Count me as a workaholic, I'm available to my boss and the guys I work with 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Phone calls, text messages, e-mails - everything. It's just who I am and when I'm in a relationship with someone, they know that about me up front. Don't try to change me. If this guy is a workaholic, then that's just who he is, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't care about you or that you're not a priority in his life. Make the most of the time you do get together and don't nag him to where he feels trapped between trying to make a decision between the two of you. If you can't do that, then you should get out of the relationship.
Sheyit...I don't mind when my husband goes into work on Saturdays to catch up on stuff. Gives him less of a chance to annoy me
I keed, I keed.
But seriously, we are in business for ourselves also and when you own your own business you gotta put the hours it for it to succeed.
Thanks for everything, everyone. I appreciate it, really.
If he turns the phone off during love making, BINGO, Then you've got a chance
Bingo!!!!!! We have a winner!!!!!!!!
See post #28, this troll is on to something!
You knew he was a workaholic when you got involved with him. He has not changed. You have apparently accepted what he is for up to 1.5 years, but don't want to anymore. You have changed. Really if you have told him how you feel and he hasn't at least said he'll try to improve, you aren't gonna get anywhere. He just doesn't feel like you do. Not much you can do but move on.
P.S.You're better off alone than with someone who isn't into you enough to at least try to make your life a little happier.
He told me that things won't change within the next 5 to 10 years or so.
so you if you need a backup sex partner, you know where to find the trolls right?
And that hurts a lot. Considering that relationships should be at least get more 'serious' year by year.
I don't need a backup sex partner. I don't need sex. I need him to be more sensitive. That's what I need.
I'm probably wrong about the 'I don't need sex' part.
Sheyit...I don't mind when my husband goes into work on Saturdays to catch up on stuff. Gives him less of a chance to annoy me
I keed, I keed.
But seriously, we are in business for ourselves also and when you own your own business you gotta put the hours it for it to succeed.
In all seriousness, though, if you don't like having lots of time to yourself then don't date a workaholic. I don't really require a lot of maintenance, but I do like for Manny to be totally present when he's with me, and he knows that. We're not together 24/7, but the time spent together is quality time. If you don't even feel like you're getting that, and "We need to talk" hasn't worked, then you need to do some personal evaluation and make a decision.
Yeah, he sounds like he's pretty much telling you to either suck it up or break up with him.He told me that things won't change within the next 5 to 10 years or so.
Dude wtf? You know nothing about this guy but you're calling his priorities out of whack?
You say you "love him too much to leave him", but he loves his work more than you!
His priorities are WAAAAAAAY out of whack IMHO - sounds like he lives to work, not works to live.
It's great that he has a job he loves, but if that constantly obscures his love for you, why are you still with him?
Anyway, I hate these threads because you get a one sided view on and you get clowns trying to tell you how one person is wrong and how you should fix it or how you should dump him.
LOSE THE ZERO AND GET WITH THE HERO AMIRITE????????
S y made the best post in here. You can't change people. Any person you enter into a relationship with is who they are and just because you love them doesn't mean that the relationship HAS to work in the end. In the end you may find that you both want different things and expect different things out of a relationship and even though you've formed a bond it isn't what you want.
ORRRR maybe you make concessions to keep the love that you have. Either way, don't expect him to change. You know what kind of person you're involved with and either you're willing to accept what you're getting out of it to keep the love you have or you don't.
You know what you want, suck it up and make the tough decision one way or another.
LOL
You know tyou're dating the right person when you give the same advice.
S y Jess and I have been watching Big Love lately and we'd like for you to join us in following the princple.
A few years ago i found myself in a relationship where he graduated from school, and all of his time was devoted to work. As much as i loved him, it was clear after a talk that work was number one priority. That he was trying to establish such and such goal by such and such age.
I stuck around for a while, but it takes a toll on someone. It strains a relationship, and it seriously isnt healthy for either of you. My advice is if you know hes not going to change, and hes made that clear. Leave the situation. It will be painful for a while, but you will get over it over time.
My two cents.
get xtra friends for when he is too busy for yer ass. mens have to work too much so they can affod hotter chicks
It's not a chick you people. Supreme is a gay man with a boyfriend.
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Pack your and head for the nearest exit.
Most ignorant post ever.
You can't force anybody to do anything.
Have you tried Paxil and/or a hobby?
We're a lot better now. I think it doesn't matter how much he loves his work. As long as he allows me to love him, that's enough for me.
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