Long Distance Relationships

[Borosai]

Trust and lots of phone sex.

[Quasar]

It all depends how serious you are about each other, and you do seem quite serious!

I was in a similar situation as you... broke up with my childhood sweetheart, but later realized she was The One.

We got back together just before she left for her 3 years of undergraduate studies in Australia... Due to the expensive airfares, we only saw each other every 6 months, but thanks to MSN and ICQ (there was no skype back then!), we managed to keep the phone bills to a minimum.

By God's grace, we went the distance and got married after she graduated... And we have a little princess on the way!!

There are many ways to survive all the fights, and the feelings of insecurity/jealousy *when* they happen. If you're a Christian... I strongly advise you to seek personal growth in your walk with God - the person you're dating must share the same long-term vision as you do in order to have a successful relationship. If you grow, she will too, and then both of you can ask God's help - when we work, we work, but when we pray, God works!!

The best tip I can give you is that Love is much more than the feeling you get in a relationship.

It even goes beyond that feeling you get when your significant other made you feel on top of the world!.

Because you're far away, there are some days where:

• 1.you won't be able to patch up or help her get over her depression where a hug would've made everything right again... That's one of the risks where some guy friend could sweep in and console her better than you. And trust me, despite everything, you'll grow to dislike that guy!!
• 2. you'll feel so horny you'll be very tempted by the inviting babes that may cross your way, as your woman will be so far away... (that happens quite often for some reason)!
• 3. and many more...

But there is still hope, because this is Love:

Love is patient, Love is kind,
It does not envy, it does not boast,
It is not proud, It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil,
but rejoices with the truth.

Love always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres.

Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

Love Never Fails.

1 Corinthians 13 : 4 - 8

Commitment to each other, even when you're not feeling like loving each other...

The ability to say sorry and take the first step even though you're not at fault... (that helps with most women!)


Take courage - man up and do it!

[NorCal510]

Tsa Pics

[TheSanityAnnex]

You guys are failing to mention the hardest part in all of this. Its not the time apart while you wait to be together on a regular basis. Its when you actually do get on the same page and are up each others asses with no room to breath and be alone. Thats usually when things go south.

We lived together for four years and she was more enjoyable than any other roommate I've ever had.

[TheSanityAnnex]

I don't get it, TSA. You decided once that the relationship wasn't strong enough to handle a long-distance thing, but after 8 months of not seeing her, now it is?

Initially, we thought separating was the right thing to do. And I also thought it would be good for me to be single again, I was wrong. We also never even attempted the long distance thing the first time.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Thanks Quasar.

[NorCal510]

god damn am i on all ignore or WHAT?

[johnsmith]

god damn am i on all ignore or WHAT?

No, it's just that no one likes you.

[CuckingFunt]

god damn am i on all ignore or WHAT?

No. We can all read your posts.

We just don't give a .

[cornbread]

Tsa Pics

Because a great way to start that all-important bond of trust is to post her pic on the internet. They LOVE that.

[johngateswhiteley]

...of course it can work. and Katy is right, there usually needs to be an end in sight, which there appears to be.

...good luck.

[NorCal510]

[DisgruntledLionFan#54,927]

Initially, we thought separating was the right thing to do. And I also thought it would be good for me to be single again, I was wrong. We also never even attempted the long distance thing the first time.

Eh, I'm skeptical, but that's just me.

Good luck to you and my only advice is to NOT treat this as a second chance/second time around. Instead, try to treat this as an entirely new relationship.

And remember, all women are bat- crazy.

[TheSanityAnnex]

Good luck to you and my only advice is to NOT treat this as a second chance/second time around. Instead, try to treat this as an entirely new relationship.

We discussed this in great detail. I'll be treating it as new but I'll never forget the mistakes I made the first time around.

[BacktoBasics]

I hope it works out for you buddy. Never forget though that women are the root of all evil and could turn on you when you least expect it.

Norcal STFU already.

[tlongII]

Personally I don't think she will be able to deal with looking at TSA's jacked up eye on a daily basis.

[SpursWoman]

Good luck, TSA! From everything I heard you say about her, you seem like really good friends, too. I'm certain it'll work out, especially as it doesn't seem like you have to be apart for that much longer.


Although I've never been in one, I'm actually glad that there was one particular LDR that didn't work out.

[Kori Ellis]

...
Although I've never been in one, I'm actually glad that there was one particular LDR that didn't work out.

[Shelly]

Good luck, TSA! From everything I heard you say about her, you seem like really good friends, too. I'm certain it'll work out, especially as it doesn't seem like you have to be apart for that much longer.


Although I've never been in one, I'm actually glad that there was one particular LDR that didn't work out.

Sheyitt, SW. I didn't live THAT far from you.

[OldDirtMcGirt]

I have no idea how it'll work. Not trying to be negative, but there are a ton of babes in the Tempe area (I assume you got ASU). Maybe if you lived in Des Moines or something it could work out, but you'd have to have a will of steel.

[LuvBones]

If they're really in love and ready to settle down then it doesn't matter how many hot people they come across. It can be done.. just keep talking and planning for the time you get to live together again. I would think the hardest part is saying goodbye to each other when you have to go back to your city. TSA, when are ya'll planning on moving together?

[angel_luv]

I've never been in a LDR and besides you've already been given plenty of great advice- from Quasar especially.
So I will just say, hope everything works out beautifully for you.

[lilmads]

I've seen LDRs break many of my friends up. And I think the greater the distance the harder it is. However, if you say you will try and make things work by driving down it may work. You need to have lotsa trust and no doubts in your mind about the relationship working. Because once a seed of doubt is there, it may fail.
From what I've personally experienced and from what I've seen happen with people around me, they don't work. But every relationship is different. Only you and your partner know what that relationship is like and only you two can judge.
I hope it all works out well

[Avitus1]

Me and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship. We did actually break up for a five years and had a lot of ups and downs but we are back together. She goes to the University of North Carolina now and I live here but we are strong and I know we'll work.

The story is quite a long one I'll go into it maybe in a different post.

[TheSanityAnnex]

I have no idea how it'll work. Not trying to be negative, but there are a ton of babes in the Tempe area (I assume you got ASU). Maybe if you lived in Des Moines or something it could work out, but you'd have to have a will of steel.

Yeah, I'm at ASU and there is no shortage of hot chicks out here. But I've had my share of hot chicks and am at the point in my life where that isn't what I'm after anymore. I truly believe I've found that one person that I'm willing to sacrifice everything for. It really ing sucks it took me moving to Arizona to figure that out because now I've only complicated things.