right now, and we are all much happier that way. Sharing that name would be wholly uncomfortable for me, because the few people I've met that know them absolutely love them. And I do not want to hear anymore about how great they are, because they are not that way with me. It's all I can do to smile and be polite, but I do that because I love my husband.
In the future I may be part of that family, but I will not share that name. I like the name my parents gave to me.
How cute...So, I've had 3 last names so far. But I'm sticking with Ellis forever now.
I know something worse though, Kori. Our friend Nikki - well, that's her name. Nikki. Nikki Dyan. Her legal name. But every do ent she fills out, they call her back and tell her they need her FULL name. And she misspelled Diane. Every.Single.Time.
I personally think that If you are going through the big step of getting married to the one you love then taking his last name Is a sweet thing.
Especially, since you become one, once you say I do and been blessed.
Then again that Is just my opinion.
My whole life, when I fill out a form for anything, more than half the time they change my first name for me to either Kari or Lori ... as if I don't know how to spell my first name.
My profit sharing has my name spelled S ey. My dad once gave me a birthday card with my name spelled that way. He said he did it on purpose, but I'm not so sure.
My sister's name is spelled D-y-a-n, too. All her life, people have thought her middle name was mis-spelled. My father's name was Reb. That was his whole given first name, the one on his birth certificate; he was named after the doctor who delivered him. My third-grade teacher (who was a , anyway) made me cry in class one day when we had to take all that paperwork you used to have to fill out at the beginning of the school year back. She was so cruel. In front of my whole class of about 30 students, she screamed, "Reb cannot be your father's first name! That is short for some other longer name, and you are gonna tell me what it is!" I was terminally shy back then, anyway. I nearly died on the spot. My mother straightened her out the next day, however.
Ugh! Me too! My name is Jenifer. Yeah, thanks Mom, for giving me the most common name ever for 6 years running, but leaving out one of the letters.My whole life, when I fill out a form for anything, more than half the time they change my first name for me to either Kari or Lori ... as if I don't know how to spell my first name.
My grandmother has been called Carolyn her whole life by her parents, friends, husband, etc - then they checked her birth certificate several years ago and found out that her name was legally "Caroline". I don't think she bothered to switch it thoughMy profit sharing has my name spelled S ey. My dad once gave me a birthday card with my name spelled that way. He said he did it on purpose, but I'm not so sure.
i would not marry a chick who did not take my name
sometimes you just gotta put your foot down and abide by the accepted standards of american society rofl
Easjer - It seems that you didn't take your husband's last name not for any women's lib or hippy reasons, but nearly totally just because you don't associate with his family at all and thus don't want your name associated with his family. But if it's "just a name" then I don't see why taking it would make you any more associated with them?
We are bound together for life.
My name doesn't change that.
Let me be clear: I respect other people's decisions on this subject.
My question has been, why can't they respect mine? I brought it up here, so that's one thing. But look at some of these responses. People seriously question my commitment to marriage because I didn't change my name? That's totally bizarre to me. Just like a white wedding doesn't mean you are a virgin, changing your name doesn't mean you have a stable marriage, and not changing it doesn't mean you are not committed.
Would you seriously walk up to someone at a party and say this kind of thing? Because it's horribly rude. If I just introduced myself, you wouldn't know until you met my husband that we have different last names. He gets a kick out of mail that refers to Mr and Mrs S.
I know a lot of guys who feel the same way. (Not about accepting American standards, but about not marrying marrying someone who wouldn't take their name).
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Alas, his last name is not awesome
See, to me that would be the last of my concerns .... I'm more interested in the bonding & unity aspects of it. I'd be happy to change mine, even if it did rhyme with raviolli.
besides, no matter what someone says, it at least confuses a kid, and makes it harder on the child to learn to spell his/her name, which in turn can result in a plethora of psychological traumas, and require daily doses of paxil, or other happy pills
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