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Yea, cause you and I both know what happens when we return.
It's a win-win situation for us both.
Yup, we've both gone on a few overnight stays alone just to get away for some private time.*Side note*
It's good that couples spend time away from each other for a while, we need a vacation from each other.
Yea, cause you and I both know what happens when we return.
It's a win-win situation for us both.
Welcome home sex rocks!!!Yea, cause you and I both know what happens when we return.
It's a win-win situation for us both.
I've had boy/girlfriends know my passwords and such, friends too, because there's really not much going on in my online life that I feel the need to hide or keep secret. Also because most of the people I hang around with or date aren't the type to give a about snooping anyway.
If someone ever specifically asked me for the password or to read what I had been up to, though? Don't know that I could get beyond those red flags. Trust is too important to me, so I tend to bail as soon as it looks like one of us can't/won't trust the other.
Oh, he's a paranoid freak. Mind you, he's my paranoid freak and I love the guy more than anything else in the world, but the fact remains.
You ain't lying!
I know, right?
huh?*Side note*
It's good that couples spend time away from each other for a while, we need a vacation from each other.
I've been with the love of my life for 6 and a half years now and she hates being apart from me. I never feel the need to vacation either. I guess we are just really compatible
We just like to have time to ourselves sometimes. But 6 yrs ain't nothing. The most we've been apart is a few days at a time and we still talk every night.
es are crazy... plain and simple.
just found out my psycho ex had a kid recently... now that don't need to be reproducing and man do i feel bad for whoever knocked her ass up. oh i thank god every day i never knocked her up or i would def be living in and not just san antonio, tx.
Yeah, I mean, my wife could basically destroy my very existence in this world if she ever had the inspiration to do so.
Having the password to an email account is one of the first things people must get over. Besides, I dont ing email anyone anyway unless its work related.
I am starting to figure out why some people are single and others are not. When youre married, privacy is a very relative term. Dont expect any, really. The good times though are when it doesnt even have to be said, that I know this such-n-such is my business and my business only.
Like Spurstalk. You think my wife cruises around on here everyday, wondering what Im talking about? She could but she doesnt. I wouldnt care if she did, but I know she doesnt. She has my email info, but hasnt checked it in years.
Trust is a two way street. I trust her with that info knowing she wont abuse it. Vice versa...you dont think I have her info? I dont think I have ever looked at her email once. Probably never will. She gets weird text messages...big ing deal!
She isnt sleeping anywhere without me. When that changes, I'll start giving a about her personal email/texts/whatever.
For your reading entertainment and pleasure, here's http://nomarriage.com/
I wish you the best in your relationship but like others have said, if it gets to the point that being with the other person isn't worth it, GTFO! With good old MTV each generation of people become more and more enthralled in a culture of discontent and you see that in the high rate of divorces thats been prevalent for a while now.
Two questions:
What about the privacy/business of the people on the other end?
Why not just create a dual account?
Very simple. Take it as a package or don't confide in them. You better not be arrogant enough to think you could have 'secrets' between you, an outsider, and a husband/wife.
There are no secrets between husband and wife.
So if you want to confide in the husband, you have to take it as a package - the wife will know too and you have to accept that. If you don't like the wife, then don't tell the husband.
Someone asking for the husband/wife to keep a secret from their spouse is wrong.
Some people just need to grow up. If you don't want to be accountable to someone else, don't be in a relationship.
These are usually the same people who say things like
"You don't tell me what to do!"
For me the deciding factor is in why my partner would have that information.
As I suggested in my previous post, I'm not the type of person who has a lot of secrets in general. I don't bother. I don't do that I would be embarrassed or ashamed to admit, so my privacy and secrets are never an issue. Also, like I said earlier, most of the people I've dated, if the relationship got to a certain stage, have ended up with that information anyway either because they see a password scribbled somewhere or because my computer is almost always signed in to my various email accounts and message boards. It's not a big deal.
Where I have a problem is when that information is requested specifically. It's a relatively small thing, and I've got no secrets to hide, but the need/desire to read through my boring emails stands out as a pretty big sign that there are more serious trust and control issues in play.
(Sorry for the way too long post, just lots of stuff to get in here. Cliff notes aren't my specialty.)
My wife and I are/were married for nearly 9 years (getting divorced now) and lived together for 2 years prior to the marriage. Throughout the entire course of that 10+ years, she was quite similar. Needed intricate details of my entire day, every word spoken to people, details on every minute spent on-line, etc. She would overreact to anything I did/said that she viewed as "not okay". Two beers in one sitting made me an alcoholic. One toke off a friend's bong (of which I very rarely partake) made me a drug addict. One loud negative comment during a Spurs/Cubs/Raiders game meant I have anger issues. One comment about anything annoying/frustrating thing she did made me an asshole. You get the idea.
I've never cheated or insinuated that I wanted to. But any time I spoke to/hung out with a female friend, the interrogations would start. Did we do anything? Did she (the friend) try anything with me? So on and so on. After 30 minutes of grilling she couldn't understand why I would be upset with her behavior.
She also hated my best friend and most of my other friends. She always accused me of talking bad about her behind her back. She would freak any time I wanted to spend time with a friend without her. She would even get su ious of me if I would visit my parents!
One word answers to her questions were downright unacceptable. "Fine" wasn't good enough for "how was work?". "Hung out, bull ted" wasn't enough for "what'd ya do at your friend's place?". And if I tried to elaborate my time spent away from her, it was always "What else? What are you not telling me?" It became infuriating. Again, my frustration was met with confusion and anger.
Now, I could understand her trust issues to a point because her parents divorced because of her mother's infidelity. I could even understand her hatred of my best friend (again, to a point!) because he was married to and then bitterly divorced from her sister. But this behavior never calmed down or got better. It only grew worse as the years went on.
I usually would include her when I visited with friends or famliy because I thought that would set her mind at ease. It didn't. She would just get mad because I was "leaving her out" or "ignoring her" around my friends/family. I would try to reassure her that it wasn't the case but to no avail. She would proceed to get mad and cause a scene, embarrassing me and making my friends/family uncomfortable to the point where we would have to leave.
And still, she never understood why I would get upset over her behavior.
Any time I would try to have a reasonable discussion about it, it always turned into an argument for which I was inevitably to blame. And if I tried to take off for a cool-down she would literally block the front door and wrestle me away from leaving.
Despite it all, I loved her very much and always tried to be a good husband. I wasn't always successful but I always worked hard to have a good marriage. What I ended up with was a wife who carried on an affair off and on for the better part of the past 2 and a half years. And, of course it was my fault. I pushed her away with my "anger, mental abuse (???) and 'being distant'". I forgave her for the cheating many times and tried to move past it only to find out multiple times that the affair was back on. When I finally had enough I kicked her out. Now she begs me daily to take her back and things will be better. She continually asks me why I want a divorce and accuses me of seeing someone else, cheating, etc.
Whew. Sorry to hijack the tread but I was trying to make a point in there somewhere. Oh yeah, here's my point:
If your wife has to have that much control of your life, chances are she has trust/control issues of which you may never see the end. If you truly love her then do your best to be forthcoming and honest. Do what you can to keep her mind at ease. If it doesn't help, get yourself some couples counseling and even single counseling if you can swing it.
If, despite all your efforts, things don't improve or deteriorate and it's more than you can endure, maybe you're just not right for each other. But only you and she can decide that.
I hope you and your wife can make things better and have a great relationship because I'll tell you this: ending a marriage sucks. I don't wish it on anyone.
Again, sorry for the absurdly long post and the thread hijack.
My EX wife sucked................
The new one is cool though!!!!!
Basically, find a new one if the current sucks.
Isn't sucking a desirable trait?
Strike....11 years of that ...WTF took you so long to throw her in the can? You should have ditched her way before she starting having an affair, what a hypocritical .
And speaking of hypocrisies... my ex girlfriend is quite religious (christian), had a rough childhood because of her ex-preacher and pastor dad separated her mom and had affairs, hated her friend's boyfriend for cheating on her friend multiple times, and then cheated on me twice.Some es are just re ed.
my wife was like that we almost got divorced, but she has gotten better and i listen to her more now as well maybe you just need to sit down with her and let her tell you why she is so ing crazy it worked for us
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