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Sounds like dude needs to review his vows. You aren't single anymore.
That's how these things usually play out in real life!
Sounds like dude needs to review his vows. You aren't single anymore.
Don't dare say that, you sexist. "toungeincheek"interesting perspective considering there are other alternatives the female can take that have a much higher success rate in pregnancy prevention
First of all... there are other precautions a man can take, too.. why is it the female's burden only?
Second, the pill can have a terrible affect on a woman's body, especially long-term, and especially if she is a smoker. The pill is not always an option. Some women can never find one that suits their body. They can make you violently ill, gain weight, throw off your hormonal imablance, cause heart conditions, strokes... the list goes on and on. Just because it may work for you or your wife doesn't mean it works for everyone.
It really pains me how ignorant people can be about birth control. Not meant as a slap a CC, but at people in general.
Don't believe anyone said it was.why is it the female's burden only?
That is the most realistic female answer in this thread
Oh and I don't blame the guy. You never know.
What's funny is if the situation was reversed and men could get pregnant, and a husband came home and said he was pregnant and the wife had been using birth control, then all the women here would be screaming that he cheated on her.
But now that it's reverse and the man is questioning the women's infidelity, then the women are appalled at the question and want to leave him
Agreed.
Women's modern day hypocrisy reaches new heights every day.
Thats why Kori is one cool mofo, she is old school in the GOOD ways.
I still think there is a place in the middle to first question the efficacy of the birth control. It's that jump that bugs me. Condoms fail. 3% annually if used correctly, more if not used correctly.
Otherwise, your point is well taken.
And married or not, if you don't want kids, you should take the appropriate measures to prevent them. This has been hounded into the ground already, but it's true. Outside of hormonal birthcontrol and sterilization, condoms are the most efficacious bc available. Also one of the least expensive.
It doesn't strike me as a healthy situation if the first response is 'who have you been sleeping with?' instead of 'hey, we're pregnant.'
Peter and Kori are both right.
My point really in this whole thread is that easjer has only heard the female's version of the story. For all we know, the guy might have reason to doubt her, thus his initial reaction.
No argument that some women have complictions with the pill. Trust me, I am not one of those "birth control is her responsibility" guys. At the same time, if "temporary" birth control is the goal for family planning purposes then there are a lot more effective products out there from the female side than there are the male side. Most couples figure this out.
Hmmm.....here are 3 right off the top of my head that have a higher success rate:
1. birth control pills - nothing but hormones. Speaking personally...I've been on and off of those bas s for almost 20 years and have yet to find one that doesn't leave me nauseated all ing day. Plus..I'll be 35 this year and I smoke, which means because I take the pill, I am a stroke waiting to happen. And you have to take it everyday, regardless of whether or not you're getting laid. Up until a few years ago it wasn't covered by insurance--so that was about $40/mo. I keep crackers in my desk drawer just like I used to do when I was pregnant.
2. IUD - can cause painful (cramping) periods, and non-stop spotting or bleeding. Not to mention they can damage the inside of the uterus. Sounds fun.
3. tubal ligation - may also cause painful periods and cramping, a very invasive, expensive surgery. There is a 2% chance the woman will still become pregnant within 10 years of surgery, of which there is a high probability it will be an etopic pregnancy...which can be deadly. Great.
But don't mind me, though ... I'm still jealous because I can't pee standing up.
yeah, most couples do. But forgive me for saying this only hearing one side... But this couple, BOTH of them... sound pretty DUH to me to begin with.
Effective, maybe but as Spurswoman so eloquently explained, not too great for the woman.
Probably if you are temporarily avoiding pregnancy in your marriage, avoid sex around ovulation and using condoms on the other days just to be sure is not a bad solution.
Given what you have stated , it does seem that he's being unreasonable. My problem is that the stated facts are so one-sided that they fall into "doth protest too much" territory.
The answer could be the guy's an asshole.
It could also be that he doesn't understand how a condom does/doesn't work.
And it could be that we don't have all the facts.
Edit: Never mind. Points already been made and my husband assures me that I will only make myself sound like a raging feminist if I continue. Since I live in perpetual dread of that occurrence, I delete my original statement.
And we are going home now. Night, folks!
hehehe...I should know better than to argue with a woman about birth control...
Any of y'all tried the Depo-Provera shot? It's supposed to have a lot less side effects since it doesn't have estrogen. Aside from bone density effects with long term use it is supposed to be pretty trouble free and almost 100% effective..
Spoken like a man...
Sorry, I don't use any hormonal bc - it doesn't work for me. We use FAM (the fertility awareness method). But most of my friends are on the pill, and I've got a couple who used Depo (pre-kids) and really liked it a lot.
I've known three people who tried it and they all bled for about 3 weeks out of the month. So I never considered it.Any of y'all tried the Depo-Provera shot? It's supposed to have a lot less side effects since it doesn't have estrogen. Aside from bone density effects with long term use it is supposed to be pretty trouble free and almost 100% effective..
ehhh...
Ever tried a kick in the balls? It supposed to be less painfull each time you have it done. Aside from builiding up calluses from long term treatments it's supposed to be pretty trouble free and nearly 100% effective.
Chew on that...
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